Friday, May 31, 2013

How To Chop Tomatoes By Rubynnia

How To Chop Tomatoes And Other Ingredients Into Tiny Bits For Easy Consumption

A plate of tomatoes chopped into tiny bits for easy consumption.

Hello Aunty Eya,

I've seen children and sometimes adults remove chopped tomatoes and onions in cooked foods, which are usually big and noticeable. Some say they can't

eat or don't like them.

We all know tomatoes and onions add flavour and aroma to our foods apart from the nutrients they supply our bodies.

I also don't like seeing either in foods esp when chopped big! I love it tiny such that I won't notice it while eating. The procedure:

Step 1: I wash my

I Need A Friend In The United States

Hi Aunt. Eya,
Congratulations on your one year anniversary and your successful blog at such a short interval.
I was reading the viewership stats you posted and I noticed that since the second highest clicks came from the US maybe I could use your help.

I recently moved to the United States a short while ago and even though I'm enjoying my stay I get

I Can't Do This Anymore

I think I'm going to land in a depression centre very soon. Am sorry am writing in jumbles but killing myself has never been more tempting.
I don't have peace. All I get is hostility everyday. I took the job and despite my employer's  flexibility



I didn't expect that we'd have sponsors at our First Anniversary Giveaway cos I felt it's too young and early to start looking for Giveaway Sponsors. Yesterday, after searching Google and reading so much on Giveaways, I realized one year is not too young to chase after sponsors especially those whose items we use in our recipes and all.

For Subsequent Giveaways, God willing, we shall be having their item reviews and Giveaways altogether. If they


Wives Connection Is One
Wives connection Emergency kitchen.
Celebrating one year of blogging. To God be all the glory. Though I wanted to blog and just do something about families, women, cooking etc, I didn't know it was going to kick off on that fateful day. It all started on the 31st May 2012 late at night trying to experiment with my daughter. Suddenly we saw pageviews and decide  to try again, we saw more pageviews and I'm "Ok, I think people enjoy reading what I post so I'll keep posting"

Between May 2012 and January 2013, the blog had just over 30,000 views. Between January 2013 and May 2013 this blog has seen over

Thursday, May 30, 2013

How Do I Handle This Breakup?

Good morning Aunty Eya.
 I hope you enjoyed the holiday yesterday? Aunty Eya please I need help on how to handle a break up that wasn't messy. We had to split due to some reasons(confidential) but we aren't fighting we are still best friends,we'v been told not to fight, but later on, I don't want his wife to

BB Issues With My Husband

Aunty Eya,
How are you, family and work? Sure all is well.
I would have really loved you to post this mail but I won't want that cos some response I read from other readers are not so encouraging so I would want this to be between us.

Aunty, how do I make Hubby not go thru my phone. We've had issues in

Nigerian Jollof Rice Without Vegetables

A plate of  tasty jollof rice.
Jollof rice is always present at every foodious Nigerian event. It is one meal I never get tired of eating. Even after enjoying mine at home before leaving, I'm still very much interested in the one served at the events' reception. I don't know why but I hate missing the jollof at any event I attend.

Sometimes, I boil the rice with thyme, onion, salt and seasoning before mixing with the already prepared stew.This method varies the taste and aroma. I don't add
curry here but enough thyme and benny spice. The only reason I have Benny spice at home is because it is superb for rice. I cook my soups and other meals with seasoning cubes and cook rice with Benny spice or that monosodium glutamate they call white maggi. Many people don't eat it because they think it is bleach. If only

To The Christians, Muslims And All WC Readers

Hi Aunty and fellow WC members, hope we all enjoyed the Democracy Day? I made a few observations and please I will like us to all correct

My Mother-In-Law Is Too Close

Hello Aunty Eya,
 I have a little problem that needs advice. It's my mother in law. Whenever she comes around which is often, she doesn't give me time with my husband. When he is seated on the couch, she rushes to sit beside him. When he is alone in the bedroom she goes for a meeting.

I try to be nice and caring but she never appreciates my efforts. When I am

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Sher... an american wife in need of advice

Sher <sher................
6:06 PM (14 hours ago
to me
Hi, I am not certain if this email will reach you or if you will respond, but I am hoping.
I am an African American woman, married to a Nigerian Man.  We live in the United States, but he has recently gone home to Nigeria


ork on a Political project.  Last week I received an email telling me he was seeing another woman, and that the woman was pregnant.

He denied it at first, then 4 days ago he called and told me the truth.
As an American woman I am not quite sure of what is expected of me from his Nigerian family.  I am also not sure what woul
be expected f
rom this situation.  I am having trouble believing this girl is pregnant.  She is a 38 Nigerian woman, never been married and no other children.
     I would also like to know what are the Nigerian laws of custody for children born out of wedlock.  My husband and I have a good life here in the United Stat

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

An American Wife In Need Of Advice

Hi, I am not certain if this email will reach you or if you will respond, but I am hoping.
I am an African American woman, married to a Nigerian Man.  We live in the United States, but he has recently gone home to Nigeria to
work on a Political project.  Last week I received an

My Boyfriend Doesn't Say "I Love You". UPDATE

Hi Aunty Eya,

Hubby's Lunch Box Ideas

Hello Aunty Eya, 
Please i need suggestions for lunch ideas for my husband. Since I work from home, it's something I enjoy doing.

My husband rarely eats out during lunch breaks, he prefers  taking his lunch to work.But I noticed he's  starting to

How Can I Improvise?

Good Day Aunty Eya, please post this for me. Thanks.
 Hi WC readers, please help a sister out.

I am a new wife, hubby recently started his Residency Program in d States, n we relocated not long ago.
Problem is, the city we live in(Louisville KY)  doesn't have shops where one can get African foodstuffs, so we stuck with

BBA Morning Sessions.

Workouts in Bikini? When we work out, one reason is to feel hot and sweat out thereby burning some fats. When someone exercises with a bikini, will she even sweat one drop?  Me , I saw it first with Lady May o. Is it that Huddah is a Lady-May-wanna-be or what? 
Most people  prefer

Re: Finding It Difficult To Let Go

After Folashade wrote an article on Letting Go, Sis responded by Explaining why she is finding it Difficult to let go. You guys advised her on what to do, she did just that and here is her feedback:

Hello Aunty Eya,This is a feedback/update for WC fam on how our meeting went last saturday.
Me, my siblings met with mum and dad. We all said our

How To Make Nigerian Buns: My Second Attempt

Buns in paper napkins to drain excess oil
Last weekend I tried my hands again on buns making using Ayaoba's recipe and here is the result.
My first attempt tasted better than this I don't know why. Am I not supposed to be graduating by now? I hate to be a slow learner. This buns here sunk and fried right inside the pot of oil unlike the other one that floated ontop. It wasn't

Re: What Can I Use To Get Rid Of Scar/Keloid?

I don't know if this reply is coming rather late, but I hope it helps.
I had keloid I got from piercing an extra ear hole. It was huge and a scar on my back too. I used the python fat for a while, don't know for what reason, the scar and keloid just didn't reduce or disappear. Until someone

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Big Brother Africa Consuming My Free Time

Big Bother Africa The Chase

What are they really chasing? Is it the Three Hundred Thousand US dollars or themselves? The way the entered the house in pairs makes me feel "The Chase" is loaded with meaning. The show is on and these days I see myself spending almost all my free time on the couch with Big Brother. 

I pray this doesn't affect my blogging, will try as much as possible to update regularly. Wives connection will be one in three days. Late on the night of May 31 in 2012, I remember my daughter encouraging me to just post anything before going to bed. So, I must update until we celebrate her Anniversary. One year Anniversary I hear is very important. "Big Brother, please, stop taking my free time." Lol

My favourite housemate for now is

Thank You All, My Biological Father Passed

Hello Aunty Eya,
I am the guy that wanted to know if it's proper to go look for my biological Father? Actually I did what you all advised and went privately the very next day. Thank you Ace and others who left caring comments for me.

I got the address from Mum and left without informing anyone. She advised me to go to his home town where I may be directed to where I can find him. I arrived early but spent time trying to locate the family which finally paid off. I met

Lubricants For People Trying To Conceive?

Aunty Eya good day,

Please I sent a mail this morning and haven't received a confirmation from you. Nevertheless, please find below contents of the previous mail. Hide my ID please.
Good day Aunty Eya and fellow WC readers.

Please I will like us to throw more light on lubricants. Some of us have similar issues like the poster who asked if saliva is a good lubricant. 

Now Google and I are best of pals but on certain topics you get

Dodo With Baked Beans And Egg

A serving of dodo with baked beans and egg.
This meal was prepared for the children, but it turned

Monday, May 27, 2013

How To Prepare Ojojo By Rubynnia

Ojojo with akara
It's Rubynnia again and this time around, I want to show you how I prepared my Ojojo.

Ojojo is made from grated water yam. Water yam is ideal for this

delicacy because it draws after being grated unlike other yam species.

So I will explain in details, one step at a time.

I cut yam tuber into desired slices, peel the skin off and grate. For those who don't like grating, I suggest you cut the yam slices into tiny pieces and blend with a blender to save you the stress of grating.

I added chopped pepper and onions to spice my ojojo, not forgetting salt to taste.

For frying ojojo, you can either use your hand or spoon depending on your preference. I prefer using my hand since the pureed yam is sticky like dough for making puff puff.

Once the balls turn light yellow, do turn it over so the other side can cook.

Remove the balls from

Hubby's Birthday Cake

Lovely Birthday Cake
Aunty Eya I baked and decorated this cake for my hubby who celebrated his bday today. I

He's Verbally Abusive

Hi Aunty Eya.  
I need advice. Bin datin dis guy. Kind of long distance. We had a fight. But we've resolved it. I don't know why I feel empty. Feel like I am not


Happy Children’s’ day

It is really partial and annoying that I don’t get a day off work coupled with my colleagues that get a day off today.
I woke up this morning with a wide grin. My mum’s sister sent me a text this morning saying ‘happy children’s day’ and I thought c’monMummyO’ at my age.
It was such a struggle getting

Did You Remember Their Day?


I was ashamed of myself this morning when my girls grabbed me from behind singing happy children's day  to me when I should have done that to them. Anyway, I didn't know they were awake. When I peeped they were still fast asleep. 

Today is not like a general holiday for the whole family, parents are at work, so I guess some of us parents won't bother knowing that Democracy Day Holiday is in two days. 

Today, the children know it's their day and as usual all they want is fun. If we can't create time for them cos of work. We can create

Is It Wise To Tell Him All?

Hi Eya and fellow blog readers,
I have been keeping this to myself until I read Tope's comment where he advised the woman never to let a man know she is Financially Independent.

I just got a job, I'm expecting my first salary after  years of joblessness and lack. My husband earns

Sunday, May 26, 2013

Please Teach Me Again

Thanks so Much Aunty Eya and every other person in the house. I read a post on how to make soya beans for babies and I have been trying to do it for my baby. My problem is I don't seem to get how to peel the

Noodle Recipe With Sausages Peas And Vegetables

A plate of Indomie noodles
Boiling 2 large packs Indomie noodles for one minute before adding vegetables
Peas, onion, green pepper, red kidney beans, sausages for

Fun With Abbreviations

On a lighter note, let's create/have fun with abbreviations and their meanings. We may not have come across them often on WC but the truth still remains that we see or come across them in our everyday lives. Funny enough, most of us don't even know what they mean and we just skip after we must have cracked our brains out without success.
Below are a few ones I could come up

Public Swimming Pools In Lagos

Hi Miss Eya,

You are doing an awesome job here..could you kindly help me ask your readers about

3 Secrets All Wives Keep From Their Husbands

Reading WebMd's "secrets wives keep from their husbands" got me laughing so hard: After reading, I felt it's good to share one or two with you guys and let's hear what you think:

  1. Every stuff we buy for ourselves really costs 20% more than what

Saturday, May 25, 2013

My Elder Brother Beat Up My Husband

Hello Aunty Eya,
Thank you and God' blessings. I love your blog and the comments there. Please don't post my name. I have a serious problem on

Efo Elegusi (Vegetable With Egusi Soup) By Lizzy Obaze

Vegetable with egusi soup.
I made this soup this morning for my family's almost 2 weeks supply.
As it was morning time no swallow 
was made with it but it goes well with any swallow of your choice.

3 tablespoons palm oil, 
5 cups beef stock 
3 seasoning cubes, 
4 cups ground egusi
1 cup ede nla (big dry prawns), 
2 teaspoons iru
3 large tatashe (red bell peppers), 
1 medium sized onion to boil the meat with
1 cup tomatoes, 
pepper to your taste
2 medium dry catfish
shaki and cowleg
salt to taste.

* blend onion, pepper, tomatoes and tatashe with dry prawn head. Pour in a pot and bring to the boil.
* Add already cooked cowleg and shaki. Then add dry catfish n whole dry prawns, iru, palmoil, knor cubes and stir. Leave to cook for 10mins
* blend egusi with onion and add to soup. Leave to cook for 10mins and stir then taste for salt and add if needed.
*When egusi