Not Desperate For Marriage But Want Him To Know Am Open

I av bin reading pple's stories and ur solutions to them.. I wanna give u all  thumbs up ure 95% on point on ur advices.Here comes my situation:

 I'm 26,I was in a relationship wit my Ex for 6yrs! We broke up in nov 2012 cus he was a visionless,school dropout and ontop an emotional bully!  


I met my man in march at a party and we started talkin and really got dating in May! I can wholeheartedly say I av neva bin dis happy in my life! I finally found my own person,if dias anytin called perfect! My man is close to it! I can say dis is ow a true relationship shud be.

Now to my situation, am still in school partimely for my degree! Buh I work wit my OND!, his thotfulness is part of d reason I fell in luv wit him,he feels dat I want to

graduate wit my degree bfr we get married! Cus wen we started talkin bfr dating I told him marriage wasn't on d radar for me til I graduate and get a beta job! Buh tins av since changed and everyday I want it more and more! 

But I donno how to discuss it with him without making it seem like am suddenly desperate for marriage! I want him to know am open to it cus I read his chats where he was discusin proposals and wedding planning wit his married best friend
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  1. If you're really close to him and open in your discussions with him, start with discussing the future with him putting time, date and age as the focal point. Talk about your projections for children and the age you hope to stop bearing children. Let your discussions take a playful tone and hopefully, he will flow with the tide. Wishing you all the best.

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  2. Just a happy moment&tell him ur mind. U won't come off as desperate since he is ready for marriage&evn plannin it. U r prolly d reason he's holdn bk cs u said u wnt 2 finish skul&all so telln him u r ready wld mk him happy&start preps. But 1st u must ask urself if u r truly ready to get married while in skul? Cos its vry stressful I tell u esp if u nw gt pregnant. So questn urself properly b4 u tell ur man hw u feel. Goodluck dear!

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    1. Just find a happy moment(like wen u both r happy&playful)

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  3. Anonymous10/02/2013

    I agree with u stanley chuks,playfully talk about dis tinz with him.I was coming frm d movies with my bf and we pass through my church and I said to him#dis is d church u're going to wed me#frm dere we started talking about other tinz like d number of kids we want,we don even pick colours for wedding wey no date LOL.

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  4. If he's truly ready nottin you've said in the past will hinder him, speaking from a man's POV now.

    However, try to stylishly push him into a tet-a-tet, somehow you should by this means pour out your non-static desire!





    Nuff'Said...

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    1. Ace Bentley we are tired of you. You are still holding on to the chauvinistic mentality of yesteryears. You blame every problem on women. I feel very sorry for the poor girl that would end up your wife. It's men like you that become a users, baterers, cheats and so on. Read, travel just do something to broaden your mind. You are an ignorant being. Men like you should have been extinct by now. I am really tired of your ignorant, chauvistic, egoistic views. If you have nothing to say just shut the fu*k up and don't type. Nobody takes your advice anyways. I really hope that this your attitude is an act.

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    2. Gbam.... Hehehehehe!

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  5. Anonymous10/02/2013

    i'm sorry but this here---> I'm 26,I was in a relationship wit my Ex for 6yrs! We broke up in nov 2012 cus he was a visionless,school dropout and ontop an emotional bully! <-------

    is he doing anything now? Has he gotten his GED? Is he working now? If not, why are you wasting your time? What is he doing for his future? If nothing improved since you broke up with him then you must move on. There's lots of fishes in the sea.

    Poster, you are doing a beautiful job. You have goals. Someone in your life must have goals too. You are also young. Too young to get married. Wait a while longer. You are smart and have lots of potential. Goals first then marriage. Keep your priorities together.

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    1. Anonymous10/02/2013

      This ya comment no too make sense. Abeg, read the post again. The advice she's asking for is for her new bt, not the guy she complained has no vision.

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    2. Anonymous10/02/2013

      *bf

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    3. Anonymous10/03/2013

      anonymous poster 11:42
      sorry i might've read it wrong. I will do better next time.

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    4. Anonymous10/03/2013

      I still say poster is too young to get married. she should wait til she get a little older when she has a career job and making more money. then get married.

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    5. oluwatosin williams10/03/2013

      @ she is too young,pardon my curiosity! How old was your Mum when she gave birth to you?.... Maybe you should view from a mothers angle and not a newly wed/single above 30 plus angle... Not cussing you at all but Huh was just passing by anyway

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  6. Start commenting on the beautiful babies u saw in church d oda day or on the street and hw u wish u had ur own baby. He will get d hint and start questionin u too.


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  7. Anonymous10/02/2013

    D way u talk it seems u like him and is best of u soi dont tink dats an issue wat u need to do is to sit him down at a pleasant mood and ask like as if is a question eg. sweety wen do u really want d marriage to up. I belive he wil tel u his mind. Gudluk.

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    1. Anonymous10/02/2013

      WTF?

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    2. @ ano 11:45pm stop abusing the word F**k you should have being doing it at that time of the night if you are indeed married, am sure you know Errors happen,sleepy sis trying to air her view.... *wink*

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