I Need Advice To Accept A Marriage Proposal From My Muslim Partner

Please hide my identity dear Eya.  A friend of mine told me about this blog and I have read some of the posts and find it entertaining. I am a young woman of  31 years and have had several disappointments with relationships .

 I recently met a guy that is so gentle, loving but a very religious Muslim, he just proposed to me and needs my response ASAP. I love him, like his person but don’t know if I can marry a Muslim .

 I don’t think the marriage will work cos of our different religious background. But he said he will allow me to go to church when we get married but
I think this can change over time. 

I tried to tell him to come to church hoping to convert him but he said he is the MAN here. I think that is a red flag already. Don’t know what to do I am so confused. I really want to get married and I’m tired of disappointments. Please I need advice

78 thoughts on “I Need Advice To Accept A Marriage Proposal From My Muslim Partner”

  1. Lol @ 'I am a young woman of 31 years'

    Dear poster, before stepping into that marriage, both of you need to agree on your religion. The bible says "……….. And 2 shall become 1" How can the 2 of you become 1 when you both belong to different religions? When kids start coming, who will they follow to their place of worship? It starts now. You should decide if you can get married to him or not but my advice is you both should come to a conclusion before marriage.

    He has told you he is the MAN here and I bet you, his decisions will be final. So look before you leap.

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  2. I don't think at 31 you should be that desperate. I will personally not advice you to marry a Moslem if you are a dedicated christian. God is never late. Religion is very important in any relationship. Let Moslems marry Moslems and let Christians marry Christians. For the fact you are trying to convert him means you are not comfortable with it. (people fit quarrel here today cos religion is a sensitive matter .Lol….) Good luck to you!

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  3. Some girls nor dey fear sha. With all that is happening in the world Today, you still went ahead to have a romantic relationship with a Muslim? Fear no gree me abeg. Have you seen the movie "NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER?

    I can't advice even my enemy to go into such a relationship. Do you know that they refer to you as an infidel? Be very careful.

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  4. Anon, you need to read Julie's comment again before typing this your reply. Did she say poster is old?

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  5. Will not advise u to accept unless u are prepared for conversion cos he will not accept ur religion.Talk is cheap but wen u get inside the story will change.Your God fearing man will come just be steadfast and wait on God.two can only work together in agreement.Be less desperate and more hopeful.In de time urs will appear.God bless.

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  6. Poster, Staying married is more challenging than getting married . With all sincerity to yourself and to that man, will you accept him for who he is and that includes accepting the tenets of his religion which includes right to marry other wives after you? As the MAN that he is , will you accept to change your religion to his if in the future he wants that? well the choice is yours but be reminded that at 31, you are still young and moreover God's delay is not denial. With patience and wisdom, you can have the best. AdoOk sis

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  7. My dear its better u want for God's time , am talking out of experience , it won't work he will surely convert you to islam, and even at that he will go ahead and marry from his tribe and also a real moslem, cos his parents will demand it, especially when it comes to inheritance, he has to marry from his place to claim certain inheritance from his people , so its better to wait as they say God is always on tim. Wish u Good luck

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  8. Hmnnnn, my dear, don't try ur self, it's a destructive path u r thinking to ply, I beg of u don't do it.
    He wil get tired of u leaving for church every sunday, and what about ur children? Will u be happy dat you can't go to church wit ur children? Have u 4 forgotten the part in the Bible which says " do not be unequally yoked?" do u know wat that means?
    I got. Married at 36 to a man of 39 very handsome and never married today am on my way to baby number 2 . What did I loose? Nothing. I am begging u now pls in the name of God , mixed religion marriage is beyound what you may think of it. Have u considered ur family in all this? And who told you that u must be married b4 ur life is complete that u have become so desperate so?
    Goodluck.
    Sorry for the long turenchi
    Mrs A

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  9. Oh no! Not again! Dear Poster! How I wish I know you personally, am ready to bring my whole village to come & beg yoy to run away frm that rship as far as ur legs can carry U! Wld hv luvedto refer U to a friend who went into such marriage but today is living in great regret & has turned to a wreck! B4 d marriage d man promised to allow her practice her religion. Syrs into their marriage, d man was transferred to d north where his people changed his orientation so he took a moslem wife infact d story is so long & messy! I will not pray for my encountet such!!! Poster pls be patient!

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  10. the bible says FLEE, my sister flee, u wont change him to become a christian and be rest assured that he may marry other wives be wise, wait upon the Lord.

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  11. Poster, it's a lie oh! He will not allow you to go to church after you get married. Ok, kpatakata, he'll allow you go for a month, then he'll insist that you stop. What about your kids? Even if he allows you to continue being a christian, do you seriously think that he'll let his kids go to church with you? My dear, you better run before it's too late. By the way, you still have a lot of time to get married, so a good christian guy will come. Just wait for him.

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  12. It appears non of you both have genuinely decided to trash the issue of religion in very livid terms.

    It's a very serious matter ooo, one that has to be looked into with no kid glove.

    Don't let the quest for marriage blind ur rationale.

    Plz sister, run fast to a bookshop and get yourself the book "LIFE PARTNER, 165 Questions to ask" By pastor Bimbo Odukoya.

    After digesting this book I'm 101% sure ur eye's will be open to a lot of facts that beclouds you. Hence, there'll be so many question you'll begin to ask.

    Nuff'Said….

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  13. MA advice to you is go ahead and marry this guy, coz men are hard to find this time. and i pray ma Allah bless this your marriage…Ameen ya Allah.

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  14. U Even DAtEd a muslim 2 strt wit. Its beta 2 b single n. Happy. Dnt turn. Ursef 2 an outcast In d name of marriage bcos dts wht u wld b in his home Esp wen d muslim wives strt comin. HW do u intend 2 train ur kids? Being a christian goes deeper dn we practice. DAtin A muslim tho. Lay ur bed

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  15. I pity u o poster. U don lost hope. Chei. Na wa o. Marry him. Marry Bokoharam. Sorry o. Disperation don finish u. I weep in advance. Try to trust God. Check wats mks men to dump u. Correct IT and believe GOD

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  16. Sweerie u knew all dese while dts he's a Muslim so y did u get urself involved in d first place?i beliv u r old enof 2 knw wots best 4u.IMA u shudnt hv started d relationship initially also bear in mind dt its only God dat can change a man.a broken engagement is far more beta dan a broken marriage.

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  17. "when the lord wants to bless you with a city, the devil brings a well decorated village to attract and distract you"..
    Please don't marry the Muslim guy.hold on and you would be surprised at what God has in store for you

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  18. "when the lord wants to bless you with a city, the devil brings a well decorated village to attract and distract you"..
    Please don't marry the Muslim guy.hold on and you would be surprised at what God has in store for you

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  19. I am a christian, and I'm married to a Muslim. We dated for 7 years and we've been married for 3 years. He DOESNT stop me from going to church. Infact I pray morning and night in my house. He drops me in church every Sunday and comes to pick me after service. He gets angry if I don't go to church on a Sunday. He's a good man with a very good heart.

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  20. The guy being a Muslim is not really the issue here – where do you belong? A dog will not (should not) be attracted to a goat, while a sheep should not have anything to do with a horse… However, an alsatian may find itself attracted to a doberman dog as they belong to the same family…
    God’s instructions to His children, concerning marriage, are very clear… you do not need someone to remind you.

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  21. I am a christian, and I'm married to a Muslim. We dated for 7 years and we've been married for 3 years. He DOESNT stop me from going to church. Infact I pray morning and night in my house. He drops me in church every Sunday and comes to pick me after service. He gets angry if I don't go to church on a Sunday. He's a good man with a very good heart.

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  22. @ anno 1244am. I dnt think dat ur husbd is a real muslim. If he is he wuldnt allow u. May be he is interestd in being a xtian.

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  23. They've said it all. God has something big in store 4 u & d devil is tryin 2 distract u. Dont let any one pressurize u into making d worst decision of ur life. 31 aint old. Love urself.

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  24. @Johnson, u hit the nail on the head. @Poster, think b4 u leap. I know of a friend who had this moslem bro pursuing her day n night. She didn't wanna be involved with him @ 1st but the dude promised everything. Even converted. The reverse is the case today. Not long after they got married, he went back to his old religion and demanded that she convert. Long story short, she's a wreck now. no offense to moslems bt I'm just citing an example. Stick to ur religion and dnt settle for less. God will give u ur own.

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  25. My dear poster plz don't! I repeat, don't marry him. U are not old @ 31, I no a friend dat had so many disapointment in relationship but God wiped away her tears abd rebuilded her. She married @35yrs to her own man under 2months of coutship, had her baby dis same year dat she wedded, I also rem one muslem guy I used to knw den, very nice man, he wanted to marry me and I askd him dis issue of religion, he answered me thus " ee, after our wedding u can be goin to ur church" den I asked again" how abt our kids? He said" lie lie, my kids nust be commited to Allah". Nne, nobody adviced me na me advice myself cuz I knw wat dat implies. Being wedded is good but staying married is no child's play. Think wisely. Abeg mk una no vex 4 my epistle and ay typo error o lol

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  26. Him being a very religious muslim seem to be more of a problem TO YOU. You're already trying to convert him to your religion when he clearly said that he would let you go to church (although this could easily be a lie).

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  27. Muslim dey worship devil ni? Yucee, no start religious war here o. So the fact that a Muslim proposed to her means it's the plan of the devil or what? Infact I'm shocked at ur comment

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  28. @ poster, stay there, let people be giving u advise from thier bias point of view. If u feel he's good for u, marry him. There are lots of Christians that worship the devil, they just use Christianity to cover face. The guy said he will let u go to church, and they are all saying it's a lie, how can u judge someone based on other people's stories. I can't advise you not to marry him because he's Muslim sha. I can't judge Islam. I don't believe that they don't worship the same God with us.

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  29. @ poster, stay there, let people be giving u advise from thier bias point of view. If u feel he's good for u, marry him. There are lots of Christians that worship the devil, they just use Christianity to cover face. The guy said he will let u go to church, and they are all saying it's a lie, how can u judge someone based on other people's stories. I can't advise you not to marry him because he's Muslim sha. I can't judge Islam. I don't believe that they don't worship the same God with us.

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  30. Hey dear! i think everyone's advice here is enough to make your decision. the only thing i can say is how will you guys agree in prayer when you are facing a challenge together like baby sick, mother sick e.t.c… think about it

    Bride2mum blog coming soon

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  31. I laugh in esan! The day is still young! Let's hear your story after 5 to 10 years. One of you will have to convert for peace to reign.

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  32. As you're hoping to convert him, don,t be surprised or unhappy if he hopes to convert you too. You both need to be really sincere with yourselves. You're obviously not with him, not sure about his intentions for you though. For me, religion is very very important and we must be on the same page. Marriage is no walk in the park; challenges will definitely come. You'll both need to pray as a couple. How do you then do that? And when the kids come, how comfortable will you be watching your kids going to the mosque with their pa. How comfortable will he be listening to his kids singing Jesus is lord. The cracks start appearing and if not handled with plenty of patience, maturity and what yorubas call amojukuro (tolerance, I think), what you'll have is a strained relationship, if not something worse

    Alas, it's ur life to live, ur choice to make. Good luck with all that.

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  33. Wendy,I agree with you.@Poster,I was in a 4years relationship with a moslim guy who wasn't really comitted to the religion then,he even used to follow me to church and attend meetings.Family and friends incluuding my pastor asked me to quit but I didn't heed cos I was so in love and naïve.fast forward to late last year when all we started a relationship at the same were celebrating the birth of their 1st or 2nd child,his parents insisted I become a moslim before we get married and my boyfriend who promised staying with me agreed and said he can't marry a non moslim as against what he told me then of wanting to settle with a christian.after much pressure,he reminded me he is the first son and might likely get someone from his tribe.My dear,I had turned down various suitors because of him and I was overly in love with him,I couldn't imagine living without him.I used to see stuffs wrapped up in various corners of his house and I got to discover a lot of practises that were very strange to me..it is better to get married and feel at home knowing you have the hand of God in your marriage,today I am with a Godfearing guy who loves me like mad while my ex has become a religion fanatic.Don't get confused cause of your age,God makes all things beautiful in his time.Remember if you marry the child of the devil as a christian,you will have problems with your father inlaw(am not saying he is a devil oh,its used figuratively)

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  34. Dear sis,it's jst a test of ur faith..I can confidently tel u dat God is nt in support of dat relationship,coz he's nt an author of confusion n d bible says 2 is beta dan 1.Getin married 2 a non christian is killin a part of u coz lite n darkness can neva agree,wit tym u will loose ur salvation n wat shal it profit u 2 get married bcos u r due 4 it n loose ur soul 2 d devil..my dear it's nt worth it @ all.Best of luck

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  35. Haaaa! So Muslims worship the devil? Omg!!! I need to cut ties with all my Muslim friends. So they are all going to hell fire. So Islam is devils religion. Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!

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  36. It's not surprising that we have a decayed society. Judging by the comments here, it seems Nigeria is a "Titanic" of sort(Allah forbid).

    Have we suddenly forgotten that judgment is not ours to make?

    My story:
    My father is a Muslim and he married my mum who is a Christian(no second wife o). What they have is what most same religion marriages can only dream of.. I, a Muslim married a christian… 4 years on and NO REGRETS

    @poster follow your heart and may the blessings of the almighty God be with you.

    PS:
    Enemies of Love, Pls feel free to exhibit your ignorance and hypocrisy

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  37. And on judgement day are we going to stand with our famliles or alone. D best tin d poster shud do is if she feels he is ryt 4 her,dey shud work on dia relationship nd communicate properly. All dis christains shouting here re u guys commited christain? Most pple practice d religion dey wia born into so quit all dis judgement you re nt God

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  38. Jst tak our kind advices as marrin smone from anoda religion is nt a bed of roses;dnt dare it as u‘l b real sori

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  39. In marriage,it's very important 2 understand each oda. I have 2 different moslem uncles married 2 christain wifes. One is married 4 18yrs now while d oda is 7yrs and dey are both deep in their islamic sturf. Will u believe dat their wifes still go 2 church both their children go 2 mosque. D agreement was dat d children will decide what dey want when dey are of age. I was born into a moslem family but changed along d line. Christain 2 d core,had many moslem toasters den but I know what I wanted. I got married 2 months ago @ d age of 35 and pregnant now 2 a christain brother. I love my husband very much. But do u know 1 thing? I look @ all d marriages around me, both christain and moslem homes but dis my 2 uncles are d best. Sometimes I use dem 2 pray. It's very hard 2 know a good believer now. Even in church married christain brodas and sisters having extra marrital affairs. Same in mosques. My advice" Go back 2 God and tell him what u want. He has a plan 4 u and He knows d right man 4 u." Most of dis christains and moslems are fake. U are still young. Though,it's not easy when u see dat all ur mates are married even d younger ones. But always remember dat God's time is d best. I'm happily married now.And also know dat it's not only religion,u have 2 consider d character of whoever it is. I wish u d best

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  40. Pls at 31 u went ahead n was dating a guy u know u can't marry if he proposes. its girls under 25 that dates anyhow. At 31 u don pass level of doing boyfriend sef, u go 4 relationship that will lead to something not just 4 fun. Now see u in this uncomfortable situation. My advice to u, is to convert to a Muslim ( which personally I won't do) or preferably end it now, hopefully u have not invested a lot in d rtnship.

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  41. @Poster… Note that some muslims have found this blog and they are already campaigning that you marry their compatriot.

    My advice is… You can marry ooo, we are still here to help you with critical advise after the marriage.

    Tchuss! Nuff'Said….

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  42. Dear Poster,Just Know that Marriage is For a Lifetime. I know Age is what's pressuring into considering marriage with this Man,but religion is a deal breaker for some ppl. And as he has told you already,he is the Man. When You marry him, Will You be able to withstand the issues that might arise as a result of Religion? Be Wise and think carefully.

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  43. Yeah. Cos when eya created this blog, she specifically said it was for Christians. I guess these Muslims crossed seven seas and seven oceans to 'find' this blog in his well hidden Christian cyberspace with the sole aim of luring innocent Christian girls/women into the Muslim hands of their Muslim compatriots. How shallow is your reasoning, Ace?
    @op, listening to 'critical advice' from this guy is doing yourself a disservice. Not with the comments he has been putting forth in recent times

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  44. Couldn't have said it any better bulls eye. It's so very annoying what some miscreants think they have the sole right to. I'm utterly disgusted at u ace.

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  45. Couldn't have said it any better bulls eye. It's so very annoying what some miscreants think they have the sole right to. I'm utterly disgusted at u ace.

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  46. From my point of view i don't think you fiance a moderate muslims. he maybe one of those extremist and once you marry him he will surely convert you to islam please my sister do not lose your soul all because of married

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  47. From my point of view i don't think you fiance a moderate muslims. he maybe one of those extremist and once you marry him he will surely convert you to islam please my sister do not lose your soul all because of married

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  48. My dear is god dat knowns d really man oo, jst pray hard and tell GOd 2 review 4 u. Dnt use ur husband 4 boyfrd bcos of religion.

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  49. Can u stand d shaving of a new born baby b4 or on 8th days of naming ceremony?
    Me o i can't!
    Dat alone is repulsive n annouying to me. God help us!

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  50. Can u stand d shaving of a new born baby b4 or on 8th days of naming ceremony?
    Me o i can't!
    Dat alone is repulsive n annouying to me. God help us!

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  51. If you are a devout Christian then marrying a Muslim is not for you. He will not allow you to go to Church and he will want the children to be raised as Muslims. Lady wake up, you are a woman thinking to marry a Muslim man and one that is "very religious" at that, I already know your future and it will not be what he is feeding you now in courtship. I know a few Muslims who are not practicing, or liberal Muslims, these types are few and far between. No Christian woman should consider marrying a devout Muslim man. The sweet tasting milk that you are drinking now in courtship will curdle in your stomach in marriage.

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  52. thank you all for your advice about 90% suggestion says the marriage aint goin to work out. its very easy for you all to say but i pray God sees me through this. God is not an author of confusion. thank you all. will appreciate more advice as no one knows it all. God bless

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  53. If someone told you that 90% of people who crossed a certain road usually get hit by a vehicle and end up dead, would you cross that same road?

    If you want to marry you beau, then marry him, don't let strangers dictate how you should live your life. But remember, the mere fact that you would let strangers into your personal life and ask them for advise means you have your own doubts. God is perfect and all things that are from God are perfect and without fear, uncertainty, and doubt. So fast and pray, fast and pray without ceasing so you can get divine answer where humans on a blog can't give you as much, because we can only answer by logic and historical reference. God can answer you in perfect truth of knowing YOUR future . Go seek God's face in your dilemma, so that your spirit can be at peace in this. Wish you well!

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  54. Ha! I'm a christian but I like to shave my babies hair. That's my personal choice. I just think it's more hygenic. All d blood et all. Ewwww, it's better to shave jare.

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  55. 1 Corinthians 7:10-17
    English Standard Version (ESV)
    10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.
    12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you[a] to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

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  56. 1 Corinthians 7: 12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you[a] to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

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  57. 1 Corinthians 7: 12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you[a] to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

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  58. U CANT PAINT IT ANY BETTER,THERE IS NO SIMILARITY BETWEEN LIGHT AND DARKNESS.WEN U DISCUSS ISSUES ESP RELIGION WHICH ONE WILL U STAND FOR? HMM MY SISTER START PRAYING MORE THAN U HAVE BEEN DOING O

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