He Does Not Want To Keep Me Hanging, Please Advise Without Cussing Me Out

Gd morning Eya,
  I'm a young girl of 28, and I'm having problems with my relationship. 


I've been dating this guy for 3yrs +. He's a great guy, we were doing ok till he travelled abroad on a work/study program. With the time difference and all, we were doing just fine till about 3months ago, he called and said he thinks we need to take a break.

 I asked why and he said he had been thinking and thought the distance is affecting the relationship and he doesn't want to keep me 'hanging' as he's not sure when d program would end and all. He also gave
some other funny reasons. 

I asked him to come out straight and ask for an end to the relationship to which he said " if that's what you want, ok". I was really hurt but I resolved to get on with my life. 2 weeks later, he starts calling again and telling me how much he's missed me and how he was under some stress when he said what he said. And he wants me back.

 My question to WC readers is, is this dude serious?

Should I give him another chance?
 I still love him and I don't know if love is enough in this case.
Please advise people.
PS: don't cuss me out friends

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  1. Anonymous10/03/2013

    My dear move on with ur life o he isn't serious, I'm sure he saw a babe there n was thinking she would agree to him and wen she didn't he decided to com back to u cos he knws ull take him back. Wat do u think will happen if he finds someone who says yes to him there?

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    1. Anonymous10/03/2013

      I totally agree wit anon 8.46. He saw someone else and thot it would work out. Please move on wit ur life before u get a bigger heart break in future. Love is not enough here! I personally have a phobia for guys who have traveled out of d country.

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    2. Anonymous10/04/2013

      First u should rephrase ur statement... U re not a young 28yr old girl... So d first tin u need to do is acknowledge dat u re no longer a kid to wait for a man who is not sure of himself. My advice. MOVE ON

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  2. Anonymous10/03/2013

    my dear sis, have been in a situation like that before, although we have been dating for 5years and later travelled abroad, but he usually call me or skype me every blessed day, and after a year that he travelled, i joined him. and for your boyfriend, i think he's not serious anymore, he ought to be giving you assurance not giving some attitudes. i think you should think twice before giving him another chance.

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  3. Anonymous10/03/2013

    Ace Bentley we are tired of you. You are still holding on to the chauvinistic mentality of yesteryears. You blame every problem on women. I feel very sorry for the poor girl that would end up your wife. It's men like you that become a users, baterers, cheats and so on. Read, travel just do something to broaden your mind. You are an ignorant being. Men like you should have been extinct by now. I am really tired of your ignorant, chauvistic, egoistic views. If you have nothing to say just shut the fu*k up and don't type. Nobody takes your advice anyways. I really hope that this your attitude is an act.

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    1. Anonymous10/03/2013

      SHUTDOWN AND VAMOOSE YOU HATER OF ACE my darling husband

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    2. Anonymous10/03/2013

      Who the heck is this Ace hater? Atleast he's better that you are since he types in new comments for every post while you copy and paste. Haba!

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    3. How does your comment relate to what was posted. I had to double check to see if Ace posted above. Please, get a life and stop hating.

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  4. I don't tink he really likes u. His excuses are jst too flimsy. Someone u hv been wit for 3 yrs can jst open his mouth witout tinkin about ur feelings, and simply say he wants to break up tru the fone oo, den wen u question him he is sayin if dats hw u want it den so be it. Pls move on

    Start ur xmas shoppin, order for ur trendy wears through 2a80e0e0. Thank you

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    1. Anonymous10/04/2013

      My dear
      I'm yet to recover from w@ my ex did to me
      Its mths now and I stil tink bout it e'ryday
      He told me d@ he wanted to go closer to God
      Nd when I asked him hw I was gonna affect or change d@ since I'm a Godly person
      He said I shld jst go
      I cried bitterly and lamented bout hw twastough for us for d 2 and half years we dated
      He said afteral he didn't promise to mari me
      Dere was a time sometime last year he was misbehaving and I jst chilled out and met a rili cool guy d@ I liked and d guy was very serious den.
      Amos came bak and apologised to me nd made me brk e'rycontact wit him.
      Now, Amos had d guts to tell me to go back to d@ same guy afta 1 full year.
      Kai. No feelings. He didn't. Bat an eyelid. I wished for death.
      I'm nt ova it
      E'rytime I rememba d@ part of d brk up
      I feel my hrt brk all ova again.
      I stil feel dis softness and love for him
      I shld hate him and wish him evil bt I don't.
      I jst believe I wld get a wonderful man.
      God is d creator of d heavens and d earth and al d@ is in it includin e'ryman.
      He wil give me a good man d@ wil love me like I deserve.

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  5. Having Two is not a Risk,after all they are always too sides to a note and a coin,am sure that is what my brother is trying to let you know.... Solve the puzzle now and you won't feel hurt when the bridge is broken.... Eya sweetheart how have you being?........ *Big Smiles* Am sure you miss my trouble....... lol

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  6. Hmmmmm my dear after good three years and he decides to call it quit just like that. It takes so much to arrive at such decision.
    I believe in giving people benefit of doubt,but in this situation he needs to prove his sincerety and this he must do by telling you what you need to hear at your age. He needs to ask you that ultimate question.
    You're too big for such drama.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  7. Anonymous10/03/2013

    O di egwu! Dear poster u need to sit up and check yourself.

    Your boyfriend is telling you that he may not come back to Nigeria and he did not want to keep you waiting , If he is in USA he might be looking for someone to marry and legalized his stay here and it takes up to 5 to ten years depends on you luck.May God help you as you solve this puzzle

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  8. Anonymous10/03/2013

    Hehehe pls move on with ur life my dear,tym waits 4 no one.did he nt hv a rethink B4 callin it qiut?are u sure he won't hurt u again?now dt uv managed to get urself back he's tryin to manipulate u.biko hv a rethink

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  9. Anonymous10/03/2013

    Hehehe pls move on with ur life my dear,tym waits 4 no one.did he nt hv a rethink B4 callin it qiut?are u sure he won't hurt u again?now dt uv managed to get urself back he's tryin to manipulate u.biko hv a rethink

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  10. Hey girl... He doesn't love you, he's only having a 2nd tot!

    They say "Distance makes the heart grow fonder" if this distance doesn't make him go gaga for you then what.....?

    He's just a joker!
    You need to ride on, trust me, b4 he came open about the break he had it going on in his heart for a long time. You see, you've been deceived whenever I say' I love you in the past!

    Babe! Respect the counsel of ur inner soul, it won't lie to you!





    Nuff'Said....
    (Oh lord, let my haters crash like associated airlines)

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    1. *"Whenever he say's"

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    2. Anonymous10/03/2013

      Lol, this your prayer points at the bottom ehn!
      Confused like Nigeria!
      Crash like associated airlines! lol.
      hater let ace be!

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  11. Johnson10/03/2013

    This guy had showed you RED light - door closed. Calling after 2weeks is like having a traffic man stopping and passing you at the same time. The best position to take under this condition is STOP.
    Obviously you miss this dude, the word LOVE is not appropriate in expressing how you feel towards him. You need to move on and embrace the better things in stock for you – don’t shut the door on upcoming opportunities…

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  12. Anonymous10/03/2013

    What more do you want to be told? He has clearly stated he is no longer interested in the relationship!
    MOVE ON!

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  13. Chioma. R. D10/03/2013

    dis ur bf don eat tomato chicken periperi. His brain is running
    anticlock wise. If am u. Na to find my level. Guys? Few sum of them o.

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  14. My Darling, i cannot really say if he is serious or not dat would depend on you... first advice is to sit down and ask yourself some real truth; how has this relationship been in the last three years and is this what you really want? I know you would be sincere to yourself. xoxo

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  15. My Darling, i cannot really say if he is serious or not dat would depend on you... first advice is to sit down and ask yourself some real truth; how has this relationship been in the last three years and is this what you really want? I know you would be sincere to yourself. xoxo

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  16. Hmm! Babe, run till ur foot touches ur head. He is simply not serious to have suggested it in d first place. He probably had a girl and it didn't work out dats y he suddenly remembers u.

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  17. Anonymous10/04/2013

    Thanks everybody for your candid suggestions. Seems everyone is of the same opinion with slight variations. I must confess, its crossed my mind a few times too. Now I know what I have to do, and I pray for d strength to do it. Thanks WC fam, God bless us all.xxx
    POSTER

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  18. Which would you prefer?
    1. He tells you how he feels now so you can be open to meet other people.
    2. He doesn't tell you, leads you on and disappoints you when it's too late.

    My dear it is not easy to let go but usually the first answer is always the real answer. He has told you how he feels, whatever he is coming back to do now may be out of pity, it's not the real thing.

    Remember, the future is brighter. A bird in hand may be worth 100 in the bush but my people say: ife oma adi agwu agwu (better thing no dey finish).

    Good luck!

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    1. Anonymous10/04/2013

      First u should rephrase ur statement... U re not a young 28yr old girl... So d first tin u need to do is acknowledge dat u re no longer a kid to wait for a man who is not sure of himself. My advice. MOVE ON

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  19. Anonymous10/04/2013

    My dear he don't need u any longer




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  20. Anonymous10/04/2013

    i like all the positive responses. Great advices.

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