The Black Woman, Our Hair Isn't Good Enough?

Good evening Aunty Eya, how is your family and WC doing? I am a reader of your blog who leaves comments anonymously. I can't give out my ID because of the type of job I do. There is an issue I have kept inside me for so long but would want to table on this platform. There is something about hair weaves; Brazilian hair, Indian Hair, Moroccan Hair and so on. They are easy to style and maintain. They give  a posh kind of look to any woman that wears them. Women look good on them.

I have done everything I
see as fashionable I think? But One thing I haven't been able to do is wear foreign hair or weaves. I can actually afford to buy as many as I want in different lengths but can't bring my mind to accept that my hair is inferior to any. I can't. Luckily for me, my husband believes so much in the African hair. I sometimes use hair relaxers  to soften and make my hair more manageable but just can't bring myself to hiding my own hair under a weave. Friends have bought good ones for me and I tell them "this thing is from my mind set". Wearing those, make me feel like I am not proud of my black hair. I would have loved to wear them but how do I bring myself to accept like most black women?

I do not criticize those who wear them, after all my friends have dozens in different shapes and sizes. I know the reason some wear them is the ease involved.

But this question is still at the back of my mind. What is the message we are passing? That our hair isn't good enough? Or what?
Eye please help me ask other readers what they feel about covering our hair with other types. Just like skin bleaching, Aren't we endorsing other brands while covering and hiding ours? I don't hate and will never hate other hair types but would like to know what other people feel.
Thank you.

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  1. We really should not make hair a big issue. What we put on our heads doesn't define us, and I find that hair is a personal issue. If you want to go for the Malaysian, indian or whatever kind of hair and you feel comfortable with it, then please go ahead.
    If you want to keep your hair natural, please go ahead.
    If you want to keep relaxed hair, please go ahead.
    Hair is not that big of a deal, its just hair. Rather lets concentrate on the contents of our character.
    Poster you mentioned that you do relax your hair sometimes, and some natural hair fanatics may argue that you are not comfortable with the kinky natural hair and that is why you apply relaxers to enhance it. And that you are also sending a wrong message
    And yeah, I have unrelaxed natural hair, but its my choice, and I hope I am judged by who I am, what I say and what I do rather than what type of hair I have
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  2. Anonymous9/06/2013

    If u have a good beautiful hair, why bother? Even if it is nt beautiful. Nko? Must u fix ur hair or wear a wig? If u are nt comftable. Abeg no kil ursef. Wk on ur self esteem.

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  3. my dear if you have my kind of hair,you will buy different shapes and sizes.Just thank God that you have a wonderful hair you can expose.

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  4. Anonymous9/06/2013

    Why are you wearing skirts, shirts, trousers etc. why dont you tie wrapper which is our culture? Your reasons arent good enough! Your are like those who speak against IVF yet go to the hospital at the slightest ailment!

    As for me, I love variety of hair styles, weaves, braides, weaving, cutting, parking, etc etc. variety they say is the spice of life!

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  5. Whatever you feel comfortable in - do it!
    It will be useless following a trend if you do not feel comfortable in it. It's all about how you feel... An modern African woman that feels comfortable/confident in wearing her 'natural, hair is a very beautiful - I can imagine the natural endowments she must have.
    My wife uses different attachments and I do not love her less when she decides to go natural - it's all about how she feels.

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  6. Anonymous9/06/2013

    Thank u jare. Bj. Na by force to fix hair? I am not sayn it is wrong. D poster just wan copy her friends.and i blive she has a beautiful hair. U neva knw women and our wahala. Am a lady 2 i knw hw she feels.

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  7. I'm a South African woman and I've also done the whole weave business but I have to say I prefer my own hair. Fortunately I found myself a brilliant colored hair dresser and only with her hair dryer she manages to get my 100% Afro hair blowed out smooth. Colored ppl are the cross between native African and europeans. Because most have hair like us they learn very early to use the blow dryer to get hair manageable naturally. No relaxers, moisturers, sprays, etc. I just go for wash and blow every once or two weeks and treat every 6 weeks. And the nice thing is when I want my Afro I just go under the shower. As you can see from my profile pic, our hair can be phenomenal when we decide to invest in it the way we do in the weaves and it's a lot less costly. I also have to mention that our hair tends to be weaker than white people's so for mine I do the keratin treatment every six months. It nourishes the hair and keeps the Afro soft.
    I find that Nigerian women tend to not respond well to suggestions of natural hairstyles. When I was up there all the hairdressers i went to in Abuja had issues with working with ,my natural hair, trying to get me to relax it whereas here back home the more natural the better.

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  8. African hair is very versatile, you can do almost anything with it. That's an advantage. I have very lovely black hair and I get lots of attention when I wear my hair without extentions. I also look super pretty in my corn rows and braids and I use hair extentions when I feel like. My non African collegues are so amazed at how I can easily switch from one look to another.I think its all about how u feel, there is variety out there, as long as its not damaging, its ok to try.

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  9. I just can't afford one now... Too much expenses jare... Me I need plenty jor! Which one be natural hair... Well for those who are lucky to have a nice one like my kid sister and my daughter, go flaunt it. For us, the rat fall inside water type of hair... Pls buy plenty wig jor, dnt embarrass ursef with that look. If you can't afford expensive ones like me, abeg fix miss rolas and the likes... Nor be our fault, na condition make the hair need extra hair... For the looks sake!

    Patsy

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  10. Oh my goodness patsy you're so funny. I really enjoyed your comment. Lol

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  11. Choi. Hair tinz. Poster if u si my natural hair, u wld buy me any typ of hair I wnt. So der r diff rizons 4 diff tins

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  12. Anonymous9/06/2013

    Hahahahahahaha @ Ivy brown lol @u will buy me any type of hair i want.
    Its true sha, nt all of us have that good hair to go natural.
    *Nita*

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  13. Anonymous9/06/2013

    Me i fall into the category of 'rat fall inside water Ooº°˚' lolz but I just went to the mkt to buy wigs cos I want to stop fixing and take care of my hair. All this fixing we do sef contributes to us losing more hair cos the hair is soft at the root and we keep on pulling it ontop sewing weaves. So my fellow kinsmen u can do same.

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  14. Anonymous9/06/2013

    How about women with front bald head??? Go natural?? Dnt tink so

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  15. It's a shame how we devalue what we have.

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  16. So true wendy.As a nigerian natural I tell you that finding a hairdresser who knows how to handle my hair is like looking for a grain of sand in a haystack.I have learnt to care for my hair myself and it is thriving.All my friends use weaves and relaxers.They look good and so do I.To each his own me thinks :-) just love yourself for yourself!

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  17. @wendy, na warri I dey na, what do you expect... Hehehehehehe. Seriously I can't bring mysef to care for my hair jor, the more I try the more disappointment I get. Me gonna fix and wig it anytime any day!

    Patsy

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  18. Anonymous9/07/2013

    i prefer my natural hair too..my natural relaxed hair! lol

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  20. Wendy you have beautiful hair.
    I just removed ♏v̶̲̥̅ hair extension and right now, I'm at α̲̅ salon weaving ♏v̶̲̥̅ natural hair into cornrows (the sleeping didi type).
    Naturally, ♏v̶̲̥̅ hair isn't too good, but with constant care and hair growth methods (texlaxing, protective styling, conditioning, moisturising etc) that I discovered on lushstrands blog, I have α̲̅ good head of hair now (lenght and fulness). If we rely too much on hair extensions, we tend †̥̥o̶̲̥̅̊ neglect our hair, and that makes us constantly dependent on these extensions.

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  23. Wendy you have beautiful hair.
    I just removed ♏v̶̲̥̅ hair extension and right now, I'm at α̲̅ salon weaving ♏v̶̲̥̅ natural hair into cornrows (the sleeping didi type).
    Naturally, ♏v̶̲̥̅ hair isn't too good, but with constant care and hair growth methods (texlaxing, protective styling, conditioning, moisturising etc) that I discovered on lushstrands blog, I have α̲̅ good head of hair now (lenght and fulness). If we rely too much on hair extensions, we tend †̥̥o̶̲̥̅̊ neglect our hair, and that makes us constantly dependent on these extensions.

    Leyejisola.blogspot.com
    Α̲̅ rights, health and beauty blog

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