If Given A Chance To Choose Your Parents

Hello Aunty Eya, good evening and how are you? I am a reader and strong blog commentator  that would love to remain anon for now.I saw a question somewhere and really wanted to know what readers responses would be but was surprised no one left a comment. Can you please put it up let’s see what others have to say.

 For me I
won’t want to come to earth again through my parents cos I never felt loved by them. I was conceived at a time when they had enough kids and wanted some rest. Compared to my other siblings. I am the least loved (leave me anonymous abeg o). 

If you were given a second chance to come back to this earth as a baby, would you love your present parents to still be your parents, to still be the passage into the world or you would like a change?

80 thoughts on “If Given A Chance To Choose Your Parents”

  1. For me, if given a chance to come again I won't change my dear mother but wil most definitely change my papa. The man no send at all he is as hard as the rock of gibraltar

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  2. Funny question! Just as I believe I'm unique and never wish to be another person no matter the admiration, ill never want to exchange my parents. Granted some changes, but there are traits they posses ill never want another(not even dangote)

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  3. None of my parents o. It's even as an adult my mum started showing me small love. Her hubby chop her head dat she didn't hv time 4 us

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  4. my mom Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
    my dad? Baba God know say meself I go refuse to born if na him again! Haba……..habatically!

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  5. I would graciously come into theirs arms again, good combination. My only wish is that they stop trying to snoop into out private life and dad quits politics.

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  6. I wud gladly come thru my parents but will want then to gv birth to more of girls. Don't wanna be an only girl no more. Gush!

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  7. My mum NEVER EVER EVER, i would prefer not to be born than come through her. My mum & her family are wicked!

    My dad; i never knew him so would say yes i want him to still be my father plus i love him surname.

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  8. I will want to come through them over and over again.
    Ah,My Dad….He is the best Dad in the world,dis man had only a shirt and 2 trousers but he made sure he built a comfortable place for us.He never jokes with his wife and kids.
    He goes to the end of the world just to make us comfortable.I remembered the day I fainted,my dad was crying when I woke up cos mum was not around.
    Mumsy nko?Over supportive worry am but sometimes she likes acting like James Bond,she is the Magret Thatcher of the ause but the day I got married,she cried and dad cried too.
    I miss my parents a lot cos am now in another state.
    God pls bless them with long life for me biko so they can reap the fruit of their labour.
    AMEN!!

    *so sorry for my typo,morning sickness dey deal wit me seriously*

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  9. Yes I will wish to still come tru them. My father was the best despite his early demise. They are wonderful combination though in my next world I wouldn't want to experience some things I did while growing up.

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  10. I will like to come true my parent, how can i discribe my mom loving,caring,supportive,easy going and gentle even wen pple look for her trouble she as a way of showing dem love am trying to emulate dis frm her bt ko easy . My dad very very discipline mr no nonsense bt his kind and dosnt joke wit his children i remember on my wedding day my dad cried lik a baby even more dan my mom. My parent struggle to make us who we ar today i pray God in is infinite mercy giv dem long life and bless my hustle so i can take care of dem. I lov u mama and popsy hally as i used to call dem. Hallyshally

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  11. I would never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever want myu current mum to be my mum in my next life.she dosent want me too.my dad?its either him or no one else,I can't imagine how he coped having my mum as a wife.my dad yes my mum-tufiakwa!

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  12. Fathers you have a lot of work to do I hope all the young men reading this are taking notes treat your wife and children with respect love them unconditionally otherwise your pikin go trade you for another papa lol

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  13. You got me cracking @Maggie Thatcher.
    Pele with your morning sickness, it'll soon pass. Hope you're taking thing to alleviate it like ginger tea and fruits?

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  14. I will want my daddy again!!!!. He is d best dad on earth n he is always there for us, may God contiune to keep him alive for us. But my mom no way

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  15. I will want my daddy again!!!!. He is d best dad on earth n he is always there for us, may God contiune to keep him alive for us. But my mom no way

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  17. I will never come through my parents again! I believe in everything happening for a reason and being happy about who I am but naaaa not like choosing my parents again. In fact if I'm to come back to life again, I would tell God to send me to a family that the first letter of their surname is far away from my dad's.

    My parents are the most selfish people ever… Imagine having parents who don't even care about how you live. If God even asks me to come back to life I would say no. This life is to full of crap but that's not to say that I am not grateful… I and my siblings' life is a testimony that God is real.

    Despite not having parental care since the age of 13… Things still worked out for me, I've just completed my law degree and hopefully beginning my masters next month and I'm only 21. Now tell me God is not good.

    One thing I have promised myself is to choose my life partner carefully, I do not want my kids to go through what I went through.

    Having said that, when I become rich I would still take care of my parents 'cause they birthed me into this world and did the little they could even though they could have done wayyy more.

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  18. I will never come through my parents again! I believe in everything happening for a reason and being happy about who I am but naaaa not like choosing my parents again. In fact if I'm to come back to life again, I would tell God to send me to a family that the first letter of their surname is far away from my dad's.

    My parents are the most selfish people ever… Imagine having parents who don't even care about how you live. If God even asks me to come back to life I would say no. This life is to full of crap but that's not to say that I am not grateful… I and my siblings' life is a testimony that God is real.

    Despite not having parental care since the age of 13… Things still worked out for me, I've just completed my law degree and hopefully beginning my masters next month and I'm only 21. Now tell me God is not good.

    One thing I have promised myself is to choose my life partner carefully, I do not want my kids to go through what I went through.

    Having said that, when I become rich I would still take care of my parents 'cause they birthed me into this world and did the little they could even though they could have done wayyy more.

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  19. So far…
    48% of responders would WANT both parents.
    7% does NOT WANT both
    30% want only MUM
    15% want only DAD
    What are we (parents & parents-to-be) doing to increase the %tage of those that want both parents?

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  20. Me and my husband will become parent very soon,i will try my possible best wit my husband to lov,care and pray for our children equally,giv dem d very best education and above all lov each oder and do tins in unity. @Johnson d very best way to b a gud parent to ones children is wen der is lov,care and unity within d family and i tink dats wat most nigeria family ar lacking wen we work on dis aspect our children will b proud of us anytym anyday. Hallyshally

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  21. My mom yes but my dad NOOOOO.
    Am from a polygamous home
    My dad never loved & cared for me. But he cared for my step sister & was responsible for her schooling before he died.
    It made me search for whom to love & care for me.
    GOD didn't abandon me, so He gave me a good man.
    May his soul R.I.P

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  22. Why this topic Eya? You brought sad memories that I tot I have forgotten back. Its well is all I can at this moment.

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  23. Why this topic Eya? You brought sad memories that I tot I have forgotten back. Its well is all I can at this moment.

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  24. Being born by my parents again = being born into divorce, polygamy, family politics and intrigues, step mother. Should I continue????
    I will not even walk past my parents in the journey of life if there was a next world.
    But my sisters? They will always be my sisters. We have been through too much and I love them very much with all my heart
    I will be anon today, pardon moi

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  25. Anon omalicha.. U jst caused a huge quarrel btw i n my boo tnyt. Jst dnt try ds again. Johnson n i hav been married fr yrs n ds is d 1st tym some1 is throwin ds kind of insult on my face. Pls leave him alone or get ready fr war(MFMtinz).husband snatcher. nonsense and ingredients

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  26. nawa! ppl r talking about serious issues ur coming here spitting nonsense. Ur comment just irritated d hell out of me. I just hope u were being sarcastic! like u seriously cannot be serious.

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  27. I luv my folks and they r awesome wud luv 2 have them once again. Truthfully, walahi talahi, tori oloun or is it maka chukwu I won't mind being a Dangote or Alakija or Akande or Ojukwu not to forget Bill Gates. Let's all try n c d humuor this post was supposed 2 evoke. May all who have issues with their parents find healing IJN

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  28. My mom, yes… My dad? The NO carry belle and e go born triplet soon… God cut off the penis of every man that won't give their kids fatherly love, may they never bring forth seeds! My experience was terrible! Thank God for the God fearing hubby I have.. The kids are so attached to him.. The bond is so strong.
    Lord forgive me for hating my dad..maybe I shld ve acted differently while he was alive… I regret all my actions towards him, but he so provoked me.. I should have acted differently, now I know, and I am so sorry.
    Ha! Lord grant me sleep in all this thought… I shuldn't ve checked WC at all.. Gosh!

    Patsy

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  29. My mom, yes… My dad? The NO carry belle and e go born triplet soon… God cut off the penis of every man that won't give their kids fatherly love, may they never bring forth seeds! My experience was terrible! Thank God for the God fearing hubby I have.. The kids are so attached to him.. The bond is so strong.
    Lord forgive me for hating my dad..maybe I shld ve acted differently while he was alive… I regret all my actions towards him, but he so provoked me.. I should have acted differently, now I know, and I am so sorry.
    Ha! Lord grant me sleep in all this thought… I shuldn't ve checked WC at all.. Gosh!

    Patsy

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  30. My mom, yes… My dad? The NO carry belle and e go born triplet soon… God cut off the penis of every man that won't give their kids fatherly love, may they never bring forth seeds! My experience was terrible! Thank God for the God fearing hubby I have.. The kids are so attached to him.. The bond is so strong.
    Lord forgive me for hating my dad..maybe I shld ve acted differently while he was alive… I regret all my actions towards him, but he so provoked me.. I should have acted differently, now I know, and I am so sorry.
    Ha! Lord grant me sleep in all this thought… I shuldn't ve checked WC at all.. Gosh!

    Patsy

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  31. Hmmm…..an updated version. I luv my folks and they are awesome. Totally luv them to the end of the earth and back. However, truthfully, walahi talahi, tori oloun, eziokwu or is it maka chukwu, I have always wondered what its like for my parents to be Dangote or Alakija or Ojukwu or Akande or Dantata or Okonji-Iweala not forgetting Bill Gates. See serious grooving o! Am sure the poster intended this to be a funny post but evry1 got so emotional. May all who were abused or neglected by parents be healed IJN. Amen!

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  32. Anon10:43 pls if u cnt see d humour in my comment,i think u v t go tak several seats woman.Hw is ds post a serious issue.D fact dt u do not lyk ur parents is non of my biz. If my comment irritates u,visit a pharm as soon as possible n get ur perscribed drugs bfr d irritation turns t rashes or even boil. U sld b concernd about makin peace wt ur parents and not tryn t pour ur aggression on me. May d Peace of d Lord b upon ur lyf.

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  33. I love both parents but my dad didn't do us right.
    He was not polygamous neither was he there 4 any1.
    My mum suffered and caRried us all, she is still caRrying us..and guess what? She still feeds,house n cloths my dad…
    He just likes 2 sleep n eat, while my mum hussles.
    I pray never 2 end up wit a man like him neither do I pray 4 a father like him or pray 4 another like his siblins.
    I think its a curse on dem.

    I know I can never b me again if am not birthed by the both of them, I would definantly b sum1 else….so I wil ask God to change his mentality and destroy and family alter working again his life…

    Its so disheartening when Ʊ grow up 2 realise all ur dad can do is sleep and eat…worst tin is he never tell my mum weldone, or comfort her wen she is ill or even assist her in her pure water business.
    Its so bad dat other men who make a living 4 their family from the business come home 2 talk 2 him and advise him, but mbanu, he says we came 2 dis world naked and would leave naked…so he has been waitin 4 his death since d day he was born. The nigga is almost 60years now…

    #Sad

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  34. wowwww bravo u dat has perfect parents i'm happy for you. very childish comment. Let me leave u to enjoy ur 'lovely' parents while i go 'make' peace wiv mine.

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  35. BaBes, I feel you – there are many like your dad…
    As we respond to the teaser, could we, please, re-appraise ourselves and ask:
    1. Did I turn out well?
    2. Would I have been better coming through different parents
    Though I believe parents play a substantial role in forming the child (Prov 22:6): as adults we have a greater part in defining who we are (Ps1:1-3; Deu 30:19).
    One of the things within God’s control is choosing parents for us and He does it for our good (Jer 29:11). God does not make mistakes… If you’re not happy with who you are, you need to work on yourself and change.

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  36. I wont change my mum for anything even my dad he has his many issues as in soo many his not fatherly till now he still gives me 10k as pocket moni in the university even as my course is very demanding and he cud be very insultive… but den God issint asleep and am sure he saw the future before he still put me in dis family…. so I won't change any of dem.. I just keep praying for them and loving them unconditionally. …….

    kene

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  37. Babes 9 46 am, are u sure we r not from d same family? You just narrated my family history,chaii. D only thing I owe my dad now is to bury him when he dies.

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  38. My dad yes over and over again…my mum capital NO. She abandoned us wen we were still little, my dad brought us up.

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  39. I was brought up by my mum – my dad did not play any role in my up-bringing. Thank God for being a Father when I gave my life to Christ. My mum, however, ‘abandoned’ my elder sisters years before meeting my dad. The reasons behind this seemingly abandonment are quite emotional if one takes time to know the real story… These fathers also prevent any contact between the children and their mother without the children's knowledge. The kids will then grow up believing their mother never cared – not completely true.
    @Anon 5:10pm – take time to get close to your mum. I can bet you that she’s not happy with the way things are with both of you. No mother will abandon their children for just no cause. And most fathers that their wife left the children behind will normally not paint the real picture behind the separation, leaving the woman as the bad one.
    However, there are few exception situations where either party (mum/dad) leave their children behind out of selfish reasons. In all this, let’s all have a heart of forgiveness and be grateful for God mercies over our lives.

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  40. As in enh….that's all I owe him…at least 4 getting my mum pregnant.
    My mum??I owe her all, 1st part was not aborting me even when she realised who my dad was wen she was less than 4weeks gone, she vowed 2 keep me and nature me….
    I am grateful 2 God dat am coming on a beta person daily and I hold no grudge against him, all I do now is feel pity 4 him nd pray my kids or younger brodas have a different mentality as they up grow up knowing God loving, and understanding that women are 2 be loved and cared 4.
    I didn't even mention dat the man left us 4 12years, and I was d one who went 2 look 4 him when I was in higher institution, just 2 bring him back home.

    God help Us Women

    BaBes

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  41. Never would i come back to this life with my parents.
    They didnt just know how to train a child and they were never there.
    but i thank GOD I TRAINED MY SELF AND I AM doing well at just 21 yrs and working fine.
    All i do for them is just to send money home at month end and thats all.no relationship or whtasoever.

    father is a akagum,mum is wicked.
    to a point i never had friends cos we were never allowed to socialize.

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  42. Very sensitive topic. I wish many mums and dads will come here and see what their children write about them. Despite both my parents many mistakes, I'll still choose them at least because of the wonderful siblings they gave me :).

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  43. Yippeeee-lemme drop a comment here 4 d vry 1st tym (tho I read evryday)!
    I will NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER chose d woman dat brot mi 2 dis world AGAIN,bt wll choose my belovd n world most wonderful n best FATHER a thousand times over n over n over again! Gush I wll 4eva luv u Dadi,Woman who brot mi in2 ds world,I cn NEVER hav deep feelingz 4 u-never ever!
    "Tobbi"!

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  44. It's mi agn Tobbi… Dadi,u don't read blogs,bt I want u 2 know dat I will FOREVER love n appreciate u,u were my father n mother,I kud never have had a beter father,I love u so much,Dadi NOBODY loves mi n ma sis d way u loved us…… Woman dat brot mi 2 dis world,I don't hate u,bt can never have deep feelings/affections 4 u. U don't love mi n ma sis,neither do we love u.
    "Tobbi"

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  45. DADDY I don't kno how u coped wit ds woman d few times u & her wer 2gether bt kudos 2 u,u rili tried….we're suffrin now Dadi,I miss u is an understatmnt,u kud nt eat wen we wunt eat bt she-it's herself 1st,gush,…..*crying*
    "Tobbi"

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  46. Wow!
    Boy, am I relieved!
    Nothing that dysfunctional about my family then, phew!
    My mum's cool, dad loves her alot- but I still think my dad's military foundation and years really made him not relational- rather, very autocratic with us.
    We grew up being whipped with all types of whips; koboko, guava tree branches, horse whip(complete with horse hides wrapped around it), wires (unto, cable wires)….
    Don't get me wrong o, he'd spoil us silly with all sorts of good thing- cash wise and treaty-wise and would talk with you over the phone and say "I love you" and you respond, "I love you too" ( and all your friends go like, "awwww! Daddy's girl!" For where? Na there e end o when it comes to the show of real affections- zero) but that was usu where it ended- we were comfortable growing up, and I guess "affluence" can quite describe my upbringing yet, if my father came back home, the face place he'd rush is to the children's living room- and to the tv to feel the back of the tv with the back of his hands- wherefore, he'd bark and whosoever actually was the scape-goat who turned on the tv (it wouldn't matter that others watched along-side them) would be so thoroughly lashed, he/she's literally bleed.
    I fainted once when I was younger and he flogged me cos I wouldn't read a comprehension accurately.
    Then, is it his vituperative language?
    Everyone that upsets him would either be a "bastard", – I can't even think of the things he tells people- and to their faces- he's just so hurtful with his words really.
    When I was about 15- he called me, "a failure"- cos we got back from church and mom, feigning the loved wife who was tired and asking the kids to sweep and they wouldn't, decided to sweep herself- you would think that was truly nothing.
    He'd call you all sorts, "prostitute, you're a fool, you can't amount to nothing…." My God, it is endless, the verbal abusive tirade.
    Hmmmm. Its a pity really. The only person he actually caves in to really is my mum, but, of course, she has his mumu buttons.
    I wasn't surprised when my first boyfriend became physically abusive in the 4th month of our dating- and we dated for 4 years from when I got into the university- I even felt I gave off an ooz that said, "smack me, smack me"- in retrospect, I honestly can't even picture how all that went on for that long and why I still stayed on…..
    I also got really rebellious at two stages- teenage years and then, when I was in the university- after the abusive relationship ended- I felt I had had too much of the abuse from every angle- I kinda lost it….*shy*
    Anyway, I still pray God that I'm truly healed because, I have to say, I realised I was always in a love-hate relationship with guys and had to make a conscious effort to work on myself.
    In all, he's actually really a nice man if you can put up with his abusive manner of talking and bullying- once you're able to be quiet when he does that or find humour in it (and as you're finding the humour or trying to make a joke, he'll still be hurling out, "idiot! Your father's a thief! You're an armed robber! Etc- at some point sha, you may just need to shut up and be solemn), he'd come round in just minutes.
    I just was a much more sensitive child- plus, I think we all absorbed the abuse in different ways- it made my elder brother something of a gentle dove ( I didn't like that), my younger sis was sharp and avoided his blows (she was the last child for a long time and was petted) and that left me the one who'd speak up everytime, a rebel, who was in turn whipped alot- well, I have to say, the twist at that end sure did sound like I brought it upon myself.

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  47. My Dad? that wore shoes with holes in them just to make us comfortable? my mum that had to struggle to raise four of us through school when my dad died ten years next month? I love them pieces. we didnt have much, but God kept us through. would come through them in another life time over again! ….maybe then God would have settled us more financilly

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  48. wow dido almost like me had parents who where always fighting physically right from when we were little…..it really affected me most times I just feel intimated. just looking for true love…

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  49. I feel my parents gave birth to me not out of love for a child, but out of compulsion to have a child, as part of a family

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