I Just Found Out She Is Into Drugs, Can I Change Her?

Hello Eya, please I need advice from your blog. There are times as a man I take decisions without having to think twice, there are other times I just can't think of the right thing to do.

 I need both men and women on the blog to help me take an urgent decision. Please put up my question for readers.

What would you do if after two years into a relationship
/marriage  you discover your wife is secretly into hard drugs. When You confronted, she breaks down begging. Please also help with addresses of rehab centers in Nigeria. Thanks.
Confused Ben.

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  1. O boy, you don enter one chance be dat. Any woman who has tasted coke cannot change no matter how hard you try.

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    1. Anonymous9/06/2013

      Haba dnt say dat,the only thing constant is change. There is nothing not changeable about any human when God and the necessary action is taken. @poster I pray pple give u the necessary rehab centers data u need so u can take an immediate step. It is well.

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  2. Do you love her? Please stand by her as she goes through this recovery process. Also you should know that you cant love her more than herself, and it is up to her to decide to give up this habit and go through the necessary rehabilitation process.I wish you all the best
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  3. Anonymous9/06/2013

    Prayer&gud counsellin cld wk as he/she nids a lot of love,support,encouragmt tu b able tu go tu d rehab (if any)so try by getin d person‘s mind ppred 4 it as he/she mst b willin&detrmind tu change,wish u luck&its well.

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  4. Fyn Ijebu Chic9/06/2013

    If my partner is into hard drugs(God forbid). Wat will I do?
    Mehn!!! Sincerely I dnt know! But I will cry and act like zombie for like 2days(from shock)


    U should ask your partner if she is ready to dump her drugs and embrace change. If she isnt, u'll then decide if u can stay with her or not. If she is, then with ur love and care, she will overcome. Remember with God, there is no impossibility.

    She must be willing!!!!

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  5. Johnson9/06/2013

    What you will do differs in relationship versus marriage…
    In relationship – is God in the equation? If yes, He can see you through it. You might be the help the lady needs provided she is willing. When she becomes a wife (or not), you would have made an impact that will be remembered for a lifetime. If she’s not willing and all effort not appreciated, please bailout!
    In Marriage – you don enter one chance and don’t have any option but to help her out of it.
    In all this, divine involvement is needful – there’s a demon behind drug use. Do all you can prayerfully and God will make a way out.

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  6. Johnson welcome back... Like johnson said, if it's jst relationship, try helping her if she's willing, and if she pulls through, you become an idol to her... She will adore you.. If not willing, pls back off!
    If she's ur wife... My dear carry your cross.. God help you that she changes. You gat no choice man.. Change or not, she's all yours

    Patsy

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  7. Anonymous9/06/2013

    where do you live sir? this present house church has a rehab centre, also there is a good one in Jos but in both, she has to agree that she wants to do the rehab else they wont take her. you can google this present house and find out how to get in touch with them

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    1. Anonymous9/06/2013

      I live in Abuja
      POSTER

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  8. Anonymous9/06/2013

    the one in Jos is managed by augustinian brothers( catholic church). you can make enquiries @ St monica"s catholic church, Rantya. jos

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  9. Anonymous9/06/2013

    Neuropsychiatric hospitals all over nigeria can be a help to her,there is usually a rehabilitation unit for drug addicts,usually takes a minimum of 6months to break the addiction if the person involved have a good insight to her probelms,also remember to commit her in prayers.

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  10. God has a reason for everything in life. Meeting her, starting a relationship and then finding out about her dark secret are all pre-destined by God. If u leave her she'll bury herself more in it to. The problem with drug addicts is that they seem to find solace in drugs after probably during a trying period, challenge, heartbreak etc.

    Dear poster, leaving her is not the solution. Pls stand by her to overcome this, speak to her why she needs to drop this habit, find out why she went into it and try to counsel her, u can also ask people she loves and respects to speak with her (with her consent). She needs support, encouragement, love and understanding to come off drugs completely. Like a commenter above said, she has to be willing to change and crying is a pointer that she's not happy doing drugs and she can come off it with the right support.

    I don't know if there are any rehabilitation centres in Nigeria but I guess u can start with google. All the best.

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  11. Anonymous9/06/2013

    u need to shw her pure UNCONDITIONAL LUV O. BE PATIENT, JUST HAVE A HEART TO HEART TALK WITH HER. CONTACT CHRISTIAN COUNSELLOR, FOR THIS SAKE. PRAY AND BELIEVE GOD. GOOD LUCK.

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  12. I suggest u take her to church for deliverance, jst incase she is possessed. Then u can go to a rehabilitation centre . Gudluck.

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  13. This must be tough..I agree with johnson, If she's just a girlfriend and she wants to change support her 100% but if its your wife hmmm I'l pray for you..

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