She Should Rather Say If I Catch Him Not If He Cheats?


Hello Aunty Eya, considering that men find it hard to "hold body" for long, wives who live in different parts of the world from their husbands should rather talk about catching and not the other way round. I notice on your blog that every time Ace Bentley says that 95% men cheat, so many wives come after him ready to squeeze and punch. The truth is that we women love to live in denial. Ace is a man and knows first hand how men are wired, it takes only the special grace of God for a man to live far away from his wife and not cheat. That's almost impossible.

The sooner we come to terms with reality, the better for us. Powerful men like Tigerwoods have cheated, we only
knew because he was caught.  World Presidents have cheated, we only got to know because the wind blew. Great men of our times and time past, have cheated. So many more are cheating and the only difference is that while a few are caught and labelled cheats, many aren't caught and therefore assumed clean and perfect, hahahahahaha.

I am posting this because of Uche Jumbo's talk of castrating her husband if he cheats (I laugh in Afrikaans). Shouldn't she rather say " If I catch my husband, I will castrate him? The distance involved is so much that she may never catch and that doesn't mean he won't cheat in her absence. 

Aunty Eya, you watch The Kardashians and know how close Khloe and Lamar Odom are, if anyone told you Lamar would cheat oh his wife Khloe, will you believe? But he kept a steady relationship, a lady accompanied him almost everywhere but his wife never got even a hint. Let's assume wind didn't blow on his nyash, she and every fan of theirs would never have labelled Lamar a cheat. The only difference is that his little kept secret is now out and she is fast to kick his butts.

Men cheat a lot especially in our Nation Nigeria (only very few don't) and it's high time women begin to rephrase and make sentences like "if I catch him" and not "if he cheats." I encourage women to have open minds and just trust God for successful marriages and faithful husbands. There is no point living in denial of reality.




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  1. Anonymous8/01/2013

    Yesss. I concur with you dear poster

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  2. Anonymous8/01/2013

    Am sure this poster is not married and she must be a runz geh.

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    1. Anonymous8/01/2013

      Stop living in denial because what she said is so true.

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  3. poster8/01/2013

    Nope Anon 7:38, am happily married with kidz.

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  4. Hehehehe...

    @Poster you absolutely nailed it!

    Making the 95% proposition is because I have mixed with men in many different levels and strata. Your bf or hubby might so madly love you, buy's you a car and spoils you, but make no mistake that, that won't stop him from running after one fresh girl who's configuration can make you urself scream.



    WHY MEN CHEAT

    1) You see, that configuration is exactly what really makes men contemplate and eventually cheat... Women are just like cars, everyone with a different specification. Some men just want a bite of difference in body and physical attributes.

    2) Do you starve him of sex? Well if you have ever done so voluntarily or involuntarily then you have issued a license for him to "go ye into the world".

    3) Some men may just somehow fall in love with "explosive sex" "sexual orgies" and experimental sex which many wives deem shameful or just plain stressful.

    4) Some marriages run into mid-life crisis and the man suddenly start to think his wife is a witch or they just won't stop having daily fights that builds up into hate.

    5) Some girls/women will actually fall in love with him just as you did. He's probably a nice, cool, free spirited, handsome or a giver. Any of this attribute may just make her love him too and would do anything to throw herself to him even if you wanna die.

    6) Plain instinct driven promiscuity, just like funke akindele's kinda hubby, this ones are just like a moving train... They somewhat are even gold diggers.

    7) The last, is the category of men who got motivated by what they consciously or unconsciously see on a daily basis, it could be from music videos, dress paterns, pornography et al. Many cheating men of god fall under this category.



    THE FAITHFUL 5 PERCENT

    (1) He has an emberasin erectile dysfuntion... So he'll rather not disgrace himself.

    (2) He's old.... Too old for any woman to say yes.

    (3) He's got a life threatening ailment. It could be a terminal one or not.

    (4) He's homosexual but got married just for marrying sake.

    (5) He's a true man of God... Absolutely, Completely and Genuinely! they constitute 1 out of the 5% unit. Very rare to see.



    Nuff'Said.

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    1. Anonymous8/01/2013

      @ ace,on point!

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    2. Queen Bee8/02/2013

      Ace so in essence u mean allllll men cheat?cos the remaining 5percent in question according to ur writeup are pple that can't cheat out of their conditions and not cos they don't want to.
      I disagree with u on this,there are still good decent men out there that stay faithful!haba Ace?#bbmsurprisedface#
      Calm down and don't kill WC women with bp!

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  5. NOT ALL MEN CHEAT!!!!!! NOT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME.

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  6. Poster u r right o! I used 2 hv dis whole most men dnt cheat mindset until I got xposed 2 d real world.anon 7:38.. Jst b watchin around u wit 3d goggles n u wld realise d sad n bitter truth. Most men cheat. Dats reality.

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  7. BTW MADAM EYA I DONT LIKE THIS YOUR NEW WAY OF COMMENTING. WHY DO I HAVE TO FEEL LIKE I'M ON LINDA IKEJI'S BLOG WHEN I WANT TO POST A COMMENT..I'M NOT TALKING ABT THE WAY U GATE COMMENTS..BCOS THAT I'M IN SUPPORT OF. I CANT REPLY OTHER COMMENTERS + THE SETTINGS IS DIFF... PLZ STICK TO YOUR UNIQUENESS!!!!!!

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  8. Anonymous8/01/2013

    @ anon 7:38, what's with u and ur hasty conclusions? Are you allergic to hearing the truth? Anyone woman who spews the truth is simply a 'runz' babe in ur own understanding. Poster, I totally agree with what you said. The earlier you stopped living in denial, the better for. The bitter truth is that many women love lies and that's y they keep falling victim, especially the younger ones. Oga Ace, I beg to be corrected if my assumption is wrong.

    Omalicha...

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  10. Anyone who makes excuses for this is one or all of these;
    1. A cheat
    2. Planning to cheat
    3. Has a husband or bf who cheats
    4. has very low moral standards
    5. Is not a christian and therefore,
    6. Doesnt know God.
    7. Has little self respect
    8. Can justify killing and stealing
    9. Can be abusive
    10. Is a meance to society.

    So U mean to tell me that when God gave the 10 commandments he added 'Thou shall not steal, covet or commit adultery knowing well that He made men have difficulty in holding themselves?

    Look, most societies are partriachial in nature. Because the man has been seen as the head for a very long time, it is seen as a man's world. That is why many feel it is normal to cheat. If the world was ruled by women, you'll know that we women too can find it hard to hold body.

    Later we will be shouting gay and child marriage...all of them are in the same category abeg...

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    1. Anonymous8/01/2013

      @ Adaeze, I agree with you 100 percent..mee

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    2. Well said Ada... Well said!

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    3. Anonymous8/01/2013

      I also agree.

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    4. Anonymous8/01/2013

      @ Ahdaisy,d day wey e go happen eh,anyway wetin be my own

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    5. Just know that I love u for this comment Ahda,only for today.*winks*
      The fear of God has completely left people!
      Ah ah ah...2Timothy 3:5 describes all those who justify all these nonsense.Having a form of godly devotion but provng false to it power.

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    6. Babino8/03/2013

      Well said Ada God bless u 4 dis.

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  11. Anonymous8/01/2013

    Ace, which category do u fall under?

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  12. Anonymous8/01/2013

    What is this drivel?..mee

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  13. Absolutely right! Most men cheat. When I read dt uche's post I couldn't help bt laughed! @ she wil casterate him. Lol!. Me I pray to marry from dt "rare" 1% o oga ace.

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  14. Anonymous8/01/2013

    I ihink the concept that all men cheat is a lie that some emotionally battered women concocted to make themselves feel better about staying in an emotionally abusive marriage/relationship..I know for sure that not all men cheat cos there are good xtian men and also very disciplined men..accepting that all men cheat is just a free ticket to men to continue in the "itss a mans world "bubble..statistics have only shown some weaknesses on some "powerful " men, what about the men that haven't been caught? Maybe they haven't been caught cos they aren't cheating ..I refuse to generalise this silly assumption..and as for the men who go out of there way to convince us lesser beings that they have been wired to act in a certain way, you are just deceiving yourselves..everything has to to with self will and discipline, not everybody has it, but a lot of people do..please let's not insult the good men that try so hard to be real men by generalising them as mice..mee

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  15. To assume that most men cheat to me is a hasty conclusion and exaggeration. We still have pious and faithful men in our society. My dad and my uncle I can vouch for.
    Hmmmm maybe me too,unless u count the girls av been with. *wink*

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  16. Anonymous8/01/2013

    Adaeze, I STRONGLY disagree with you. Many people cheat, women inclusive. That one is a christian doesn't mean that he/she should shy away from the truth. If you have a faithful spouse, thank God 4 u. Your spouse doesn't constitute 0.0005percent of faithful men out there. I doubt if anyone here is giving excuses for cheating spouses. It's jst a bitter truth; although there are few of them who are faithful.

    Omalicha...

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    1. Anonymous8/01/2013

      I wonder what kind of circles you ladies operate in...most men cheat...bitter truth... etc
      All these 'most men cheat' comments always surprise me. The worst of it is that you people have allowed this belief to so permeate you that even when you meet men who do not, you will not believe or trust them and end up losing out.
      It is such compromising and defeatist concepts that make african men misbehave because they have heard you say 'most men cheat and cannot hold body.'
      Have your respect, he will 'respect' you too much to cheat on you.

      Mbok, ladies, check the kind of circles you are operating in so as not to adopt wrong assumptions that may hurt you along the line.

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  17. Hmmmmmmmmm. Baby I trust u 100%.

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  18. Anonymous8/01/2013

    Ahdaisy one million likes girl

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  19. Not all men cheat!! Some women only use it to console themselves when their men cheats. That is how they always say that all singles guys and ladies are having sex, which is a lie from the pit of hell. If your man cheats on you keep praying for him to change and keep talking to him about it but don't come and be saying that all men cheats.

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  22. The truth is the bible has always been the guiding principle for me, if Gods word doesn't state it then I don't believe it. Am yet to see the chapter or verse that supports the fallacy that "all men cheat" Abraham, never cheated it was even Sarah that begged him to know her maid, Joseph in Egypt never surrendered to Potiphar wife, even with the fact that he was a slave, the bible says the glory of the latter shall be greater than the former meaning that all they did we of the new covenant are enabled to do better. God is the creator of man, where did you see that he design man to cheat? Sin simply came as a result of disobedience to his word. If a man dwells in sin them he will definitely cheat because his heart is turned away frm God, when David fell what was the consequence? This just shows Gods heart towards this issue, if you believe that all men cheat fine, but I beg you pls if you are married or single change your mind set, Jesus couldn't perform any miracle in some places because of there unbelieve. I urge you to change your mind set speak positive, it doesn't matter what the society says whose report will you believe that of the world or that of God?

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    1. Ah Ah for the first time,spoken after my heart.
      All men cheat nonsense!people don't know what it means to be called a christian,they just tag themselves one!
      Do they even understand what 1Corinthias 13:4-8 means when it talks about love?then cheating would be the last thing on your mind.
      When Galatians 5:16 talks about the fruitage of the spirit do u even know what it means?its the spirit of the world that most people have.
      And when u say you love God 1John 5:3 tells us exactly what it means so to all those who are shouting all men cheat,I feel sorry for u because then you forget about we being created in God's image I.e the ability to reflect his qualities and I don't think God is a cheat!

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  23. Anonymous8/01/2013

    Deborah thank u so mch,u r rit.

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  24. Anonymous8/01/2013

    I love you deborah "inchristway"

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  25. Anonymous8/01/2013

    Deborah and ahdaisy GBAM!

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  26. Anonymous8/01/2013

    I really can't help laughing. Y is the rate of divorce on the increase? Sisters in the house oh, I'm not consoling mysef and if u must know, I dnt have a cheating spouse. The truth is that these days many have lost their morals, the society is gradually becoming lawless as regards this issue. Even some married women are guilty of this offense. Abraham was faithful, Josehp fled; true but dt ws how many centuries ago? D'u kno what the invent of technology has caused? All these young girls who call themselves 'runz' babes or prostitutes, who are the people patronizing them? Are they not men?

    Why do we keep deceiving ourselves because we highly religious? Who are husbands of the women who come here to lay complaints on daily basis? Are we not also aware that our society has become morally bankrupt. Whether we disagree from now till the end of time, many people cheat-men and women and it's getting worse by the day.

    Omalicha...

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    1. Yes, the society has become morally bankrupt but I daresay this whole cheating was so much worse in Biblical days. Please read up on how it was before Christ.
      Why do you think God destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah? Because they used to indulge in same sex and even sleep with animals. You never watch spartacus? That's exactly how it was then.
      Where people go just dey straff anyhow and anywhere even as sacrifice to their gods so really, it was much worse back then.

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  27. Anonymous8/01/2013

    all men cheat? thats what u are using to console urselves? when u now meet a good man dat doesnt cheat,ur paranoia will now push him to do what he has never done..

    Pls all men dont cheat,the ones that do havent met a woman that will use the fire of God to kill his cheating desire.. Well i for one know men that havent cheated on there wives and i'm one.. been married for 15yrs and havent done anything with anyone since i got mrried to wifey 15yrs ago and contrary to ace theory,i dont have any dysfunction,neither do i have a terminal disease or anythng he stated there.. I am a christian and not a pastor,i am not so holy or whatever u said but I luv my wife and cant bear seeing her with another man so i wouldnt want to do what i wouldnt want her to do

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  28. Anonymous8/01/2013

    Pls lets b true tu ourselves,most men cheat&pls put d Bible aside in ds case as we africans stil dwell on African tradtn&ds gvs rm 4 men to cheat;if u av a cheatn spouse wat 1 nids to do is to Pray,b patient,dnt nag&he/she ll change 4 gud.

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  29. Anonymous8/01/2013

    On dat day is coming on dat day is coming all men shall stand b4 d throne of God and give account of their lives! Wht was done in secret will b exposed! Male or female, I will stand u will stand all men shall stand b4 d throne of God. Its an individual judgement not wit ur wife or hubby there is no set rules for cheating @ ace no matter d situation ask urself "Wht will Jesus do" I don't support d idea of all men am married yes but I v come 2realise dat there is no need chasing shadows bcos 2morrow if anytin happens 2u God will judge u not wit ur spouse,so bcos ur wife dressess shabbily u cheat? God won't ask u dat. so d beta we learn 2run our individual race to make heaven with fear n tremble d best our marriages wil b let no cheating spouse draw u back...knowing fully well there is an eternal price @d end so choose tis day whom u serve......

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  30. @Deborah: Best comment ever since the inception of WC. God bless you plenty.

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    1. Jay where have u been! I was about sending Anty a mail at work to ask after u, I just forgot. The truth is I feel to sad and broken when I see christians say leave the Bible aside let's face reality, which reality? What reality is better than what our creator says? The word of God shld be the yardstick who is tiger woods in the spirit world, for you to call him a great man! When we are sick we rmb God can heal yet when this kind of issues come up christians will say let's face reality.

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  31. I'm not so sure what your definition of 'Powerful men' is and why you feel Tiger Woods is one and so therefore, a yardstick. Well, to each is own. Jesus is my yardstick. Deborah has said it all.

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  32. Anonymous8/01/2013

    @anon 2.54, deborah and ada thank you Ooº°˚ cos nothing pisses me like when I hear girls shout "all men cheat". What ever you believe in works for you so wait for your cheating man while I wait for my faithful man. Can't just believe the way some people reason. To think its a female dat wrote this rubbish. Smh for you too bad.

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  33. And poster if Tiger Woods is your idea of a great man then I'm sorry for u.
    Don't confuse money and fame to greatness because God views these things as very worthless.
    How has Tiger Woods stored up treasures for himself in heaven?is he known by God?
    If you are a christian,Bible characters such as Abraham who God called his friend,Joseph,Moses(the meekest man of all)and Jesus Christ should be the poster for great men not people who don't even believe in the existence of a creator who has a high moral standard by the way they live.
    You say all men cheat?who asked you to try all men?
    Hasty generalization,you better change your circle of friends or company because the company I keep love God soo much that they have a wholesome fear of displeasing him so cheating on their spouses is totally out of the equation!
    I'm done!

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  34. Anonymous8/01/2013

    All these useless girls@poster. If thats what you believe that what you are gonna get. As for me, my own hubby is among that 5 percent. He wont do it. Finish. Eya abeg post my comment. Biko.

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  35. Hey Nigerian womwn... Speak for yourself and not for men...

    Infact, this another reason why men cheat, you leave your man and go for night vigil. You will use spirikoko to provoke his libido. Lolz

    Nka gbasara ya!

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    1. Chilonma udoakpu8/02/2013

      @ ace,u ve spoken well
      Let she who has ear hear

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  36. Ahdaisy, Deborah and Abena, God bless you for your comments.

    People are so quick to gleefully say things like "all men cheat. Oh, he beat his wife? She must have done something to cause it" all under the guise of being realistic and it baffles me. Like someone already said, if this is reality to you, you need a change of friends and orientation. Funny thing is that I know men who aren't even so spiritual but won't cheat cause it just doesn't make sense to them, so imagine what a spirit-filled man would do.

    Let's raise our sons to know that there is never an excuse to disrespect, cheat on or hit their wives and let's teach our daughters how to be Proverbs 31 women.

    Lastly, biko if you truly believe that all men cheat, when people refuse to accept it why not leave them alone? No need to constantly play the Devil's advocate. People are entitled to their different opinions and even if you call it denial, leave am like that

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  38. Anonymous8/02/2013

    Reading each comment carefully, I never saw where anyone said "all men cheat". They rather aired their opinions using 'most' and 'many'. And the last time I checked, most/many do not mean all. That someone says "most men cheat" is different from "all men cheat".

    Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion; it's wrong to read a diff meaning entirely bcos someone has a different perspective from urs about the issue on ground. For instance, concluding that those who argued that most men cheat are 'runz' girls. It's really funny. They never used the word 'all'. If your spouses are faithful, bless the name of God and dnt stp praying for them and if they're not, still pray 4 dem to "come back home".

    Omalicha...

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  39. Well said Omalicha...

    We are fast to say DV.... DV... DV....
    He beat me, he punched me, he elbowed my mouth. But very slow to admit that MANY and not ALL men cheat! A man who hasn't done it, nursed it or attempted it is only time away.

    Note: when you accept the reality of things, you are half way solving the problem.

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  40. Anonymous8/02/2013

    A million likes to your comment Ace

    Omalicha...

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