I'm Confused About Househelps But I Have A Job Plus 3 Kids

Gud day aunty Eya. Pls help me post dis on WC blog. I am a working mum with 3 children. Am trying 2 get a help bt am being frustrated. I've had househelp dat was 13years but d girl was always making me to talk too much.

I now went 4 d elderly dat was between 50 nd 55,d woman was living with me,@ first she was very helpful but all of a sudden, somebody dat told me she wakes up by 4am will be on d bed till to 7am.I wanted 2 make bitter leaf soup nd she told me she does not know how to pound yam. D one dat really touched me was wen I asked her on my way 2 d office to help me use vaccum cleaner 2 clean my room since there is light then,she jst murmured something suggesting she is not doing it. 
Dat was my first time of
telling her to sweep my room since she came to my house. My kids are going 4 summer lesson except one and dis is somebody am paying 20k per month. To cut d whole story short,I shouted @ her nd she packed her bag dat she is going home. The agent dat brought her jst came to my office,appologised abt d woman's behaviour nd brought two ladies 4 me to choose from. The problem is am confused @ d moment. If I decide dat I don't want househelp or nanny again, dat means am going 2 stop going to work. Pls fellow women, help a sister with ur warm advice.
Bolu.

Comments

  1. Anonymous8/21/2013

    yeah house help wahala in lagos ........what about your mum? maybe u can use her but also get housekeeper who will resume in morning and leave in evening or put them in after school club that runs till 6 or 7pm depending on your type of job ...good luck

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    1. MAMA NNUKWU8/21/2013

      Blessed anon,did u say she can use her mum as a replacement for d maid?so after slaving for her kids,putting them through school and all she will also slave for her grandchildren.when does she rest and enjoy her retirement and there is a possibility she married b4 15 to an abusive man but she stayed put with confidence and faith that her children will be a blessing to her but instead they subject her to nwa n'eku nwa(nanny)

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  2. MAMA NNUKWU8/21/2013

    Blessed poster,13yr old housemaid isn't that like child abuse

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  3. Anonymous8/21/2013

    I agree with d Ano@4:16. Don't allow any nanny to leave in ur house. Try and create time to do something as well and don't allow anybody in ur bedroom, kitchen and keep ur privacy.

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  4. Anonymous8/21/2013

    Mama, whatever is ur name? Are u trying to get attention to urself in this blog? Ur comments are always negative!

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    1. Anonymous8/21/2013

      She is right about the mother thing though. Why must one's mum be the nanny. Not even the nanny's superviser. Ah ah.

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  5. My dear this is a tough decision, it depends on how much you love your job/ how much you love your kids. Get a house help and treat her nice so that she in return can treat your kids nice. Get somebody a bit young nd put her in school. They tend to stay longer when you train them. It's a passing phase, with time you will be able to make do with after school club

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  6. This is a tough one oh but the way my mum did it when we were young, she'll cook breakfast, lunch and put in the freezer and dinner too. Can you get a lesson near your office you cAn enrol them after school? Then get a house keeper that will come to clean the house thrice a week cuz When house help wahala start, hmmm. Then @ 13, I feel such one is too young to be doing househelp job

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  7. Anonymous8/21/2013

    13 is too young 2 b a housegirl. Why don't we just try and sponsor ds childrens education instead of making them work @ such young age. Instead you want her to scrub the floor and wipe your children's yansh!

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  8. Anonymous8/21/2013

    If you want something done properly you have to do it yourself. Work part time if you have to.

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  9. Try Saka...

    I heard he's very good!

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    1. Anonymous8/21/2013

      What is this please? A child's play?

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    2. Anonymous8/22/2013

      Disappointing comment from Ace. its not compulsory you comment on every post.

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  10. Anonymous8/21/2013

    My dear you need a nanny o. Nobody is perfect so if u get one that is okay you manage. You can also get the type that doesnot sleep over.

    You cant quit your job now. Depression may kill you. Yeah being a full housewife doesn't leave one fulfilled.

    Pray to God for a good nanny and when u get her manage her well. If u are a perfectionist. Do your work your own way when u have time.

    Good luck.

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    1. Talking about being a perfectionnt. It's very difficult for a perfectionist to keep a househelp. I talk from experience. While the kids are still growing, learn to do away with every perfectionist tendencies cos it won't work. Sometimes, just ignore the househelp so long as their stay can still help you keep the job and family intact.

      Manage until the kids are grown. Avoid being a perectionist at this time cos you will just continue to chase all your helps away. They can't cope. Learn to look thengths while you manage their weaknesses.

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  11. Anonymous8/21/2013

    Meeee, I'm still on my knees praying for one oh! The last one was terrible

    Patsy

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  12. Anonymous8/22/2013

    Househelps palava! @poster, first, I advise you shd not use under age children for househelps. its child abuse. Secondly, get the younger one say 18-22 age bracket. also be patient and tolerant as they can never meet your expectation 100%. If you pick on everything, you will continue to change helps every month! also be nice to them and correct them in love, although some could be vary nasty when you are too nice to them but learn to draw the line when such occurs. Remember, its a passing phase!

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  13. Anonymous8/22/2013

    Dis house help tins is really wahala,if u r too nice to them thy ll step on ur head, if u r not thy ll still make u angry . My dear try n know how to manage ur home get house help dat comes in d morning and lv in nite. or 3time a week.

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