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Advice To All Women Out There By AY

Please an advice to all women out there: A friend of mine just called me some minutes ago to tell me about the recent happenings in the life of this our other friend. We were all friends from school. When we were in school this our friend was known to be a very outgoing girl whose eyes were only for the rich guys, dnt dare be "poor" or "have potential" and dare talk to her o. Anyways, we graduated, and started working. one by one we started getting married, but she will always complain about our choices so much that it caused quarrel between her and another friend of ours till today they dont talk. We all got married before her, she just recently got married some months after me this year. All the while she sang her husbands praise, he is rich, he bought this car for her, she will give birth in America he built for her mother, they will vacation in paris etc, and then conclude by asking me, Ay, that your husband sef, make una try go Ghana na as e bad reach, make e buy u car na etc.I noticed her type of person and gave her a wide breath.

If you are the type who gets carried away, you will start resenting your boo, thinking if suffering is only for you and all. Today, i learnt that the so called jeep her "husband bought her' was actually bought by her hard earned pre -marriage runs , that the so called house built for her parents does not exist., that even the wedding ceremony was done by her money,how the money for America baby delivery was all hers,(she was pregnant as at marriage) that the tokunbo Honda car the man rides , she bought it for him just before the wedding, that even the wedding ring was bought by her. Right now, her marriage is in huge trouble because the man's eyes has opened and is asking her her how she has been able to achieve all those on her 100k monthly salary?Now he knows she was a runs girl, and still probably is and is now saying he isnt the father of her baby! I am so shocked, i cant believe someone would go to such lengths living a lie.

So fellow women, when you think other peoples husband are better than yours(well you may be right) but i tell you more than half the times it is all a big spin of lies. Some women can lie for Africa. Painting pictures far from what happens in their homes, a wise woman buildeth her home, the foolish one destroys it. 
The bible says godliness with contentment is great gain!!!!
Be supporters of your men, encourage them, be better wives and stop looking out for all the things God is yet to bless us with , it will come. He makes all things beautiful in his own time. God bless our marriages!
AY

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  1. Anonymous8/13/2013

    That your friend must really have made alot from runs o... So,she bought hr wedding ring,bought herself a jeep, gav birth abroad,paid for her wedding... Question is, what did the man do biko? and y is he now asking foolish question of how sh could afford all that? Was he not thinking all the while....msheeeew..

    Y would anybody even think another person's husband is better than theirs? anyone dat thinks like dat has no businss getting married... Anywayz, thnk for the advise..

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  2. So right!! Reminds me of a movie I saw a while ago, the grass usually looks greener on the other side...

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  3. Amen o! Nice post. Thank u. I used to hav a friend like that, she lived and may still be living a lie as life. She resented "poor" people like madt. She made us believe hert father has a mansion, she doesn't travell by road except wia dia is no airport around. How she was a senator's mistress wit her account running in millions and all that.then she will tell me to follow her to ibadan for one jazz to get men but thank God for his grace upon my life @ a point she said I was too quiet for her liking, Her lies were just too much.Nobody in my family liked her cuz she was too arrogant.
    Lo and behold she finnaly go married and I went to her villa for her trad, my eye could nt blv wat I saw, they live in a painted l-shaped mud house with wooden windows, those old huts u need to bend to enter, just dat dey painted it maybe cuz of her wedding.I could nt believe it. This was someone who told me one commisioner built bore-hole in her compound to spport her wedding bt dey didn't even hav common kitchen. It was a day before dat day dat dey constructed kitchen to cook. Her fake life was just too much.

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  4. Well said...

    But women and asiri tho... I think we wud save ourselves a whole lot of stress when we remove our eyes and ears completely from other people's homes. The only person I know what goes on in her home is my best friend and I take what she tells me totally. I dnt snoop for or listen to any contrary info. Finish...for the others, I am not interested... So whether they are the ones marrying their husband or not...is not my biz... #my opinion.

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  6. Choi. Lies of life. Contentment is a virtue we women hv 2 strive 4.Aunty Eya get well soon.

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  7. A big lesson for us all. Even though the grass is really greener on the other side bear in mind that fingers are not equal and rome wasn't built in a day.

    People that are truly happy and 'wealthy' don't go about telling who cares to know.

    I wonder how long these ladies thought they could keep up their fake act for.

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    1. Your second paragraph is very correct!
      Real successful people don't go about singing their praises.

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  8. Even on WC sef, some people do lie about the real situations in their lives. Everyone learn to look up to God, don't believe all you read or hear. Be yourself at all times. It will definitely get better. Don't let anyone make you think less of yourself or your situation.

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    1. Anonymous8/13/2013

      Abi now.. Everyone is d perfect wife, the praying type with perfect home..lol.. I just read some comments here and laff At times..Pretence too much.

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  9. Anonymous8/13/2013

    Anybody u are wit n u cannot b urself is not worth being with. Friends are supposed 2 lift ur spirit n bring out d best in u.

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  10. Anonymous8/14/2013

    The man shld be ashamed of himself, after all these years,hez trying to claim saint?is he a learner. A woman married him n kept him in the house. He shld nt talk in his life, as for the woman, she shld hv humbled herself after marriage.dia are things u don't do as a married woman even if u were into it before.we shld all learn frm this

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  11. Anonymous8/14/2013

    Shits happen!

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  12. Nawa oh! Well, once someone starts bad mouthing ur spouse, u shld know such isn't a good friend. People who are wealthy don't boast, its those who are struggling that do that most times. God help us

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  13. Very good advice, thank you AY.

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  14. Good advice to women that are read to listen and make a change. Thank you

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  15. Anonymous8/15/2013

    This man is really foolish. I don't feel sorry for him. I wonder why he didn't ask questions. It's sad to be living a lie. Some people sha. This man is a gold digger too and not fit to be a man.

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  16. Anonymous8/19/2013

    I have a friend that can lie for d world sef; not even Africa. Her lies r so much that these dayys, when she says good morning I have to go n check the sky then the time to confirm. There have been instances when my hubby (then bf) would buy me stuff when she sees it she'll use her money and buy then form dt her parents or her boo bot for her. She'll use her personal money to travel n come bk n claim it was her boo. She used to tell me I deserve a richer guy n she could hook me up n all that. @ that point Me, I jst respected myself and withdrew frm the friendship. Women these days sha... God help us all

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