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Hi eya...got to know abt ur blog frm an african frnd of me...nice one..my name is chloe an african british...I, m so not happy at the moment..

I met my bf last year n we dated 4 awhile b4 I got pregnant..he told me 2 get rid of d baby n after much fighting he said he had a family in africa..I felt it was all a lie as no woman calls him when I, m with him and he dosen, t talk abt any either...I did keep our baby because I love him n after a while he agreed 2 marry me cause he loves me too but now the wife n kid is in britin n my baby girl is six month.

.ever since there came 2 britin, evrytin changed between me n my man...now he, s trying 2 get a british stay through our baby but even though
he says he still loves me, she lives with him in d same house, while I live alone with our daughtrr., 

though he provides our dau ghter, I dn, t want to loose my man...he says he hss asked the other lady to go back but she has refused..pls what do I do because I hv gone
 through a lot since she got here...


my man, s betrayal is way too much and eveyone feels I, m being used but evrytime I raise d issue he assures me of his love 4 me n my kid..I dn, t want to be the other woman n I really don, t deserve this from him...

pls miss eya..do u think dis lady would leave britin? And I believe she dosen, t even love him cauae there aint no sort of fighting 4 her man from her.

.I , ve got so much 2 say but I, m deeply hurt at my man, s action...what do I do? I have stoped sex with him since this othrr lady got here..how do I get him back pls...I don, t want our kid 2 grow up without her fathers love..havin 2 wives is illegal in britin...how do I make this lady leave?

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  1. opeoluwa7/16/2013

    you are a husband snatcher and u you av got no same abt it. you want the wife to go back wat if u were d one. you better take care of ur baby n forget u av a man somewhere. he is not ur man cos d owner has come to claim her man.

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    1. Anonymous7/17/2013

      u've such a fowl mouth @opeoluwa ofc it can happen to any one such being a moron. she said she did not know he had a girl. moron oshi instead of u to look for ways to resolve her situation u are condemning her

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    2. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Hi Chloe, I suggest you take yourself and your daughter far away from that man. Don't bother. Why? Because he really doesn't love you. Not at all. That's the game they play once they enter England. It's so so common here. He's telling you that so you don't run away and not let him use the child to get British passport. The wife also is not going anywhere because once her husband get his British passport, she and her children will too. So there's no way for you to enter that house madame. Please, just move on with your life and get someone who loves you for you and not for a British passport. Please, I'm writing from experience. Let him and his family leave the country without the passport. Anyway, the Home Office may not even grant him his request because not only are they trying to drastically reduce immigration, they have gotten smarter and can smell a rat from miles away. They WILL suss it out and find out he's only using the baby for passport and either delay (for years btw) or tell him that if he wants to see his child he can come for visits. The only thing you might get from him is child support. Good luck.

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    3. Seconded!

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    4. Anonymous7/17/2013

      100 likes for this comment!

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    5. Plz don't bash opeoluwa joo! This is exactly how I feel abt it too! How can u speak for heer dat she doesn't knw he has a wife but she herself rightly said he told her dat at d initial stage but she felt he was only using it to mk her remove d baby! Am not in support of abortion either so @ poster what I hav to tell u now is to go far away from this man cuz dat his wife has come to stay and don't expect her to join u in fighting for this man cuz u claimed her not doin dat shows she doesn't love him, a big "No" to dat o. Here in africa the wife believes in watever he does outside is not her bussines, wat matters is dat she is d legal owner. So don't expect her to fight. Am sowi cuz wat u are now is the other woman and no two ways abt it. Train ur baby and hopefully u wil find dat man that is ur own. Good luck

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  2. Anonymous7/17/2013

    Of course U r being used. U r just a means of getting a British passport. U really think he loves U....omoge sorry for U.
    The main woman hasnt reached out to U yet cos she knows d game.

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    1. Gbam!!! @ Ope you just said the exact word i'll tell her. Ahh goose bumps all over me,gush! @ Anon,you talk true' And to add; she even had the effrontery to type all these,and expect us to say eh ya to her. Babe you are a thief and a thief must surely pay back seven times when caught,now that you have being caught the whole of his family will be a Britain. Just thank your God you have one certificate already and move on. like seriously shu shu shu......... lol

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  3. Anonymous7/17/2013

    But he told you he has a family in Africa but you decided on your own to go ahead to have your baby. As you make your bed so you lie on it.

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    1. Anonymous7/17/2013

      wait so u expect her to have aborted the baby abi??? Thank God she did not ask for advice frm some creeps on this blog when she was pregnant as to keep the baby or not

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    2. Anonymous7/17/2013

      He has a family in Africa and he went about having unprotected sex?
      She should have risked her life having an abortion?

      @Poster, go far away with your daughter from this man,your daughter is just a meal ticket for him and his family!
      Don't be surprised if his wife knows about it.

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  4. Lol! I gat no sympathy for you girl!!! He told you he had a family in Africa & you chose not to believe him huh?! That's your cup of hot coffee!!! He's legally married & ur just the side chick...ain't nufn you can do bout that. Her going bk to Africa doesn't change the facts!!!

    Lucinda

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  5. Lol! I gat no sympathy for you girl!!! He told you he had a family in Africa & you chose not to believe him huh?! That's your cup of hot coffee!!! He's legally married & ur just the side chick...ain't nufn you can do bout that. Her going bk to Africa doesn't change the facts!!!

    Lucinda

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  6. Babe, I suggest you count ur losses and quietly move on. Also look for a way to ensure he keeps providing for ur kid while U get a job if U dnt have one...and get ur own man while at it.

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    1. Well said Ahdaisy....

      Just to add....
      His wife, if she truly came from Africa to the UK she has no plan to leave any soon! That's the mentality.

      Just move on, he's only buying time till when you get frustrated.

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    2. Anonymous7/17/2013

      @ace Bentely and Ahdaisy jayde well said

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  7. Blossom7/17/2013

    Sorry but he told you he had a family in Africa, yet you went ahead to become a single mother. I belong to the first wives club, so while I sympathise with you, the wife is going no where. Just make sure he pays child support.

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  8. U are in a wives Blog asking for advice on how to snatch someones husband and chase the legitimate wife away, hmmm madam uve got some nerve!! Na African blog and african women be dis o, they will cuss u out.

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  9. 'He told u to get rid of it', 'he agreed to marry you'. Those clearly show that he was never and is not your man. He is someone else' man. You made a mistake by refusing to believe at first. You made more mistakes by sticking to him after you saw her. The wife is not 'fighting' cos she aint got no reason to fight cos 'the boy is hers' and she knows he's just playing you so as to get the BP. He's clearly using your head. He's never leaving her and even if she leaves, he'll never be yo man. Bitter truth. Drive it into your head and move on with yo life.

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  10. Lol... Chloe, no use laff kill me abeg... U come to this blog,Wives connection a.k.a Association of first wives(first wives who want to keep their home and be the only wife)to ask us how u can get rid of one of us..u must be kidding me!.. Truth is that man was never yours and never will be.. Move on babes,be glad he takes care of your child.. Iranu

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    1. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Lol

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    2. Abi o!!! Couldn't have said it berra

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  11. Anonymous7/17/2013

    Madam Britico,
    As said already u stole another man's wife, u got preg for him,didn't get rid of d baby and now his family from Africa r around n u expect him to b with u? Do u know if d legal wife has to sell all her belongings for her man to go to Britain, do u know all other things she wld have done for him to b who he is now u see fine clean man u won attach urself to him, british unmarried men don finish ni? My dear u b ole, u won chop where u no sow.
    Its ur bad dat he is using u thru ur kid, don't count ur lose o remain dere dey ask for advice..
    U better shot ur mouth n move on....

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  12. Anonymous7/17/2013

    You ppl are wicked!very very wicked,evil!mean!heartless!despicable! So nobody thought is was wrong for a man who KNEW he had a WIFE in AFRICA to impregnate another lady?O MY GOD! I seriously cannot believe you are abusing her and nobody said anything about the mans behaviour!!jeeeeZ! So it okay to cheat on your wife?if the man didn't sleep with her,toast her whatever would all these things have happnd?the person with the family should be the one who shld be careful!and we are abusing the lady!choi!CHlOE!I ta go afufu!u came to the wrong place nne,you can't get good advice here,they will all protect the mans interest.because they "worship" their husbands.pls chloe dear,tell any rightful authorities that he exploited you and married you for papers,so they can send him and his hungry family back to AFRICA.get a job nd take care of your baby!how come nobody ever blames the man!he is married for godssake!and he had UNPROTECTED sex!jeeeeeeeeeeezzzzz!
    Pretty kelly.

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    1. Thank you so verymuch anon,u spoke my mind excluding that "you people are wicked part"
      U know its very easy to sound judgemental and pass blames,when you're sitting on the fence. Was surprised at how most of the comments here exonerated the man and singledout the woman for blame.
      Is it now wrong to fall in love,I guess she's meant to abort her own baby while the other woman keeps hers. This ugly trend of exploiting unsuspecting ladies just to get what u want shouldn't be promoted.
      My dear you need a sort of closure,anything to make you move ahead and live happily once more. Atleast now you're in the know as it pertains this ugly trend,so you'll be in a much better position to advice others.
      If you feel you've been ill-treated and there's a way to seek redress,it won't be out pf place if you do so if that will make you feel better.

      ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    2. Anonymous7/17/2013

      It was d woman who sought for advice not the man.
      She asked if she was been used and we ve given her a big YES abd asked her to move on.
      Man wey dey use person na good person bf? Y U dey knack ur head with panadol??? Hiaaaaaan!!!

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    3. Ogbeni calmdown,I had to read the post again and I couldn't find what you claimed was her question.
      That aside,still on the point I'm trying to make its always easy to say "YES u've been used moveon" when u're not the one involved. This same issue was what brought one Solomon Akinyesi to limelight of recent.

      ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    4. @ kelly and Bona, you both seen to forget she stated the fact that the man told her to get rid of it and also confessed to her he has got family. Also note that she said because she loves him so much and believed vise versa she needed him by all means what so ever! which prompted her to do the African style(huh Her African blood in action,African British indeed). So how is the man using her or being mean,acting up the Victim to me is wash! she is to be blamed here, as she was the one who put the man in that shoe,telling him to divorce or send his first wife and children not kid away is a no no! She wanted a baby and a Ring and she got it so she should deal with it. First is first so my dear park well.



      Enuf Said

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    5. Anonymous7/17/2013

      She was already pregnant before he told her he has a family in Africa!

      Why didn't he tell her that when he was wooing her at the beginning?

      Abort it? I am surprised at the comments here, because it is still these same commentators that would condemn abortion in another post!

      Anonymous and Bona i am in support of your comments.

      I am also a first wife but we should stop exonerating our men! It takes 2 to tangle! And 2 wrongs cannot make a right!

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  13. lol Bona... I was shocked too to see that ppl are even calling her a hisband snatcher. I dnt see uow that applies moreover I dnt believe there is such a thing as husband snatcher except jazz is involved.

    But that said, we ladies like living a lie. We know that something is a dead end but we want pity. we want some kind of justice that does not exist. we need a big reality check!

    Men do evil things, yes, but if U wait and hope urs will turn out good because u r different, das a lie! She has been used. HOHA! All she has to do is look for a way to prevent herself from being used again. She is not the first and wnt be the last foreigner to be used by our brothers. In her case, she wasnt so lucky cos she dint marry him. that wudav ben a different case. What the man did is bad, yes, but what can she do about it?

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    1. I like that "she's not the first and won't be the last foreigner". +1!

      I think she's even lucky he didn't marry her sef cos she would have suffered in the marriage. Cos she wouldn't be the recognised wife. He doesn't love her. He's only playing her. Our duty on this blog is to open her eyes to a reality that will help her save herself from being deceived ever again in the future!

      Chloe honey, he was only using you. Sorry about that, but that's the reality of things. Pick the pieces of what's left. Love your child. Make sure he's in her life. But do not dance to his tunes anymore. That wife you see there is very much aware of his game plan, that's why she's not 'fighting'.

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  14. Poster, this nigerian man has obviously used you, as is the trend nowadays! I suggest you forget about him and find a way of taking care of your baby. The Nigerian wife isn't fighting bcos she is also aware of the game plan. And since she has made her way to be there, trust me she has come to stay. Pray to God to forgive you and give you your own man, that will love your baby and you. If there is a way to seek legal remedy frm the authority pls do so, because this man has taken advantage of you.

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  15. Anonymous7/17/2013

    Ehen, while at it sister Chloe, don't forget to help him secure the green card you hear? U love him right? And he is also the father of your baby huh? Next time, you will use your brain #oshisko

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    1. Anonymous7/17/2013

      mcheew, british stay o jare

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  16. Anonymous7/17/2013

    @ Tosin ao can u say such a tin like dat, d man informed her of his family when she was pregnant, so if she had come to u for advise den, wud u av asked her to abort d pregnancy? Kindly gimme an honest reply. Thanks.
    Horlah

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    1. As honest as it can be YES........ In as much as abortion is widely condemned, ignorance is not an excuse,if one must enjoy the pleasures forever more precaution should be the watch word. I urge you to read this story again with deep insight and you'll see why my car is not attracted to or passing through that beautiful lying street of hers smelling of Am the victim here.

      Mercy and favour always smiles on those who where being naive and taken advantage of, making their mistake and mess a testimony and blessing for them and others. In all; Always investigate who that guy is today,before you cry fowl tomorrow

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    2. Anonymous7/17/2013

      This TOXIN claims to be a Christian which surprises me the most!

      I have read her past and present comments and i am always disappointed in her!

      All these fake, so-called believers everywhere pretending to be holy on blogs but are something else in real life!

      Ignorance is not an excuse? so the man is innocent in all these? he didn't have common sense to use condom? smh

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    3. @Pig Anon Toxin you are a great fool..

      Come to think of it! It's prostitute's like you that go about dragging married men with their wives after visiting mama Dolphin forming love. When they call you Ashawo kobo kobo,you'll be forming responsible,flaunting that fake gold plated ring and claiming thy art holy. Am not madam who replies fool like you ooo/hope you ain't who i think you are.... lol. I will give you hot hot when i come across nasty taunts like you if you try this your rubbish with me again....

      Aspa the photo you see,you are better look at it's eyes very well and run from my smoke before i choke you dead with it................ Teacher kpangolo oshi! elunu diarrhoea.

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    4. Anonymous7/18/2013

      lolzzzzzz
      d comment pain u dieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
      go n get ur own fake gold plated ring single-desperado!
      lolzzzzzzzzz.

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  17. Anonymous7/17/2013

    If he is not yet legal, report him to immigration and get his arse kicked out of the country. That will give you closure in that you will never have to see him again. As a single parent you really don't need him to support you financially because you have access to child benefits, working tax credits and free nursery places via sure start when she's of age.

    Babe you've been used and you can be excused for going ahead without knowing for a fact he has a family. HOWEVER, if you still continue to mess with this man you have become just as guilty as him.

    HE IS NOT YOUR MAN. EVEN IF HE LEAVES HIS WIFE CHANCES ARE THAT HE WILL NOT END UP WITH YOU.

    Move on.

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    1. That he was able to bring his wife and child over from Africa means he is very much legal and permanent residency legal. Just waiting for his passport because if he wasn't when this girl got pregnant the first thing would have been to marry her since this would have looked realistic to the authorities because they have a child. That he chose to bring his wife over and child tells me he is very legal. There are very many ways to get your permanent residency these days without having to marry someone. Young lady poster just count your losses and move on you got played the wife aint going nowhere and probably knows about you too.

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  18. Anonymous7/17/2013

    Pls Chloe, how would he use ur daughter to get stay? Is that possible? He can only get stay if he is married to u. Pls educate me more as I'm confused.

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  19. My take on this:
    Chloe, thou art been exploited!
    The man is using you to get what he wants: the red booklet!

    Like others have said, the woman knows but just playing along till their plan finalises through "your assistance" of course.

    Count your loses, find closure and move on. The man was never and will never be yours.

    Ciao. :D

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  20. Queen Of The Coast Reloaded7/17/2013

    This story is very boring jare
    My anon friend where u dey jor
    Come and yarn otele mmiri mmiri bikoi guess u are from imo state
    Pls come and indulge ur Queen looolllzzzzz

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  21. He took advantage of you and what he did was wrong. From your story, you didn't know till you were pregnant that he had a family back home so. I feel for you in that aspect.

    But as far as your question of how to make her leave is concerned, I will not lie to you, this is a question that his wife should ask and not you. He's married to her and he cheated with you, its unfortunate that you got caught in his lies but what you can do now is see this as a lesson learnt, make sure he takes care of his child and move on.

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  22. Anonymous7/17/2013

    What bothers me is your desire to be with this man knowing that he has a wife and family already, a relevant piece of information he chose to keep hidden from you until you were high with child. This is not love, this is desperation and the act of someone who does not love themself. If you loved yourself you would not settle for scraps, you would not desire for another woman's home to be destroyed, so that you can have what you want. If you desire the blessings of God to fall on your child please walk away and do nothing to place a stumbling block in another woman's household. Do not desire anything negative for another, because whatever bad thing you desire for another is what you desire for yourself. You have an innocent babe now, let your spirit be filled with all that is good, wholesome, and pure so that you child may be prosperous, successful in life, and be protected in the evil day.

    Learn to love yourself, when you have true love for yourself you will attract to you a man who will also love you as completely. He will love you so much he will willingly give his name to your daughter and the past will be completely forgotten. I wish you and your innocent child all the best in life.

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    1. How I wish u hadn't commented as Anon,today somebody spoke exactly my mind minus the Bible scriptures.
      Wish there was a like button here?
      Thank you very much...
      Let the reader use discernment.

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