Funke Akindele Marriage Ends, Marriage Tips For Young Couples

Just this evening alone, I have read on so many sites about the end of Funke Akindele's (Jenifa)one year marriage.
I don't know what caused this but I read it's irreconcilable differences. May God see them through this trying moment of their lives. For some of us bashers of Celebrities, let us please not forget that they are humans and have feelings like us. Let us please try to be understanding and remember that they are not superhuman. 

With recent
divorce rates, we that have tasted marriage for 2, 3, 4, 5, 10 and more years should please help young couples on this blog with advice. Marriage is not a bed of Roses o. What we read from Mills and Boon is different from reality. What you see on the big screen is just make-believe and should never make any wife begin to set unrealistic goals and get too high expectations. 

Marriage is sweet, but I keep telling people that it gets better with time. If couples can just try and survive the first few years of marriage, they'd realize they were very childish at the initial stage. 

Marriage is not always bread and butter. For actresses, my fear is that I hope they don't expect that real marriages be like the scripts they act out cos that's not possible. Every marriage is unique and different. Many who have been married for years can testify that it was rough at the beginning. 

For us women, there are so many things you blame your husband for initially, but with time, you just realize that you were just childish and like me, may come to see that you were a very stubborn talkative wife who caused all the drama while blaming hubby on top. 

Please young couples, Newlyweds, marriage is hard work. Know that no marriage can survive without TOLERANCE, try your best as much as possible to keep it together cos in Africa we hear that "the Success or Failure of any marriage is the wife." I don't know how true that is sha o. When two people separate, it's BIG, It's no more just about them alone, it affects a whole lot of people.

Please ladies and Gentlemen, if you have any tip or advice that can help young couples and newly weds, leave a comment for them and God will bless your marriage.

Comments

  1. Thanks Aunty Eya for this piece... And admitting that women play some kinda childish and awkward role(s) along the line made it unique!

    Even if often times the men are wrong, I've always nursed the feelers that women are never wrong and never accept they are... Even on this blog it's always rife in the pattern of comments on related issues.

    @FunkeAkindele... Welcome to Reality 201, it's a 5 unit course and the lecturer accepts no bribe, you'll be adjudged by what you do what you don't. Sadly, you have! Try again next time.



    Nuff'Said...


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    1. "I've always nursed the feelers that women are never wrong and never accept they are..."

      Ace, remember that to every rule, there's an exception. If I'm wrong, I will admit it; yes I will!

      I aint perfect so I admit my faults and errors, learn from them and move on.

      Life is too short nao, why will I keep hammering on something that glaringly wrong thus wasting saliva and energy also.

      Sometimes, even when I'm right, I pretend not to be just for peace to reign cos I cherish PEACE!

      So Ace, change that feelers you've got, thanks!

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    2. Dis Ace sef ahah! Ur anti women or what?

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    3. Anonymous7/16/2013

      noticed you just called funke akindele's name alone. is she the only one in the marriage? so her husband had no fault in the breakdown of their marriag? it takes two to tango, who wants their marriage to break?

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    4. Anon 6:13, the thing is tiring oh. I thought it was two persons that are involved in the marriage thing before. The way her name was called like she failed. They both failed. A head is still a head and no matter how it's masked, a man can keep or break what he has. He is that powerful.

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  2. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

    Hmmmmm,when going into marriage with a nigerian man pls leave passion out of it,what u need is a lot of common sense and calculator
    Once God has blessed with both sexes u ve conquered and u ve ur own cash they will hardly mess with u.funke's hubby is a pologamist and an unashamed womaniser,desperation drove her in,her thinking was being a popular actress and a law grad will make d man sempe but na wash cos not up to 2mnths about their wed a cloth seller in oshodi was delivered of a BBB and she consoled herself saying she was his legal wife no shaking.to conclude this,dog people should marry eachother

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    1. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Yawns

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    2. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      @anon,y d yawn, abi plenty costomers no gree u sleep?akwuna agadi

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    3. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Ahia onye na zu ko ma anya ya. Akwuna ibem. Woe betide u stinking mouth, queen of the coast my ass. Bloody twat

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    4. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Ewooooo,QOC a bu lo akwuna oo nne.at least u are wide awake now.nne pls spread ur legs so that fan can cool that place down for u nnugo o diro easy afterall man must wack.
      Biko save quick and retire oooo
      Ewu Maidugiri

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    5. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Aka oche bu aka oche, so dat fan thing reall works? Wat abt dat extreme slackness you were complaining of? Have you finally patch it? My dear am really saving o, b4 my stuff will get to your stage . How do you feed? Am sure with the condition and smell of your p*ssy nobody will do even for free.

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    6. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Buhahaha!anon y are u pinning ur slacked pussy story on me,when u guys want advice u tell eya to remove ur email and other details.did u say when u get to my stage I laugh in swahili.u ve wasted ur youth sexing married men and all sorts that's y u are so frustrated pls take care of ur heart cos I see hypentension and stroke knocking seriously at ur door
      QOC has no time for riff raffs ok.old cargo

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    7. @queen please ignore this idiot biko.

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    8. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Monkey, you will come to WC and be claiming married. The only place you will ever marry is in your imagination. Am young, sweet and sexy go choke on it! Nna ga anu, retired ashewo, you will come to blog and be venting your frustration. Bring it on, I have your time today. QOC oshi, slacked p_ssy.

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    9. Queen of The Coast7/16/2013

      Anon 6:00, who invited you? Anuofia.

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    10. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Anon6:00 pls ignore fake QOC biko.anon this babe is very much married and to a very rich guy too.when I was my angels out into d world u were busy dancing awantilo and now time has passed u by ndoo oooo.mama ashewo uwa nile keziah we are not in d same category inugo.
      U ve destroyed ur life with ur own hands pity u
      Anon go to d mountain and pray maybe onye okada might look upon u with pity and wife u .Ewu katsina

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    11. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Husband ke? Not in this lifetime as far as you the queen of the crazes is concern, dat is impossicant it is OVER for you. See you see menopause(datsifyouarenottherealready) as for me am single and happy still av 5YEARS of grooving before thinking of accepting any marriage proposal. Go sit behind your door and be wailing cos is too late for u.when your age mates were getting married you were busy chasing oteles all over otu Onitsha ntoOoooooooooooooo

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    12. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Anon did u say u ve 5 more yrs to retire from proffessional ashewo ur life go don kwafuka by that time naa
      Anyway u can conquer anything with ur faith sha but take it easy with d tired waist biko.this Queen has no place to cry dear cos my life is beautiful unlike urs
      I shudder to think of the different animals u ve slept with in ur line of work hmmm nwanyi ibem sorry ooooo

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    13. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Anon,there is nothing more to say to u.I ve told u how useless and frustrated u are,also told u how to take care of ur loosed punani,hmm eh hen u also need to go to orioke for serious prayers because ashewo no be small thing oooo bcos I sure say u don do horse,dog and chicken sef ewoo how many ghost sef don enter there mama akwuna go and rest ur tired waist biko

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    14. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Anon,its a pity I ve to leave u now but pls don't drink acid there is hope for u biko
      My sweetheart is back now but u can drop ur comment I promise to reply them u hear.winks
      Ewu haiti

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    15. Anonymous7/16/2013

      We know the married women in WC and you're not among them, see you bleached ass, burnt face and shrinked person. No man will even harbour you for free. Ntoo after wasting the better part of your life prostituting the only thing you av to show for it is your bitter self queen of the crazes go and commit suicide. Tufia, I can't imagine myself been as old as you and still single with nothing to show for your years of existence. Odi ndu onwu ka nma. Tufiakwa

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    16. Lol,anon u just described ur pathetic self and ur wasted life.sorry ooooooo hehehehe.is it paining u?

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    17. Anon ,I know u are creamberry but don't worry I get ur medicine hehehehehe.onye idiot

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    18. @lol,pls leave creamberry out of this biko d babe no get liver for kain thing after that last incident

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    19. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Hahahaha sweetrat? Is that what you call the few drunks that still patronise you out of sympathy? Go on go and service him, you don't know the next time you will be fortunate enough to get a client. Ozu wuruawu, frustrated animal, na me do you? You are living in illusion, carry on, if that's what will make your miserable existence bearable. Ewu, utele ezuik

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    20. Buhahahahaha ewo ooooooo anon idi very funny ,queen has finished u worthless animal ewooo I feel so sorry for u right now cos u are lost and there is no more time on ur hand
      Do u know ur aged parents ve buried thinking u ve died chimoooo pls go back to ur village and answer register biko

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    21. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Coward, you've changed to lol abi? If you like vanish,am out for you stupid old woman, you feel you can spew rubbish and get away with it , nonsense may amadioha fire you anus if you run away today. Ashewo is sweetrat stll on top of you? Ok take a deep breathe before you die of old age under your customer. Hahahahahahahaooooooohahahah

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    22. It is finished no wonder she did not put any name up.ozu
      No wonder she is so bittered anon sorry oooooooooo byebye

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    23. Anonymous7/16/2013

      You are so dumb and stupid, you left as queen of the crazes and came back as lol and oma. The only person you are fooling is ur self fish brain. By the time I finish with you, you will commit suicide useless woman agbaya oshi. Uponu. Ewu akpu eje afia. Woe betide you if you stop

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    24. bystander7/16/2013

      Anon pls u need o go back to ur village to prove to ur old folks that u are still alive that is if u think so
      U are a living corpse and ur life has expired even without u knowing it
      Takia

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    25. Stop what anon pls go to ur village oooooo u ve been told they ve done ur burial u are here talking rubbish pls take ifesinachi night bus and report to ur village

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    26. Anon ur grandmother was stonned to death two weeks ago for stealling cocoyam in ur village but don't worry I will confirm d date of her shamefull burial to u that is if they won't throw her in d evil forest

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    27. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Your multiple personality disorder av taken a new dimension. You are now oma, ify, bystander blablabla if you like developed 100 alter egos, am equal to the task bring it on hag. Smelling pussy otele mmiri mmiri.

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    28. derico nma mama7/16/2013

      Her grandmother gist is stale jare do u know d bagger slept had sex with her blood brother and a curse was placed on her so she will be servicing animal etc etc till she dies

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    29. fine james7/16/2013

      Derico abeg gist me abeg,are u sure their family is not cursed?I mean this wonderment and fabulosity infact am trying to digest d whole gist but its undigestable this is disgusting men.f..k

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    30. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Queen of the crazes alias ify, ezewanyi, oma,lol,bystander. Shameless hag coming to blog to fight with your grandchild age mate #ifyoumarriedwhenyour matesweremarrying# and now you can face the heat. Old witch I will clip your wings today.

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    31. Queen Of The Coast Killer7/16/2013

      QOC shame on you. Anon have defeated you. You are hiding under the guise of some worthless names to fight mumu.

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    32. judas iscariot7/16/2013

      They are finishing u and u are talking of wings shior
      Old mama youngie is claiming granddaughters age u dey crase I swear
      Dem talk say ur mama thief pikin shit today ooooo,wait make I yarn una
      People were buying maimai from mama ejima that lives close to d stream in ur village ur mum stole one wrap of maimai cos d maimai woman was busy ur mum immediately clutched her tummy after putting d stuff in her bra upon how hot d thing is(correct hungry woman)d crowd sympthised with her oooo how she could run so far with her athritis riddled body is still a wonderment anyway she got home called ur last born bomboy inside she quickly brought out d stuff she unwrapped d thing quickly d stench that greeted her was eh but u know d funniest thing she still ate it consoling herself that maybe d maimai was not properly done.inyama.anon shame on ur family

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    33. Otinkpu Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Buhahahahahaha loooooooolllllllllllzzzzzzzzz QOF killer are u a learner?I give u dress rehearsal u dey shout idiot,na for ur mind u win u hear
      Don't worry u hear I ve forgiven u but u need to go for cleansing and atonement pls close ur eyes let us pray

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    34. stella Damasus7/16/2013

      Anon,u don enter one chance today
      Old cargo
      Stop sleeping with okada men their wife ve formed an alliance to deal with u oooo
      If u must snatch do it well now no dey fall my hand beg

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    35. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Anon all these people are my subjects u know lol.next time pick on ur size oooo nne.I told I am a jobless fellow but with plenty cash at my disposal
      Thanks for all d support my people it was fun while it lasted.waves and blows kisses

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    36. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Local women, with local sense. Who will talk about your mama stole maimai(by the way it is moimoi) with you? Nne you are losing it. I can see you are going senile. I refuse to stoop to your level. Tufia to you and you alter egos anumanu, anupama, nwaewu. Ya mama thief maimai run dem catch..... Me and you, in an international blog like WC? Mbanu God forbid go locate your fellow mgbeke, grandma I refuse to deal!

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    37. King Nebechadenezer7/16/2013

      Anon mamannukwu general so now u know u are on an international blog anufia this is a small lesson to u idiot
      I had to stoop to ur level to give u what u need u were yawning at my comment who born u animal like u.better go to ur village and cleanse ur self and ur diseased lineage.I be all weather one woman riot squad.yorubas call it moimoi but igbos call it maimai.u daughter of a maggi stealer and maimai .u incestous bitch(see grammer)u refuse to deal ko u refuse to deal ni u see wetin pass u I be wan wan release many of people on top ur cursed

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    38. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Look at this rat piss, common whore u don't even no how to insult, who says something as local as ya mama stole mama stole maimai and maggi? Bastard daughter of a whore, go on and continue the family trade. Your wretched mother never got married y would you? But you are better than her because you didn't litter the word with bastards like she did. Hopefully your other siblings will tow ur path, so that, that will put an end to a lineage of perverts and their perversion. I curse the day you were born

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    39. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Thunder fire that man that is on that bed with you, may amadioha twist his neck until he sees his back and for climbing into dat bed with you, his pocket will always be empty, he will leave you today n not come back home. I rain the ten plagues on him and as for you, you will look for him n not find him and so shall it be

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    40. Anonymous7/17/2013

      I rain fire and brimstone upon the people dat contributed in paying ur fees and bunch of idiots that taught u how to read write and constitute nuisance and woe betide the fool dat bought fone for you... Pheww who else is remaining? Let me think am coming

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    41. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Hmm am back ya, it will not be well with all your mama's clients dat contributed the sperm that formed your pregnancy for festering something as evil as u on this beautiful world. N u, queen of the crazes vanish by fire.

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    42. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Lest I forget, it will never be well with your pussy that you av used to destroy homes because you gave it out freely even to those dat didn't ask. And your floppy boobs too.

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    43. Anonymous7/17/2013

      @anon,pls go nd bury ur head in shame biko,queen finished u right fronth and center infact I ve been laughing since yesterday only to come back and see d tasteless yabis u vomited.anon go to d sch of yabis and learn how to insult biko lol

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    44. Fally werepe7/17/2013

      Which one is neck wringing sef,hungry old cargo u think everybody uses phone to come online hehehe.u no sabi yab sef omo nna if to na me eh but I no who be boss naa up queennnnnnnnnnnnnn

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    45. Queen Of The Coast7/17/2013

      Ogadi senior single,my beautiful angels are having their prize giving day party today,I am d special guest of honour and I ve to dish instructions to my domestic staff on what to do,I ve to leave u now to attend to other things morover ur yabis don't even ve weight infact u are a very big bore ,I ve instructed my aides not to reply u anymore.I need to fit anoda role am also through with u cos all ur yabis are one way na only ashewo and loosed vagina u fit take yab person change tactics and come back u hear
      I am going to my private spa now for a good brazillian scrub and mexican steam bath cos I need to look muah.bye

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    46. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Anon thank Jehova u did not use any name see as queen finish u.sorry oooooo
      Me I dey prepare for work bye .omashe

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    47. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Haahahaha, goat you finally accept defeat? I tot you thick skin? Who gives a fuck about your house help and your spa? Useless idiat, retired hussy, you've definitely got the lowest IQ one can imagine. Shei you are a terrorist? Am ready for you, you will never use that name peacefully on any blog. Otele mmiri mmiri bastard dota of a bitch.

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    48. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Retarded queen of crazes, the oldest prostitute from igboland, where art thou? Scared? Bring it on, me is ready for you hahahahaeeeeehahahhaha

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    49. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Anon,don't you ve work or business to go to,ur opponent has gone to attend to business I will suggest you do the same

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    50. Queen Of The Coast Killer7/17/2013

      So all the names are finished n u have to go anon? Qoc shame on u, loser. The real anon have finished you. Next time you calculate very well before taking on people. Atulu, mmee

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  3. Anonymous7/16/2013

    Marriage no b small thing o, has Anty Eya ve said its all abt tolerance n every wife must b prayerful dat one na GNS 001....has already said also marriage is not a bed of roses, most ladies make d mistake of thinking dey will change their men once dey r married, my dears its not possible cos a man will always b a man(egocentric in nature),u can only love them n treat them right, make dem feel dey ve the final say *wink*, can systematically advice not impose things on them cos husbands r wives first child, u ve to keep pampering them,no marriage is d same..

    Every marriage is unique and has its ups n downs but a lot of women expect heaven all d time in their marriages where by its not pos sible and visible...cos d man n woman have different backgropunds, likes,dislikes expectations, values, norms etc which makes every marriage unique...

    D best advice I can give a lady who is getting married is be very prayerful n do ur wifey roles n never compare ur marriage with ur friends ..... It is well with our marriages...amen..

    Just really sad abt Funke's marriage..

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  4. Anonymous7/16/2013

    I think some of us ladies and men need to take a good, long, hard look at ourselves and come to the truth of who we are. Not all of us are marriage material, and not all of us are going to make good spouses. I, myself am not married, because I know that I have a propensity to be selfish and the kind of love and care a man wants I do not have it in me to give. I am not a natural ego stroker or comforter, and so I do not lean towards married life, because men require too much emotionally from women, I ain't got time for that. We seem to push everybody toward marriage without fully assessing if that person is really cut out for married life. Marriage is just not viable for everybody, so search yourself, know yourself before your jump in.

    I may eventually marry just to say I did it, and to have some companionship in old age, but there is no way in hell I would want to be married to anybody for more than 10-20 years, even that is too damn long in my books. But those who are cut out for it, and who have something to bring to someone to create something great together, go for it!

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  5. marriage is HARD WORK!be prepared before going into it,so as not to give up on it too soon.
    don't get married because all your friends are doing so,get married because you are ready and want to do so.and don,t expect marriage to be all lovey -dovey....because it ain't(even if you are married to a saint)

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  6. Some1 bought a tv. Set it up himself n didn't properly connect the AV wires. So d tv had no sound. The old man was watchin dis tv like dat 4 3wks until he decided to call a friend who read the manual and set it up properly 4 him. There is a manual for everything and until u read and understand the manual u will never enjoy d true happiness in what u have - marriage, life etc.
    That manual is the BIBLE! Read it, absorb it, pray and live by it. That's the answer.
    Meanwhile when u buy groceries drop by www.terinrecipes.com and get some handy manuals. Reading the manuals will always save u a lot of trouble. Lol.
    On a more serious note, lesson for the day - Always read and understand the manual. Always.

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  7. Aunty Eya truth be told.. I'm not trying to start any controversy but the single ladies who need ur advise and will take it genuinely are very vey few. A lot of them feel married ppl are just 'bashers' or 'jobless housewives' who feel that marriage is the ultimate. All they want is for you to agree with them...or else...

    When you tell them that as a married woman, stubbornness, pride and selfishness is very far from the equation, they think you are just a weak woman who has lost herself and has no self respect. They think marriage is a union of two Transformers! When he shows his power, I show my own.

    When you tell them that it is a wise woman who builds her home, they feel you are just a looser. Why shudnt the man be blamed for everything??!

    When you also tell them that before marriage you have a choice so take ur time and choose cos once you sign the dotted lines, you have said I have willed myself to the lordship of this man. He owns me and my body and I will submit to him and his authority on everything that concerns me, all the days of my life...Ha! "You stoopid married woman, what kind of stoopid advice is that? You know, I have noticed you and you like making women feel worthless and powerless.. "

    When u tell them to stay away from people's husband...'shut up peach! You r just a pretender, I'm sure u do worse or U old and ugly..'

    To already married women, pls, you have to stoop to conquer. Ur knees are ur greatest weapon, use them. Go on ur knees before ur husband and submit to him...also go on ur knees and pray for him. God gave men the authority as head, but He also gave women the power to put that head in order. If u cannot submit to a man because of any reason, dnt marry him, and if you have married him already and dnt like the way he is, use ur prayers, humility and all the 'bottom and cooking power' to change him... There is no man that cannot change.

    Most times when a marriage crashes, the woman suffers the most...#hardTruth. Funke Akindele, if its true, accept my sympathy...

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    1. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Yawns

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    2. Madam boring.yawnssssssssssss

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    3. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Thank you Ahdaisy

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    4. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Lol@thank you Ahdaisy
      Buhahahahahahaha

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    5. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Hian!leave aunty ahda alone pls
      This is so unfair

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    6. Anonymous7/16/2013

      When ur hubby constantly cheats on u without hiding it nd ignoring u and u sleep alone, then come bk nd tell me u stoop to conquer and the man is right and u shld only pray and not take action. There is just soo much one can take, when something becomes a habit, u seek wisdom from God and take actions. Men understands action not words. This applies of cus wen d foundation of the marriage is right. Ah daisy, I've learnt never to judge unless I'm d one wearing d shoes.the word submission means to me sub-mission. Coming under a mission. If ur mission is to lie and incessantly cheat and ignore ur wife and be selfish, that is not how God intended it to be and I will not submit. Call a spade a spade!

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    7. When u say go on your knees before your husband and submit to him, what do u mean? Do u mean u greet him on your knees every morning? Apologise when u offend him on your knees? Or apologise even when u know he is d one at fault on your knees?.. U know this advises people give here is relative to your situation sha? We all are not d same.. All men are not the same o..

      @Anon11:29 ; fact this, most people don't pray and seek God's face before getting into marriage.. They date a guy for some years,feel they are compactible and Marry them..it works for some, I mean some people are lucky but it doesn't work for all.. What works for all is, make sure u hear from God that this your husband, fast, pray and you will never derail.. God is too faithful to fail, just trust him

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    8. Shayor@Soup-a Bowl7/16/2013

      Very unnecessary 1st five paragraghs Ahdaisy! Rmbr; Perfection is an illusion o! Nuff said

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    9. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Shayor! jealousy will not kill you.leave Ahda alone

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    10. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Ahdaisy leave shayor alone too
      Jealous for what,u wish
      Shayor carry go jor

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    11. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Oh my! You made men sound like gods!They are flesh and blood like us!
      I am married for many years and i disagree with some of your points.
      Respect is mutual and not total submission!
      I pray generally for my family protection and prosperity.
      I also use wisdom in some matters.Not all situations need submissivness.

      To the newlyweds, LEARN WHERE AND WHEN TO PICK YOUR BATTLES!
      BE RESPECTFUL TO YOUR HUSBAND AND INLAWS.

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    12. Queen Bee7/16/2013

      Madam AHdaisy,i hope u practice alll dat u wrote for us to be doing unto submission?lol
      U made sense but some of ur points are too condescending to the woman gender!
      Wth!

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    13. Shayor@Soup-a Bowl7/16/2013

      Amen o! Jealousy will not kill me, Anonymous-you-know-who-you-are! Loolz!

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  8. Marriage is surely not a bed of roses. There are bad days when u literally feel like hurting ur spouse and some days u want to treat them like a queen or king.

    I agree with aunty Eya that marriage is like old wine that tastes and gets better the older it gets.

    I Personally refuse to let certain things get to me anymore compared to my 1st few years of marriage. I just concentrate on talking t God, my kids, career and me whenever I face marital challenges.
    It is important to kno ur spouse as well so I tend to find a good moment to raise issues in a calm way to get the desired result.
    Ladies shouldn't assume that a man will change after the wedding. If u discover something that u kno u cannot live with then raise it with him and if its not burging u beta reconsider with ur eyes wide open.
    For those waiting for mr right/mrs right, God give u that special man/woman that will be urs alone and will make a blessed and happy home together.
    For married ones, everlasting peace, joy, hapiness and love will be restored and never cease in ur home IJN.

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  9. Anonymous7/16/2013

    Rubbish!as my marriage got older it got worse.LOL,I prayed till my lips bled,I cook diamond sauce,I sex him like a maniac.I was all the definations of an adviser and etc.but no,he refused to hear word!now I'm out.I'm HAPPY...I repeat HAPPY!I feel like dancing as I type this.I have everything I need including the most imoprtant which is happiness,I no longer have dark circles under my eyes,marriage gbakwa oku! Some ppl need a man to validate them.LOL.my God,my job,my kids,my mum and siblings,my friends!!that's all I know now.and dese stupid married men still ask me out!LOL.dnt worry,k?if it works 4 u stay there.but before the man kills u,pls run!!how do u know funke did not try?I didn't send my story to eya because many of you will cry a river when you read it,but shey you see the joy I feel now when I snuggle with my kids under blanket watching movies on a cold night and eating chicken and chips?I have never felt such with so called "husband".I repeat,if you married a beast without knowing,pls leaaaave ooooo!you wilL die oooo! Mrs patricia Nkemakolam is now dead ooooooooo!ehen!I have spoken.

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      Awwww anon 7:22am. I can totally relate to u . It's not by force oo. Because he is a man I shld die. I refuse o! I learnt that these issues is a contributory cause of cancer for women later on o. Ever since I learnt that, I'm staying alive for my kid o. Marriage gba oku!

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      I am so happy for you.
      Nothing like having a peace of mind.

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    3. Johnson7/16/2013

      @Anon7:22am - thank God you have your happiness. I will encourage you to share some of your learnings. You might save a life through your story - esp. the mistake(s).

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  10. Anonymous7/16/2013

    Pls must everybody marry?I don't want to marry.all this marriage advice you gave us,thank you.but not for me.that's why I love courtney khardiasian's life.marriage is not by force.that's the truth.some ppl don't want it.society should pls rest!its an important institution but not compulsory.I can't waste my time in any man's house.I'm 28 and know what I want,but as anon7:22 rightly said,tell your husbands to leave us alone.married men pester more than single guys do u know?
    Pretty kelly

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    1. Tell who to leave who? *holding my ear* AIDS is real he/she who has ears should hear!

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    2. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Oh so u have AIDS!sorry.just tell your husbands to stop asking. Single girls out,that's what she meant.all your pot bellied stupid husbands,useless fools acting as if thet haven't seen pussy before.

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  11. The key to whatever is just GOD. Whatever the situation is, man wrong, wife wrong, both wrong, all wrong, none wrong, it's still and ONLY all about GOD at the end of the day. You married folks know that you can't beat your chest to say that "I can boast that it's by my being good and 'submissive' that this marriage has stood". It's not true.

    You don't know how many women are playing the 'dumb, quiet, peace maker, i-cant-cause-wahala and even submissive' roles and yet still fall out. Not by their making. Life is more spiritual than we think. Na to dey pray follow your marriage for God's wisdom and for His hand to be upon it and for Him to keep it strong. It's neither by power neither is it by might.

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    1. Hug for this intelligent and spot on comment Jay. while submission is good, it has sent some women to their early graves. my take is that, if you see any red flags during the relationship that you can't deal it then don't go ahead. If you see it after you have signed the dotted lines, pray and work hard to deal with it but if it's not working by all means leave the marriage. we have one life to live and nobody should suffer and smile while living in the name of marriage. most importantly, God should not be relegated to the background. He should be there constantly cos at the end its not just by submission or what not. It's by the grace of God especially now that men are taking the submission for granted.

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    2. Jay u have said it all, single ladies pls seek the face of God before going into any relationship, before you take the marriage vows make sure ask for Gods approval, he alone is lord, he alone can build the foundation for marriage because he created marriage. The truth is if you don't seek Gods face and you marry the wrong person, you are in for a hot ride, even when you pray to God and he comes into the situation you must have suffered the results of your error. Let God lead us all.

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    3. Shayor@Soup-a Bowl7/16/2013

      E-hugs Jay! Love dis!

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    4. Group E-hugs Nekky and Shayor@Soup-a-Bowl !!!
      Thanks Deborah. *Hugs

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    5. Anonymous7/17/2013

      U nailed it in all ur comments hugs. For people that think it is by their power of submissiom ride on. What will be will be whether you lick a man's feet or not.

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  12. My advice to married ladies out there...If it isn't working, get da hell outta that marriage!!! YOLO...make the best of your life & don't spend it miserable just bcos you wana remain married!!! For single ladies...look before you leap & don't get to the level where you become desperate.

    Lucinda

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  13. My advice to married ladies out there...If it isn't working, get da hell outta that marriage!!! YOLO...make the best of your life & don't spend it miserable just bcos you wana remain married!!! For single ladies...look before you leap & don't get to the level where you become desperate.

    Lucinda

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  14. Marriage cannot b a bed of roses. Wen I si d amount of married me hangin around single ladies and clubbin till wee hrs all weekend, I jst pity d women @ home watching d clock lyk tv. D mindset dt d men r tired of der wives dnt evn com 2 play anymor bcos evn doz wit brand new weddin rings r alrdy hittin town. Its lyk men jst get 2 a stage and say okk lemme get one 2 kip @ home n let d fun begin. D wife wld b der prayin success in2 ha husband's finances and the man wld b der buyin range rover evogue 4 young chickitos. Dats d sad irony of life. So d women wld stay indoors pretendin not 2 knw whts glarin unda der noses. Na God sure pass. Marriage is a bed of roses bt ofcos roses has thorns.

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    1. *men* *have*........ As 4 d issue of funke's marriage, wen I she got married 2 b weda na 3rd 4th or 30th wife, I ws rily unhappy bout it. Muslim 4 dat matter. Bt again d guy got cash abi? Or connection? Wareva sha. Wen u si a shoe on d counter, u cnt knw hw much it wld hurt ur feet til u giv it a trial guess dats wht she did.

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    2. Desire7/17/2013

      Wats 'si'.? Thought it was a mistake the first time but then I see you repeated it. Na wa o. Wetin we no go see for cyber shorthand?

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  15. blessed7/16/2013

    Seriously,marriage is just patience and God else by now I would have pulled the trigger!If not that relationships are seen as sinful and also the way we Africans see marriage as do or die(if you are 30 and not married they start talking) I guess I would have remained single because marriage is stressful,the way my husband acts at times,I just pray with time things get better for us.I am encouraged by the comments/advice of some pipo and I pray and believe God to make my marriage work.amen

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  16. Anonymous7/16/2013

    Why all these plenty talk now from the very begining u could see that the marriage was destiny to fail, sorry i am not been rude. everyone go read the history of the relationship and u will know it just the way it will end up.

    my advice to funke, God is not mocked whatever a man sow, that he also reap, sit down and advice ursef wisely if no one around u is giving u good advice. as the saying goes 'to whom brain is given, sense is expected'

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  17. @Ivy: Oh yes Ivy. We had roses in my former house. Mehn, those thorns on the stalk. They injured me plenty times no be small, just in my bid to pluck a rose. So, I always made sure I use plenty tactics when plucking the flowers. God bless u for that analogy. It's so true. Many people have unrealistic expectations about marriage; let me just get d ring, let me just be mrs someborri, let people start respecting my status, let me have kids, let me leave my parents house, let me have my own kitchen etc. Marriage isn't rocket science. It's a partnership/companionship thing. It had a purpose when God made it. As far as I'm concerned. It's not a course with credit loads, it has no manual too. God instituted it, it's wise to let Him lead.

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  18. ...in Africa we hear that "the Success or Failure of any marriage is the wife."

    Aunty Eya, that's what I've been hearing too but my dad thinks otherwise.

    I remembering having a discussion with him and he said the success of a marriage depends on the husband and not the wife!

    It's the man that will say "this marriage must last, no divorce, no one will come between my wife and I, this marriage must stand!"

    Being the head of the house encompasses lots of things oh!

    I remember a terrible lie my dad's half sister told against my mom. The kain lie she told(through text message to his phone) can cause separation between a couple esp. if the man is one who regards his extended family more than his nuclear family.

    My dad called her and told her "my wife didn't say such." Her stood by his wife. He even said she(the so called sis) wasn't wise that NO MATTER WHAT, he would be on his wife side.

    I've seen cases where a man's siblings would do more than that and the marriage would scatter.

    So men, a marriage would succeed depending on your stand!

    In Africa, the main cause of marital woes is EXTENDED FAMILY! Give them an inch, they will take a kilometre!

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    1. Rubby love I'm with you oh. As far as I'm concerned, African women like living in denial. What ever happened to the man is the Head? We like to think we are some sort of superwomen and can solve all things. We want to play god and man plus woman role sef.

      No matter how a woman tries, if the other end of the equation isn't balanced, it can't just balance. Only God can help. Men are the Head!

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    2. Jay and Ruby, you guys are right... Yes, both parties need to be involved to make the marriage work. However, the REALITY is that original African marriages..,I mean the relationship between a husband and a wife (not polygamy) is closer to the bible recommendation than all the 'oyiboism' we do nowadays. A lot of women do not respect their husbands. I can say that one categorically. Even some of the comments and reader mails published here is enough to see. No respect whatsoever and when you dnt talk rubbish about ur husband, ppl tag you as pretentious or fake. When he is talking, they are given it back to him sizzling hot! They keep secrets, disobey him, insult him, steal his money, report him to the whole world, deny him their body, manipulate him, expose his vulnerabilities and then, start looking for where to get sympathy. I am not shifting all the blame to the woman cos some men are just plain EVIL! However, let us tell ourselves the truth and take responsibilities for our actions.

      Whether we jump up or lay down, the fact of life is that the woman has a VERY BIG role to play. Even the bible cooled down to describe a virtuous woman, biko, una see anyone for virtuous man?

      Ppl marry for the wrongest reasons and they somehow want the tin to work somehow... U marry a man that does not respect you, is not hardworking and is God-fearing, later you want him to turn to a Rich Prince Charming... You were kissing so many frogs, and since non turned to a prince, you settled, then when you see other women with their princes, you start comparing.

      Men hardly pretend. 90% of the time, before u got married, you knew he had the potential to be a Super jerk, but bcos he had money, or is cute, you accepted.

      Bible says, Wives submit (not love) to ur husband like unto the LORD. The husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. (That is very deep!) It did not say submit to ur husband only if he is perfect. Like I said before, if you cannot submit to a man for any reason, be it his finances, his character, his religion, his background, then pls DO NOT ENTER. The only bible given reason for u to divorce is adultery and u must remain single afterwards. However, if ur life is at stake, you dnt have to die there.

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    3. Daisy honey :), I think you are explaining from one angle o. That's for women that choose not to submit/respect. Absolutely correct!

      The way I see it sha, it's not by power/might still sha. Submission/Love wasn't given as the criteria for a marriage to work. Submission for me is the way God put it. Submission and Love go hand in hand. We are to submit the way we are to submit to God. Why do we submit to Him? Can we submit to Him if He doesn't love us? If we can't trust Him? If He puts Himself above us? The man as a head is like Christ is a Head to the church. In christianity, you don't focus more on the 'church', but on Christ, the Head. Christ prioritised us and we prioritise Him cos He 1st prioritised us. Without a functional head, there is nothing on heaven or on earth that the body can do. Without Christ the church is nothing! Or can the church function without Him? :-)

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    4. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Jay, you have a fan in me ;)

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    5. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Rubynnia, your dad is a very wise man indeed!!! My sentiments entirely! A marriage will only work, if a man wants it to.

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    6. Jay you rock!! Kisses and hugs for that short but very deep and thought provoking comment.

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    7. Thanks Nekky, Hugs and kisses right back at yhu!

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    8. Anon 3:28: Thank ya!!!

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    9. Johnson7/16/2013

      Nice discussion/comments... Ruby - your dad is a wise man. Ladies - look for a wise man to marry!

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  19. Eya let me be sincere to you,i get tired of the blog with all this long long write up's,yes they all make sense but what happened to summary...... hmmm if i yab now you guys will say have come again,just this morning ona don cover the whole space. Na wah oooo

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    1. Anonymous7/16/2013

      I think say na only me my sister. Everybody always wants to write an epistle. On LIB, u guys comments are short and straight to d point. Haba, person dey tire oh.
      *yawns*

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    2. I don't even read the long comments again. ESP sis Ahdaisy. Once I see her name, I scroll on. Lol.

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  20. Lucinda and Rubynnia have said my mind.

    Before marriage, look before you leap, and if you went in and start seeing something more than you, please consider whether there can be reconcilaition, if not, separation and divorce are great options for peace of mind and happiness. Marriage is not everything.

    And yes, men hold the key to a marriage. God is love, the fulcrum of marriage is love, and it is men that got that charge in the bible, love your wives, as Christ loved the church! Whether she submits or not love her, and the more you love her, the more she submits.

    In addition to the love that God gives us for our spouses, I am also madam mills and boon, so women and men, romance your partners, inside the bedroom and outside, and you will testify. I wish everyone more love and happiness, marriage is to be enjoyed not endured :)

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    1. Marriage is to be enjoyed and it might require some level of endurance from time to time… Divorce is only an option when it’s obvious you missed God’s leading in the first instance.

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  21. But we all musn't fall in love,we all musn't get married.
    Some are meant to watch and wish it were them.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    1. Lol!!! Funny guy... But marriage truly is not for everyone. In fact many married men should have jejely stayed single instead of turning into monsters all bcos of marriage. However, if anyone says marriage is not for them, they must remain celibate. Sex was made for marriage. Anything outside that is the big bad F...
      .......fornication!

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    2. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Akuko so I shldnt do eh! Pls tell d cheaters out there. Even in marriage, if he does and doesn't do me, I go out too and do my do. Be wise as a serpent.... Na bible talk am o

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  22. Anonymous7/16/2013

    Toxin, no one is occupying your space, if u like type one million words, there ll still be space. Yawnsssssss

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    1. Mumu you blind to see the name well. you better go and celibate your eyes,its fornication of wanting to spoil my name needs my hammer judgement. Dancing Azonto! No work on my desk so i get time today

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    2. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Wait Tosin.. I taught I warned you on Stella's blog about this your English? Is it because there is no work on your desk that u must kill us with this your mighty mighty Gbagauns? Sho ara e o.. Warn ya sef o

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    3. Hip hip hip Hurrrayyyyyy...... So you can read yoruba/write yoruba and yet your papa language dey hard you to comprehend...... Oya take the mess. Stella's blog ni ikeji's blog ko..... Hope you inhale all the spell cos i can't see why the toilet should have it when you are actually begging for it..... Eya abeg leave us to catch our fun ooooo. It's being long i did Gst 101 and 102 and this punany lecturer must teach me today.. Gbeske! Turning my left side ass to give you anoda... Hush

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    4. Anonymous7/16/2013

      What are u ranting all about?? For your info, am not the first anon, whoever called you Toxin did it purposely,and its not my business.. My own however is,why d bad English? This one sef pass typo.. Y not type in pidgin if English hard or better still try Yoruba..u go see person wey go help u translate am..

      Its just embarrassing when a pretty girl can't speak good English talkless of write,u come out here,put your picture on a blog and type gbagaun up and down.. Them dey try tell you and u still dey form one thing one thing, dey talk anyhow..who are u in a competition with here? Oje lo fara buruku bale.. Emi o ran e o!

      Bottom line is, Work on your English!!!!

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    5. yawnsssszzzzzzz. Stop explaining yourself i know its you. Teacher kpangolo, my offer for you still stands! joke Apart.............


      Night is drawing near
      Play ova. Shutting down.
      N:B
      I am not that sweet guy who give's you attention and pretend your over careful statement makes sense,i am simply the babe who does not give two fucks about a fake human trying to become Busy Body Corrector. Take the fart from the other side of my ass.. puuuooooooooo braka braka braka....

      lol! Am out. Enough trouble and play already. Anon hope you know am just kidding. It's all for fun and am sure same with you.

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  23. Anonymous7/16/2013

    Well said! Marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured! The men hold the keys to making the marriage successful.
    If you like clean, cook, wash, turn 360 degrees in bed, if he no wan make e work, e no go work!

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      You are so right, anon

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  24. Anonymous7/16/2013

    True talk@anon11.11

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  25. Blossom7/16/2013

    Marriage takes a lot of patience and wisdom. Even after 15 years i'm stilll learning. I averted a major quarel btw I and hubby this am. He got up met me in the kitchen to say some upsetting things, the more I responded d worse it got. I had to leave the kitchen to d balcony, thank God he didn't follow me. There I cooled off, and advised myself to be patient. It was funny the way I actually spoke out to myself, like I was talking to somebody else. Guess what later we reconciled and became lovey dovey. Marriage is work, though some people are more easy going than others.

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  26. I always feel sad anytime I hear about marriage crash down, but will must know it that it takes the two to tangle a good woman build our house the bag load of work in building a successful marriage rest on woman. Women God will help us to build our home

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      What are you typing? Abeg go back to nursery school, I must comment by force syndrome.

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    2. Anonymous7/16/2013

      It has pain this anon 3:40pm die.
      LWKMD. It's been a while I laughed this hard.

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    3. Desire7/17/2013

      Tangle ke? When did marriage become expression weave on? Mrs Ogundipe, I hope your husband doesn't see this o. Lol

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  27. Anonymous7/16/2013

    There is no hard and fast rule about anything in life. Not even in marriage. Love ur wife more than ur life, if the woman does not want the marriage to work, it wont. Submit to ur hubby from here to australia, if d man doesnt want to make it work, nada. Not all marriages get better with age. Not all that start well end well. The race is not to the swift.... May God have mercy on us all. Having said these, single ladies, pls look well before u leap. Do ur own part, pray wella, dont be fooled by wealth and think u can manage d character. If he is not God fearing as a bachelor dont think marriage will ultimately make him godly. Also, be godly yourself.
    Abt Funke Akindele, i doubt if anyone in here truly knows her story. It could have ended better but didnt. Sad.

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  28. Amen to that prayer Bola! *big sigh*! All I ask is for God's strenght and grace cuz e no easy o* in 2face voice*!

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  29. Anonymous7/16/2013

    The summary of the whole matter is, marry the one who truly loves you and the one you truly love. Love covers a multitude of sins. there is no perfect man or woman out there, even if there are their families may not be. The one who loves you will respect you, will not hurt you, will protect and cover you up and you will be willing to change patterns to suit your love and relationship. this has to be mutual though. The secret of marriage is God and operating as though you guys were still courting, can sleep without making out or talking with one another.
    God help us all

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      Sorry o, love is just not enough

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  30. Anonymous7/16/2013

    Rubynnia, your dad is a very wise man indeed!!! My sentiments entirely! A marriage will only work, if a man wants it to.

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  31. Mama Ijebu, 'on ur knees' there is metaphorical, meaning humility and submission...not necessarily literally goin on knees but if you have to, why not? U may not do it cos there is really no situation that warrants it..not that you can't kneel for him. Cos I hear ppl say, how can I kneel for my husband? for what?...that's wrong.

    @Jay dear...sowi...my arguments r really one sided cos all the time we blame the men and talk about all ther evils... Trust me, I can write 20 pages on how a man should treat his wife...so it's time we women took some heat too... Also I am looking at what is really obtainable. There are a lot of ill-mannered men out there and they are married to ladies who want a change. That is a reality. What do they do? Wait for the man to wake up one day and change? My dear, she needs to work! Fine, sometimes her work pays off...sometimes it doesn't...but I have seen marriages where the women won the men over with submission amd prayers.

    Also, there is no clause for submission. As long as u r married to him, U must submit whether he loves U or not. That is just the hard truth. If he doesnt love u, it's a sin, and if u dnt submit, it is a sin as well. That is y single ladies must shine their eyes well well! I am not looking at worse case scenerios cos if we consider that one, ppl like Kola Boof, Kemi Olunoyo(nt sure how to spell her surname) and Afrocandy were once married....so what of their husbands?

    Anyway, summary is, there are good and bad marriages. We can list a thousand things women should do and men should do, in the end, more marriages will crumble...that's life.

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    1. Metaphorical is fine, was just confused when i saw 'Ur knees are ur greatest weapon, use them. Go on ur knees before ur husband and submit to him'.. But its fine.. I understand your point now...*cheers*

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    2. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Ahdaisy you have serious complex wahala my prayer for you is that your sweet hubby should not disappoint you because if he does you are finished

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    3. Kola is actually Engaged right now..She is getting married soon.

      Forget the name dropping dear, we were not in their marriage so we don't know what happened.. I believe everyone has their story u can only speak for yourself and u really can't judge them if u are not in their shoes.. Life is Complex.. Some have it Good and Some hav it bad

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    4. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Ahdaisy shut up pls

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    5. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Anon 5:03 aka Ezewanyi, aka Queen of the coast aka Shayor, sharrap, drop ur comment and vamoose mumu, ewu.

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    6. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Anon 5:11,ur plan will not work u hear,u want myself,ezenwanyi and shayor to bash Ahdaisy but it aint happening.ewu congo

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    7. Anonymous7/16/2013

      Yawns@ queen of the coast

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    8. Shayor@Soup-a Bowl7/16/2013

      So we all are one and d same now? Interesting! *Grabspopcorn*

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    9. Queen Of The Coast7/16/2013

      Fake queen of d coast ur head is not correct wetin concern me if them bash ur mama

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  32. A bit late but these are my thoughts:

    1. The foundation of a marriage has to be God. Marriage is a life time journey, let God choose a partner for you;

    2. .Life doesn't work out that way. When you do get married, please don't neglect God. Seek His face on everything you do. Marriage is a threefold chord, between God, you and your spouse, a convenant which God doesn't take lightly so don't neglect God;

    3. Love alone isn't enough in a marriage. You need patience, tolerance, perseverance, humility, I could go on and on here;

    4. Please don't go into a marriage with unrealistic expectations. A man or woman who didn't stop certain habits before you got married will most likely not stop after marriage;

    5. Marriage is all about compromise, however I suggest you make certain fundamental rules which you can't bend. E.g faith, how he treats you, etc. Anything that's not fundamental can be worked around;

    6. The same God who asks wives to submit to their husbands tells men to love their wives as Christ loves the Church, so we all have duties. Both parties have to be willing to make it work.

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    1. MrsB I wish there was a like button, your comment has moved me beyond my wish. Thanks a lot.
      To all the holier than thou here, I guess your hubby reads this blog that is why you act. Please let's practice what we preach in our homes. God bless us all

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    2. I love this! Thank u dearest. My thought exactly cuz I believe the responsibilty of a peaceful home depends greatly on the man. Bible says love ur wife and wife sumbmit to ur husband. If there is no love I wonder how submission wil be possible. All I need is God's grace serz! Its not easy

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  33. @ Jay, 'egbe Fuwe re' .don't know if I spelt d esan well, but u may also be benin..I know u r 4rm Edo state. Oh well. God bless you for your wisdom,
    @ Ruby ,I wish its possible for your ur dad will teach this to men.He is so right!
    May God bless us with good marriages.Amen

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  34. *wish it were possible for your dad to teach this to men*

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  35. Anonymous7/17/2013

    Best comments Jay, ruby...n mrsB. Pls can some tell me where respect for women starts and ends and where submission begins? I like to be respected and I won't take shit in the name of submission. It takes the corporation of a man and a woman for a marriage to work so why are people blaming women?

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    1. Anonymous7/17/2013

      Same thought i have!
      where does submission begins from?
      be a yes-woman in the name of submission?
      sarah was not in total submission as they want us to believe, because she would not have insisted her step-son to be sent away from his father's house!

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  36. Anonymous7/17/2013

    Aunty Eya I love your blog but there's way too much negativity now. sorry got to go.

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  37. Without wanting to judge Funke Akindele, my belief is that marriage is not something you jump into when you are pressured. You must look before you leap. I married a man I met within 3 months because he was in a hurry but trust me I asked as many questions as were possible and all inquiries I needed to make. Today I am 17 years married. The Funke case from the tabliods say the man was a married man. If that is true Funke should have known that the guy could not have been her husband because he has allegiance elsewhere. I always say if a man has a wife single girls should leave them alone because if you marry him then you will understand what it means to be a kept woman because whatever promises he has made, he wont keep. I always tell my friends who are single especially the young ones that the northern men look after their girlfriends and sometimes dote over them but take time to check their wives then you know the girlfriend is just being enjoyed because as he is keeping another or other women he makes sure the women in the house lacks nothing including his love and respect. What am I saying here? ypoung single ladies should be patient for their own, the husband God has kept for everyone is there waiting but he cannot afford a Louis Vuitton or Chanel original bag so the married man is the next best thing. i believe Funke has learnt and will wait for her own man.

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