They Are Making Life Difficult For Us

Hello Aunty Eya and WC fam!Please I need you to post this cos I need advice from everybody here [don't forget to hide my ID]tnx.

 Am a girl in my early twenties.Am in a relationship with a nice,humble,hardworking  & a God fearing guy & we have started d process of settling down.
 My fiance's mum & kid brother are making life difficult for him. 


#1.My fiance's mum is a business woman but nobody knows what she does
with  her money.My fiance provides everything in that house[they live with my fiance now cos they had accomodation problems last year]I mean everything down to bathing soap but she doesn't appreciate all what he has been doing.

I spoke with her 2 days ago &  she told me that my fiance doesn't want to give her money,that he collects his money & hides it [which is not true].
#2. His kid brother is a terror.he is very stubborn & he steals a lot.Even after catching him,he will swear with God's name.He has done a lot of terrible things to my fiance.He stole my fiance's original school certificate from primary to university & denied even after my fiance pleaded & cried he still denied.


The latest one happened yesterday, my fiance forgot his blackberry phone on his bed cos he was rushing to work, when he got home he didn't see the phone. He searched everywhere but the phone was no where to be found. When I asked him if he asked his brother he said No that he doesn't want trouble.

 My concern is I don't like the way my fiance is handling his family.He is always complaining to me that he is tired & at the same time begging me not to end the relationship.


I really wish he'd put his family in order before I come in. I have told him to tell his pastor or anybody his mum respects what has been happening but he refused I don't know what else to do, that is why am here. Please help a worried sister. Will appreciate your advices. Thanks and God bless.
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Comments

  1. Felicia6/14/2013

    So? Weiting WC readers go help u do? Abi make we help u catch d thief? Or pursue ur BF's mother. From ur story it seems u re already leaving in d house sef. Mtcheew next pls

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    1. Anonymous6/14/2013

      If you havve nothing sensible to say then STFU!!!

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    2. Thanks anon 4.02 for silencing the manner less fool

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  2. I suspect your bf is actually stingy to his family... Buying soap in his house and doing stuff in that house doesn't make him lavish. Have you tried to find out what business his mom is engaged in and how profitable it is, cos if that business is worth it she won't loose her accomodation.

    I just feel you are not doing the right thing with the advise you give him, I also want to believe you are part of the reason his brother will want to steal his BB, cos he might have sensed that his older brother probably have bought you a bb and spends good on you than he will do to the family.

    If you continue to make his family look bad today, NOTE: by instinct they know, some day it will turn around, they all including him will turn against you!

    In my opinion, you've said absolutely nothing wrong about this family, leave the poop woman who nurtured her son alone to enjoy all she suffered for and also leave the juvenile alone, he'll change someday as he grow's...



    Nuff'Said!

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    1. Anonymous6/14/2013

      I can't believe a reading this kind of advice.

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    2. Anonymous6/14/2013

      How can u blame the poster for the brother's stealing ways.
      Am indeed shocked.
      Some1 that is gd is gd and sme1 bad is bad.
      Wat kind of talk is dis.

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    3. Poster6/14/2013

      @Ace,my fiance is not stingy @ all.Infact I don't understand his mum cos this guy is doing everything possible to make her happy but she is just been difficult[he gave her a huge sum of money to add to her buisness after like 2months she requested for more and he told her to wait till when he gets paid,she nagged,starved them & reported him to his uncles that he refused giving her money]it is really affecting him but he has refused to sit the mum down and explain things to her.And for his bro am not the cause cos even before we started dating the guy has been giving them trouble.

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    4. Poster6/14/2013

      @Ace d bro u are calling a juvenile is 26 years old.

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    5. Anonymous6/14/2013

      Poster pls ignore this comment from ace cos he is not making any sense. I can't believe he typed dis rubbish dat u r d reason y his younger brother is a thief. Mcheeewwww. Can u hear urself ace or were u actually high on drugs wen u typed dis rubbish? Dis is d worst comment I have ever seen on WC since I knew this blog. Worst advice ever.I hve never insulted any1 on this blog but on this has forced it out of my mouth.

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    6. The society always blames the woman for everything including the inadequacies of the family.The mother raised him yes, it doesn't mean she should drain him completely besides he has a fiancee; signs that he wants to start a family of his own. As for the younger brother he is just a common theif and your fiancee had better put down his foot before he is shot dead on the street by Police men. Na so e dey start from stealing brother's things to bank robbery. As for you my dear poster, don't let love blind you this family is going to remain the same twenty years from now if you can't take the heat you best leave the kitchen before the food starts boiling.

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    7. Ace are you by any chance the related to the family?? cos this your comment seems like you know the family and you are rising up to their defence.

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    8. Ace Boo6/14/2013

      Abeg abeg, make una free Ace o. Dear poster, what did you call yourself again? Do you live with them already? Hahaha, wonders shall never end o, see as you take wash your boyfriend dirty linen for outside sha. Odikwa egwu! Please what's your connection here now? Why are you the pained person in this case? Where exactly did you come in? Mcheeew, that's how they will be blaming mothers in law when the time comes. Continue making enemies for yourself you hear? If your boyfriend can not handle his family, how is that your business? Rubisi o

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    9. Ace, may the Good Lord have mercy on your silly comment and equally empower you with wisdom to discern what should be and what should not be, because you obviously don't know anything.

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  3. Anonymous6/14/2013

    Lmao, that family is a disaster o! How do you hope to raise a child in that kind of environment? *sigh* what people do for love. Anyways, he should get himself sorted out before marrying you and please my dear, stop getting all involved! You are yet to become his wife and don't really have a say as you are still a third party

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  4. HE SHOULD GET THEM A SELF CONTAINED APARTMENT. IS UR FIANCE A WEAKLING THAT HE'S YOUNGER BROTHER DOESNT EVEN RESPECT HIM? WHEN HE STANDS UP TO BE A MAN, THEY'LL RE-ORDER THEIR ATTITUDE. ITS HIS HOUSE FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, THEY OWE HIM TO BE RESPECTFUL. HE SHOULD SIT THEM DOWN AND HAVE A TALK.. HE'S AFRAID TO ASK HIS "KID BRO" ABT HIS MISSING PHONE? HIAN. ANYWAYZ MY ADVICE TO U: DONT EVER BRING URSELF IN THE MIX. ADVICING HIM/PRAYING FOR HIM IS ALL YOU CAN DO. THEY ARE HIS FAMILY, AND U ARENT YET. AND DONT MARRY THIS MAN IF THESE ISSUES ARENT SORTED. OR ELSE YOU WOULD COME TO AUNTY EYA WITH "HELP MY HUSBAND'S FAMILY IS DRIVING ME INSANE! SHOULD I LEAVE OR STAY". BYE BYE

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  5. Anonymous6/14/2013

    I get that ur worried bout the burden of takin care of an extended family, it not easy bear with him.
    Why don't u advise ur fiance to get an apartment for he's mum if he can afford it am sure she also want to be independent.
    He also has to get involved in her biz and possibly change it cos he can't continue to give her handouts.
    As for d kid brother ur man is older and shld be able to man up and handle him approriately cos its jst silly that he shld be allowed to get away with all these.

    All d best

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  6. Dear, no matter wat u do, don't involve ursef o, just pray for him. I don't know why he should be afraid to ask his KID bro for his phone when it is obvious dat he took it! Dat one na fear abi na respect?? Hian!

    Ur BF should man up! As d first son of the family he should start acting like d man he is! What is he afraid of??? Pastor cannot solve dis one dear, he needs to Stand up!
    If things continue like dis, abeg find ur level,trust me u don't want dat kinda man as a husband!

    All d best dear!

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  7. Chiomz6/14/2013

    Pls ur not yet hs wife n ur already acting like one. His mother is already repoting him to you...na wa oooo...it seems like u sef like wahala...
    Your not his wife yet, so leave him to handle his family matter..your already mendling with in-laws, allow him to be in charge, if he can't control his family then how r u even sure that he can handle his future family.
    Meanwhile the only thing you can really do for him is to pray and just advice him.
    Pls just be his Fiancée for now...and enjoy it ooo cos der wud be plenty of time to be his wife. Don't give ursef problems, focus on sorting ur own self out first because marriage is hardwork.
    And pls before you marry him make sure he has sorted out his whole issues so that we wunt v to start giving you anoda advice in some months time.
    All the best ok.

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  8. @Poster pls dnt eva get involved in your fiancee and his family's issues cos sooner or later d mum will say u are turning the son's heart against her. And dis one ur fiancee cnt even stand his kid bro to ask for his fone, he will so join his mother to call you BAD. Advice your fiancee to get an apartment for his family. Shikena

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  9. Anonymous6/15/2013

    Ace I no go lie u disappointed me and aces boo just STFU already.. Poster abeg let ur man put his feet on the ground and handle his family matters jare.. Seems like u'll be the man of the house when you both get married o

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  10. Anonymous6/15/2013

    @Ace boo, God bless you for that comment.
    Poster please take several rough seats. So you felt comfortable typing that rubbish you put up there? Who made you a judge over that family and please, do you have any physical evidence that the brother steals? They have not married you and you are claiming that they are making life difficult for you, who are you? In case you have forgotten, every family has its own wahala and I'm very sure yours is even worse than what you put up there, rme.
    WC family, i hail you people o. One-dimensional comments all through, maybe when someone else, especially an outsider, posts your family's problem online, then your eyes will clear. Support evil and get evil in return - Karma!

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    1. Anonymous6/15/2013

      So a woman shldnt be worried about the family she is marrying into right?
      Wat makes d poster an outsider biko?
      I taya for una on dis blog.

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    2. Anonymous6/15/2013

      Anon 6.59 this evil u sopport will surely come back to u. And karma will catch up with u and this hateful comment. Nonsense. How is the girl supporting evil or u just felt like typing something. You, ace boo and ace are all STUPID!

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    3. Anonymous6/15/2013

      LOL, y r u so mad? @Anon 8.02

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  11. Anonymous6/15/2013

    My dear,if you believe you have a future with him,then you should be worried because when you guyz get married his extended family also becomes yours.you however need to tread with caution. These habits will not cease just because he is married to you. Advice your fiancee to get his mum and brother an apartment but know that the brother will keep on stealing except if he decides to change.you may also wish to seat his brother down and gently and lovingly advice him to change his ways just as you will do to your own brother. Be careful how to come in between.also gently talk to your financee.if it is unbearable,leave or you can decide to stay and tolerate their habits. If you get married to him,be ready to endure and take steps to protect your home from the brother that steals.

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