My Qualifications Might Drive Away Any Potential Suitors?

Hello Aunty ojay, 
        I came about your blog two months back and have been an adherent reader. Therefore I would like to table my issues here so all WC readers can advice me on what to do. Am 29 years old studying in the UK and just completed my MBA program a month ago and I graduated with merit.


 I wish
to do my PHD but everyone around me keeps saying “NO MAN WANTS AN OVER QUALIFIED WOMAN”.
My mother is in support of the idea whereas my Dad is scared my qualifications might drive any potential suitor. 


Need I say I have not been in any relationship in the past year because my supposed boyfriend got intimidated and we ended things amicably. Nevertheless, my admission for the PHD is in progress I would be getting my letter soon.

A lot has been on my mind, do I return to Nigeria and await my supposed suitors or take the bull by the horn and go ahead with my programme? (BB confused face). Please I came here to seek advice, not insults. Thanks

Comments

  1. Any man dt is intimidated by u, doesn't deserve u. Nid I say more?

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    1. Anonymous6/25/2013

      Always first to comment. I will sure beat you to it just that I don't know when Aunty Eya sends new posts.

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  2. U dnt knw dt I live with Eya? So I'm alwys d 1st 2 knw. Hahahahaha

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  3. Anonymous6/25/2013

    Wot if u come bak n d right suitor neva comes,wot if he comes and u live d rest of ur lives knwing u gave up who u really wantd 2 b,wot if u finally get ur mister right n hw has inferiority complex n leaves in d end.....its time 2 b realistic dear,d man who'd luv u will do so evn if u r d president of Nigeria n anyone who's intimidated by dat isn't meant 2 b wif u ..#Ugo#

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  4. Anonymous6/25/2013

    Please my dearest,as ivy brown said any man who is intimidated by your achievement is not meant for you.Go ahead and do your phd.Please considering the rate at which we have loads of nonsense men in the society now,the best thing any girl can do for herself is to have the best qualification to secure a brighter future because no man is to be trusted.Please Please and Please,do not change your dreams and aspirations because of any man on earth.No body knows tomorrow.Provided you think PHD would do you alot of good in your future career please get it.Intially I used t have that mentality but guess what I have changed it and even said if I break up with my present sweet bf/fiance now, I would just pursue my career to the hightest of heights and along the line adopt kids and make them my kids.I might sound self centered but please ooo men of thses days are dick heads so grab all you can do.My father always says the best thing any man can do for his daughters is to give thm the best education so that they don't get to rely on any man even when they get married. Sweetheart,please ooo get your degree dear and pray about it provided you life a good and decent lif.You man would come by the way.Women need to stop thinking they need to get married for them to be looked at great achievers.GO ONNNNNN PROVIDED YOU THINK IT IS NEEDED IN YOUR CAREER PATH DEARIE!

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    1. Anonymous6/25/2013

      SORRY FOR MY TYPOS*

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  5. Anonymous6/25/2013

    a beg give me your address. my eldest brother needs exactly a woman with your qualification. even with the phd you can go ahead nsogbu a diro. just leave your e mail with anty eya biko

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  6. Anonymous6/25/2013

    my dear go ahead wit ur program ok.no reasonable man wants a liability but an helper in life. ur right partner wil come soon

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  7. Anonymous6/25/2013

    Go ahead with your programme. When the right suitor comes, he'll come for you despite all odds. You might even meet him right there in school *winks*

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  8. Anonymous6/25/2013

    Go ahead with your programme. When the right suitor comes, he'll come for you despite all odds. You might even meet him right there in school *winks*

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  9. if woman too go school, she no go see man wey go marry am = olden days talk. My dear dis is 2013 go ahead and grab all d degrees , d correct man go come.

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  10. Anonymous6/25/2013

    My dear go ahead any man who is intimidated by d height u v attained isnt worth u,someone who really deserves will apreciate u for who u r and not ur qualification,so forge ahead jor

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  11. Before reading the comments, I actually thought some people would advice her to leave education and look for a husband. I'm impressed so far. As someone said before, if any man is intimidated by your education, he shouldn't be the man you'll marry. He should go and look for a primary school dropout to marry. Do you phd, a marriage is not the beginning and end of life. There are many things you should enjoy too. Whatever you choose to do, I wish you well.

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  12. You deserve the best both HUBBY and ACADEMICS... don't rationalize it!

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  13. What? Babe, pls...Nowadays even school cert holders want Professors as wives. Dnt dull ur self...

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  14. What if your husband is presently at your proposed PhD school and that's where you are destined to meet him? Don't streamline your 'possible meeting places' to just 9ja. Think out of the box. Pray to God to lead him to you, not you coming to seat in 9ja hoping he'll spring out. Okay? Just be yourself. So many professors are happily married. Your husband should be one that wants your growth, not stagnation. All da best.

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  15. By all means necessary, go ahead with your PHD. The right man will come when its your time and nth will stop him.

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  16. I agree with Jay.
    Go to school ooo...dt wud put food on ur table.

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  17. Anonymous6/26/2013

    Pls just go on wit ur studies,every woman has her own man somewhere waiting for her, if you re destined 2 marry u will marry my dear don't bother ur self.

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  18. Anonymous6/26/2013

    They have all said it.Carry go joor.Its God that owns the future!

    ADEYANJU

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  19. They have said it all, plz go on wit ur sch, I pray to God to grant me my request cuz I wish to be a proffessor before my 40th year.Any man dat doesn't want a bright future for you doesn't deserve u. Gone are the days for ladies wit too much qualification. I wish u the best.

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  20. Fyn Ijebu Chic6/26/2013

    If there is anytin after PHD, kindly pursue. My aunt is in her 30's and went for her masters even after 'talk talk' from my grannies. Only my mum supported.
    Aunty Eya, una never tender my assignment oooo.
    Pls, hw can I preserve grounded Ogbono well!!!

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    1. Put d Ogbono in an airtight container and keep in d freezer

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  21. @ poster pls develop ur sef 2 d highest level biko. Wat matters s ur character, hope u av a good one? cus dats d only tin I can imagine dat mite stop u from gerin a spouse. U are hot cake sef for men da knw ur worth.

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  22. Priscy6/26/2013

    Pls go ahead and do ur PhD. God will bless you with the right man who would be proud rather than intimidated by ur qualifications

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  23. Anonymous10/30/2013

    Dear, any man that is intimidated by u does not deserve u; every man appreciates a woman of substance and one who can be an asset to him and not liability. HE IS NOT MAN ENOUGH FOR U IF HE FEELS INTIMIDATED BY UR SUCCESS. Dats if u dont go rubbing it in on his face.

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