Marry A Man You Couldn't Imagine Yoursef Kissing

Dear Aunty Eya,

Thank you for your wonderful blog, I'm only 21 and I can tell you that I've learnt a lot from it. The reason why I sent out this mail is to seek the opinion of your esteemed readers. 

As a girl in her 20s the pressure to be in a relationship is constantly glaring in my face and to be honest the reason why I'm not in one is 'cause I haven't found what I'm looking for. I get a lottttt of attention from guys and to be honest I'm still baffled as to why as it gets overwhelming at times. Lately I've been praying to God about my future husband. I met this guy who's pretty much ready to settle down since he's in his early 30s. He also seems to want to shower me with money but I had to distant myself from him 'cause I know that I can't date him. He's just not what I want in a man (physique wise).

My question now is would God ever send to you a man that is completely out of what you ask for? a man that you couldn't imagine yourself kissing. I'm confused. I need advice please.

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  1. Anonymous6/10/2013

    SMH and walks away

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    1. BEKEES6/11/2013

      Dearie since you are not ready for marriage now and the qualities u see in him is not okay for you jst walk away.

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  2. Anonymous6/10/2013

    Please come back, why walk away naa? You nor see say she need advice? Oya say something.

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  3. Anonymous6/10/2013

    21? Are u done with school?

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    1. Anonymous6/10/2013

      yup I just graduated. I'm nt saying dat I'm ready to settle down. I'm just curious to know how God works in regards to my question. I still have a lot more to accomplish so settling dwn is far frm my mind

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    2. *RME* so what's wrong if she's 21? u think she's too young to be having interest in guys or what?

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    3. Anonymous6/11/2013

      @Bunmi is ur type dat encourage young one to sin.Fornication is a Sin Takpame!I hate it wen elders see the truth and refuse to say it.
      @poster if you are not ready for marriage now y engage in fornication?jst hold on to God and I tell you HE alone will give you who ur heart desires.

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  4. My dear shine ya eye well well! Forget that gist that men are scarce. You dnt love the man in any way, you just like the money and attention. So pls just close his chapter and live your life. You'll find the right man. After marriage the attention and money might cease...or even if it remains, you'll get use it. What else will you hold on to?

    Just keep praying.

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    1. Anonymous6/10/2013

      thank you so much aunty Ada. God bless you

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  5. Chiomz6/10/2013

    My dear....when u meet d right man for u, u will definetly no ok. For now just concentrate on developing ursef.
    Hey everyone....today is my birthday...thanking God for d gift of life

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    1. Anonymous6/10/2013

      Thank you very much. Happy birthday to you, may your heart desires be granted. Amin

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    2. Happy birthday darling. May God grant u all ur heart desires Amen. Oya tell me how old are u lol.

      Poster pls take ur time u still hv a long way. Just keep praying abt it nd believe. Whn u see d right person u ll be like waooooo is this what luv is.

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    3. Happy birthday to you, Llnp!

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    4. Happy Birthday. This New year of your life, may you experience much more favour and grace. LLNP.

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    5. Happy birthday Chiomz, God bless you now and always.

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    6. Happy birthday Chiomz. best wishes now and always.

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    7. Happy birthday Chiomz!
      May your dreams be realised in this new horizon!

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    8. Duchess6/10/2013

      HBD sunshine, praying that happiness and joy never depart from u IJN....Amen! Love u till forever babes

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    9. HBD choimz! God bless u

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    10. Shayor!6/10/2013

      Happy birthday Chiomz! Long life n prosperity..

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    11. Gloexcel6/11/2013

      HBD! Wish u LLNP

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    12. Best wishes to u chiomz! HBD

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    13. HBD! Chiomz God bless you.

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    14. Bislondy6/11/2013

      Happie Birthdae Chiomz...God's blessings to you now and forever

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  6. Anonymous6/10/2013

    Okay...that's good. For ur question, if u set ur standard and let God knows that this is what u want and that HE will grant you. Don't be in a hurry to rush into any relationship, follow ur heart as per what u want in a man but know that he might not entirely perfect. What I'm trying to say is this, he might be exactly what u want outwardly *physically* but might lack in some other area(s) maybe like morally, sexually or socially. We are not always perfect though...ONLY GOD is. But in all, be patient and u shall get what u want...good a thing u are still young. U can concentrate on building urself educationally so as a have a better career path once u are ready. A good job sometimes attracts good looking guys ur way

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    1. Anonymous6/10/2013

      thank you very much. I learnt a lot from your advice. God bless you.

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  7. Thank you aunty Eya for posting my mail on your blog. Permit me to clarify that I'm not saying that I'm ready to settle down neither am I desperate to get into a relationship, my intentions are absolutely far from it. I only sent the mail out of curiosity. You know how they say one should look past appearance if one can and that it's the heart and attitude of the person you intend getting with that matters. My question is would God send you someone that is completely far from what you imagine or desire.

    For those wondering I just graduated from university.

    Please post this for me. Thank you

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  8. Don't mistake this very man who is ready to settle down for God's answers to your prayers. Don't assume that cos you have been praying lately and he just showed up, that means he's the answer. The answer should have what you asked God for, right? Just don't settle. Always seek the face of God and don't assume.

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    1. Just saw Aunt Eya's comment; Of course, God can always bless us in ways that surpass our expectations. The best gifts in life may not always be wrapped in the most appealing ways outwardly. The most important thing is to not assume he is God's gift when he is not. Let God give you wisdom when He has sent the right person to you, tall or short, fat or slim.

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    2. Anonymous6/10/2013

      thank so much aunty Jay. God bless you

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  9. @poster, focus ur prayers more on the content of ur guys character. Physical appearance and attraction are also important, and u shd pray abt those too, but when all else fades, character is what will see u thru trying times in ur relationship. All the best.

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    1. Anonymous6/10/2013

      thank you. God bless

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  10. Do not marry or date who you can't appreciate in anyway or package he comes in.

    But my WARNING... Never set a standard for yourself!

    Be wise to discern, be careful to love, be ready to compromise, be strong when you break and always put God in it all...


    Av a blissful monday evening!

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    1. Anonymous6/10/2013

      Thanks ace. God bless

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  11. Babe, please don't let the pressure get to you; your life purpose is different from those around you.

    Ask for GOD's guidance in every step you take. Take time to learn and discover exciting things that will add to your knowledge base. You should be preparing to go for NYSC, right?. Enjoy your service year and have "godly" fun.

    You'll still come across many more that will over meet your expectations. You are still young at heart. Enjoy your youth and don't let anyone steal that from you.

    Like they say, when you meet the one, you'll have that inner peace within you. All the best baby girl!

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    1. Anonymous6/10/2013

      thank you soo much. God bless you. I live in the UK and I'm prepping for a masters not NYSC.

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    2. Very good! That should occupy your mind for sometime. Take care.

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  12. Johnson6/10/2013

    God does not always give you what you ask for – He gives you what you need. Ask God to reveal the right person, ordained by Him – at the appropriate time he will appear!

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  13. Sweetie,naturally no man is perfect,no man should be.its part of the job of the lady to work on that imperfection.if this guy had the perfect physique and ever thing you ever wanted,something would def be wrong somewhere.he might be a cheat,a liar or something.am happy you know the importance of prayers already,just keep on praying.if really he is the one for you,you would eventually fall hopelessly in love with him.and nope,you aren't to young to start worrying about these things

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  14. God will and can never give u what u ont want even though his ways are not ours;meaning those tins we desire may not always be his will for us.His gifts added no sorrow and it must give u Peace of mind. Just channel ur request to God and be careful in choosing a partner, thank God ur still young so being in a relationship yet is not a do or die affair, take ur time so u will get one of the best even though not "perfect"..

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  15. Bislondy6/11/2013

    I used to say that I can't date a short guy. Now I know better and I'm matured. I implore you not to base your feelings on physical attraction, instead look out for inner peace, spiritual compartibility, the way he treats you and people around. Pls always involve God in all ur doings. Wish you da best dearie

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