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Aunty eya gud evening thanks 4this ur blog bcos it has helped so many people .pls hide my email and my identity. I'm a 24 years old gurl,I use 2b a happy young chap wen I was 18.I fell in love den and was wonderful until I found out my guy was cheating on me!broke up,since den at 21 I have never been happy in any relationship (although 2).

1st I met an over possessive banker
who wanted 2marry me but I could not stand the heat so I left,in my 3ool I meet a guy(my current boyfriend)whom I love but he was not dat boxed up(money)I do the spending,I found happiness at 1st but now it like a burden 2me.he gives me 5k or 10k. Which will not b enough 4 a week feeding and expenses been made in our course in skul.

 I lost my mum 2011 and since she was my best frwnd my mentor things has changed 4me!she provide everytin 4me,since den thing has been difficult 4me,my dad is does not care about us,he only pay our fee and dat all. dere is no father and children relationship at all! But outsiders  see him as a caring man.

the little money I saved, I have used  in clothing us(3younger ones)medical assistances,and now I'm fed up!I'm broke and my service is in 2weeks don't have a dime!pls don't ask me about any relations bcos they are as gud as dead every1 minds der own business,my dad torment me every now and then even ask me 2pay him back all the money he spent on me since my birth!imagine?

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  1. Shayor!6/09/2013

    I don't understand this post! What exactly do u want us to advice you on? We should tell you to break up with your broke boyfrd and hook up with an aristo or a rich boy! Babes! Learn a trade or look around you, you will find a service waiting to be rendered and make mny. Pls, girls learn to be independent abeg!

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    1. I think the girl is just frustrated. Dearie, just keep your head high and you will scale through. I am a graduate today and my university days weren't funny at all. Then if your boyfriend who has little and can still share the little with you, how much more when he has in the future? Please don't quit him. His love for you is enough to keep you going. At least since your father doesn't care, you have a BF who cares! Then spend less on unnecessary things and do menial or part time jobs. God be with you.

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  2. What help do u need now? #confused#

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  3. How can an adult at uni level write like a 1yr old? Isn't it possible 2 re-read ur story b4 sending it 2 Eya? That's y I don't take posts like dis seriously. And I'm amazed at how girls go in2 a relationship with a guy, esp a young one and their understanding is that, since he is my BF he is to cater to me. A boyfriend's responsibility is not to provide for ur monetary needs, that's wat aristos do. That mind set really bothers me. If your parents sent u to school, then they shud take care of you and not your BF. Geeez

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  4. Anonymous6/09/2013

    Geeez! whats all these ? whatever happened to proper use of english? anty eya please stop hurting our eyes by posting such! and u writing epistles about una landlady pikin (anty eyas first daughter ahda) lol please if u must make sense use your edit features!^_^

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  5. Dear poster..go and face your books and learn use of english..no wonder your dad doesn't want to pay your bills.am sure u and ur siblings are frustrating d poor man.I pray u haven't even strted runs and following old men. Your post sounds lik lamentation and u said 10k is not enough for a week. Is your bf your father abi wetin sef, must he pay your school fees and all before you love him.better sit your dad down, if you have offended him..beg and cry well well, promise to be a Good girl and make him proud. Lastly, move closer to God, ask him to send helper to you even if your dad is not capable.

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  6. I swear I don't understand dis post at allllll!

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  7. dey v made guys as dia ATM machine..na wa o..

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  8. peace-udo6/09/2013

    Ur write-up is incomprehensible.
    How can one advise when she can understand the language with which u have written up there. The whole sentence is muddled up, pls rephrase!

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  9. I don't even know what to say.
    Anyway Happy Sunday*just passing*

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  10. peace-udo6/09/2013

    "can't understand"

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  11. Anonymous6/09/2013

    Ur father still pays ur school fees and ur BF gives you money. What else do you want? Some1 is giving you money and you are still complainig. 10k is not enough 4 a week? *rme*

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  12. Anonymous6/09/2013

    My dear,u r just a weist! What kind of advise do u need pls? "Dump dt bf&get a richer man or aristo"? U have a father who is wastn his money payn ur skul fees and a bf wu gvs u 5/10k weekly wen u aren't even fluent in english?? Wat did u even go to skul to do wen uv graduated frm primary,secondary schools&univerisity& yet good english is far away frm u? Its no wonder ur dad is tired of u! How much do u want ur bf to gv u? 50/100k a wk?? Axe ursef dis-Do u kno hw many pple wld kill to have sum1 gv dem 5/10 weekly? U have it&u r bn greedy&ungrateful! Am pretty sure u r one of those girls who won't cut their coats acc to deir size! They want to wear d latest clothes,own all d lengths of diff human hair,latest shoes&bags yet dey cant afford it hence dey do runs to b able to get them&b amongs d "happening girls"! Have u eva tot of savin dt money&usin it to start a trade to better ur life?? Girls like u want to live life on a fast line! U better stop bin a weist,turn to God&get a life!

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    1. Anonymous6/09/2013

      Which one be weist?!

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    2. Anonymous6/09/2013

      I wonder o

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    3. Anonymous6/09/2013

      "Axe urself"nko?lolllll!

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    4. Anonymous6/09/2013

      If you want to criticize someone's English make sure you get it right yourself
      Weist=waste
      Axe=Ask

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    5. All d above anons must live under a rock. So u havnt heard d term 'weist'? Dis was on social networks and stuffs. A commedian pronounced it dat way and ppl started making use of it. Even Linda Ikeji sumtimes uses the term 'weist'. So wats d big deal. U guys sha want 2 criticise. Get enlightened abeg. Every person and der gran knows weist is a slang 4 'waste'. Ignorant ppl.

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    6. Anonymous6/09/2013

      Let's not murder the English language all on the name of slangs or whatever. It is people like this who will be writing this kind of English in official reports etc. I once had a subordinate who wrote a report for me and some of the sentences were in pidgin. Well that guy doesn't have his job anymore.
      Moreover one thing I like about WC and Bella Naija the other blogs are the way the commenters type out words in full.
      I always get a headache reading some of the comments on Linda ikejis blog

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    7. Anonymous6/09/2013

      Tank u anon 4:47 pls tell dese ignorant goats dt weist&axe r slangs! Twas used by a comedian "Chigirl". U pple shld shut up&do ur research b4 insultin me! @anon 8:11 and all others insultin me back to sender X 1000!!!

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    8. Anonymous6/10/2013

      It's you and your family, if you have one, that are ignorant he goats!!! Ewu Gambia!!!

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  13. Babe, I sympathise with you but let's be sincere, you need to upgrade your English for the sake of her future.

    I couldn't understand your mail because the reading flow wasn't there.

    Your bf gave you money while in school and you are complaining it isn't enough? Babe, you should be happy and grateful someone's giving you something.

    I for one don't believe in bfs giving their gfs money esp for expenses that's the sole responsibility of their parents except if the guys wants to do it.

    Babe, starting learning to be INDEPENDENT! If you continue with this mentality, it won't do you good oh. The guy gives, you say it isn't enough. You made it sound like he signed a contract with you to be giving you money as at when due.

    If he stops giving you, that's the end of the relationship, isn't it? It's ladies like you that expect your husbands to shoulder your family responsibilities by force!

    Please focus on her oncoming youth service for now and try to save as much as you can. Regarding being broke, you'll overcome. I pray GOD sends helper your way miraculously.

    Is there something you are good at doing that can fetch you money like hair braiding etc? You could you it to make money during your NYSC.

    While at service, please take time to acquire other vocational skills, read to improve your English whether online or in prints and make as much connections as possible.

    As for your dad, please reject any negative word or curse he pours on you and your siblings.

    Like I always say, words are powerful. Whenever he uses such word, in your mind begin to say the positive for yourself and siblings.

    Please fast and pray that GOD destroys whatever challenges/negatives you people are experiencing. Ask for GOD's favour upon your lives because you need it seriously.

    Please be positive no matter what and profess positive things to yourself even if you don't believe it. Also your younger ones need to start bracing up when you are gone for service.

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  14. Anonymous6/09/2013

    anon 3:06 please go back to school before you COME here to advice people. whats with you people and poor english nah? ati 'weist' ati hips

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    1. Anonymous6/09/2013

      Lolllllll anon 4:05 queen of england!

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    2. Anonymous6/09/2013

      So bloody what?

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    3. Anonymous6/09/2013

      If u dnt understand d humour in it, kip ur bloody to yourself. Mind u I'm nt d anon that used it in her sentence.

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  15. kendra6/09/2013

    instead of people to bring solutions to the problem on board or stay silent,they are bringing up something else that isnt in anyway related to the issue...na wa ooo. Come to think of it,what did Ahdaisy do u? u want her to come and cry to u all that her husband is suffering her abi shes not happy in her marriage? she should leave the blog for all of u? abi she should do what? i dont really get... almost everybody commments on every post,why is her own killing u all? i know more than 20 regular commentors abi what will i call them?(shys away),but none of u attack them,y'all just sit and wait for her to say something.

    If u are tired of ur life,or ur marriage is bad,please come out and allow the young woman enjoy her life and home. God has blessed her.go and look for u own blessing... I hate the HATE in this blog all on one person


    As for poster,even though i dont really know where u need advice,cos u didnt say what want,i think u should stop seeing ur boyfriend as ur ATM machine cos he's not... some peoples boyfriend dont give them anything and they dont complain,u dad pays ur sch fees and he gives u money,manage it... the books u cant buy,borrow or photocopy... make notes in class and attend all classes,u will pass. U are even going for service in 2weeks time so what is it ur want? u will start earning ur own money and paying the little bills u can afford. please ur boyfriend is not ur father,he is ur boyfriend,you are not his responsibility,what ever he gives u manage please. imagine if he had money.he would give u more,he has little and he still shares with u,ahh ahh,i dont know what u want o

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  16. Anonymous6/09/2013

    ANTY EYA ARE YOU SLEEPING? POST ANOTHER TIN JOOR THIS ONE HAS EXPIRED.AS YOU NO WAN COOK TODAY GIVE US ANOTHER STORIES THAT TOUCH

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  17. My dear..u'r complaining out of fustration bt i wnt u to knw dt smone knws abt ur problm and until u cry out to hm(God) n make sure ur hands r clean then,u'll surely laugh last n anoda tn s dt u dnt hv to complain abt ur boi frnds nt gvn u enof moni cos dt might b wt he has ok jst make sure he sincerely loves u n dt u do return d love bk n coupled wt purity conquers all..dnt really expect hm to gve u all cos he s jst a boi frnd nt a husband,u'r nt hs responsibility cos he has nt left hs father n mother to cliff to u as d bible recorded so dnt end it up bcos of dt reason bt if u cnt bear it...then..bt pls b careful besides,u didnt ask any questn or for any help jst complaining

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  18. Anonymous6/09/2013

    Let's tell ourselves d truth abeg!!having a bf is not for finacial but its a huge part of. If d guy doesn't have nobody is saying he shud go n steal but then, let's not pretend to be holier dan thou by sayin we do not kip a bf for financial gain. Wat do we keep dem for then? Sex? Abeg take sevaral seats

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  19. Anonymous6/09/2013

    My husband does not even give me 10k per week as allowance and I have two kids, a maid a car to fuel n phone to recharge.

    Your BF is not your husband. He doesn't owe you anything. The bible says contentment is much gain. Don't use greed to chase that good man away. Some would have labelled you a liability n left you since.

    Learn a good trade that cn fetch you money and please, work on your english and give your life to Jesus so he can calm you down.

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  20. Anonymous6/10/2013

    Yes her english is bad, but d few inteligent ones here have manged to understand what she is saying rather than attack her for her poor english. Pls we should learn to be mature and stop talking k lessly. What if u were working in a customer k unit of an organization and u meet people who can't xpress them selves well, is dis how u'll treat dem. It's unfair I tell u!
    @ poster. I no u r feeling frustrated. But pls remember to always pray. As for ur bf he is a gud man. But don't see him as a pay master.cuz if u have that mentality, u'll loose him and end up sleeping wiv various men for money. Be determined to be independent. And be thank ful for wat he gives u. It's not easy having a father who doesn't k and is verbaly abusive. Thank God u r tru wiv skool an will be leaving for service. Use ur allowance wisely and be determined to make it in life. Thank God u have love for ur younger ones. U r practicaly all they have as a mother. Keep showing dem love and be of good example and God will surely bless u! Each time u feel like d world is on ur shoulders, go to God in prayers and always sing praises u 'll feel sooo light. It is well wit u my dear. .
    TOKONI

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  21. 5/10k in a wk = 20/40k per month. Greed is in yr bloodstream. I don't understand what you want to hear from us. Any way, i understand where you are coming from. How can you say d money yr boyfriend gives u is not enough when you don't know how to make money? Yr problem is dat u ar looking at yr friends dat ar lying to u about their boyfriend giving them millions. Let me tell u some of them sleep with more than 10 men in a wk to get a hundred thousand naira , and they will tell u dat its their fiance dat gave to them. Yr boyfriend, not yr father, even yr own father dat doesn't care for/about u has peace it is yr boyfriend dat is not related to u dat u want to hang bcos u want more. Learn some trade pls, some people earn just 40k in 30 days and transport and feeding are included. Abeg make u no use dis kind eye enter husband house bcos u go frustrate big time. No be say u come from wealthy home wey e be say dem use money spoil u.
    Lest i forget go for a refesher course in English language after service, bcos nobody will like to employ u wit dis type of English, it is killing. Take care.

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