Am I Stupid?

Dear Madam Eya and honourable blog readers, is it OK for a girl to call her boyfriend stupid? We having an argument, I tell her she talks too much and should chill. The next
thing that comes out of her mouth is "You are very stupid" If a man did that, female blog readers call it domestic violence. Now what do you call this? I need you to talk to me please. 

Is it proper for a girl to say her boyfriend is Stupid? What am I supposed to do? Forgive a lady that is not remorseful? I need advice from other blog readers please.


  1. How dare you say a lady talks too much? SMH for u.

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  3. My bruh,u have the answer to your question already,"she talks too much"goes to show this is not the first time ,thats her nature and u know that,which made you say it.
    No need taking it too personal,this is one of her faults u'll have to deal with it while u make her overcome it. I'm sure she'll still apologise and its always sweet when we breakup to makeup.
    Waitoo! If u were Sister's hubby,am sure by now the story of you beating shege from her body will be headlining Sunnews paper.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

    1. Anonymous6/17/2013

      Lol. Stop it ooo. I think sister is a very sweet lovely woman. I really like her. So down 2 earth.

    2. sister6/18/2013

      @Bonaria,unfortunately am not kind of person that can be pushed around oooooooo
      At over six foot plus my hubby no dey argue with me sef but oooo u know wella u got me rolling on d floor with laughter loooolz

  4. Ace Bentley's Boo6/17/2013

    But come, what if you truly are?

  5. Anonymous6/17/2013

    Oh boy, do you know how many men call their women stupid? What do we do? nothing. or are you planning to dish her just for using the word stupid? Examine yaself pls.

  6. Work on her attitude, cos for a lady to call her man stupid is not nice one bit

  7. Anonymous6/17/2013

    if its ok to tell your babe she talks too much (which is also rude) then it will ok for her to say you are stupid. not supporting her sha but they say KIND WORDS BEGAT KIND ECHOES. so i think you should stop being rude first then she will follow suit

  8. Anonymous6/17/2013

    my husband is done of saying 'keep quiet my friend.' whenever we had even a minor argument even in front of the kids but one day i warned him seriously never to tell me that again if not i will give him a life time insult. since then if has stopped. you cant be talking to your wife or gf as tho she were a piece of shit. even people this days are polite to house helps let alone whom you are banging

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  10. talk to her and tell her you did not appreciate the way she spoke to you and called you stupid because that is rude. I believe couples should treat each other with respect despite the age difference. this past weekend bf and I went grocery shopping and I love to check all the aisle for random items. Oga started pushing me like a child. he was pulling my arm like I'm a child looking for candy IN PUBLIC! I just distanced myself till we got into the car and told him how I felt with a little harsh tone! don't be dragging me like that in public! talk to me that I should not waste time not drag me!
    point is, converse with your miss talkative :) she'll listen..cheers

    1. Anonymous6/17/2013

      Pls wen next ur goin to d shop com pick me cos I think we r in d same category. I like checkin every isle too#winks#michgirl

    2. Well said Pearl, very well said!
      Respect begets respect; you can't receive what you don't give!

  11. Queen Bee6/17/2013

    So na only stupid dem abuse u wey u come post for blog?the day she will abuse u more than that,that means u go kill am!
    I suspect u are very young and will be someone that will take things too personal easily,hope u are not violent.
    Women have mouth,the next lady u will meet might abuse u more than that but ur ability to ignore and hold urself is what makes u a real man.
    U can talk to her later to stop the use of insultive words during arguments.
    U can get ur respect in the relationship by respecting urself too.

  12. Well, men do worse things to women but that does not excuse we women. No one likes being insulted. So everyone should learn to control temper and words. Women we know ourselves, let's not pretend cos this post is from a guy.

    However I feel the poster is capable of physically abusing the lady for asking him that question. Oga poster, I am assuming o...but if na true, abeg no think am. Cos if we check now, you did something that made her talk.

    And note this! We women talk.. Men talk less. Period. Nothing like she talks too much.

  13. It's disrespectful for any woman to call a female friend 'stupid', let alone her man. It wreaks of total disrespect.

    But that aside, respect is MUTUAL and it is also to be EARNED. If you behave in ways that make her feel 'justified' to call you that (even though I don't feel it's justified in anyway), I see no reason why you both are still together, as that would mean you both don't respect each other at all, probably.

    But in all, respect is MUTUAL and it is to be EARNED. Capish!

    1. Jay, you just said it all. Its not right my brother. I know countless times I would have loved to insult the sh*t outta my ex but I refrain from it cos if he ever says anything disparaging to me, I will feel so hurt. Its shows clearly that your girl doesn't have respect for you and you don't have for her either. You both should have a heart to heart talk and try as much as you can not to talk while angry. You both should learn to RESPECT each other and your feelings too.

  14. I can't stop laughing!you said she talks too muich and she called u stupid! Lmao.this is funny but mr poster, women talk but telln her she talks too much is rude and shouldn't be condoled and her tellin u stupid might be out of anger. There's ds igbo adage dt I like, its translated as "polite words calms anger". So next time learn to be polite!!

  15. Licious6/18/2013

    Stupid?? Stupid?? You havent heard anything!!!
    How on earth do you tell a grown woman she talks TOO MUCH!!! For pete's sakes women are wired to talk as men tend to talk less than we do!!!
    Dont get me wrong i do not on any grounds justify or condone disrespect in any form,but please understand that as a man there are ways to communicate to a woman without insulting her person. And her saying/asking the 'stupid' question must have been borne out of irritation!!!
    Im sorry but respect is reciprocal, you cant give what you do not have. When u talk to/with someone in tones that depict maturity and respect, no matter what u would receive such in return. This maynt happen all the time though ,but most times patience is necessary when dealing with eachother.

    Im good natured but have a somewhat short fuse!!
    We were having a heated argument and suddenly i noticed he wasnt talking and i asked why and he told me that the last question he asked me, didnt yield a favourable answer to him hence evrything else i was saying to him after that, i "wasnt saying anything atall".
    Meaning all i was saying was non-sense!!!
    I dont know how someone else would react to that declarayion but i was on fire!!! My eyes glazed over, i counted 1 thru 10, i felt terribly insulted and i told him point blank to NEVER,NEVER talk to me with/in that tone or with those words ever again!!!
    He was soooo shocked and apologised immediately!!
    And i also apologised for my facial expressions, rapid gesticulations and raising my voice an octave higher!!! LOooOOoooLL!!!

    We are all different and know how to handle issues differently...
    Please take it easy and talk to her about it!!

    Sorry for the Epistle joooor!!

  16. Licious6/18/2013


  17. Anonymous6/18/2013

    Sorry poster bt U̶̲̥̅̊ started Ȋ̝̊†̥ all by telling ЧЯ babe D̶̲̥̅̊α† S̶̲̥̅̊ђε̲̣̣̣̥ talks too much.what D̶̲̥̅̊Ơ̴̴̴̴̴̴͡ expect?S̶̲̥̅̊ђε̲̣̣̣̥ replied U̶̲̥̅̊ Ŵi̶̲̅τ †ђξ correct answer ofcourse.we must learn to respect each other cos we are wired differently. U̶̲̥̅̊ sow respect, U̶̲̥̅̊ reap respect chikina.EPHY

    1. Nne ehn, we know you just got a new BB and we say congrats but please do us all a favour and do away with those scary fonts... They are just so childish #thankmelater#

    2. Anonymous6/18/2013

      Madam ITK,i know fφя̩̥̊ sure D̶̲̥̅̊α† U̶̲̥̅̊'ve been using BB from ЧЯ child hood.God bless U̶̲̥̅̊ but †ђξ information was not fφя̩̥̊ U̶̲̥̅̊ EPHY

    3. Anonymous6/18/2013

      Anon 1.27, pity your self abeg. Take the advice, it will do you good.

  18. If you actually told her she is stupid, you deserve that response. Kick her fat ass immediately.

    1. Anonymous6/18/2013

      Did u read d post @ all...jus confused daz all

  19. Am shock u're acting all up,you told her she talks too much!What about the insults that followed after that and before. Menh indeed you are stupid, hope you do forgive me becos ain't saying no sorry to you man, get the hell out of here. mtscheeeew

  20. Oga poster shey u have hear?
    Don't talk to ur GF like dat okay?
    And Pls try and forgive her eh, we women can be a handful at times!

  21. Respect begets respect like they have stated above. My guy n i were chatting yesertnite and i knew i was talking too much because he was making me do so. I wish i could tell him he was stupid and even more, but cos i have got the Holy spirit, i restrained myself. Its so annoying what silly things men make us women do. #ventcompleted. Poster, kindly check yourself if there is something you are doing that she's not happy about and try amend your ways, because we women talk more when we are angry.

    sorry for the epistle #whew

  22. Licious6/18/2013

    @Bibi: You got it right...."women talk more when we are angry....."
    He pushes you to the wall and when all hell lets loose(the avalanche of words come down) he begins to ask funny questions!!
    Men must learn to respect their women !!
    Nuff said in Ace's voice!!

  23. yes o my dear sister Licious

  24. Anonymous6/18/2013

    Who says men don't talk?these days they talk more its d women dat keeps quiet for peace to reign.and wen u keep quiet dey will insinuate dt u mean silence is d best answer for a fool causing anoda comotion.atims I wonder wat men really want.these days men can nagggggggg! Eish @poster u ddnt realy tell us y she insultd u.mayb u evn cald her a fool n she gav it bak to u


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