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The Best Age Difference Between Husband And Wife

Hi Madam Eya,
How are you? I am a silent male reader of your fun and Educative blog. I have a little thing bothering me right now. Can you and other wonderful users please help out?

Iam 29 and my fiancee is 30. The difference is just in months actually.
I love her dearly and want to spend the rest of my life with her. I took her to meet my parents and my mother feels she is old for me. According to Mother, women age faster than men and as such when she starts making babies, she will definitely look older. She advised that the best age difference is when a man is between 5 and 10 years older than his wife.

Being 10 years older than my wife? Isn't that too much. I am not even contemplating leaving my fiancee, but please can other intelligent readers in the house help me out. I really want to know the right age difference between a husband and his wife. Is it also true that women age faster than their age mates?
Thank you for your time.

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  1. Frances5/11/2013

    The best for me is 10 to 15 years o, I can't stand marrying a small boy who rather than pamper me would want me to do the pampering for him.

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    1. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Seconded. Older men know how to take care of a woman..

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    2. Thirded. I luv som space btw spouses.

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    3. Amaria5/11/2013

      My dear pls go with your heart.I ve a friend who's wife is 3years older than him they are so good together that my husband and I envy their marriage. pls if you are happy,comfortable and compatible with her pls go with your heart. But make sure first that she is your friend.

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    4. Anonymous6/24/2013

      Men have shorter life expectancies and chances are you will die before your wife if youre so much older.

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  2. Anonymous5/11/2013

    There is no ideal age difference. It all depends on what u want. A woman ur age or older tends to act more mature than u..2-6yrs diff, tend to be friends, 8yrs n above(

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  3. Anonymous5/11/2013

    I disagree. It's a personal thing; and besides, marriage is not built on pampering, it dwells more on compatibility because two cannot work together except there is an agreement between them. There is no guarantee that being married to an older man is an assurance that one's marriage will work out perfectly. These older men were once lads and I strongly believe that maturity comes with time or age. So in this respect, as the young husband grows older, he also grows in maturity (except there's something wrong). You never know what the older man spent in youthful years doing. Why didn't he get married when his other mates were doing so?

    Although, there is no stipulated age difference between a man and a woman who have agreed to live as man and wife, but going by the biblical standard which we have adopted, a man should be the head in which the question that bothers on the age is not an exception. Adam was created before Eve, whose duty was to serve as a help meat to him. This picture still applies in this present age.

    The truth is, it's not easy for a woman to be submissive to a man who she knows she's older than except she's from a good home. If she's not the submissive type, challenges may arise. But then, if you are convinced that she's the one for you, I see no reasons why the wedding ceremony should not hold. Dazall!...MARY

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    1. Mary, triple GBAM!

      I like that "Marriage is not built on pampering"! You are absolutely right. I have met a guy who was younger than me by a year, who behaved more like a real 'man' and a responsible person to treat a woman right like he's responsible for her and all that, than one who was even older than me by 10 years. And true to what you said, what was he really doing when his mates when getting married? That's a sane and reasonable question to ask o. It's not about the age but more about the man in question.

      How men act and assume responsibility has nothing to do with their age. The age difference doesn't really matter. When you find the right one, trust me, age talk will be far from your mind, so long as he respects you and treats you right and you respect him too. That has nothing to do with age. After all people disrespect their parents older than them by over 20 years.

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    2. I agree with the anonymous comment whole heartedly. There isn't any fixed standard. It depends on the couple and their maturity in life. For me, the ideal was 4-8years with the man older. My wife is 6 years younger. I once met a lady 3 years older who could have made me change my ideal. Let your heart speak to you.

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  4. Anonymous5/11/2013

    I disagree. It's a personal thing; and besides, marriage is not built on pampering, it dwells more on compatibility because two cannot work together except there is an agreement between them. There is no guarantee that being married to an older man is an assurance that one's marriage will work out perfectly. These older men were once lads and I strongly believe that maturity comes with time or age. So in this respect, as the young husband grows older, he also grows in maturity (except there's something wrong). You never know what the older man spent in youthful years doing. Why didn't he get married when his other mates were doing so?

    Although, there is no stipulated age difference between a man and a woman who have agreed to live as man and wife, but going by the biblical standard which we have adopted, a man should be the head in which the question that bothers on the age is not an exception. Adam was created before Eve, whose duty was to serve as a help meat to him. This picture still applies in this present age.

    The truth is, it's not easy for a woman to be submissive to a man who she knows she's older than except she's from a good home. If she's not the submissive type, challenges may arise. But then, if you are convinced that she's the one for you, I see no reasons why the wedding ceremony should not hold. Dazall!...MARY

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  5. Anonymous5/11/2013

    There is no ideal age difference. It all depends on what u want. A woman ur age or older tends to act more mature than u..2-6yrs diff, tend to be friends, 8yrs n above( u see the pampering testimonies above..lol) it depends on wat u want. Me I like 3-5 yrs cos we'll both be on the same wavelength

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  6. 10-15 years ke? i prefer 3-5 years. in fact my mom said she wouldn't want me to marry someone that is more than 6 years older than me. i will be 27 next month and there's this 35 year old guy who's on my case and i'm running as fast as my legs can carry me. i want 30-32 or 33 at most.
    Knowing how to take care of a woman to me has nth to do with age. if a guy can't treat a woman right when he is in his 20s, how will treat them right when he's older? there are no hard and fast rules to this really but personally i like my men younger.

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    1. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Better marry that 37 yr old! Be dullin there, u want a 32 year, when 22/23 year old never finish

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    2. Sweetie i'm not in a rush as it is to get married. i can't marry someone who i'm not attracted to and few years later, i'l come and post my story for advice on here.
      My mom keeps telling me to tell God what i want in a man including age, location, tribe and state and all of that and it has been my constant prayer point. i've never haerd from God but i strongly believe that the day i'll meet my hubby. the holy spirit will minister to me.

      Asides that, if i meet a good guy who will stay committed and i know the relationship will be altar bound, i won't mind waiting till i'm 29 to get married. Pls not everyone is in a haste to get married if not i would have married @ 23 when one guy almost confused me with Honda 2010 model or @ 25 when a seriously rich drug dealer was willing to spoil me silly and marry me sharp sharp. if it will take till i get to marry the kind of man my heart truly desires then so help me God i will wait!!!

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    3. *it will take till i'm 30 for me marry the kind of man my heart truly desires then so help me God i will wait!!!* sorry 2009 Honda Accord model*

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    4. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Consolation talk *Tongue out*. So you think if you marry at an older age....you won't come here and post STORIES. What makes you think all these post shows that every aspect of their Marriage is bad....if I hear(trying to SHADE those women to justify your single self won't work). Even a 50yr old single woman can come out and list all her suitors since she was 16yrs and be like *if I wanted to marry,I would have married*(Story). You think all these Married women didn't get suitors before they agreed to someone. I wish you the best in your SEARCH #side eye# MOVEMENT.

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    5. Anonymous5/13/2013

      She is obviously a baby..my mummmy said,m mummy said..psscheww..Its ur type that marries and your "mummy" controls your home

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    6. Anonymous5/14/2013

      u can as well wait till 40! Smh

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    7. Anonymous5/27/2014

      you are 27 dreaming a guy of 30 to 33 . I hope you wont realize it that you are almost out of market. very soon your mum may be first to tell you to leave her husband house for her.

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  7. There's difference between development and maturity.
    Been quite old does not equate maturity.
    To me what matters most is what u both share love which outweighs everyother thing.
    Personally most of my friends are girls my age or older. And I always enjoyed their company. 5years older or younger than me,I don't care.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    1. Anonymous5/27/2014

      sure you shall be worried when she is 40 and you are 35 especially she grows etxra fat

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  8. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Age has nothing to do with maturity,have been there tho,mine was a case of 4months,I as the lady just couldn't cope,his set of friends were like kids to me,he was mature tho,but not ready to settle down,he still had 5-10years to go.
    You see 50years old men acting the way a 15years old will not even act,so my dear,I will tell u,if she is ok with the difference and you are as well,nothing should stop the wedding bells from ringing.
    Presently my fiance is like 10years older than I am and am loving that.

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  9. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Your case is same as Prince William and Kate of the United Kingdom. Are they not just the perfect pair? Sweety, it's about compatability if you ask me.
    Since you love her, convince your mum/make your mum see reasons with you and not just the age factor.
    Wishing you the best! Cheers

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  10. Age is strikingly important becos as soon as you both settle into that marriage nobody will tell you who is the master, if you live in Lagos people in Abuja will even guess right.

    Brother ponder about these!

    1) do u know women easily loose the fancy/glam in the eyes of their men. Even when she's darn pretty and way younger.

    2) women are naturally stubborn and obstinate. Do you want her to cook you beans when you requested for pounded yam?

    3) do you want be the senate president while she assumes the presidents office?

    4) do you want your children to call her daddy and then call you mommy?

    Brotherly, loving a younger girl is bliss. I made this same mistake you're making when very young and my life was miserable!


    Abo oro l'an so fun Omo olu Abi...

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    1. I do envy your wisdom in some matter however sometimes like now I do wonder if someone else just stole your device and is commenting.
      In your point 2 does that include the women in your life too(mum,sis,aunts?).
      I will always say that because you did business with 15 Igbo men who made away with your cash doesn't make all Igbos criminals? That a man from a particular state cheats on his woman doesn't mean all his village people cheats.
      Your opinion is to you but when describing even the womb that gave birth to you(coz U said "all") that way, do you mean that God never made anything good outta all women except being stubborn and obstinate(U said naturally)?
      Well if that's how you see and believe it then even when you settle for a girl 20years younger than you she'll still be stubborn and obstinate towards you.
      For me, I am not in the category of your definition for women.

      Nuff'Said (in your voice)

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    3. Hmmm... Point taken @debbie!

      @poster, you can marry who is older as long as she's matured... Atleast, Florence Ita-Giwa is matured and older than you, you can take to the alter.

      By the time she dey use walking stick take wake you up for morning nobody go tell you say burger no be hausa food.

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    4. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Buhahaha @walking stick to wake you up in the morning. MOVEMENT

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    5. @ace, that was rather insensitive of u. The poster's g/friend is older by less than a year.

      Comparing her to F Ita-giwa is a bit too far. Haba!

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    6. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Requesting for pounded yam? So you gonna marry to get a free cook? You pound the yam yourself aNd secondly when you get married in future,accept anything she feeds you with. Don't like when a man has his own menu requesting for this and that.

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  11. Age to me is just a number. I know a 45 year old guy who is unmarried, going after girls everywhere, and just basically being a nuisance to himself.

    And I also know guys in their 20's who are very mature and level headed. Personally I used to want to date guys who were like 10years older than me. Anything less than 10 and I'd feel he wasn't "mature" enough. But with time I've discovered that maturity most times has nothing to do with age. Some ppl refuse to grow up as they age so they basically keep acting like juvenile deliquents. Lol.

    So I'm talking from a Lady's Point of view here. younger or older,when you meet a man who treats you the way u ought to be treated,Loves you,cares for you,encourages and supports you,and is Man enough for you, Go for it.

    So dear poster, Age to me is just a number.if you're convinced she's the one, be with her dear.


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    1. Point taken, but in this case it's a guy who asked, so a male point of view should be regarded not the other way round!

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    2. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Ace what is your point???

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  12. Age to me is just a number. I know a 45 year old guy who is unmarried, going after girls everywhere, and just basically being a nuisance to himself.

    And I also know guys in their 20's who are very mature and level headed. Personally I used to want to date guys who were like 10years older than me. Anything less than 10 and I'd feel he wasn't "mature" enough. But with time I've discovered that maturity most times has nothing to do with age. Some ppl refuse to grow up as they age so they basically keep acting like juvenile deliquents. Lol.

    So I'm talking from a Lady's Point of view here. younger or older,when you meet a man who treats you the way u ought to be treated,Loves you,cares for you,encourages and supports you,and is Man enough for you, Go for it.

    So dear poster, Age to me is just a number.if you're convinced she's the one, be with her dear.


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  13. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Age is just a number. Any woman can age fast in any marriage if she is under undue stress. I know a couple who have six years between them, with the husband being older. The wife looks way older than him. She is over weight. The man is bone thin or let's say of atlethic build. She complains about how she has aged so fast. She had her kids rapidly, just a year in between the kids plus the second a set of twins. They have average jobs, don't have a maid or reliable help. Basically they are struggling to survive. I know lots of women older than this lady with kids who look younger and fresher. Its all in the stress!

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  14. Anonymous5/11/2013

    It is not all about age, but about maturity and the choice to go for it by both parties involved. My hussy is 6.5 years older and I am okay with it. We are best of friends!

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  15. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Sorry to derail the post...
    My marriage is almost 2 years now and I have a child. Before my baby I was a pretty lady, my beauty kind of reached its peak during pregnancy, I was so beautiful that I was getting a lot of nice comments, after pregnancy, I am kind of getting ugly by the day, this is becoming worrisome as my husband is good looking and he is older than me with over 5 years.

    My question is do some women get more ugly after childbirth and what can I do about this?

    Thanks.
    Proud Momma

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    1. You need to burn out the excesses of pregnancy, if you watch urself lately you'll realize you now have a blotted chick and neck region this will make you ugly.

      Hit the gym, burn some fat.

      stop late night food eating especially carbs. At most 7:30pm you should av been done with food for the day, I undersatnd women are petty eaters, that's not a good lifestyle

      You also need to work on ur psychology it has a way of telling you wrong tinz about motherhood, there are loads of pretty mothers out there.

      If you are a housewife, that might have contributed more, always go out I mean outings of about 20km's not ur local soup makt outings.

      I pray you don't get a Sheabutter advise, as it appears sheabutter solves all feminine issues now! Lolz

      Nuff'Said
      running off b4 dem come break my head yia!

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    2. Shayor!5/11/2013

      Ace is a case!!! Gosh!! Lolzz...

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    3. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Thanks Ace. I went on a diet some months ago and was able to lose 5kg out of 75kg, i am 5ft6" tall. I was looking a little bit emanciated, maybe bcos I achieved this in a month, so I stopped.

      I'd re strategize and start exercising again. I really need to work on my mind too, cos any time i look at the mirror, i dont like what i see, the sagging and wrinkled tummy etc.
      Thanks for the advice.

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  16. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Exercise hun,use good moisturizing cream not lightening cream,sleep a lot,eat fruits and vegetables,try as much as possible to be happy always,take water like crazy and did I say sleep.....sleep and sleep. MIRACLE

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  17. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Pls people do not insult me for this bcos I actually gave the poster an advice already,now I need one
    When a guy/girl nag,those it mean he/she cares too much?

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      @anon, when a guy/girl nag, it means that there sth the oda person isn't doing right and is refusing to listen/talk it out

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  18. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Poster here goes ur answer! Yes! Women age faster!

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  19. Anonymous5/11/2013

    @Ace, i beg to disagree. Somebody made mention of Prince Williams and Duchess Kate and I'm also going to add that David and Victoria Beckham are still living their happily eva after.

    To the poster, age is just a number, happiness is the key. Don't exchange ur happiness with a younger unhappy lady.
    Nuff'said *in Ace's voice*

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    1. You talkin about celebrity unions, this peeps are playing for the global gallery, they live for the buzz. Never compare a rich and royal lifestyle with a middle class and lower class lifestyle.

      Look at this.

      A rich man drinks wine, a poor man consumes crates upon crates of beer.

      A rich man thinks of acquiring a car factory, poor man just 1 car from the factory.

      Until you give me a middle class example I won't succumb. B4 you give me that example lemme give you 1. Nigerian boys either in the UK/US or via the net hookup with old women for marriage, do you know the reason? Hehehehehehe!


      selbst herausfinden!

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  20. Lol @10-15 yrs!

    There's no hard and fast rule to this. Whoever happens to be older, the man remains the head of the home.

    The bible doesn't have a lot to say on age difference b/w couples. In fact the closest allusion I found is in Genesis 38:1-11.

    Vs 11:" Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, "Live as a widow in your father's household until my son Shelah grows up." For he thought, "He may die too, just like his brothers." So Tamar went to live in her father's household."

    The above implies that Judah's son, Shelah was still a child while Tamar was a grown woman! An extreme example I know, but the point is there is no law against it.

    My ideal would be for the guy to be a few yrs older.

    I've seen marriages where there's a big age gap and the wives have no say and are even afraid to have an opinion.

    Couples with less of an age gap are more likely to be of the same generation and dr4 more likely to be friends.

    This is my personal opinion. Nothing is set in stone!

    www.virtuosity19.blogspot.com

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  21. The rate at which pple age is dependent on several factors: genetic, environmental, nutritional etc, so no hard and fast rule there either!

    www.virtuosity19.blogspot.com

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  22. Age shouldn't be a problem in marriage! There shouldn't be a specific age,it should be about compability and understanding..

    U can for a girl younger than u and she will tear u up and an older one too would do same or u can go for an older guy wanting him to pamper u and him to wants to be pampered,my point is,whateva rocks ur both should be the ideal one.. If u partner is older than u and u both have thesame level of understanding and always on the same page when it comes to handling issues,then marry the person,likewise when ur partner is younger than u...

    Everybody matures in different ways so if ur partners maturity suits u,whether young or old,then marry the person


    As for the comment of women getting old after child birth isn't all thru if u take care of urself... My mom got married at 21 and when we walk on the street,no one believes she's my mom. Only those who know us well.. I can remember when my hubby met my mom for the first time,he asked if that's ur mom's sis cos he knows I'm the first and I told him that's my mom,he didn't believe me until my mom introduced herself to him... Even while in second sch,most peeps didn't believe she was my mom cos she still looking great for her age,and in a good body shape cos she likes taking care of herself,like exercising,not stressing herself,eating good diets,fruits,sleeping and she loves drinking water and I took that from her,that's why 4yrs in marriage and my twin boys,no one believes I have a child cos I look great.. No one believes I'm even 20 but the truth is I'm 25 this year..

    Well lemme go back to cuddling things,this rain is favouring me well...

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  23. kendra5/11/2013

    Its best to marry who compliments u and who u have the same level of understanding with... Whether she's younger or older or whether he's older or younger,as long as they fits into what u want,then age shouldn't be a problem

    If as a girl u go and marry some one who is older cos u want him to pamper u and at the end of the day,he wants u to pamper him,what would u do? Cos older men too love to be pampered! Why do u think the married older men hang out with young single girls,cos they want to be pampered.. So he can be young and pamper u and he can be old and pamper u,don't just put age in mind... Go with the flow and if turns our great,wife or hubby the person

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  24. Anonymous5/11/2013

    I once dated a guy 2yrs younger than i am. He treated me like a princess but bcos of d age diff we let go of wat we had. 2day am married 2 a guy 2.5yrs older than i am & am not happy. He treats me like shit. My younger ex tells me he cant find anyone dat completes him d way i did. Its obvious we were made 4 each other but we threw it away cos of age diff. Now we r both paying d price. So pls go 4 d woman u love. I bet u wont want 2 hv a taste of what am going thru now.
    Yucee.

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  25. Anonymous5/11/2013

    I once dated a guy 2yrs younger than i am. He treated me like a princess but bcos of d age diff we let go of wat we had. 2day am married 2 a guy 2.5yrs older than i am & am not happy. He treats me like shit. My younger ex tells me he cant find anyone dat completes him d way i did. Its obvious we were made 4 each other but we threw it away cos of age diff. Now we r both paying d price. So pls go 4 d woman u love. I bet u wont want 2 hv a taste of what am going thru now.
    Yucee.

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    1. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Exactly

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    2. May I ask... What's the difference within 2yrs & 2.5yrz?

      Age is not the problem of ur hubby, it's just his personality and demeanor to do otherwise not his age cos there's notin like 2.5yrs old, both men are same age!

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    3. Yvonne5/11/2013

      smh. she sd ex was 2yrs younger. hubby is 2 n half OLDER

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    4. Anonymous5/11/2013

      I met my hubby wen I was 28 and him 27 I wouldn't have dated him if I knew he was younger. Less than a month after we meet he traveled for three months and the talking was on phone he came back and we were insepretable we got talking and the issue of age come up and he said he was 27 , I was like it's a lie but it was the fact I am 1yr 3months older but at this time I was already too into him that I couldn't quit .we got married wen he was 29 and I 30. The truth is dat I 4get that my hubby is younger than I . I have never 4 once treated him like a younger person and the truth is dat no body knows about it apart from him and me maybe the rev. Father that saw our baptism card I look younger than my age , and after 3 kids his younger sister are like older person to me cos I look really younger than my age and takes very good care of my self . As I speak to u if my hubby were to come back to this life he will still marry me . We are the envy amongst his pears , I go extra mile to pls him just like he will go extra 4me . I have never for once act like I am older cos I see him as my hubby not like ........

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    5. Anonymous3/13/2014

      i am 4yrs older than the guy am dating presently.Initially everything was going on fine until i approached him about his plan towards me n the future for us.To my utmost surprise he said he wasnt ready to settle down due to some family issues.And i came across his conversation with his friend about me one day and he said that i make sense very well character wise n all, but that he is baffled why am not married at my age.Meanwhile am 36+ and he 33.From the conversation with his friend on d phone,he says he still loves me,and i think he does from his conversation with his friend.But i think he is confused n scared to commit himself in d relationship cos of the age gap.i luv dis guy very well.i ve tried gettin him out of mind.Though we are still seeing each other cos am still inlove with him. He also has anoda girl he's been dating for a yr now. Pls people,wats ur advice.

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  26. It's ok. Just make sure d babe is hotter than her age and you'll be fine...
    DATs All

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  27. Anonymous5/11/2013

    I am in the same dilemma right now. I'll be 27 in a few months time and my main suitor will be 37 in June. That's a clear 10 year gap. I'm just soooo confused.
    Its not helping matters that he's very nice, attentive and seems to always let me have my way. I don't knw if it's an act on his part for now. Infact it's a long story, cos d age isn't the only issue. Maybe I'll summon enough courage soon to send Eya a mail. Sigh

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    1. Do it now... before it's too late!
      Age should not be an issue... The issue for me could be ageing. Your wife could be 10yrs younger and still looks like your mother. However, women naturally need to work harder to maintain a youthful outlook, esp. when the children come knocking. I’ve seen women that do well – check out Joyce Meyer @ 69years!
      A good man will appreciate your effort and love the changes that will naturally come with age. Friendship is key success factor!

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  28. Anonymous5/11/2013

    I wouldn't necessarily say that women Age faster than Men of same Age(though in some cases sha)....I would rather say they mature faster in terms of reasoning. A 29yr old woman is likelier to Mature faster than a 29yr old Man and when you add multiple childbirth(more than 2 kids) to the equation , she may end up looking older depending on how her genes are anyways(Some are blessed with good genes). If you love her,you shouldn't be concerned about that especially now that you are aware. There are no age limit to Love or Marriage but there are factors to consider. In some cases,it works better with same age bracket or around same age bracket,while in some cases it works better with different age bracket. Look inwards and search yourself,in the next 5 years if she looks older(its a probablity cos she may still look younger than you)...Are you going to love her same? Do you get attracted to younger girls? Answer all truthfully. Your Mom may be talking from the fact that she knows the type of son she has,or she is scared that she will control you or from the aspect of childbirth(Some of these Moms believe that childbirth for a woman declines with age so she may be worried,though its a scientific fact but it is not the TRUTH),some mothers also believe that when a woman says she is 30 yrs and unmarried,she is probably 34yrs. Sit your Mom down, reassure her that you love the girl and calm her fears down stating why this girl is right for you that you have considered all these and more but that's the right choice. @anonymuos....Old Men pampers you before you marry them or should I say follows you with a level of intelligence that you are rather too young to understand but when you marry them...they become like *Men*. The way they will expect you to pamper them will be amazing. GLADDENED HEART

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  30. Age should not matter. But if it matters to you, dnt do it. Cos some people can't date men younger than they are and they find it hard to respect them. In such cases, age matters. It all depends on what YOU consider as important.

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    1. Anonymous5/11/2013

      That's it gul! Stand up wiv your head held high! Never ever dim your star to accommodate any excess from anyone. Don't run away again. Love York wisdom nuggets

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  31. Anonymous5/11/2013

    At Anonymous 3:04 PM, please be civil… what do you think your patronizing will achieve? Would this foster peace?

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  32. Anonymous5/11/2013

    I didn't mean to patronize her. Was just happy seeing her comment. That was a genuine positive thought from me. Sorry you it that way. Wait a minute doe, Ahdaisy gets some words of encouragement and you are coming to rebuke me? Are you sure you are not that madam anon?

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    1. Anonymous5/11/2013

      I am a regular visitor to this blog and I really do appreciate the diverse personality - incl Ahdaisy, esp. knowing she's a sister! It is also obvious she has issues with certain persons that don't like her approach, and I do not think your word of encouragement will do her any good at this stage.
      God has several children and we are not all on the same level of maturity… let’s understand that. We would bring about positive growth by showing care/love through our sincerely advice on issues – rather than focusing on individual differences.

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    2. Anonymous5/11/2013

      It won't do her any good? Really? I don't understand people . So when people are being hurt,we should be blind to it so that we hurt the feelings of others?

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    3. Anonymous5/11/2013

      @ Anon 4:37pm, read Matthew 5:38-45.
      Stay blessed!

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    4. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Lol you are going too far. Nobody is talking about hate or love here. Just as much as she gets heat here,she should also get some sort of appreciation too. Nothing wrong with that. I don't like Sid don look attitude or being neutral. The original message didn't have any meaning to it but people must take it far. Don't have any other medium to reach Ahdaisy o. Pls don't be offended,I won't admire her again o Biko.

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    5. Anonymous5/11/2013

      @ Anon 5:35pm. Obviously we are not communicating... I agree we need to appreciate people. However, recent comments show that some persons are aggrieved at Ahdaisy and want to get to her. You would spice up the quarrel with your patronizing, especially when you are not contributing to the issue being discussed.

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    6. Anonymous5/11/2013

      Are you not doing the same? Did you give the poster any advice? Perception my dear is the way ou look at things. You are even the one that is adding kerosene to fire. Only you looking at it that way. Am sure you are the madam ano that has been going after. Enuf said wont reply anymore. Peace out

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  33. Anonymous5/11/2013

    They have followed Ahdaisy to this post too. O dikwa egwu....abeg what did Ahdaisy do to you Madam Anoni....following her all over Aunty Eya's blog ....are you a puppy?. This is how witchcraft starts ooo,you better let her be. Pls Aunty Eya,bring a fresh post pls. MOVEMENT

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  34. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Ppl wil neva cease to amaze me madam anonymus,if ppl can bully den dey can also appreciate ppl d way dey wnt it.@ahdaisy I must commend ur will power@nt been easily moved or discourage keep it up.I dnt leave comments but I jst felt d way som persons ar pickin on Adaeze is uncalled for let's learn to tolerate ppl.Mrs Morgan

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  35. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Well I don't have much to say than
    I know of a couple in navy town Ojo Lagos , the wife is4 yes older than the man they have three children 2girls and a boy the last daughter who is in unijos is my fend .they are one of the best couples I have ever come across . Age does not matter but peace in the home is what matters . Well u can go and marry an 18yrs old girl dat will give u BP na u with her go live so u better chose ur happiness than thinking of what mama will say cos na only u go carry the cross shikena

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  36. Anonymous5/11/2013

    Na wa o

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  37. Wow all u guys comments here is amazing, i do really admire ur opinions is mind blowing. I do like to observe and tell all of us that God's word in every relationship matters alot, a lady comes into a relationship with a guy to help him fulfill his purpose and that'r God's point of view in every relationship, also couples should first start as friends and understand them selfs, i am a man of God and a prophet for this i can tell u what is real.my facebook account is Lubem Lord.

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  38. All ur post and comments here are wonderful as a man of God i wan to say in every relationship we should know or seek the mind of God, Joseph was told by the appearance of an angel to go ahead and marry mary as his wife, age is not the platform to marry one the purpose of the marriage matters, are u compatible? If yes that is ok, peace in every relationship matters, when one concentrate on age too much it seems to be carnal and fleshy way of thinking as God's children. You are all wonderful. GOD bless u all.fb Lubem Lord

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  39. Anonymous10/05/2013

    Hai i'm 24 year old woman. my parents brought a alliance with 31 year old man. age gap between us is 61/2 years. isn't rite age gap? can u any plz help me to find a answer for this...... i'm very much confused.....:(

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  40. Anonymous11/05/2013

    Pls I need help, I am 26yrs old and my fiancee is 40yr. We love each other so much, but am confused because I feel the age difference is too much and 2ndly have always wanted to marry a young man. But asied the age, he just the type of man have always dreamt of. Pls I need everyone's point of view. Thanks

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  41. Anonymous1/14/2014

    I have a girl i love so much for marriage. though i have not told her. But i am scared of one thing.., she is 10 yrs younger than me. she is 21 now. She is matured physically and in her actions. she has the quality i admire so much. But i'm afraid she may take me tool old for her. If we are together, you may not really notice our age difference except you are told. should i go for her? please advice

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  42. oh, i am 21 and my man is 24.. we have been together since i was 18..the truth is we are too compatible and he is good, and god fearing. but all the time people hit me with the questions.
    "do you know when hel make money?" "Can you wait" r statements like "get someone older" "ou both are wasting ur time" and you see ehn, hes stronger than ever and keeps telling me to pray. now im stuck between reality and prayers. i dont want to grow old waiting for him to make money. and i dont want to break up and end up marrying the wrong guy.

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  43. Anonymous9/24/2014

    from the medical point of view, it is true that women age faster,though,some women have gud body,but,u cant tell from the present looks,another issue is about your sex life,as women get older,the vagina tends to start to dry-up,which causes pain during intercourse,i pray this wont happen to you guys,but,if it happens while you are in your 50s or 60s,i hope you wont go after younger women to satisfy tour sexual desires.apart from these reasons,you guys are good

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  44. Anonymous9/25/2014

    pls am 19 years nd a guy of 29 is askin me 2 marry him but i really luv him i dont know wat 2 reply nd i nid ur advise

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  45. Age is not the most important thing in a relationship. Practice shows that even the distance is not the most important. I found my love in Ukraine with the help of a site http://www.rbrides.com and as it turns out the most important thing to understand each other spiritually. We shall meet each other in a week in Kiev! Cant wait!

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