Should I Confess?

Hello Aunty Ojay, I need your advice.
I did something very bad and now I'm confused cos the thought is
haunting me. I slept with a neighbour's wife. I don't know how it happened. We started becoming close and even my fiancee and her have become very close. She is like a big sis to my fiancee.

They just returned from vacation and she came to say hi. I was at a very bad time of my  life. So many issues with fiancee lately and not knowing who to
confide in I decided to stay indoors and listen to music since it's a Saturday. She wanted to go shopping but said she stopped by my gate to go lock hers after driving out, then she heard music coming from my house and felt she should let us know they are back. I started talking about the ill treatments from my fiancee and didn't know I began to shed a tear.

Well, she tried to console me and all I remember was she crying beside me and saying she has embarrassed herself greatly and may never come to my house again. I tried to plead but she left in a hurry and from my gate I could see she drove back into her compound and didn't come out again the whole day.

 It's been two weeks and I am troubled. Should I confess to my girlfriend and ask for her forgiveness? Should I ask her husband too for forgiveness cos I don't want to sow a seed that will boomerang tomorrow. I called to apologize but she never picked. This is one person I have so much respect for. I am thinking too much. I don't know what to do. My fiancee went to greet her and I couldn't sit still until she returned. What should I do?

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  1. Anonymous5/18/2013

    How does sum1 mistakenly av sex?*sighs* dunno wat2say 2u,jus putting myself in d shoes of ur fiancee

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  2. Oga better close your mouth oooooh. # that's all#
    Wait sef, did your manhood erect by mistake sef......mechikwa onu before ikute problem.

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  3. Anonymous5/18/2013

    How can u go and ask her husband for forgiveness do u want to ruin her home?that's not in ur place @ all.so don't u even dare.As for ur fiancee,if u tell her will she go and cause a scene in this woman's home?u need to think properly before u make any rash decisions....sincerely what u both did was wrong on all levels...whatever happens though,u brought it on urselves.

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  4. Anonymous5/18/2013

    This is the trouble with sleeping with small small boys. they don't have the discipline to keep mute and let sleping dogs lie. It was a mistake pls get over yourself jor.

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    1. Hahahaha,classic comment but very true.#smallboysthings.

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    2. Shayor!5/19/2013

      hmmmmn.......side eye for you both! #smallboythings# huh?

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  5. Hmmmm my broda if u know whats good for you,just close your mouth. If u want to confess to God and ask for forgiveness.
    If I'm the husband of the lady,anything I give you after your confession just know that its poison. Am sure u've been having the thought for long before an opportunity presented itself.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  6. I will advice u not to say anything to her husband cos u will make things worse and u will ruin her marriage and pls dont tell ur fiancee either cos she might create a scene. They only person u need forgiveness from is God. Ask for forgiveness, if u are a catholic, go for confession. Somethings a better off kept as a secret. If she doesnt want to talk to u, let her be. With time, she will get over it. Because she is scared.

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  7. Anonymous5/18/2013

    You better confess and make restitutions if you truly want to be forgiven.

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    1. Anonymous5/18/2013

      Listen to yourself. I always feel angry and disappointed at people who ask others to do what THEY cannot do. How many times have you done that type of confusion?

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  8. candid dive5/18/2013

    Can you just hear urself? You better keep ur mouth shut to d husband o. I wish u'll tell ur fiance and she drops ur sorry ass! Imagine,if d babe marry u now,once dr is a disagreement between u guys; is dt how u'll start talking anyhow to pple,shed yeye tears and then sleep with them?
    Hope d woman no get HIV or another infection! This one dt u slept with her in a daze,I'm sure una no use condom.
    Get ur acts 2gede and stop being a He-goat! Rubbish.

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  9. Anonymous5/18/2013

    It doesn't just happen like magic, NO WAY.
    You both had feelings for each other but were only trying to suppress it

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  10. Anonymous5/18/2013

    All you guys telling him not to confess. I feel sorry for you people.

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  11. So u touched, kissed removed ur clothes banged banged banged till u climaxed and u say u don't know how it happened? LISTEN! U knew exatly how it happened. U were driven by ur lust, u enjoyed urself but u didn't know the after guilt will be this disturbing and if the woman didn't feel guilty and cheap both of u would be humping again. So, first step is to be truly remorseful within urself, don't try to convince urself or anyone else about ur remorse, just be remorseful and turn to God

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    1. @Nife..e se pupo. You're on point wrt the poster knowing exactly how it happened!
      @Poster - you took advantage of her weakness and would have done it again & again if she was not remorseful - bad boy you are! You sure sey no bi rape u don rape another person wife? Your own dey come for front... how can you explain trying to call her - for what??? I hope in 9months time we would not see a baby that looks just like you.... yes, it's possible!
      If you are truly sorry, you need to seriously plead for forgiveness from baba God, repent, and go and sin no more. And before I forget, move out of that neighborhood immediately. Dazz all.

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  12. Anonymous5/18/2013

    Why are you even asking us? You better go and confess your bad behaviour. You cheap boy.

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    1. Anonymous5/18/2013

      There's nothing like CHEAP BOY. Go learn your English Language.

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  13. Obviously, you both had been nursing the feeling for a while. Knowing that, why will a married woman go and say 'hi' to a single man and still stay there and be listening to story? What happened to 'flee from every appearance of evil'? This is a very disappointing situation but I more disappointed at the married woman. That one she is doing now na lie, when the tin hungry her again, she will come by again to 'say hi'.

    Whether you shud confess to ur gf or not is left to you but dnt go to her husband abeg. Face ur own relationship. Dat ur fiancee was maltreating or mistreating you is not an excuse.

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    1. Is it that you don't believe a man and a woman's hormones can be charged within seconds?

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    2. Jayne, have you ever been in the same room alone with someone you are sexually attracted to? Did you sleep with all of them, all the time? Raging hormones is no excuse, that is why we are human beings and not animals.

      Your hormones being charged in seconds is one thing, acting on it is another.

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  14. Anonymous5/18/2013

    Adhaisy the way you go on, it's like you dnt sin at all. Babe, learn to put urself in other's shoes trust it ll make u a beta person. Btw this no way an insult just an advice!

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    1. sexyMama5/18/2013

      Did Ahdaisy tell you she doesn't sin?????? Wetin bad 4 wetin she talk???? Give ur own advise 2 d poster and leave Ahdaisy's own.

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  15. Anonymous5/18/2013

    Ask God for forgiveness. True repentance and remorse is all God requires of you and that means you will never do it again.

    Please stop calling the woman, let her be.

    It would only make sense if you told your fiancee immediately it happened. Personally, I don't think there is need to tell her if you truly repent sha.

    Don't go near her husband oh, just go to God.

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  16. You people should leave ahdaisy ALONE abeg.it's getting STALE.
    Comment your own&keep it moving.Warrisit???She has said nothing wrong wit her comment.the married woman is obviously more to blame.which dirty hormones raged within seconds.

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  17. Let sleepin dogs lie dnt add insult 2 injury b4 u brk ha home...... Pls pls

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  18. Ask for forgiveness jare...

    But be ready for the music!

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  19. Ask for forgiveness jare...

    But be ready for the music!

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  20. Ask for forgiveness jare...

    But be ready for the music!

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  21. Ask for forgiveness jare...

    But be ready for the music!

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  22. Ask for forgiveness jare...

    But be ready for the music!

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  23. Be real, stop the blasted excuses, you don't know how it happen, brotha please! The cock don't go when the mind don't lead it, you know exactly how it happened, you made the choice to give in to lust, the smell of the vagina to sweet for you to ignore! I pity you, if you can't honor yourself how will be able to honor anyone else? We all have bad times and we don't all having sex with others for solace to sucker away the hurt. I bet you didn't even use condoms, which is worst because you don't know if she has a sexual transmitted disease, God forbid cause now you will now pass on to your fiance. When you are in a relationship you take into trust the person's heart and body and you have dishonored both all because you could pass up the opportunity for free pussy.

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  24. Anonymous5/18/2013

    Dunno why u haters are jelos of adhaisy! Haba its pure beef, anty Eya ps help out by removing dese antagonists comments, its gettn too mch. Instead of admirin her life n aspiring to b like her, u turn it to jelosy. As fr d poster, ps let sleepin dogs lie. Go and sin no more #gbam#

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  25. Anonymous5/18/2013

    So did you enjoy it and did she moan? Nonsense! Better remain silent and be silent for life. Alakoba oshi...........hissssssssssss!

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  26. @Nife..e se pupo. You're on point wrt the poster knowing exactly how it happened!
    @Poster - you took advantage of her weakness and would have done it again & again if she was not remorseful - bad boy you are! You sure sey no bi rape u don rape another person wife? Your own dey come for front... how can you explain trying to call her - for what??? I hope in 9months time we would not see a baby that looks just like you.... yes, it's possible!
    If you are truly sorry, you need to seriously plead for forgiveness from baba God, repent, and go and sin no more. And before I forget, move out of that neighborhood immediately. Dazz all.

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  27. Anonymous5/18/2013

    Ask 4 forgiveness now! Cos surely she will get 2 knw about it.

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    1. Anonymous5/18/2013

      When he gets to that bridge he will cross. Do not put the cart before the horse.

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  28. Anonymous5/18/2013

    the worst has already happened and you cant bring back the hands of time. please dnt go telling her husband anything, and don't call the woman again for God's sake shes married let her be. i would advice you tell your girlfriend and it's necessary saying it was Ur neighbor's wife. please people do worst things and its good you are realizing that what you did was wrong.Ask God for forgiveness if possible see a pastor you can confide in and tell HIM and whatever he says and it aligns with the scriptures do it and please not a female pastor oo. may GOD see you through amen.

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    1. Anonymous5/18/2013

      anty eya please how do i contact you i need advice from married women here. its urgent thanks

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    2. Send your mail to cuulme@gmail.com

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  29. Anonymous5/18/2013

    Silence is golden!
    Go to grave with your secret!

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  30. Aunt Eya, where did my advice to the Poster disappear to oh? *bbm surprised smiley*

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  31. Anonymous5/18/2013

    My dear confess your sins and be forgiven,confess to a priest or to whom u feel you. Should,so u can be free from sin.

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  32. It's not all restitutions u go directly 2 d person u offended,talk 2 ur leader in church,he'll advise u better,telling d woman's husband is a big No 4 me sha!

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  33. Just stay away from your neighbours. You will only make matters worse by confessing or whatever.

    If you decide to tell or not tell your fiancee, two things are involved:

    1. If you tell her, she will be upset at you and your neighbour, she will be pained because it's coming from two people she knows and respects. (Hopefully, she's not the crazy type and won't go and fight the lady and call her names and report to the husband). If you both can work it out, she'll stop being friends with the woman, you too wouldn't be friends with the lady anymore. That's okay I suppose.

    2. If you don't tell her, she will notice a coldness between you and the lady and be kind of suspicious, since she is now close to the lady.

    You messed up big time. Know that. Big time! So whatever you decide to do, just be ready for the consequences. You had no excuse. Don't even try to use "we were having a rough moment" excuse on your fiancee.

    But leave the lady's husband out of it. It's not necessary. You deal with your issues.

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  34. I am surprised dat people are saying confess to her husband and yr fiance. Is it d fiance dat is mistreating him, abi? Or d husband dat will reward him wit a gold medal? D only person i trust dat will not kill or harm dis man is Daddy God, dat is if he repent genuinely . Did u not see wat bona 3310 said? Confess yr sins to God and receive forgiveness for yr sin and sin no more. High or low libido, sleeping wit a married woman is unacceptable.

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  35. Lest i forget, d woman nko? Man dey tell u story begin cry, u nor commot. Until pant commot for yansh, put am back come start her own cry. Married women beware:
    some of dem, o, not all. Bcos i no some wey go use slap put sense for stupid guys head if dem try yeye tins wit dem.

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  36. @Poster, did you tell her husband befor you did the deed? Kasala don burst, now you want to involve the unsuspecting man. Pls don't even think about it. And telling your fiancé might just be a stepping stone to her husband hearing about it. If you really feel bad about it, and you really want to tell your fiancé, it would be best if you didn't mention that it was your neighbour.
    Than, get on your knees and ask God for forgiveness. That's the most important thing. Stop badgering her with calls.

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  37. Anonymous5/19/2013

    Pls don't tell neither ur girlfriend or her husband. If u do,u'll regret it. Silence is golden. Pray to God for forgiveness and never let that happen again.

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  38. Anonymous5/19/2013

    Mr kiss and tell. Sharrap.

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  39. Anonymous5/19/2013

    What are you calling her for, to invite her for a second round... Please mind your business jor!... Which kind person be this sef!

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  40. TRUE-VINE5/19/2013

    All of you pple here asking him not to confess,do you pple fear God @ all?Do you pple read ur Bible @ all? You d crying Ninja!if you can lay down and collect one shot,you shld be bold enough to confess. Crying Ninja go confess and make Restitution to every one involve cos every sin has it consequence.if you keep d secret d devil will use it against you.And whoever dat want to insult me bcos of my comment My God will insult you a zillion time.

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  41. Anonymous5/24/2013

    Aunty Eya,i sent an email to you since o,about my being bored in my relationship and you have not posted it since.please,please and please....do o.thank you.

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  42. Anonymous5/27/2013

    errrm!abt a month ago,i cnt remember the exact date now.Alrite,ll resend it.thank you.

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