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Dear Eya,
                After reading through your blog, I felt compelled to share my problem for advice but I will really appreciate it if my E-mail and my name is not published.

              I am a Yoruba lady of 32 yrs of age. I graduated from the university in 2006 and did my service corps the same yr.To cut the long story short, I am yet to have a man in
my life. I never ever dated while I was in the university because I was book warm and my parents never bothered to ask about my relationship with other guys. When I went for my service year, I met a doctor and we only dated for a month before he left because he was so promiscuous.

After my NYSC in 2007 and even up till now, no guy has ever asked me out. I go to church but no guy has seen me to ask me out. Mind you, I dress very well and even have nice hair do's and am not bad looking with a petite figure if I may add. My mother told me that it's always difficult to see a man to woo you after university but I totally disagreed that it is more of a spiritual problem.

I have gone to several churches at least like three different churches where I was being prayed for and told that there is a spiritual mark on me but I choose not to believe, though am still a virgin and vow to keep myself till my wedding night (GOD WILLING).

Even while in the university, I just observed that guys didn't really woo me but I didn't really care. Am not a happy lady right now because I observed that its those that are even promiscuous that gets everything easy in life while those that keep themselves suffer before getting married.

             Help me post this please to see other people's comment. I really need advice because am not getting any younger and there's pressure on me from my siblings and others. Please what can I do? 
Please, let me kn0w when it has been posted so  can see people's comment

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  1. mizOsa5/01/2013

    My dear those things that has been said abt u by those churches are they what God has said? Why not keep praying and believing?but if u still feel its a spiritual problem try go to mountain of fire and miracle ministries for deliverance.
    There are some things you shuld still check abt urslf. How often do u smile when you are outside? It gives room for people to talk 2 u and 4m der u can start something really great. Also check urslf and the things u wear, as u said u dress good bt jst try and still look well since u petite u need slim fitted cloths nt big 1ce. Also go out.Go 2 eatery alone,gym house and resturants. Wish u all d best.

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  2. Anonymous5/01/2013

    May Day food pls

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    1. Anonymous5/01/2013

      Lol

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    2. that19yearold5/03/2013

      All these pple talking about deliverance n all r just pathetic! Even u the poster that says u think there is a mark on yur life am sure u don't really understand that if yur a child of God n u hve a true understanding of He's salvation, then u know that even though ur fore fathers planted something unda yur village house if yur a child of God u are trully under He's covenant meaning that GOD HAS CHANGED YUR ROOTS! U r now a part of Gods family bcos u have been translated from the kingdom of darkness into the kingdom of he's dear son. I hope this makes sense to u. It can only get better for u from now on just change yur confession.

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  3. Dearie, God isn't finished with you yet, why not try out new activities, visiting friends, going for functions and all of that, Bcos going to work and going back home would not help matters. You can't be @ home and a suitable man would see u
    That said, my tribe say " onye kwe, Chiya ekwe" it mean when u accept it, then ur God would accept aswell. What the pastors said to u might be the truth no doubt but looking @ it from the brighter side of life, pray fervently pray like no tomorrow and God will not be far to answer U. Beliving that he would removed whatever bondage keeping you captive. Am not a fan of prayer house but since the revelation is done, ur problem is half way solved.
    God be with you and bridal shower soonest.

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  4. Anonymous5/01/2013

    hmmmm its mt late dear just be more out going and a lil bit more daring in a positive way tho

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  5. Anonymous5/01/2013

    hmmmm its mt late dear just be more out going and a lil bit more daring in a positive way tho

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  6. Anonymous5/01/2013

    hmmmm its mt late dear just be more out going and a lil bit more daring in a positive way tho

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  7. Anonymous5/01/2013

    hmmmm its mt late dear just be more out going and a lil bit more daring in a positive way tho

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  8. my dear if you are told that there is mark that is covering them from seeing you, then you need delieverance. But you ar the only one that can deliever yrself. smile more, and start telling yrself the gud things you want to experience in yr life. And you have to free yrself and be free. am talking bcos it took me almost 25yrs to confess negative word about myself especially the ones taken as jokes. although av always had men chasing me every now and then but i still needed to work on myself and think positively. I wish you the best .

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  9. I feel You should go for deliverance at mountain of Fire prayer city. Keep your head up and keep dressing well and looking good. Be positive in your speech and thoughts. Pray,and keep a pleasant countenance. Please consider the Mfm prayer city deliverance.
    Don't worry,Ur boo is on the way. :)

    www.soulspasms.com

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  10. Anonymous5/01/2013

    I need that deliverance too. Pls whrs the mountain of fire ministry in abj located and wen is the best time to go there. Pls help a sis

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    1. Anonymous5/01/2013

      Utako, opp utako market. Go fasting too!

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    2. Anonymous5/02/2013

      Thanks dear

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  11. Anonymous5/01/2013

    Yea soulspasms I disagreed with u on d previous post but on dis matter am with u.lol @ 32 no toaster?she needs 2dash down 2 mountain of fire(am nt a member though).even me dat av always bin big(fat) all my life I can't count how many toasters,even as I use a ring I still get toasters n funny enuff I don't c myself as an outgoin person as such.guys can toast u on d street in ur neighbourhood.met my man while driving out,he stopped my car.so u c y I feel its spiritual.u can mit men doin regular things even goin2church,@ur work place.o my no guy has toasted u in d office?u need prayers dats all,den u start thinking positive,hopefully ur man is on d way.every1 deserves happiness,u will b fine by his grace.

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  12. Anonymous5/01/2013

    Thanks so much for this,Eya. God bless you. This is very surprising bcos I neva knew I would even see the post myself.Thanks for the advice everybody,i really appreciate it and I say AMEN to all d prayers.Av learnt one or two things.U guys are great!

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  13. Anonymous5/01/2013

    My dear change ur location,smile alot,make ur self happy, do a lot of vigil by ur self.lastly do a lot of givig.

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  14. U said u were a bookworm back in skool, I can imagine how snobbish u were while in skool (Most bookworms re usually snobbish) dat must ve pissed sum guys off.
    Ur character is anoda tin u shuld examine, ur character and attitude may be scaring dem men, so check urself.
    U need 2 Love and accept urself
    Learn 2 b happy, cos u alone can make urself happy no man on earth can, rada dey can help spice ur already discovered happiness but rememba happiness is temporary while Joy is parmanent & God alone brings Joy. So seek God first and every oda tin will be added 2u. Wish u d best

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  15. As other bloggers have said, try to smile more, d book worms I knew in school were all very snubbish. Check your character, love yourself and appreciate ppl around u. About the mark on u, it may be true! I knew a lady that at the age of 28 had never had a bf, n her own case was bad bcos even female frnd didn't like her, lecturers will always pick on her. At one point in university when we share a room I practically didn't like her for no reason, and this girl was pretty, nice, she will cook n fetch water n do all u can imagine yet all of us in d room didn't like her. It took me seriously praying n telling God what's wrong with me, later on she was advised to go to mountain of fire and the pastor told her that her paternal grandmother who was a which had put a masquerade on her, so anyone that sees her won't like her, this masquerade was spiritual ooo she had to do serious prayer n fasting. She got married last year, moral lesson is that it may actually be spiritual, there is no harm in using Gods word to deliver u, wish u d best

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  16. Have tried practical things like joining the singles' fellowship in ur church, becoming a worker etc?

    Don't come across as desperate as men can sense that a mile off.

    Also ask a trusted friend or sibling to give u honest feedback about u, how u carry urself, what someone sees when they look at u etc

    On the spiritual front look at ur family and background, ask questions. Do u notice any negative patterns?

    Above all pray fervently. God will settle you. Take care.

    www.virtuosity19.blogspot.com

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  17. Anonymous5/01/2013

    My dear sister all u need is prayer n deliverance. And u urself need to be social. Pls u can even attend d power must change hand dis saturday at prayer city in mountain of fire .

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    1. Anonymous5/02/2013

      TANKS........Will go 4deliverance cos a guy has never toasted me since 2007 dat i graduated!!!!!!!

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  18. Anonymous5/01/2013

    OMG just yesterday ma staff told me all her life she s not had up to 4 toaster n she s 28, dere s no way u can tell me something is not wrong, as in guys don't toast only because u pretty sometime it s for d fun of it n to check if dey still av d Magic, don't Believe n deliverance cos as a teenager I was so badt dey took me for deliverance n d whole tin is just funny, Sis Go down on ur knees Fast 14 2 21 days tell it all to God trust me he s near N he can destroy anitin working againt U, u don't need no church or nobody (ma opinion) den Pls sit down N check ur self involve ur mother so she can tell U d truth abt how u carry ur self N d signal u sending to d rest of D world, I feel ur pain N U ll from now b in ma prayers. Good luck. Kelechi.

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    1. Anonymous5/02/2013

      Tanks so much Kelechi 4d prayers.Infact,never has a guy walk up to me to say hi at dis age of mine except d mechanic,lorry drivers.I dress very well.Infact av fasted,prayed and even gone to pray on prayer mountains.I know I will meet the man of my dreams b4 dis yr runs out by God's grace.Infact,It is a real pain dat goes tru my heart everyday.Now pple are trying to matchmake a man 4me,wat of if i dont love him?Well,PLS JUST continue to remember me in ur prayers..........TANKS

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    2. Anonymous5/02/2013

      Pls if you don't love him, don't marry him. don't feel pressured because you feel you have no choice. Pls go to God in intense heart-felt prayer and be persistent. Ask him for a man of his choice for you. also, prepare yourself. There must be preparation. ensure you strive to be the kind of woman a guy would want to have as a wife- personal hygiene and care, cooking skills, attitude and manners, etc. Also buy 3 or 4 books on marriage preparation. Please read these actively 3-4 times and practice what they say. You will see great results

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  19. Anonymous5/02/2013

    My dear Poster, I don't 've any advice 2 give, cos the problem is already being solved. Whatever it is, Pls don't be desperate n mind the Churches U go, be Positive in all you do. God who made me 'll Bless you specially that even You 'll be amazed. You are Unique n highly favoured. I wish we were frnds (Social or Real.) Just be Prayerful n Believe in God, D bible n ur knees is all U need 2 pull down the walls of Jericho, the very best will be yours, Unless I no Longer 've a God in heaven. YOU ARE STILL YOUNG, don't let People's negative snides affect Ur emotions, heaven won't rest until ur happiness is established. Remember to be inspirational 2 others when the Storm is over. Praying for you dearest. Best Regards.

    VALENTINE.

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    1. Anonymous5/02/2013

      Thanks so much for your encouragement,may God bless you.Thanks for the prayers!

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  20. Anonymous5/02/2013

    My dear Poster, I don't 've any advice 2 give, cos the problem is already being solved. Whatever it is, Pls don't be desperate n mind the Churches U go, be Positive in all you do. God who made me 'll Bless you specially that even You 'll be amazed. You are Unique n highly favoured. I wish we were frnds (Social or Real.) Just be Prayerful n Believe in God, D bible n ur knees is all U need 2 pull down the walls of Jericho, the very best will be yours, Unless I no Longer 've a God in heaven. YOU ARE STILL YOUNG, don't let People's negative snides affect Ur emotions, heaven won't rest until ur happiness is established. Remember to be inspirational 2 others when the Storm is over. Praying for you dearest. Best Regards.

    VALENTINE.

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  21. Anonymous5/02/2013

    Yesterday I was discussing fate and destiny with someone. Some women get all the rich toasters,some get all the bad men,some get all the good men,some get only married men and so on. Just use your mouth and change your fate and never look down on yourself. Stop going to different churches before you compound on it. I am pregnant with big belle and yet Men stop to ask me out each time I go out(I'm being very truthful)....do you know why? Some years back I started this confession and it works...I look in the Mirror everyday and say out loudly *Supernatural beauty of the lord is at work in me,My character is as beautiful as my outward looks,Blessed men and women are out to bless me,they jump over themselves to know me,I'm beautiful from the inside to the outside,I attract the right set of people... Single and Godly men,I am at the right place and at the right time,I am polite and kind,Keep saying it and all you want in yourself and cancel the negative ones.keep believing it and keep saying it over and over,you will see it manifest. Your tongue is your life and what you believe works for you. I am not really a sociable person or a loud dresser because we all have different personalities,I am very quiet but yet out of thousands in a place...I get spotted for favours. The only time I go unnoticed is when there is evil in a place and I just get shielded. Honey,there is no mark on your face,Get born again and if there will be any mark on your face is the Seal of the holy spirit.

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  22. I noticed u did not mention if u have friends generally? Even bookworms hang out with each other, do u have any female and male friends? do u attend single forums in church and other programs where u can meet other single people? do you go out once in a while to eateries, watch a movie or just to the park where u can meet other people? I personally believe that if u want to have friends u must first show yourself friendly. Try and make friends with people cos a lot of times most great relationships first start off as friendships. Also just pray earnestly to God about what ur heart really desires and it will come to pass.

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  23. Lovelyn5/02/2013

    I understand what you are passing through right now. But please still keep yourself for God is never too late in His time, at appointed time He will do it.

    He knows the best for you. According to Jer. 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

    So my sister call on Him while He is near and Seek Him when He may be found.

    Go to Him in "PRAYER" for there is no impossibility with Him.

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  24. Anonymous5/02/2013

    Tanks everyone for the replies,God bless u all. Infact am really moved 2see all ur comments and I pray dat those of u married,d devil will not rear its ugly head in ur home and d singles out there like me,may God answer our prayers-AMEN

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  25. Anonymous5/02/2013

    Dear poster, keep hoping, praying and believing.
    Be positive and exude confidence.
    Create your world with ur spoken words.
    It is well.

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