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What Can I Do About This Pregnancy, Is Abortion An Option?

I am so sorry, I got this mail since last month but forgot to mark it as important. It went with junk and I forgot about it. I saw it this morning while doing my box maintenance. I'm so sorry. Sender please forgive me.
The Mail:

Dear Aunty Eya,
Good morning,trust you're fine and your family.

I have been following

this blog for about 3months now and going by all the advice I've seen you and other blog readers render to people I feel safe sharing my problem with you.

Aunty Eya,I'm in a relationship that is 8months old and I've enjoying it despite the ups and downs (that hasn't gone out of hand)up until now.

I missed my period last month and decided to run a test which came out negative,I was happy it turned out that way due to some issues,I decided to joke about the result with my boyfriend as I called to tell him the result. initially I told him it was positive he sounded cool with as he paused before he said ok,I then quickly told him it was negative,he got angry asking how could I have joked with such an issue,I felt confused cos I thought It was actually lucky for us as we have other issues to attend to.


Days later I still didn't see my period(this time I was more concerned)and decided to read up about negative result and missed period and was able to understand that I probably did the test a bit early than there was enough HCG to detect if I was preg or not(urine+blood)few days ago,I ran another test and this time it was confirmed that I am pregnant and it 5weeks,I called him and told him,he said it's ok and I could feel joy in the tone of his voice,he told me immediately that we're keeping it.(Please pardon my lengthy story oo)of course I was happy and we decided to keep the news to ourselves until we see and finalize on how to go about it. 


I noticed his love increased towards me and that's so cool.
The issue now is that he feels cos he has spent so much lately attending to issues and there's more to do,that he can't afford a wedding now,(trad or anything)he's contemplating we get rid of it,do the step by step thing(intro,registry and white)I told him I've been down that lane before and it's so uncool,I don't want to try that again(not with him and he knows).i'm so confused cos I don't want to be on my own in this,neither do I want to get rid of this child.we're both from the east and I'm the first daughter. please help advice me like you'd your sister.
Sorry for my lengthy story again.
Thank you.

Comments

  1. Hoping you've not already gotten an abortion. Pls keep the baby. Since he intially wanted to keep it, why change? I dunno sha...

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  2. Anonymous4/14/2013

    Chai aunty eya,u don l8 na.I jus hope she hasn't done d abortion cos she sounds smitten by d dude n he cud av cajoled her by now.he might really want d baby bt is panicked by d responsibilty.pls jus tell him u re fine with a small trad weddin n registry,no fuss!I hope u re independent too so u can assist him financially wen d baby comes,u jus want a family n ur baby will nid 1

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  3. hmmm aunty Ojay considering the time this mail was sent,I just pray our replies and suggestions won't be late.
    my dear putting into consideration my faith,I can't help but sound somewhat sentimental,which presupposes that I won't support abortion. over the years listening to debates pertaining abortion,most of the points raised by proponents of abortion,which to me I found weighty,can't be equated with the excuse raised by ur hubby.
    Do u think not being ready for a white wedding,is enough reason to snuff life out of a HOLY INNOCENT?
    my dear I doubt the quality and sincerety of joy u said he felt when u told him u're pregnant. coz I doubt if such happiness can just fade away almost immediately coz of his being indisposed to make d union official.
    I advice u talk to him and aswell as make him see reasons with u,dat ur giving birth to a child doesn't mean u can'y av d best wedding when u choose to.

    aunty Ojay plz today is mothering sunday,plz help me wish all mothers here a happy mothers day. a post for that won't be a bad idea.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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  4. Pls if u hvnt done any abortion,I suggest u kip d baby. Its tinz like ds dt make y most couples end up not hvn a child for years! Iv a situation whr a couple who were courtun had an abortion simply cs dey wrnt married&wn dey got married dey cldnt conceive till 15ys l8r. So its risky. If he's comfy enof to provide food on d table 4 u,fine,u guys jx do a very little trad weddn consistn of a few members of ur family&his den do court marriage&marriage blessns since derz no much cash. U cn also gt a job if u dnt hv any to assist him in payn d bills. If he was truely excited in his heart,he wldnt think of abortion at all!

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  5. Anonymous4/14/2013

    Hope our words α̲̅я̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ still needed. Pls dnt do ΨђåƮ Ʊ W̶̲̥̅̊ȋ̊ƪƪ regret 4 the rest of ur life. Every second,min,hrs,day, Ʊ W̶̲̥̅̊ȋ̊ƪƪ regret ur actions. a̶̲̥̅̊ñ̷̊D̶̲̥̅̊ the men never goes thru T̲̣̣̥hĩ̷̊s emotional trauma. Empower urself so Ʊ can take cia of ur baby. And what's the talk abt not having enough money t̲̣̣̥O̶̲̥̅̊ finanace Ƌ̲̣̣̣ wedding. Have Ƌ̲̣̣̣ small wedding JƱڪτ̲̅ family. The baby might not have C☺me when Ʊ needed Ȋ̊†̥. Bt EVERYTHING works together 4 Ǧ☺☺ϑ t̲̣̣̥O̶̲̥̅̊ them that love the lord.
    Vicky

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  6. Anonymous4/15/2013

    pllssssss plssss and plsssss, weda he marries u or not, kip d baby. Beta to be loved by God and judged by men, dan to be judged by God and loved by men. Let ur offence end in gettin pregnant out of wed luck. It may not end dere oh, ask ppl who have have more dan 3 abortions dey will tell u it all started with alittle assurance of marriage after d first abortion, or wateva d case may be. If u do dis one d man may end up leaving u, u may die, u may loose ur womb, u will b a murderer and u will have a dead child to ur concience always, pls kip d child. If only ur eyes can see beyond d physical, u will know d gravity of abortion. Remeba d baby was on its own b4 u called it oh, now it answered ur call dnt get rid of it. Children no mata how and wen dey come r blessing dey r innocent. Ejo dnt put urself in misery, u maynot b able to live with it. I really hope it isnt late already.
    Aunt Eya. Let me not conclude bt i wonda y u left dis delicate issue for dis long. Pray to God for mercy oh.

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  7. Biko nu, Abortion is not an option. Do not do it especially since you've done it before or did I misunderstand. Speak to your parents or a close older person whose advice you trust and value about how to convince your parents to allow a low key registry wedding and when you are more comfortable, you can do the other more elaborate rituals. Even the Idibias with all their money did registry first before doing trad and white/church wedding. With all this, it is essential that you do NOT abort the baby. Trust Go. He has a way of working these things out.

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    1. meant to say *Trust God

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