Tuesday, July 31, 2012

One blogging mistake You Must Avoid

Dear blogger, or blogging hopeful, are you sure that you have not made this mistake already? The mistake of  multi tasking blogging. The mistake of not focusing on one project at a time. I got something from Daily blog tips and after reading, decided that it is worth sharing with fellow bloggers. Especially those of us that are still new and young in the blogging business.

 For those who have the intention of blogging but have not yet started, you are fortunate to have clicked on this post because there is a deadly mistake that paralyzes bloggers

Saturday, July 28, 2012

How to Overcome a Break Up ( contd)

With all the pain and hurt in you heart, consciously plaster a smile on your face. As much as you can, wear a smile. He does not see the frown anymore, so, let others who look at you, see the beautiful smiling face. Do not carry a blank face like a mourner. Try not to let his exit affect the way you showcase yourself to other people OK? Remember the following:

  • You must start by putting in extra energy, like forcing yourself to look good. Wear make up, dress smartly and beautifully.
  • Include dance and exercise in your daily or weekly routine and experience the difference after each round.
  • Look in the mirror frequently,

How to get over a Failed Relationship

According to Dalai Lama,
"When we fall in love with someone, we are essentially experiencing the love that was within us all along.The person is merely acting like a mirror, reflecting our soul back to us."
If there is  a falling in love, then we must accept that there should also be a falling apart. One thing is sure in this life, and that is , that every relationship must come to an end.If circumstances of life do not end a relationship, then death will definitely do that. Always have it in mind that no relationship will last for ever. The truth is, it is either now or later.
 When there is a break up, we should not think that our happiness is taken away because, honestly,

Friday, July 27, 2012

How can I discover my true self?

Eya Ayambem, three months after delivery of my baby boy (he just finished suckling o. Remove your eye from there, this is my fifth eh?), Cutting the cake at Hubby's Birthday Dinner. Why the photographer cut my palms, I do not know. ShinesTeeth.
While growing up in my village, I started even as a young girl, to gather other kids my age, and begin to teach them by mimicking my favorite teacher then, Mr Williams, may his soul rest in peace. I will hold a cane in my left hand with a piece of  chalk on the other. Stand in front of my friends and try to teach whatever I learnt in school that day. Surprisingly,
these kids parents return to thank me for a class that was supposed to be like children playing. The kids go back home, recite whatever I taught them and their parents are impressed. I grow older, and as a teenager, I begin to teach the children's Sunday school class in my local church.
Then I grow much older, I graduate into teaching the teenage Sunday school class, and honestly I still remember the faces of those who came to tell me how my teaching affected their lives.

Later on, I write JAMB examination hoping to read a course that will really pay much money when I eventually get a job. However, after failing the examination twice, I decide to try the Polytechnics and Colleges of Education Examination. I passed this one at my first trial and then consoled myself that

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Successful blogging: Tips for busy wives, mothers and great bloggers

Earlier on, in a post I published before this one, I had talked on blogging tips for beginners and those who want to start blogging but have not really made up their minds. You can read it on this blog.

For the blogger wife, mother and very busy person, there is a very big temptation to reduce blogging to the very minimum or just postpone it till further notice. Here are a few tips to guide you in your journey into excellent blogging: I am going to take it under three sub headings:

  1. Tips for the busy wife blogger
  2. Tips for the busy mother blogger
  3. Tips and inspiration for the successful blogger
Being a wife comes with a lot of responsibilities, you are no longer attending to the needs of one, but two or more people. Any wife who can successfully include blogging, especially News blogging into her schedule deserves an award. Yes! I am not saying this because  Iam a wife, NO. I say this with confidence because I am still trying to do this successfully and can confirm that is is not an easy task for any wife.

Every blogger has a time of the day that they feel is most favourable for posting and being present online. Any blogger will want to dedicate this time fully to being online,

Blogging tips for beginners, wives and very busy bloggers

Blogging is not just what you do for leisure, just like I said in an earlier post.
Successful blogging has rules that should be followed, it has what I call due process that has to be observed. IF you are just blogging for fun, you are just doing it because other people are doing it, then this post may not be relevant to you.
However, if your purpose is to do something online, share your thoughts and experiences and benefit from it, then you are at the right place.

You spend so much money fueling your generating set to have electricity, that is if you live in Nigeria and other third world countries. You pay heavily to subscribe for internet connection too. So, doing something that will bring some profits is not a bad idea at all. Whatever your reason for blogging may be, try as much as possible to also make money online. Blogging for fun does not stop us from putting some adverts on our sites and making a little if not much money out of it.

Whatever is worth doing, is worth doing well. If I cannot put my best into blogging, than there is no point starting in the first place. We MUST ALWAYS STRIVE TO EXCEL. No matter what we do in life, Excellence should be our watchword. even if we are blogging because people say blogging is fun, we must try to be among the best and not among the "not so good"


  • I will like to start with tips for those who are still trying to consider blogging
  • Then move on to New Bloggers
  • Busy wives and mothers in blogging business

Thursday, July 19, 2012

My Curried Rice Served With Vegetables And Fish

 my curried rice served with fresh vegetables and fish
Dear Diary,
This plate of rice was actually consumed by me, I could not empty the plate because the quantity is much.

Egusi draw soup with Fish and Beef

Dear diary,
I have not been able to upload dishes from my kitchen for a while now due to the poor results from the camera, after this week I

Monday, July 16, 2012

How To cope With A Different Kind Of Heart-Break

The heart does not only break when there is a loss. It not only breaks when you are dumped. It does not only break when trust is break. Agreed, hearts break when loved ones desert us. When we say Another kind of heartbreak, that means it is not just the obvious one that comes when there is a break up. Whatever brings unhappiness and agony is another cause of heart break to the one in pain.

A Story About Another Kind Of Heart break

Saturday, July 14, 2012

True Beauty and me

Beauty has to do with what I see and admire, it has to also do with what pleases the senses. When I look at a woman and like the sight, then  she is beautiful.
Beauty to me is what I like, whatever shape, color height, size so on, If I like it then it is beautiful. When I dress up and I am going out, if I like my outfit, and  can smile at myself  in the mirror, then I am beautiful. However, when I put on a dress with all the necessary accessories,  I look in the mirror, and do not like what I see there, then I will not feel beautiful in that  particular outfit.

Jewelries, all kinds of accessories, nice shoes, great bags and gorgeous outfits are great and can boost confidence. However, they cannot make me feel great if I do not like the person in  the mirror, or do not smile at that woman looking back at me in the mirror.

I do not really need compliments to know that I am, or to feel beautiful. Once I am confident in whatsoever  is on me before stepping out of the house, I glow, even without a word from anyone.

There were times in the past that I changed my hairstyle after a day or two, with reasons being that  no one

Friday, July 13, 2012

Porridge Brown beans

 Porridge beans with Fish
Dear Diary,
This dish of Porridge Beans was cooked with lots of chili ( fresh pepper)
A lot of Palm Oil and crayfish too. It can be eaten with boiled rice, boiled plantain, fried ripe plantain, Boiled potatoes, garri, boiled yam or just eaten as a beans meal.

  • Beans
  • Fish
  • Palm Oil
  • Salt

Boiled Rice with white soup ( afia efere), chicken and Fish

 White soup (afia efere)

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Unripe plantain porridge with smoked fish

 My plantain porridge
This is my delicious Plate of Plantain Porridge. This is a very Healthy Meal for even Diabetics, the plantain is neither Sweet nor Sugary because it is still Unripe and Fresh. My girls used to prefer Ripe Plantain 'cos it tastes sweet, but with the way I cook the unripe one, they have changed, and now prefer Unripe Plantain Porridge, unripe plantain with

Monday, July 09, 2012

Pastor Anselm Madubuko loses wife, how do we cope with the loss of a loved one?

Pastor Anselm Madubuko of Revival Assembly loses wife Pastor Connie. The loss of a loved one can be very stressful and can also lead to emotional problems. Knowing how to cope can help any one get through the grieving process.
We grief when we go through pain because someone or something

Sunday, July 08, 2012

Unripe Plantain With Garden Egg Stew

Hot Boiled plantain with egg plant (garden egg) stew.

The garden egg, also known as eggplant is a very good source of dietary fiber, potassium, manganese, copper and thiamin (vitamin B1). It is also a good source of vitamin B6, folate, magnesium and niacin. Eggplant also contains phytonutrients such as nasunin and
chlorogenic acid. Garden Eggs are one of the healthiest food you can eat. Being a member of the vegetable family, it contains nutrients that include better carotene, vitamins B6 E and foliate, calcium, iron, magnesium fiber and many essential vitamins and minerals. 

Garden egg (Eggplant) comes in three or more shades; Green, white or purple. There are many edible types out there sold in stores and supermarkets and by mallams and vegetable sellers. Some are eaten raw while others can only be served cooked; fried, grilled or roasted.

 Nutritional Benefits of eating garden egg:

  1. Garden egg aids weight loss:
  2. helps to lower blood sugar
  3. Protects from cardiovascular diseases
  4. Aids digestion
  5. Contains nicotinoid alkaloids that protects from poor vision.


  1.  INGREDIENTS For garden egg stew

  1. 1 small bunch plantain
  2. 3 medium sized eggplant (garden egg)
  3. 1 cup ground crayfish.
  4. 1 medium sized onion
  5. 1 teaspoon pepper
  6. 1 medium sized smoked fish ( broken into pieces with bones picked) optional
  7. 2 cups palm oil or vegetable oil
  8. 2 seasoning cubes
  9. salt to taste
  10. water to cover the plantain.

pictures of smoked cat fish

Boiled and pounded egg plant

boiled, salted unripe plantain

 Raw unripe plantain and egg plant (garden egg)

 this is a very colourful, sumptuous, well prepared and delicious p. 

This stew can also be eaten with boiled yam, boiled potatoes, boiled rice and even fried plantain ( dodo). Unripe plantain is my all time favourite cause it is not sweet, and it gives that natural fluffiness and taste of plantain if well cooked.

How to prepare this meal:
Cooking direction for garden egg stew with plantain...
  1. Firstly, I peeled and boiled the plantain with a little salt to taste.
  2. Then, I cut the the egg plant into halves, boiled till soft and then pounded in a mortar. The boiled garden egg can also be blended if you want a very smooth paste.  ( The egg plant can also be chopped into tiny pieces and fried in cooking oil without boiling or pounding.  Sometimes I prefer to just chop and fry because it cooks faster. but then, the frying takes longer because it has to cook in oil until tender. When the oil begins to dry up, some drops of water can be added to prevent the pot from getting burnt.).
  3. I heated the oil, then added the chopped onion with some ground crayfish, allowed the two to fry for about 10 seconds before adding the egg plant. The mixture is stirred and  allowed  to fry till a little bit soft,
  4. added the ground crayfish, fish ( Remember to pick all the fish bones and remove the skin too),  pepper, salt and seasoning to taste. Note that if you like it with some tomato, it has to be very little, like a teaspoon quantity so that it doesn't change the taste of the garden egg stew, and it should be added at the same time with the egg plant. I like it without tomatoes.

The mixture is allowed to boil in the oil. I added a tablespoon  water to get my desired consistency and allowed the stew to cook till tender. I added a pinch of salt to my taste, and then, the table is set. It is such a great variety after eating too much of tomato stew.
I so love this meal. It is natural and healthy. The taste of fried egg plant is so great. 
NOTE: Any other type of edible  egg plant can  be used for this nutritious meal.
Garden egg stew can also be served with boiled yam, potatoes or even rice.

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Wednesday, July 04, 2012

Why I FORGIVE but do not FORGET!


The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
Mahatma Gandhi.
We all know that to err is human but to forgive, divine. Forgiveness is what is needed for a  happy living. It is either that we need to forgive or be forgiven. Every body needs forgiveness to live a happy life on this planet. When we forgive, it brings healing to us. I remember when I was younger,  kids still say it innocently anyway. once a child is hurt, what you hear is "I will never forgive you for this." 

I never heard my kids say this until my 9 year old came back from school one day, that is about three years ago, and while they played on the floor, her younger sister hurt her or something, and then I heard her go...   " I will never forgive you for this." That was the first time I heard this in my house. I wanted to just ignore her,