Showing posts from 2012


Nigerian Egusi Soup With Beef, Fish, vegetables, Kpomo

This soup was called "an award winning soup" by one of hubby's friends after clearing his plate.
How to cook delicious egusi soup with bitterleaf
2 cups ground egusi (Melon)2 handfuls washed bitter leaf1 kg beef2 medium sixed Smoked fish2 cups cut pieces of cow skin( kpomo)1 tablespoonful palm oil1 teaspoon ground fresh pepper 1 small onion to steam the beefsalt to taste1 cup roughly ground crayfish2 knorr cubeswater, enough to cover the beef after after boiling with your onion and salt.
Wash and boil the salted beef in a dry pot, with some chopped

Corned Beef Spaghetti with vegetables

This meal came in handy when we got home after the long trip to Agbokim waterfalls. There was no time to go shopping and we had to just think of something that will cook fast. These were part of our luggage from Abuja and cooked in less than thirty minutes. The taste was great and I enjoyed chewing the shredded carrots in there.

How To Bake Cake Without An Oven (Updated recipe)

Baking Nigerian cake is very easy whether with or without oven. What many people do not know is that Nigerian cake is actually pound cake, can be baked in a bread pan, doesn't require much mixing.
The girls and I tried to save gas at the village by baking with firewood. Everyone that ate the cake complimented it. I did not eat though because I am really struggling with reduction of my sugar intake. Visitors and family enjoyed the cake. We did the mixing together, but the girls designed their

A Tour Of The Agbokim WaterFalls In Pictures

Just got back from touring the Agbokim waterfalls. I tried to see if it connects, and though very slow internet connection here, I am still happy that I can post a few pics. The day was full of adventure. We were ten in number that made the trip.

The excitement on the faces of the young ladies when I announced to them this morning that we will be visiting the waterfalls in Cross River State. The trip was uneventful except for good music and video CDs that I packed for the girls and which kept us company, some fell asleep in the car, but once the kids set eyes on the waterfalls and the vapor around the falls, the atmosphere changed automatically. We took so many pics and I hope to upload more later.

Back With Boiled Rice Served With Green Vegetable Stew


How I make Nutritious Easy Akara Balls At Home


Indomie Noodles With Chopped Sausages


Ripe Plantain With Fried Brown Beans


11 Handprint Holiday Crafts

Tis the season of gift giving!  This year, rather than taking the kids out to the stores to find gifts for family members, why not have your children make gifts for their grandparents, aunts and uncles instead? Crafts made from prints of your child’s hands, feet, and even thumbs are treasured keepsakes that are held onto and brought out years later when the children are grown.  Here are a few fun and memorable ones to

5 Books That Help Kids Appreciate A Healthy Diet

Eating healthy is what we all strive to do daily. For adults, it is not so difficult because we know what happens if we do not eat healthy, however, for many kids, the only thing they enjoy and want  is something very sweet ( sugary). Getting kids to eat healthy can be quite a challenge sometimes. Instead of good food, most kids would rather go for snacks; chocolates, lollipops, cookies, ice creams and a host of sweet foods. These foods are good only when eaten with moderation, they'd become a problem when a child begins to want to live only on them.    It’s one thing to make sure your kids maintain a healthy diet; it’s quite another to get them to appreciate exactly why they need to be eating what you put in front of them. That’s where

Curried Vegetable Rice Served with Chicken


10 iPhone Apps That Can Help You When You’re Lost by Emma Roberts

Few things are as nerve-wracking as realizing that you’re lost, whether you’re in a completely unfamiliar city or simply a neighborhood in your hometown that you don’t know very well. It wasn’t so long ago that you’d be left to fend for yourself, asking strangers for directions until you found your way back to a place that you knew. These days, however, the popular

7 Holiday Traditions to Start with Your Family By Sandra Mcaubre

Here I was, asking for ideas on how to create a memorable Christmas holiday for kids. I am thankful for the responses I got, See them HERE. Today, I just got this mail from Sandra with permission to share with my blog readers. More Ideas! Enjoy. Some families have holiday traditions that go back generations.  Other families don’t really have any traditions at all.  Regardless of which camp you fall into, why not create a few new holiday traditions this Christmas season?  Traditions give everyone something special to look forward to year after year.  If you are at a loss as to what kind of things you can do to start a tradition, check out

Indomie Noodles Recipes With Green Peppers And Cabbage Cooked With some Chopped Sausages


Rice And Fish Stew Served With Juicy Chicken Drumsticks


Vegetable Ogbono Soup With Beef And Fish Served With Garri (eba)

1/2 cup ground Ogbono1kg Beef2 medium sized Dry Fish1/2 cup ground Crayfish1 small bunch Ugu Vegetable (fluted pumpkin)1 tablespoon Palm Oil1small onion to boil the beef 1 teaspoon Pepper or more2 Seasoning cubesSalt to tasteWater enough to cover the boiled meat before adding ingredients. If while cooking, soup gets too thick, you can always adjust by adding some more water.


Any Ideas On How To Create A Fun Christmas Holiday For Kids?


Slim Spaghetti With Hot Chicken Soup


Okra Soup With Goat Meat And Stock Fish Served With Pounded Yam


Between Water And Electricity

Now I'd understand better when I hear someone say "water is life."  There has not been a single drop of running water in my area for about four days now. Water board announced that they were having problems and that by Saturday  water will begin to run again. Saturday ran by, Sunday crawled along and now, Monday has arrived. Today is a working day and people are really in need of pure portable water. Now, to you Water Board, *a promise not kept* and to

My Jollof Macaroni With Canned Fish


Today Must Not End Until I...

Christmas (Photo credit: Wikipedia) I have been out and very busy the whole day. Wow! Just like a flash, the year is ending. By this time last year, I saw December 2012 like a period of time that will take pretty long before coming. Right now, it's still just like yesterday. When I was younger. December took so long to come. I waited and prayed for Christmas. I waited too long but right now, December comes when I am not even ready. Is it old age that is causing this? Because, I hear that time flies faster when you are growing older. Haba! I am not yet old abeg, Just a few years back I was still a student. Not graying yet, not making noises when sitting or standing up yet. Those are the early signs I guess?

OK, today is World Aids Day, I remember when I first heard about HIVAids. The fear then eh. It was like even sitting close to an infected person could be fatal. See me now teaching others that you can even share  a cup or toilet seat without getting infected, Alright o!
Today ha…

My Kind Of Love For Polygamist Family Sister Wives

When a man gets married to multiple wives, he owns all these wives and remains the head of the family.  On the part of the wives, they MUST remain loyal and faithful to the polygamous man.While most cultures frown heavily at it, In Africa, we see one or two Heads Of Government Living that Lifestyle. Those in it seem very happy. They say it is their choice and that they are loving it. They will not trade that lifestyle for anything. I have seen co-wives making uniformed outfits  and even ganging up against their husband sometimes. All the wives in a polygamous marriage are seen as mothers to every child in that family, whether biological or step. The term step-mom term doesn't exist among them.The children are taught to see all the wives as their biological mothers, while the women try as much as possible to treat children of their co wives as they would their biological children.
It is a free world, everyone is free to choose the lifestyle they want provided that it does not hurt…

Indomie Noodles With Chicken, Shrimps And Vegetables

indomie noodles with salted, dry fried shrimps and stewed chicken

Hello, We Are Merging Now!

Hi, I did a post on this blog about one blogging mistake that must be avoided. On that post, I mentioned that my second blog welcome to joy ojay's kitchen diary was not getting enough attention from me.  I remember urging fellow newbies to ensure that their first blog is old enough to stand on it's "two legs" before attempting to start a second blog. That post isRIGHT HERE. All these while I kept struggling to keep both

Unripe Plantain Porridge With Green Vegetables

Ingredients for unripe plantain porridge: 5 fingers unripe plantain2 medium sized smoked catfish1 spoon ground pepper  2 seasoning cubessalt to taste2 tablespoons palm oilfluted pumpkin, green amaranth or hot leaf (uziza)

My Chicken Pepper soup with Washed bitter leaf


I Am First To Finish. For How Long?

This morning, I am seriously considering our everyday winner gets a gift thing. It is becoming a chore for me with having to get something for the first to finish on a daily basis. At the end of the day, it is not only the winner who takes it. The loser also gets something because I cannot endure the cries and promises to do better next time.
At the beginning of this School session, I felt a little bit relaxed when it comes to morning rush. This is because the two "senior" girls have left for boarding School and it felt like "OK, with this two little ones, the work is reduced by half," I was sooo wrong.

Re: Your Marriage Can Work, If You Make It Happen

There is so much about woman empowerment and equality before the law. I am a believer in these, but I do not think that a "modern marriage"  is one where the woman goes into power struggle, or shows no  respect  at all for her husband, or where the woman talks to her husband like a no body. Whether we like it or not, In Africa, the man is still the head of his family and he deserves that respect. I am a believer in *any marriage can work if you make it happen.*
I have been married for over twelve years and the truth is my marriage is more peaceful now than when we got married initially. I remember times I practically

Your Best Christmas Shopping From The Nigerian Market Woman

The market woman trades on  food items, fruits, vegetables  and even household goods and appliances at the open market. The Nigerian open market is where we get to bargain for items before payment. I spoke with a friend just last week, She is Nigerian but her family left the country when she was still a child. She lived and studied abroad. She is in the country because according to her, their Father thinks that if they continue to study and begin to raise families abroad, that he will lose them forever. Where he got that idea no one knows. Her brother and sister have been sent down to study in Universities over here. He believes that giving them a University Education back home will provide an  opportunity for the girls to find love and raise their families where he can always get to see his grand children. 
Nora had no idea that when you go shopping for food items at the open market, you are supposed to bargain, to try and 'beat' down the price  to its barest minimum. She lo…

Eya, Learn A Second Language!

French homework (Photo credit: eefeewahfah) Learning a foreign language has become very necessary for me. Kids bring homework for supervision, I do it successfully in all other subjects except French Language. Every time there is home work in French Language, I keep my head straight,  put a little frown on,  before giving the response " Leave that one for Daddy or go check Online" If I do not put that little frown that makes me very serious, I will have to answer too many questions for not knowing  the answers to "that simple French Homework"
The kids are learning French in School. Hubby can speak English, French and  German fluently and even a bit of Japanese, so, why can't I just try to speak at least one foreign language. Am I that dull?  I announce to them on Sunday evening that before this year ends, I will not only be learning but speaking French Language in this house. They ask how and I refuse to say.  Why should I?  when all I want is shock them with s…

My Less Expensive But Classy Nigerian Wedding

Well, there is no wedding video here. This is not about my wedding video, LOL!  It is about what I consider Less Expensive But Classy when it comes to Nigerian Wedding. It is also about what is "acceptable wedding" in the Nigerian Society. In the past, Nigerian weddings were less stressful and cheaper. Then people wedded according to what obtained in their tribes. Then, the Aso-ebi was more of a Yoruba thing. The only weddings where people attended  in uniformed dresses were  those by The Yorubas. A bride and groom from another part of the country focused on what obtains in their tribes and just did that. 
Again the Aso-ebi was only used during the Church (white) Wedding. The Traditional Marriage Ceremony was usually conducted without friends of the bride and groom making Uniform dresses. The highlight is just the bride and groom who attend dressed in their traditional attires. The bride picked her 'colors' for just the Church Wedding alone. For the Registry and Tra…

A Letter To My Daughters

My Dearest Cuties, How are you doing today? Hope you are doing great and having a good time?  We are fine except that we miss you so much. We are eagerly looking forward to the Christmas holiday. The days seem so slow while the nights drag too long. In just three weeks we are going to be together. These three weeks seem like a whole year to me. How are your friends? Do you find time to talk a little and have some fun or do you just read read read and read? 
Every evening I imagine you two reading in the School library. I see you walk back to your different rooms and Shaloooo, I see you waving goodnight to your little sister Boboo and I just wish that you two share the same room or hostel. If it were possible, I would have ensured that you both sleep side by side.  It is shocking how

Is Anything Wrong With Being Realistic?

Let’s BE REAL  There is something bothering me. I am trying to find out one thing. Being realistic about life, does it mean  a realistic person lacks faith? What I see around me and in this part of the world is something that is making me go into serious thoughts. 
Once upon a time in my dear country, when you ask a friend why she is not looking too well, she answers with words like; I have a cold, I am not feeling too well today, I've caught the flu, I have a sore throat, I have a running stomach, My head aches, I feel pain on my knees, I am down with a fever and so on. This was a few years back. Right now, it is different. When I see depressed looks, I cannot say what is wrong with even my own friends, and colleagues. The new trend is "It is well" This response

True Confession Night

Spent the whole early hours enjoying #confession night on Twitter and laughing. Will like to share the twelve  that made me laugh the loudest: I refused to confess on Twitter and chose to make my confessions in the "privacy" of my blog readers.

High Heeled Shoes? Not Anymore

A short Comment I left at Romance Meets Life inspired  this post. While admiring Myne's collection of  lovely high heeled shoes, the memories just came right back. Never thought I'd say this here, but the discussion  after my comment made me decide to share. I love heels especially platforms. They help you walk elegantly. When you wear high heeled shoes your steps are taken care of. Even without much on, you feel confident and classy. I love platforms, I love heels. However, a fall I had recently made me decide to reduce my inches when it comes to beautiful stilts:
My husband and I were at a

25 Good Things Your Nigerian Church Can Do For You

Provide snacks for Children Sunday School classes. This will help you save a little cash. Buying snacks by the church gate for kids before taking them to their classes? Shouldn't the offerings these kids give be used to make their classes more fun?  I used to frown at Birthday celebrations that take place in Children classes, but not any more. If not for these celebrations, there will be no form of entertainment for kids apart from singing, clapping and dancing.
Stop telling little Kids who haven't started earning any income that not bringing offering is a sin. The parent's Tithe and offering covers them too. 
Stop making members feel like God is some kind of magician who calculates the amount you give him and instantly makes you rich when you give big amounts. God is no magician, he works in mysterious ways. 
Tell the congregation that God is interested first in you as a person. I am yet to see where God says that if you need a big car, you have to SOW  your property or …

Why You Don't Need A Domestic Servant While Still Parenting

I read on a blog yesterday, how a house boy defiled a six year old girl left in his care while her parents were away at work. This post troubled me the whole day. Do you really need a domestic servant while still raising your kids?
No matter how hard you try to make them feel like family, Domestic helps don't accept you. They

The Ten Commandments Of Our Bathroom

English: Pedestal squat toilet (Photo credit: Wikipedia) Decorative toilet seat (Photo credit: Wikipedia)If at first you don't succeed, KEEP FLUSHING! DON'T RUSH OUT!
1. You must sit straight up. Bending forward is not permitted as it may splash toilet water on your bum. Bending forward may soil the whole place when you have a running stomach. Sitting straight sends it straight down and neat too.
You must not talk while in there. Lips must
remain sealed to enable you concentrate.
Do not forget to spray the deodorant before leaving. Spraying more than once can be offensive and choking so one pufffff is enough.

Something About Malala Yousaf Zai And Queen Esther

These two woman have something in common. They are both strong women. They both are women who do not turn their heads the other way when it is time to speak out. The two may not have the same beliefs, They do not come from the same era, but they know how to put others first. "putting others first." These are words that are easier said than done.  Malala Yousaf Zai is on that hospital

A Look At The US Presidential Candidates' Wives

With the ongoing debates and polls about who did or did not do better at both the Presidential and Vice Presidential Candidates' debates, TV has become so much fun because one cannot help but laugh and learn at the same time. The Candidates are doing great, however, their wives are doing greater.
The way and manner

Children And The Online World

What do you think about Children and the Online World? The Online world has come to stay. The Internet is what we cannot do without at this age and time. The Online world is also a necessity when you need to reach out, to promote your goods and services and other things. A lot of advertisers cannot do without the online world.
The Young Child, Teenager And The InternetThe Internet has made

What's In A Name?

"Today it is Joy Ojay, Tomorrow it will be Eya. Is she OK at all?  What is her name by the way?"...  "This lady is not serious at all. At a time when we are getting used to Joy Ojay, she suddenly switches to one long African Name Lol!"
Dear readers, please bear with yours truly. It is just one person.

How Divorce Affects Some Children

Just this year, we read about Pastor Chris Okotie's divorce, or separation from Stephanie Henshaw. This morning I am reading about Bishop David Benenoch's announcement to his church. He has told his congregation that he is divorcing his wife of 20 years.   No Couple goes  into marriage with prayers to divorce in the future. Divorce is never sweet for anyone. Yes! What happens to Kids after a separation or Divorce?
Kids become unhappy as they cannot see one parent often. They probably saw both parents daily, but  now, it is one parent at a time.

We Can Opt To Be Different

Grave mark of Mordecai and Esther (Photo credit: Wikipedia) There is something about humans. Have you realized that when too many people are engaged in something that is wrong, it begins to feel right?  When you see too many people doing something that you feel is not quite right, after a while, that same thing begins to feel Ok, and you are enticed to join the multitude.
Life is easier when we go along with the flow. Things just seem to work themselves out when you just play along. The difficult part of life, the part that is not so enjoyable is the part that

The Benefits Of Forbearance

The ability to refuse or refrain from becoming angry with people who deliberately annoy you is forbearance. You feel the pain, you feel hurt, but you tell yourself that you are not going to get

How To Pop Corn In A Cooking Pot

Dear Diary, it has been quite a while. I have been having problems trying to upload images to you, so, I just decided to let it rest while I focus on wives

5 Characteristics Of A Nagging Woman

Marriage Day (Photo credit: Fikra) A nagging woman is the direct opposite of a peace loving woman. Any woman who complains all the time, always and daily has something to complain about is a nagging woman. A nagging woman is seldom happy. She is dissatisfied, has something to complain about, and feels like no body really does what she wants.  A nagging spouse believes that her happiness depends on others. She looks for people who can do her every whim, obey her commands, grant her every wish, and ask her for life directions. The Characteristics:

Back To School, Time Management Tips For Busy Mothers

After about six weeks of fun, arguments, fights, more chores, family outing, noise, late bedtime and all, the kids are back to school The holiday is over. The days when they are allowed to sleep until they wake up naturally are gone. They watched TV, bookmarked favorite programs and shows, recorded at will, ate at will and had freedom to just be free and be themselves. A new school session begins

Tips On Holding Successful Family Meetings

We can use family meetings as a tool for building stronger family relationships. The Agenda for a family meeting should be determined by every member of the family including the children. There should be some place in the house where every body includes what they want the family to talk about. It is important that every member of the family be given the opportunity to include topics that they want discussed. A family meeting agenda can be flexible or formal depending on your family. In order to ensure that family meetings are a success, here are a few things to remember: 

How You Can Build A United Family

Building a united family starts with the understanding that a wholesome family is the strength of society. Any man or woman who destroys the family has destroyed civilization. The home is where kindness, loyalty and love begins. It is where we find purpose. It is the smallest unit of the larger society. There is no place like home. Our children should be taught to spend more time at home than with the neighbors or friends. A united family is a united society. A united family impacts on the lives of it's children.


How To Discipline, Not Punish The Children

There is a big difference between discipline and punishment, as parents and guardians, we sometimes punish while trying to discipline kids. We also punish unconsciously because we do not know where to draw the line, and do not realize when discipline has taken the form of punishment.
Discipline is the means by which we correct faulty behavior in kids and them them correct and acceptable behavior. When we discipline children, we teach self-control and obedience, we try to shape the child's behavior away from what is not desired towards what is desired.
Discipline considers the level of maturity and capacity of the child, whereas punishment is what

Tips For Emotional Separation In Marriage

Emotional Separation can come in even when partners are still living under one room. It is to be physically present but emotionally absent. Emotional Separation is Physical divorce waiting to happen! It is a situation where a couple are no longer friends but "frienemies "or competitors or permit me to say " room mates."
Emotional Separation is a situation in a family where a husband and his wife only try to get close and talk just because the children are around, once the kids, guests or other family members depart, the couple coil back into their individual lives waiting patiently

How You Can Build Confidence In Children (1)

My Four year old tells me that to be confident is to be bold, believe in yourself and be sure of yourself. I laugh and give her a hug. I have not explained it this way to her, and I know that there is no way she could have said it this well without her teachers' effort. Kudos!

When you feel really good about yourself, you will find it much easier to get along with others. At any point in time, when you don't feel good, getting along with others becomes a difficult task to perform. A child who does not feel good about him/herself, finds it difficult to get along with other kids in the neighborhood, at school and even siblings and extended family members.


My Secret For True Beauty

"The beauty of a woman isn't only in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.
The beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes; because that's the doorway to her heart, The place where love resides. The beauty of a woman isn't in a facial mole; but true beauty in a woman is reflected by her soul. It's the caring that she cares to give,
the passion that she shows; and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows."   Maya Angelou et al.Inferiority complex can make a woman hide her potentials and lose her happiness. We should not look for others to affirm our beauty because

One blogging mistake You Must Avoid

Dear blogger, or blogging hopeful, are you sure that you have not made this mistake already? The mistake of  multi tasking blogging. The mistake of not focusing on one project at a time. I got something from Daily blog tips and after reading, decided that it is worth sharing with fellow bloggers. Especially those of us that are still new and young in the blogging business.

 For those who have the intention of blogging but have not yet started, you are fortunate to have clicked on this post because there is a deadly mistake that paralyzes bloggers

How to Overcome a Break Up ( contd)

With all the pain and hurt in you heart, consciously plaster a smile on your face. As much as you can, wear a smile. He does not see the frown anymore, so, let others who look at you, see the beautiful smiling face. Do not carry a blank face like a mourner. Try not to let his exit affect the way you showcase yourself to other people OK? Remember the following:
You must start by putting in extra energy, like forcing yourself to look good. Wear make up, dress smartly and beautifully.Include dance and exercise in your daily or weekly routine and experience the difference after each round.Look in the mirror frequently,

How to get over a Failed Relationship

According to Dalai Lama, "When we fall in love with someone, we are essentially experiencing the love that was within us all along.The person is merely acting like a mirror, reflecting our soul back to us." If there is  a falling in love, then we must accept that there should also be a falling apart. One thing is sure in this life, and that is , that every relationship must come to an end.If circumstances of life do not end a relationship, then death will definitely do that. Always have it in mind that no relationship will last for ever. The truth is, it is either now or later.
When there is a break up, we should not think that our happiness is taken away because, honestly,

How can I discover my true self?

While growing up in my village, I started even as a young girl, to gather other kids my age, and begin to teach them by mimicking my favorite teacher then, Mr Williams, may his soul rest in peace. I will hold a cane in my left hand with a piece of  chalk on the other. Stand in front of my friends and try to teach whatever I learnt in school that day. Surprisingly,
these kids parents return to thank me for a class that was supposed to be like children playing. The kids go back home, recite whatever I taught them and their parents are impressed. I grow older, and as a teenager, I begin to teach the children's Sunday school class in my local church.
Then I grow much older, I graduate into teaching the teenage Sunday school class, and honestly I still remember the faces of those who came to tell me how my teaching affected their lives.
Later on, I write JAMB examination hoping to read a course that will really pay much money when I eventually get a job. However, after failing the exami…

Successful blogging: Tips for busy wives, mothers and great bloggers

Earlier on, in a post I published before this one, I had talked on blogging tips for beginners and those who want to start blogging but have not really made up their minds. You can read it on this blog.

For the blogger wife, mother and very busy person, there is a very big temptation to reduce blogging to the very minimum or just postpone it till further notice. Here are a few tips to guide you in your journey into excellent blogging: I am going to take it under three sub headings:

Tips for the busy wife bloggerTips for the busy mother bloggerTips and inspiration for the successful bloggerBeing a wife comes with a lot of responsibilities, you are no longer attending to the needs of one, but two or more people. Any wife who can successfully include blogging, especially News blogging into her schedule deserves an award. Yes! I am not saying this because  Iam a wife, NO. I say this with confidence because I am still trying to do this successfully and can confirm that is is not an easy task…

Blogging tips for beginners, wives and very busy bloggers

Blogging is not just what you do for leisure, just like I said in an earlier post.
Successful blogging has rules that should be followed, it has what I call due process that has to be observed. IF you are just blogging for fun, you are just doing it because other people are doing it, then this post may not be relevant to you.
However, if your purpose is to do something online, share your thoughts and experiences and benefit from it, then you are at the right place.

You spend so much money fueling your generating set to have electricity, that is if you live in Nigeria and other third world countries. You pay heavily to subscribe for internet connection too. So, doing something that will bring some profits is not a bad idea at all. Whatever your reason for blogging may be, try as much as possible to also make money online. Blogging for fun does not stop us from putting some adverts on our sites and making a little if not much money out of it.

Whatever is worth doing, is worth doing well. If…

Curried Macaroni With Fish And Chicken Neck


My Curried Rice Served With Vegetables And Fish


Egusi draw soup with Fish and Beef

Dear diary,
I have not been able to upload dishes from my kitchen for a while now due to the poor results from the camera, after this week I

How To cope With A Different Kind Of Heart-Break

The heart does not only break when there is a loss. It not only breaks when you are dumped. It does not only break when trust is break. Agreed, hearts break when loved ones desert us. When we say Another kind of heartbreak, that means it is not just the

True Beauty and me

Beauty has to do with what I see and admire, it has to also do with what pleases the senses. When I look at a woman

Porridge Brown beans


Boiled Rice with white soup ( afia efere), chicken and Fish


Unripe plantain porridge with smoked fish

This is my delicious Plate of Plantain Porridge. This is a very Healthy Meal for even Diabetics, the plantain is neither Sweet nor Sugary because it is still Unripe and Fresh. My girls used to prefer Ripe Plantain 'cos it tastes sweet, but with the way I cook the unripe one, they have changed, and now prefer Unripe Plantain Porridge, unripe plantain with

Pastor Anselm Madubuko loses wife, how do we cope with the loss of a loved one?

Pastor Anselm Madubuko of Revival Assembly loses wife Pastor Connie. The loss of a loved one can be very stressful and can also lead to emotional problems. Knowing how to cope can help any one get through the grieving process.
We grief when we go through pain because someone or something

Unripe Plantain With Garden Egg Stew

Hot Boiled plantain with egg plant (garden egg) stew.

The garden egg, also known as eggplant is a very good source of dietary fiber, potassium, manganese, copper and

Nigerian Vegetable Macaroni With Fish In Seasoned Sauce

I cooked a meal today that my whole family enjoyed and

Why I FORGIVE but do not FORGET!

The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi. We all know that to err is human but to forgive, divine. Forgiveness is what is needed for a  happy living. It is either

A listening ear, the greatest gift ever

I was jotting down some notes on my 'To Do" list last night, I hear footsteps behind but I'm too engrossed to look up. Then I hear footsteps walking away and turned to see my

Beauty Tips For My Face

These tips are what works for my face. No matter how hard I try, if I do not get enough rest, the pimple ( acne) just won't

How I Manage My Kids In Public Places

Unruly children in public can be such a handful. They can get even the most patient of parents screaming and yelling if s/he does not constantly caution herself.
Successful  and stress-free managing of kids in public starts right at home before we set out.
Tutoring and reminders help me a lot. One thing I

Appreciation and Respect in Marriage

To show appreciation is to show a feeling of being grateful for having my spouse and being grateful for the the  things

My personal secret to the best Nigerian tomato stew

Cooking very good tasting Nigerian stew is easy. My secret will help you cook the best tomatoes stews without scratching your head.

My Personal Tip For Heavy, Long Menstrual Periods!

Ladies, you will agree with me that when our periods come, it can be a period of not just feeling 100% comfortable. Especially if you get heavy flow and if it lasts longer than

My Husband Doesn't Remember, Celebrate Special Days

Good morning Ladies,
Here is a mail I got last night. This was sent to me because she says that wivestownhallconnection is where she feels that other wives will get to read and feel what she is going through. I am permitted to share it but without her name:

Hi joy ojay; this is my first time writing you since I started

Help! my wife sleeps in the sitting room!

Ladies, I got this form a man, he says that he is a regular reader of this young blog, and that he is  sending it to me because he needs ladies' advice on the matter. I got it very

How long can YOU go without sleep?

Sleep deprivation? I woke up this morning with a banging head ache, and then my husband tells me that my eyes look like I did not sleep

Living With Noise Pollution In My Neighborhood

The noise from the church behind my house was again as loud as usual, I opened my eyes, got down from the

Hubby Selects My Obituary Pictures

How do I read my husband's thoughts? I need help!people tell me that I look like some one they can trust. I

Tolerating And Surviving Sleep Deprivation While Raising Kids

I am trying to find out what mothers can actually do about sleep deprivation.
Sometimes, I ask myself, when last did I hit the bed and just lie there sleeping till morning? because like I said in my post on "kids leaving adults bedroom for good" I realised that often times, it is not the kids who come disturbing my sleep. I still have this habit of checking on them, trying to see that they are still properly covered,  sometimes adjusting their heads on the pillows and other  times raising one or both legs from the floor, or dangling positions and placing them back on their beds. 

What really keeps me very happy with all the sleep deprivation is the fact that I keep reminding myself that this is the only opportunity that I have to do all these for them. In a "a few" years they are all gone.   

When kids leave for college, they are gone. After college is not the time to "loose sleep" over a child.
All the long years of sleep deprivation will surely be regained,…

At what age should kids leave "adult" bedrooms for good?

I woke up this morning to see my four year old baby girl snuggled like packed sardines in between her dad and I.
It is actually not the first time she is doing this, however, she always finds excuses for sneaking in sometimes, and