Showing posts with label relationship tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship tips. Show all posts

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Just Had A Big Quarrel With My Wife, Did I Go Too Far? Is My Wife A Cheat?

 I used  to be one  of those  that condemn people who share their stories online. I used to think it was silly. But it seems I am getting addicted to it. This should be my 4th mail to you. I like the idea of being able share one's issues annoymously and get advice from different individuals, although, the abuses and improper language from some of your readers can be upsetting.

Okay, I feel very guilty. I had a big quarrel with my wife, called her names, involved her folks and mine, threatened to leave her. Now i feel very crappy. I would like to annoymously share the story and get people's feel on the whole issue.

Mid last year I noticed that my wife was always on Whatsapp chatting with a guy. I didnt pay much attention to it at first, being that she is a good christian and I trust her. But i noticed that the chats became a daily afair, sometimes dragging as far as 11pm at night. I complained to her and she told me the guy was an old friend that just reconnected with her. That they had known each other for over 10 years and that he was nice and harmless. So i made further inquiries and she told me, the guy was single, in

My Present Situation, Just Imagine It's You

I am going to start from the very beginning, and this will be the first time I will ever open my mouth to explain at length the actual gist behind the whole thing.. I am 27 years old. Im currently working with a radio station as an OAP. i am earning enough money to take care of me, my son and other expenses so I bless God for the provisions he made for me. I started visiting this blog early this year when i googled how to make a certain dish..this is a wonderful blog. So that I don't start boring you, here is my story. 11 years ago, I was in Asaba. I was done with secondary school but not yet in the University. My uncle came home from spain after 8 years, and he came to build houses and establish some businesses in Nigeria, he planned to stay for a minimum of 3months and came with his spanish-American wife whom we had never met. We are four children and adding my parents that made us six and lived in a 3 bedroom apartment so my uncle could not
stay with us. He decided to get a flat in a more developed part of asaba while construction was going on his new house.

Due to the fact that my uncles wife was not Nigerian, they needed someone to show her around, help with the chores and also keep her company since she didn't have friends and my uncle was always in the site with my dad . coming back very late at night. She was and is a very nice woman and I enjoyed her company and gists a lot but after a month,I started searching for friends around the

Monday, April 14, 2014

How Do I Attract A Good Man?

Hi aunty Enya am a serious visitor on your blog and I want 2 thank you and WC family for impacting morals and good cooking education to me,am indeed a better person for it. Aunty Enya,I am a 25yrs old lady who is seriously single and searching.

I live

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Does This Problem Lie With Me? I Need Help

Hello Aunty Eya,gz d baby is doing well? My name is B....,am a graduate n am 23,late last year I got a job and I also lost my relationship,due to crazy issues which I just see as the devil's way of making me cry(my boyfriend broke up with me cz his spiritual father told him we were not compartible after telling him we were compartible for years).

Fast forward to 2014,I met an old school mate in my office,he was my colleague and he introduced me to a friend of his,at dis time I ws vry sad,(have been since the break up,I even cry to bed every day)I decided to try dating again,tho my brother told me it was early but I wldnt listen,I tot I was in love with this guy,we started dating in february and since den,am just not feeling it anymore,dia is no sparks at all in d relationship.

Sometimes I feel it's even beta sef if am single,plus his rules at times are killing,I can't say if he is a fanatic religion wise or not,he tells me not to

Monday, March 3, 2014

Now He Says "I Wish You Married Your Ex" Does He Love Me?

Hello Wc,  I need your opinions on this issue.
I went to see my bf and we got talking about our exes. He told me about his and I told him about mine. And the next thing I heard was " I wish you married your ex, he would have been the perfect  guy for you". I found nothing wrong with the statement at first. But later I started getting worried  after recalling all we talked about.

my ex was nice and caring, fine. But

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

In My Thirties With No Relationship. Help A Sister

Hi Aunty Eya.God will surely perfect all that concerns you in Jesus' Name.I am a 30 year old lady without a relationship. I don't know what to do.I've prayed,fasted,and all sort but no show. Can fellow sisters advise me? (kindly hide my identity)

Eya Says: Your mail is too short for

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

My Fiance Thinks He Is A Rock, What Can I Do?

Hi aunty Eya,
I stumbled on ur blog yersterday when I was looking for answer on how to handle my fiance's attitude and it has been a wonderful experience since then.

Please I need help. My fiance is a man that loves me so much but at  times his temper scares me. He doesnt shout but it is something u rather avoid. He is of the opinion that his woman shouldn't talk back at him and that anyway a woman's home turns out, it is her own making cos she has the power to form it. That if am to tell him something I shld put it in the right perspective and in a calm voice. But the annoying thing is that in anger he says hurtful things like" I wonder how u reason at times" I have

Friday, January 31, 2014

Should I Ignore him? Please Advise Me

Dear Aunty Eya,

Sure you're doing great? Well done with what you're doing with the blog. I've got a problem and here it is: i had an argument with my bf only for him to compare me with his ex. I then replied him saying okay maybe he should go back to her since she gives him the peace of mind i don't give... He replied by stating that yes she did, that circumstances caused their not being together.

I'm in a

Saturday, January 11, 2014

I Feel My Time Has Come, Confused on Making A Choice

Good morning Aunty Eya! I hv come again with another dilemma,pls help me post this, hide my contact pls. Thanks!
  I hv been dating my bf for 5months,he is a great guy,caring and all dat,buh sometimes he could be insensitive n we hv problems communicating(cos am d quiet n shy type),sometimes I feel like a dulling him. He is a lecturer @ one of d eastern universities,though it's a temporary job,buh he hasn't been lucky with finding anoda job,he also intends to go for his phd if he is lucky to get funds frm ETF.


  2months ago,I got talking wit anoda guy, he saw me in church,n got my numba frm his mum. He is also a lecturer in England,and also running his Phd programme. He is also a great guy,caring n homely. He came bk for xmas to see me,n d 2wks he was around he has really been great. I talk wit him on phone more than I talk with my bf. Yesterday he told me abt his intention to come bk april,to ask for my hand, buh I turned him down on d grounds dat I had a boyfriend,who I know is nt really ready to settle down,cos he has a lot On his table,n I hv jst been so worried if I made d wrong decision. 


My mum is nt really comfortable with

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Falling For A Divorcee With Kids, What Can I Do? I Need Advice

Anonymous2:53 PM
Eya gdafternoon pls I have an issue I want u to help me post bt I dnt knw how to send it to ur mail so pls just help me post this.I am 35 plus and single.I hv had several relationships proposal bt most of them want sex before marriage and I hv already made up my mind not to hv sex again b4 marriage for over 10 yrs now.Presently there r 2 men asking for my hand in marriage.One is abroad,a divorcee from a

Friday, January 3, 2014

Should I Go Ahead With This Wedding?

Good evening Aunty Eya,My name is sandra your regular reader Merry Xmas and happy new year .I really need help because am worried about my relationship. We keep having issue and we are getting married in 3 months time. 

Before we got engaged we only dated for 2 weeks. I told him we are not ready and am not yet in love with him yet but he said we will be fine, even my family said so.

Now we quarrel a lot and am pregnant. He does things that make

Thursday, November 21, 2013

My Ex Wants To Ruin My Marriage, Please Help

Ma,I'd like for you to help post this story on your blog cos ı am out of options. Thanks.
P.s I'd like to remain anonymous

MY EX wants to ruin my home!
I am a 25 year old married with a kid, this problem started like 3 months ago when ı ran into my ex boyfriend in town, since then

Sunday, November 10, 2013

The British Woman Wants Me Back In Nigeria, What Can I Do?

Hi eya..pls I need advice cause I really dn,t knw what to do now.i,m 27, married with a kid.my hubby left nigeria 2010 to d uk for greener pastures..i was still a student when he left..he said I was too young to stay all by myself n so I had to stay with his family.it was,nt so easy stayin there but I survived it.

He tried bringin my child and I to the uk 5 times but our applications were refused.miraculously we were granted our visa this year and joined him.After some months here,i found out he had a baby with someone that has a British passport.

The lady in question wanted me to go back to nigeria while she moves into his home and takes care of my child n her own child.i bluntly refused the offer and even though my main plan was to see my hubby n come back to nigeria because of school(was in 300level) I was scared to loose my husband to this lady...i made

Saturday, November 9, 2013

We Are Not Members Of The Same Church, My Family Is Not In support

Pls Aunty Eya,I need u to post dis 4 me n I need urgent reply.Pls dnt Include my name.I just met a man I truly love n care deeply about.Before we started,He begged me not to tink of leaving him nor breaking his heart cos his heart had been broken by his previous relationships. 

But d problem here is we r not members of d same church. My church does not believe in getting married to a non- member n I do not want to go to anoda 1( Pls dnt judge me on dis) I lost my father @ a young age n my Pastor was d 1 who helped me get to where I am today.I've come to take him as my father n seek his consent in all I do.

My late father has no relatives n we only associate with members of my Mum's family who also attend d same church as mine.I'v had two suitors 4rm my church,1 is uneducated n works 4 an individual,d oda has a nine year old son outside marriage. Both do not appeal to me in anyway.I indirectly mentioned d person I love to my Pastor n immediately he knew he's not our member, He said( my hand no dey) none of my

Friday, November 8, 2013

Am South African, I Want To Know If This Is How All Nigerian Men Behave

Dear Eya and Wives Connection Readers,

My name is Tuti and l am frequent and read your blog. Please hide my details. I have learnt a lot from the comments and stories of other ladies. Please help me with my situation.

I have been in a relationship with a Nigerian man for nearly three years now. I am from South Africa originally and we met at the University. He is 9 years my senior and when we met fire works erupted in my world. He was the perfect gentleman and a Christian.

As it stands now he is ready to

Is My Fiance Saying The Truth?

My name is ********* and am 26yrs old. I came across your website about AS genotype marriages and I saw your Gmail and decided

Saturday, November 2, 2013

I Took Her As The Big Sister In Never Had, How Do I Stand My Ground Now?

Good evening anti Eya and all WC family. Anty please hide my id.

My name is ************ I finished school last year  and currently doing a professional course on aviation management.

I was with my boyfriend last month when a celebrity who is also into modelling and pageantry stopped by to say hello. I didn't know they knew themselves before this time. She told me she wants

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

The Height Of My Patience, Did I Decide Wrongly?

Aunty Eya good morning...I've not been able to sleep  cos of this issue on my mind........how do you cope with a step sister who is just out to spite you?..my step sister came to live with us 11yrs ago..she is 27 and I am 21.I've tried to exist wit her cos we share the same room.

The problem is that she can hardly stay up to one month in peace with me....she may just come back one evening and start putting up an attitude. When I greet her, she murmurs back..or not answer at all, starts throwing things around just to make you angry..I took to ignoring her whenever she starts..but she will still wait for me to initiate  peace.. I don't know why she is always angry at me.


There was a time it

Monday, October 28, 2013

My Sister"s Religious Practice Is Beginning To Create Problems Between Us

Hello Eya and WC visitors. Pls your useful advice is needed in this situation.

I'm a 28yr old working class lady and live in my parents' house due to family ties(mum is late). I share the same room with my 21yr old younger sister who's yet to get a job.

I understand it's not easy for my younger sister who is presently

Friday, October 25, 2013

My Fiance Refused To Go For A Genotype Test

hi aunty eya
Please kindly post this for me
I will like to be anonymous, I met this guy seven years ago, although we started as friends, after six months of friendship we started dating, I'm As genotype, which I told my guy, and I asked about his when I agreed to date him,

he simply reply he is AA. 

After about three years into the relationship, he told me that his friend who
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