Showing posts with label relationship tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship tips. Show all posts

Thursday, November 26, 2015

Should I Accept This Cheating As punishment For My Bad Behaviour? Is He Lying To Me?

Dear Aunty Eya and blog visitors,
I need to get married and settle down as sokn as possible but a

Failed Past Relationships Preventing Me From Trusting My Fiance, How Do I Change?

Hello Aunty Eya, God bless you for all that I am learning from wives connection even though I'm not married yet. I need mature advice from other readers and you too please.

In My past 3 relationships I had been cheated on. One I walked in on,the other 2 I caught shady stuff in their social media and

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Do People Give Up After Just Two Fights? We Started On Friendzone To Close friends, Now He Left Me

Hello people of wives connection and my lovely Aunty Eya, please look my way and help with advice. Is it wrong to fall in love with your best friend and want to take the relationship further?

I  was close to a guy first as a friend. Being a friend, I used to be very carefree and honestly never cared so much as much as he used to for me. Then things changed between us, we started

Can Anyone Here Help Me Get my love Back?

Good afternoon Mrs Eya, I have been a silent reader of wives connection and it is my first time posting on this blog asking for help.
My love and I were together for two and half years. a little history on it; we are always happy together, loving, having fun, and in each other's presence a lot. (we are a couple that just loves spending time together) the problems we've had are

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

My Fiance Got Me A Job In His Father's Company, He Travels And Dad Wants Me, Should I Resign My Appointment?


Hello Aunty and blog visitors, I have been in this relationship for about 2 years now with my boyfriend, he proposed this year on his birthday in the presence of his family and friends. when I graduated from school and needed a job. My Fiance s father owns a large company in Lagos, so he thought it would be good for me to work there (thinking he could see me often when he comes to see his dad on his off days from his defence job).

I agreed and went to work like any young girl would, dressed in

Friday, November 13, 2015

She Tweeted Stuff About Me To Her Followers While Confessing Love For Me In My Presence. Should I Believe Her?

Good day Mrs Eya,  I just found your blog this week. It is my third time here and I strongly believe this is where I can get good advice from experienced people.

I don't really know how to start this off. So about 4 years ago,

We Met Online, He Said I Am Free To Go Get Married To Another Man, Yet I Dumped My Fiance And Ran Back To Him Again, Cannot Help Myself, I need Help

Good morning, I recently started following your blog and I was inspired to share mine too. Am in my late thirties and as a Nigerian my family wants me to settle down. I have been in a relationship for over 3yrs now and he keeps shifting our plans concerning settling down. We

Wednesday, October 07, 2015

My Dilemma In The Bedroom

Good evening aunty. I am a single girl following your blog and I have learnt so much from it.... I have a dilemma. 

I am a 22 year old girl, done with university, done with masters, working and I'm really looking to settle down. I've met so many guys that all they want is sex and not a serious relationship with me. I finally met a guy who is ALMOST everything I want in a man (no one

Tuesday, April 21, 2015

I Did As He Wanted, Now He Contacts Me Again?

Hello Aunty Eya and fellow blog readers, I need you all now please.
Nine months ago I made the biggest mistake of my life! I was in love with a married man who said he loved me too. The relationship lasted 3 years before we had a big quarrel I very selfishly told his wife about our relationship! I was such a fool and I've felt guilty ever since. They were both very very  angry but she eventually forgave him and took him back. 

He contacted me and said he never wanted to see, smell or hear from me again and that I meant nothing to him! I was totally heart broken and hurt, depressed for a while but I did as he asked and backed off.

 I made no contact with him, I left well alone! Then about 3 weeks ago, I started receiving emails from an unknown email address and they said they were a friend of my ex and that he had asked them to contact me to

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

He Suddenly Wants Us To Be Friends, What Did I Do Wrong?

Dear Aunty Eya,
I'm in my late twenties,and still an undergraduate due to delay..I'm in love with this guy and he is in his early thirties, we met 8months ago,became friends for a month and started dating the next month,approximately, we are 7months old in the relationship already...I can say he loves me because he was fond of me and always want me to be around him...I got to meet his family,his mom,sister,nephew and his cousins,we got so connected that I fell inlove completely with him...5months into the relationship was awesome, I already believe he was God - sent to me,cos he matched all the description of what I desire in my Man.

.6months into the relationship,he began to be withdrawn gradually, he stopped calling me as often again, initially I thought maybe because we were not sexually‎ attached (we agreed to abstain frm sex),not knowing his ex was in the picture all the time, when I got to know abt his ex being around him,he apologised,then I forgave him and we continued but it's was the same as the way we started,which one of cause can't be possible because I know relationship grow from one stage to another..

Going into the 7th month, our

Friday, March 20, 2015

Do You Compare Your Partner? Drop The Fantasy

Do you still compare
Comparison in a relationship is a disease which can plague anybody, regardless of status, colour, or race. It is that feeling that what the other person has, is better than yours, and you wished it was yours, so you begin to despise what you do have.
It's easy for people who do not have to deal with your shortcomings and imperfections on a daily basis to 'admire' you or think they are in love with you- because such feelings come with no responsibilities attached- it's free, easy and stressless- no demands. But as soon as the novelty of perfection wears off, because of the demands and expectations which come with the daily grind of living together, some go looking for the next perfect deal- perhaps another girl/woman who seems like the onion rings in the pizza, or the boy/man who makes you feel all tingly because of the nice way he talks to you. Comparison is deadly.

Like I wrote once, offences test relationships. It's easy to act all nice when everything seems rosy, but when you rub someone off the wrong way, or push them beyond their comfort zone, you will know if their humanity is humane or nasty!
Much as I love my hubby and he loves me, we

Tuesday, February 03, 2015

Not Pregnancy Hormones, I Have No Feelings For Him

The Last Time We Kissed Was Our Wedding Day...

I really need your sisterly advice as well as my fellow blog very sad and I just want to be happy..Am 27,got married 3months ago,i married my husband simply bcos I got pregnant and vowed never to abort again...please dnt let me go into details on how the issue of pregnancy came about but I never loved him while dating,nothing about him attracts me,let me just say I dated him then just not to be lonely cos I was a victim of emotional abuse coupled with series of abortion from my previous relationship.

He's a very good man,hardworking, godfearing ,and he loves me with is whole heart just name it,but I just don't love him,ive tried all my possible best,prayed, and I thought things will get better after we get married that i'll learn to love him but is getting worst.


Thursday, January 15, 2015

Because of His Child Or Love For Me? What Do You Guys Think?

Good day ma,
I must say you are doing a great job and I await your recipes each day.
Am in a very tight situation now. I dated a guy for 2years, we got engaged but broke the engagement. After a while we got back together and things became good for us, fastforward to some months later, we had issues again,we both were at fault and we broke up again!

 I found

Thursday, January 08, 2015

Not Just One Of His Friends, I Want Balance In My Life This Year, Please Help!

Should I Move On Or Work On Our Friendship?

Good day Aunty Eya,

Happy Sunday and hope your family is fine.
Please I crave anonymity in this epistle that I am about to write.
I have known a young man for about two -three years now and at first when we met, he was blowing hot and cold so I moved on from the friendship with him, tagging him as not serious. Early last year, after I had deleted his contact and moved on, he contacted me and that was when I was involved in an accident.

 All through my stay at home and my rounds at the hospital, he calls and checks up on me, many of my friends didn't do that so, I valued his friendship more. I returned to work and we still continued our friendship till sometime in September he asked that we start a relationship. I agreed and we took it steady but my problem however was, this young man is very detached. He calls everyday at that time and we speak alot but we hardly saw eachother even though we lived in the same state, and when we pay each other visits we hardly talk to each other, we just browse and check out blogs and watch series on television. One day, I had gone to see him and in my presence he called a cousin of his, and because he was supposed to drop me off somewhere on the Island, he said to his cousin that 'he had to drop one of his friends off at the island and after that they'd meet up.' I had a huge problem with that statement, why did he refer to me as, 'one of his friends?' I decided at that point to create some kind of distance, 'why didn't he refer to me as his girlfriend?' I won't bore you with details of my looks. 

So, I

Help! This Relationship Is Choking

Good evening everyone. Compliment of the season. I need advice from married and matured people please.
I'm 20 something year old and have been with this guy for 6 years ( in fact, it's the only relationship I have in). We have been engaged for 2 years, getting ready to get married by first week May 2015. The problem is that I'm frustrated and depressed about the whole thing. Why?
This guy is 32 years but he behaves like a child. Early in the relationship and till now, he made me chase away all my friends.

 I stayed without friends but just him. I couldn't go anywhere apart from school, work and church. Even at that, he will call me until my phone dies, he will question every move I make and why I don't pick his call even if it's 1 miss call. He doesn't trust me too, when I'm answering a call around him, his attitude changes and he won't talk to me until I give him all the attention and follow him around. If I'm chatting or replying sms, he will be looking into my phone and same his attitude changes. He goes through my emails, chats whenever I'm not looking.

He is so self centred that he wants everything to be about him. Every time we argue and quarrel, at first my family said I'm difficult to be with because this guy sounds so nice and caring. Until I stayed with my mum and she started seeing how depress I am and the constant argument.
I have lost

Monday, December 22, 2014

He Loves Me, I Love His Friend; Domestic Violence Plus More Mails

‎Poster 1.  Hello Aunty Eya,compliment of the season, my name in my early 20s,working with a federal govt parastatal,I met this wonderful colleague of mine January this year and we became pretty close(all this time I was single) he had a girlfriend but she was a christian and he is a Muslim. 

People started seeing the chemistry between us but I never saw it,some of our colleagues will even tell us we are going to eventually get married, all I knew was I cared so much about him. Fast forward to 6mnths later,my colleague's friend saw my pic on his phone and insisted he wanted to meet me, I met him and before I knew what was happening we started dating . 

Two months into the relationship,i discovered his friend wasn't the kind of man I wanted,but I kept quiet about it,i wanted to handle it my way until my friend/colleague couldn't hide his feelings anymore and he told me he loved me,he had alwais loved me, I blamed him for keeping quiet and he reminded me of the day he asked me if I could date him and my reply was NO, because I thought he was joking that day.

Now my friend/colleague is single,he is in love with me but am with his friend even though I want to leave his friend and nothing has really happened between me and his friend,i have told him we can't be together but we can't hide what we feel.for each other. Am confused I don't know the next step to take.

Poster 2.  Aunty Eya good morning, aw is ur family? Pls can you

Wednesday, December 03, 2014

Staff Cannot Marry Policy, What Can I do?

Eya Goodday ,how is your family ? Pls i need advice from matured mothers . Am a 29 yr old lady .working with The Federal Govt . While in the University, i dated a guy , we were very fund of each other, after university he started behaving funny ,i could not handle the way he follows me about . We broke up. 

After some months i met another guy from the eastern part of Nigeria , we fell in love and promised marriage , i brought him home to meet my parents cos he said he wanted to meet with them . To cut the long short , we travelled to see his mother, he has no father only for his mother to say she doesn't want her son to marry from my tribe Edo state . He promised talking to his mother and continued to asure me.But one day  he called me after some months to say he is sorry that the marriage cannot work out again cos he can't have two women who will be so dear to him not be able to live together. For that reason he ended the relatioship .

 I was

Pregnancy Weight, Romantic Husband Plus More

1. Hi aunty Eya. Hope yoџ and your family are doing great?. Please i'†ђ3 like to be anonymous.
I've been married for just 2years n my marriage isn't what ℓ̊ want it to be. My husby isn't romantic and is soo nonchalant about it. I try buh he is not encouraging me. I buy him gifts on both val day and his birthday buh he does reciprocate. even ordinary txt he won't send. I've talked to him about it and he was like those things don't matter, buh those littlr little things matter to me. We are young buh am certain our parents share more love than us. Please what can i do to gain his full attention, to make him appreciate me, to be romantic? Pls help!

2. Dear aunty Eya, pls I will be very glad if you can post this anonymously on the blog. I gave birth last month through CS so I wasn't allowed to do most of the therapy a new mum does to get back in shape but I am really anxious to get my shape back especially my tummy. What should I do pls? Is it ok to go on a diet since exercise is out for at least 3-6 months. Thanks so much.
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3. My marriage is one year, and I have been trying to conceive from onset. But nothing yet. Pls I need average priced, good fertility hospital in Lagos that I can go. And name of any doctor there that will attend and listen to me. Pls help post this on your blog.

4. I'm a secret reader of this blog.  Pls permit to use this medium. I'm  31yrs  guy, from Aks but reside in Imo. I need a lady within

Thursday, November 20, 2014

He Wants Marriage And Kids First, I Want My PhD First...

What if he stops me after we are married? What if i begin to resent him later on?

Hello...i stumbled on this blog through the internet and i decided to go thru it and i must say that i am pleased with it. I need advice because i am somewhat confused...i have been dating this wonderful man for a couple of years now,i knw his family members and they are wonderful people,my dilemma is this...

i have always dreamed of goin for my Phd and presently i am on my masters,i am pretty young. My boyfriend is nt too comfortable with me doing my Phd after my masters, he feels we shuld get married first in lyk 2 years time and after a kid or 2, i can start my Phd but i really wanna start before marriage then i can get married while on it (this is because i know we are both not ready for marriage until like 2 or 3 years time so i am like, why shouldn't I?)  he feels family should come first, i agree but i am not married yet and would like to pursue my dreams 

...i am afraid because if i don't start and i get married, what if things
don't go as planned and I can't do it? 

what if he stops me after we are married? What if i begin to resent him later on? 

I am young, he is young, there is no rush,i am 22 & he is 24. Because we aint in the same country cos i left for
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