Showing posts with label relationship tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship tips. Show all posts

12 February 2016

Can A Cheater Change?

 Hello friends on wives connection,  and Anty Eya, I'm  not really sure how to go about this but I need some advice.. I've been with my fiance for almost two years and our relationship has been great! Or so I thought... I've found out that he's been having a flirty text relationship with girl he used to know back at school and last month while we were having a bad patch he admitted he was weak and they met up and one thing led to

11 February 2016

Broken Trust, Can This Be Fixed?

Hello Aunty Eya, Hello wives connection, please come to my rescue. Okay am a first time poster on the blog and pretty nervous. I'm really sorry for the long mail I'm sending. I'm in a serious relationship,  and I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. Everything moved pretty quickly and we do currently live together in faraway North where we both work, even though none of us comes from the North. She has a drinking problem and we've struggled with her anger and the lack of emotional support she gives me. She has her own problems from previous experiences and past relationships. She has trouble opening up and doesn't really know how to talk about her feelings. I'm a huge

10 February 2016

I Did Not Grow Up With A Large Dog, Really Struggling Now

Hello Aunty Eya, please help make this a post for me. I urgently need advice before I make a wrong move. My fiance and I have been officially together for 9 months. He proposed May last year. We've hung out and known each other for about 2 years total. Just for the last couple of months has he come over almost every night and we almost spend every weekend together. I love it, but here's the thing, I'm not entirely sure what to make of this fairly new development, and I'm surprised by my thoughts. 

He has a dog and she's a fairly large dog, but very friendly and  sweet. She's 5 years old and generally well behaved. He started bringing her over every night without asking. It started with him asking if he could bring her over to stay the night, because he didn't want to leave her at home alone anymore. I was perfectly fine with it initially and I appreciated the slow progression. 

Now, here is the scenario, My apartment is pretty small for 2 people and a large dog. Just a

Now Our Families Want Us To Get Engaged, I Don't Know What To Do About My Ex

Hi, well done Mrs Eya for how much I have learnt from wives connection over this short period that I found the blog. I am from the East but we live in Lagos.It  was almost 1 year ago when I met this girl and I thought she was perfect for me. We became best of friends and soon I asked her out. The first few months were amazing and we were madly in love. Then her elder sister found out about us and warned us that either we break it off or get our families involved and make it official. Soon after that my parents got involved and my mother took an instant dislike towards her and over the span of next two months I did whatever I could to convince her and my ex to give me more time. During this time I and my ex started fighting over things and how I wasn’t

09 February 2016

WHO SHAKARA DON HELP?


 Over the weekend I had a funny but interesting conversation with a dear friend, she lamented on how she attended a wedding ceremony and a young man had approached her to chat with her but she gave him a cold shoulder. He then asked for her number but she refused to give the number, he apologized for disturbing her and walked away. End of story abi! My friend explained to me for over 30minutes how the guy was looking like an eligible bachelor, how sad she was that he wasn't persistent in asking for the number. Lol so why did you say no? She replied that she was doing small shakara. Abeg oh who shakara don help? Ladies listen, with the way exchange rate is dancing atilogu and

05 February 2016

My Husband Puts Up A Front When Family, Friends Are Around, Then Returns To Real Self When We Are Alone, I Left Him And Now Cannot Trust Again

Hi Sister Eya, Please help me post on the wives connection blog anonymously. I need some advice in my life and relationship. I married when I was 22. My first husband was 11 years older, he was 33 when we got married, and he died after we were married 10 years leaving me with two little boys to raise. I met my 2nd husband a year later and we married after a 1 year courtship. He drank a lot when we met but I naively thought I could "help" him. He did eventually become sober during that 2 years. After we were married I realized too late I had married a difficult individual. He made it his mission to control me from the way I dressed and talked to what I should do even with my own money. He was a control freak. He had no problem spending money on his personal needs and interests but berated me for investing

31 January 2016

How Can I Make My Son Born Out Of Wedlock Legitimate In Nigeria?

Good morning wives connection family. I had a fight with my inlaws because they show no respect when they come visiting. It's like my kitchen is a thoroughfare where they can just pick whatever they like as a takeaway, open freezer to see what's in there and even check pots on the cooker like we are mates.

So we exchanged some sour words with my SIL and she kept repeating that my son is an illegitimate child ;(
I had this boy before hubby and I wedded officially,  in

28 January 2016

Age is but a number, So, Don't Come Here And Tell Me Nonesense

Hello wives connect, I am a beautiful African lady that enjoys reading the blog. Though I am not Nigerian, I love Nigerian food and some aspects of the culture too. Please permit me seek advise on there. I am 42 and my partner is 27 we have been together since he was 20. This has never happened to me before and I would think twice if this were to happen again. We live together and have done so for about 3 years . We have had to go through a lot of judgment from various family members over the years and are still not in a good place. My partner's parents know about me and his Mum is fine but his Dad never has been which is fine. They are the only family members who even know I exist, as he has kept me a secret for so long. I am a naturally bubbly adventurous person who wants to live life to the full travelling and experiencing new adventures. All out holidays weekends away, trips out in the evening have 99% been planned by me. 

I have got to a stage where I find it extremely difficult to accept being his secret any longer. Although he lives

22 January 2016

He told me about his past without My asking, Now insists that I tell him everything about my past. What Should I Do?


Telling him everything about my past, is that necessary?

Good morning aunty Eya, God bless you for this blog.  I want to ask if
knowing your partner's past is important.  my boyfriend insist  on
knowing everything I did in the past and he keeps asking me about it
but I'm not willing to tell him cos I'm scared he might stop loving
me.


  I really don't want to tell him anything  and on top of that I
've been lying that I have nothing in my cupboard. He always says that before
we get married I must tell him everything cos he deserves to know. I
keep wondering if he is right,  how will I tell him about the abortion

21 January 2016

I am not the type of guy that would ever want to break up a marraige but im so deeply in love with this woman which makes me want her to leave her husband

Hello fellow blog readers, I feel so alone lying down on the couch and looking at supersports without really watching anything. I fear depression is close by and need help before it gets too late.
need advice on how to get over a married woman I have been having an affair with for over 3 years.
It all started when i began to see her at my gym on Saturdays. at the private gym I used to work at. She began texting me flirty messages and kept wanting to see me outside of thegym after Saturday aerobics. Now this had been going on for about 6 months, I kept making excuses but finally I gave in to seeing her and that's when this all took off. We began being intimate and that's when she started to shower me with expensive gifts

15 January 2016

My New Year Resolution To Confess What Happened Between My Friend's Husband And I

Happy New Year Aunty Eya, I have a confession which is part of my New year resolution.  It's a long story but please, bear with me. Delete my details before posting on the blog I beg you.
It started some months ago. I have a friend, my best friend in fact, got married recently to a guy (that I had not known. They had dated for a little over a year, but he was in The States. She travelled to meet him and they quickly tied the knots secretly in an oyibo way. I had seen pictures of him and had even chatted with him online with her (they met online sha). He was cute to say the least, but I didn’t give it a second thought. I was, after all, married to a man that means the world to me. I love my friend dearly and really was just enjoying watching her get to know this guy, and seeing her happy was great because I know the heart breaks she has suffered in this country with useless unrealistic "boys"

 Okay, he returned home two weeks prior to their wedding here in Naija.  They want to also have a Nigerian wedding where family and friends can attend and celebrate too. My friend was so excited and wanted all of us to have a big celebration dinner and party. The party was to be at my house. Okay, (my best friend) and her hubby met my husband and me, as well as several other people, at a local pub for the dinner ( club kind of) here in Lagos.  We all spent the next 2 or so hours in the pub eating, drinking, laughing, and having a great time. I was fixated on my friend's husband and I knew he knew it. He didn’t seem to mind at all, and on more than one occasion tipped his beer mug to me and winked. We were not

14 January 2016

Always Loving The Wrong Men But I'd Rather Stay Single Than Live With Someone I Don't Love

Hello Aunty Eya and Wives Connection and fellow Blog visitors who are always ready to help us silent readers with your wealth of knowledge. I'm 31 years old and I can say that I've truly loved only three people in my entire life and unfortunately they were  the wrong ones. My close friends are all in long term relationships and getting married and raising their beautiful families. Everyday I feel like I'm getting left behind. I feel old and discouraged,  I wonder why I can't fall in love or develop feelings for the right men, except those who will lie and deceive me and disappear when I need the relationship to move forward.But as much

29 December 2015

How Does A Married Man Manage To Sleep Overnight At A Different Place Atleast Once Every Week?

Merry Christmas Aunty Eya, I just found  wives connection and I have a question for you wives on there, please take out my details before posting. I am a 22 year old student in one of the best Unis in Nigeria. Ok, I met and fell in love with this rich generous guy before discovering he is married. I can't leave him now but will definitely do so after my studies, I'm in my 300 levels. I am not here to

22 December 2015

My Story. The Circle Is Repeating Itself

Hello Aunty Eya, I came across your blog while I was in a desperate chat. I'm 24rs old. I have a 3yr old baby from years back. The man flew immediately he knew I was pregnant, I

17 December 2015

While In Labour, He Is Breaking Up With Me At The Hospital

Good evening  Aunty Eya,  I want to ask for advise on the blog but am not a good writer. I just found this story on bossip and there a so many similar things about my case, any advise given by blog visitors will help me too but I  Kw you might not post it because I read a comment last week where you warned a poster that she or he copied a story and shouldn't do that again. I  am not a copier and not a good writer too. Please help me, pity me by posting this story. I need advise please Aunty Eya. I am 22 years old with a one year old son with a man, or should I say boy, who’s betrayed me in every way.
We’ve been neighbors all our lives, even had sleepovers in my house when we were kids. We didn’t speak to each other besides a “Hi,” and head nod for years because our mothers HATED each other. But, more than 2 years ago, because of my brothers, we started to hang out with each other. I was in another relationship at the time with someone who was cheating on me, so I cheated on him. But, I know now

He Controls Me Like A Toy, Says Will Poison Me If I Cheat On Him

Good morning aunty Eya. God bless u for this wonderful blog, u 've
really helped lives. please I need to knw if I'm doing the right thing
with this guy. I met him last two yrs nd things was quiet well but we
agreed on one particular thing, No Sex. He tried to rape me once but
didn't succeed nd said he was sorry, dat he didn't mean to, it
happened cos of the way I kissed him or something like dat then he

26 November 2015

Should I Accept This Cheating As punishment For My Bad Behaviour? Is He Lying To Me?

Dear Aunty Eya and blog visitors,
I need to get married and settle down as sokn as possible but a

Failed Past Relationships Preventing Me From Trusting My Fiance, How Do I Change?

Hello Aunty Eya, God bless you for all that I am learning from wives connection even though I'm not married yet. I need mature advice from other readers and you too please.

In My past 3 relationships I had been cheated on. One I walked in on,the other 2 I caught shady stuff in their social media and

25 November 2015

Do People Give Up After Just Two Fights? We Started On Friendzone To Close friends, Now He Left Me

Hello people of wives connection and my lovely Aunty Eya, please look my way and help with advice. Is it wrong to fall in love with your best friend and want to take the relationship further?

I  was close to a guy first as a friend. Being a friend, I used to be very carefree and honestly never cared so much as much as he used to for me. Then things changed between us, we started

Can Anyone Here Help Me Get my love Back?

Good afternoon Mrs Eya, I have been a silent reader of wives connection and it is my first time posting on this blog asking for help.
My love and I were together for two and half years. a little history on it; we are always happy together, loving, having fun, and in each other's presence a lot. (we are a couple that just loves spending time together) the problems we've had are
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