Showing posts with label parenting tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting tips. Show all posts
Tuesday, July 12, 2016

TIP: HOW TO MANAGE DEMANDING YOUNG CHILDREN


Kids are insatiable, they are just being kids and will want to have everything beautiful if they could. Never be deceived into thinking that you can give children everything they want. YOU CAN'T. They want the shoe their friend is wearing, they want the bag other kids at the birthday party are wearing, they want they type of sneakers a girl at church is wearing. They also know how to make parents feel inadequate and guilty. 
Don't allow any child  or anyone to make you feel that way. It may be their opinion, that you are too strict, too protective and all but it doesn't make it true.

You are the responsible one.  Firmness, correction, discipline is not easy especially in these days, but it is needed!

I told my children that I wasn't here to be their friend only, that I am their support system, their care taker, their parent. I am the one that will supply your needs, and sometimes your wants, the one that

STEP PARENTING: WHAT CAN I DO TO MIND MY BUSINESS WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY?



Hello Aunty Eya, plese help me post on the blog. I am writing you this early because I need help with step parenting. My husband has a 16 year old daughter who just moved in with us last year just before Christmas. She is supposed to have left secondary school but it seems her mum  couldn't afford further education and could not register her for WAEC or NECO. Now, Hubby cares only about himself and, me seeing the type of man that my husband is, I stopped after two children so that in case push comes to shove, I'll be able to sponsor my two kids without having to crawl and beg.

So, both my boys are still in Primary school but when my step daughter moved in, I asked her to go back to school so she can be useful to herself instead of just cleaning and watching TV, I have a house help so her cleaning is basically her own wears and dishes. Tried to discuss with my husband about her Education but he doesn't seem too interested, I quietly told myself that I'll do the best I can to help her. With my civil servant salary, I managed to buy school supplies and got her Registered while hubby only managed to pay her School fees after many reminders from me. She started school
Saturday, July 09, 2016

HONESTLY, I WISH I WASN'T A WORKING MUM

Image credits; My brown baby.
When I was a little kid growing up in the North, my mom didn’t work outside of the home. Instead, she stayed home with me and my sisters, playing with us and cooking every meal we ever wanted to eat, teaching us things, reading the yellow hard cover "my book of bible stories' with us and prying along, caring for us, and when we got older she dusted her certificate and went back to work as a staff nurse at a hospital. She would “go back to work” eventually, but while we were small, she was a full-time parent. When I was preparing to have my own child, I wasn’t sure if that was something that I wanted or not. Ultimately, the financial realities of my working class family meant that it wasn’t really a decision I had to make, because my family needed me to be working to sustain us in this economy. And to be honest, being with my son 24/7 and having nothing else that I had to do during the lengthy postpartum period made me feel antsy and weird. When I started working, and especially when I started working on a  schedule, it
Tuesday, June 28, 2016

I'VE NURSED MY 19 MONTH OLD FROM BIRTH WITH NO PLANS TO STOP SOON - BLACKTAVIST


In 5 months he'll be 2 years and mum has no plans of stopping soon. Breast milk is the best any day, anytime. Kudos mum, he looks very healthy and fit.
Below is Another photo by Blacktavist:
Tuesday, June 21, 2016

TIPS FOR TRAVELLING WITH A BABY




  1. Prepare, plan and pack ahed of time but don't over pack.
  2. Have your own medicines, supplies ready; cough syrup,paracetamol, flagyl etc. Be your pharmacy.
  3. If you are travelling with a private car, get a car seat for the baby even if he's under 2, you don't want to lap a baby the whole time.
  4. Prepare for the worst, your baby might get car sick and throw up.
Tuesday, June 07, 2016

HOW TO COPE WITH A SUPER SPORTS; AFRICA MAGIC LOVING HUSBAND

Hello my able wives connecion tribe and Aunty Eya, I feel like the whole world is collapsing, coming right down on me. When I met my husband, I knew he was the one. I married him after two years and promised him I would stay with him as long as he never cheated or hit me, this I said to him because I was in an abusive relationship before I met him. I knew he was lazy when I married him but I never thought it would get this bad. We have two beautiful daughters  who I love with every bit of my being, and I am now seven months pregnant. This pregnancy was a surprise. I was not happy when I found out and it took me a long time to get used to the fact that I was going to have another baby again in this tough, no tomatoes, no fuel economy. My husband has never helped with either child. Since he got fired from his job, He is too busy searching for another job in all the wrong places or sleeping on the couch with Super sports or Africa Magic Yoruba.
 l work 5 days a week, cook, clean, laundry, do the grocery shopping, Saturday
Friday, June 03, 2016

My First Daughter Won A Beauty Pageant At School, I'm Worried


Now I'm beginning to understand what patents go through when they have teenage children. I have always been outspoken about parents trying to like "chose" career paths for their kids and will always say " let them decide what they want to do" but now it's my turn to "let them" and it's a bit difficult.
This my first girl is the one I turn to when I can't decide on something. To me she is gifted in that area. Her friends and we  her family know and trust her judgement so well, to me she has never failed when it comes to judging her siblings, saying who is at fault or who is right and wrong. We so love that aspect of her. Intelligence in that area? God just dashed her.

Ok, I won't even be ashamed to say here that once, she observed that even though me and their dad were talking in their presence and acting normal, she called me aside and whispered that she is not a

How Getting Married, Becoming a mum has made me lose friends

Good day aunty, I'm a new reader who got introduced to wives connection this year by my cousin. please I need help from wives connection. I need to know how wives and mothers manage to keep their friendships alive. I got married almost immediately after graduation in 2014. My family got blessed with twin boys in 2015 and life has been kind of "it is well" Joggling wifey duties, babies, my job etc, it  has not been easy. No one told me it's this hard, not even my mother. I am not complaining but this phase of my life is really hard.
Where I need help is with keeping my friends around. I am fast losing friends. I can't find time to visit even those in the same town with me, I can't find time to just chat and relax with those far away.
Tuesday, May 31, 2016

SHOULD I BREASTFEED MY HUSBAND WHILE STILL NURSING OUR BABY?


Hello Aunty Eya, good morning, I need urgent help from wives connection. My baby is just 5 months old and exclusively breastfed. I haven't yet introduced him to solid food or cereal and wanted to wait till he is 6 months but there is a little challenge. My husband has been on my neck to let him suck too,
Friday, May 27, 2016

MY WIFE WANTS TO GET PAID FOR HOUSEWORK

Hello wives connection and Madame Eya, I started following the blog in 2014 and have benefitted immensely. Please advise me on how to go about this new drama from my wife. We have been married for 8 years and live in a 4 bedroom here in Lagos  with 2 kids. We are not rich but comfortable enough to thank God. I am a  business owner and I pay for everything, children School fees, food, cars, insurances, groceries, maintenance, medical bills, building a home at my village and all expenses which is well over say ten thousand Naira straight.  I also pay for my wife's part time schooling. She became a teacher after our second child was born, to enable her create more time for the kids while earning a little something for herself.  My wife doesn't really work that much at home and does only a few dishes sometimes, laundry pretty much most of the chores for
Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Inefficient Gynaecologist at Crystal Hospital Dopemu, What Can I Do?


Hello aunt Eya,
I want to use this medium to report what happened at the above mentioned hospital located in Dopemu area close to Egbede.
Eight months ago,I had a baby there through CS.I later found out that the gynaecologist didn't do well.when I arrived there,he checked me and I was 2cm dilated and afterward referred me for cervical ripening but he wasn't the one that did the ripening for me .

another doctor came along and performed the ripening even while I was not in labour and there was no issue with me nor the pregnancy ,the baby wass doing well in the womb so I don't know why cervical ripening that lead to rupturing my
Monday, May 23, 2016

MY WIFE HAS NEVER SAID "I AM SORRY" TO ME, WHAT DO I DO?

Good evening madam Eya, please I am a male reader on this your blog , help me post my case so that I could get help from you ladies, I am a father of four kids,I've always taken care of my family but my wife attitudes have changed that as the economy of the country is high and she is doing well in her business,
Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Tonto Dikeh Celebrates 3 Month old son


Nollywood actor Tontolet celebrates her son sharing a glimpse of his face. She wrote this on her page: 
I thought I'd seen the best of life's beauty until I was blessed with the chance to mother a son & daily watch him grow. 

I thought I'd experienced the best of unadulterated Pure love Until I was blessed with the chance to Love you my Angel..

I'm in awe of God's breathtaking deeds & it's indeed a privilege to see my replica grow everyday into a man.

Thanks for making the last 3Months the best 3Months of My life..
Thank you God almighty for diming me fit of this Gorgeous Precious Adorable One..
It is the Lords doing & it is marvellous in my sight.
#HAPPY 3months KING-ANDRE
#SmallChurch
#BABYX

See cute Andre after the cut:
Monday, May 16, 2016

This is how mum bloggers live

@wives-and-mothers.
Fun!
Motherhood shouldn't stop you from living our dream. We are women and we are strong. Let your kids grow up and be proud of you.

You May Get Pregnant Through Anal Sex - Dr Steixner




Urologist Dr Brian Steixner revealed that he treated a patient who conceived after having sex with her partner through her rectum. The patient according to Dr. Steixner had a rare condition called 'cloacal malformation' which affects one in 50,000 people. This condition happens when the rectum, vagina and urethra fail to separate into three tubes and bodily fluids drain into one channel.


The woman had an operation when she was younger to fix the problem, but it didn't go according to plan and left a tiny hole connecting her womb to the rectum.

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

10 Items To Have In A Diaper Bag Before Leaving The House

Diaper bag photo: Supermommie.
For new moms. Have you ever gone out and realized in the middle of a meeting that you needed an extra diaper or wipes for the baby? The baby's dress is soiled and you don't know what to do. The weight of the bag depends on how long you intend to be out with the baby. Here are 10 essential items to have in a baby diaper bag that you need for a whole day before returning home:


  1. An extra outfit or 2 just in case
  2. 4 extra bibs
Saturday, April 23, 2016

When To Stop Wearing Diapers On Your Baby

  

There is no set time to stop using diapers on babies because you know what? they are all different. However, while some show signs of readiness and stop as early as two, others may not be ready until they are three. For instance,   my girls stopped wearing diapers earlier than their brother. At two they were no longer padded, could say when they wanted to use the potty and stayed dry the

Love Generously. If God Didn't Have A Purpose For Us, We Couldn't Be Here

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At the prodding of my friends I am writing this story.  My name is Mildred Honor. I am a former elementary school Music Teacher from Des Moines, Iowa.

I have always supplemented my income by Teaching Piano Lessons...Something I have done for over 30 years. During those years, I found that Children have many levels of musical ability, and even though I have never had the prodigy, I have taught some very talented students. However, I have also had my share of what I call 'Musically Challenged Pupils.

One such Pupil being Robby. Robby was 11 years old when his Mother (a Single Mom) dropped him off for his first Piano Lesson.

I prefer that Students (especially Boys) begin at  an earlier age, which I explained to Robby.  But Robby said that it had always been his Mother's Dream to hear him play the Piano, so I took him as a Student.

At the end of each weekly Lesson he would always say 'My
Friday, April 22, 2016

Is Alcohol Completely Condemned By Scripture?

Wine Versus excessive drinking, Which Is Wrong?

Good day Eya, I'm a Christian wife and mom who is getting quite addicted to wives Connection Blog. My husband is not an alcoholic but he drinks a little. I do not drink at all and because of this the kids think am more Christian than their father. I tried to explain to them last night when they said it, I told them that
Thursday, April 21, 2016

10 Things You Should Never Say To People Trying To Conceive (TTC)

 Image: TheGrio.

People sometimes don't know what to say to those going through this phase, and when they finally say something, you just wish they hadn't. In the journey of waiting on The Almighty, the giver of children, women have heard crazy, heart rending things being said to them. Surprisingly, these statements come from people very close who know their struggle.

1. You are still young, why are you worrying yourself? Yes na, we all know she is still young and she knows also that, if she is not too young yo get married, then she is not too young for anything. 

2. You are too fat, maybe you need to lose weight: Haven't we seen lots of big

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