Showing posts with label parenting tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting tips. Show all posts

First Time Mum: Has Anyone Been In This Situation?

Hello,
 I must say that I have learnt a lot from wives connection blog though I never knew a day would come when I'll have to write in for help...

Am a first time mum,had my baby ten days ago and I had a little tear which the doctor said didn't need to be stitched,its painful like crazy and am so scared even after d normal everyday hot water massage

Initially I couldn't

Hospital List For Delivery In Nigeria

Helloo Aunty Eya and WC, I discovered this blog on Google while searching for recipes of Nigerian soups and have since become a follower. I need a little help. I am a first time mom in my third trimester. My hospital is a private one maybe that's why I haven't been given a must have delivery list for pregnant mothers.

I asked my midwife and Doctor, they all teel mke the same thing, to come along with my personal effects and items I will need without listing them out. I'm planning to

My Six month Old Lacks Head Control

Please could you post my question in your blog so anyone that's had a similar experience can comment.
My daughter is currently six months old and she can't hold her head yet. our pediatrician directed us to a physiotherapist but the exercises we have been doing haven't changed things much. she's rolling over and meeting all her other mile stones except the head control which she can't hold for more than five seconds and when she does it tilts to the side though she can

Unripe Banana Meal For My Baby

A serving of soft unripe banana meal for babies
Babies love unripe banana pudding. While crackingn our heads on what to start with when introducing them to solid food, THIS is one of the best. Cooked with enough crayfish. Ikokore babana is cooked just like wives connection step by step ekpang or the normal water yam ikokore. It can be served adults too and I love it.

This meal can be prepared for the whole family with other sources of protein but when cooking for these little ones, crayfish alone is just ok. Cooked without pepper for now.

Ingredients For Unripe banana meal:

  • Unripe banana, you need

Updated: Dear Pregnant Mom, Your Mail Vanished

I wanted to post with a phone very early this morning. Copied and do not know what my finger touched next thing, the mail disappeared. I must have unconsciously touched a button or something. I spent the whole morning looking for this mail cos from the tone I guess you are a first time mom (inexperienced), who wants to do what is right for you and  baby but mom won't let you and now you seem confused.

From the little I can remember, your mother wants you to dump the car and use public transport cos according to her driving is not good for the baby. She has stopped you from bending to sweep and suggests that your husband helps out but you feel he has been doing great since you got pregnant and now it seems he is over stretched and you don't know how to help out.From your mum's rules, all you need to do now is just rest so as not to stress the baby.

You are worried cos you can't stay in a dirty environment and now you are not expected to bend down and sweep. I know there are other questions you asked but can't remember clearly now.
Please Aunty mom, if you still have the mail, resend to enable me publish or update here.

In the meantime, we have a post already that addresses some of your questions like
should a pregnant woman bend to sweep the floor and I know that a lot of pregnant women sweep even up to their EDD, I remember Ace talking about women in the village who farm, bend to cut grass until some even go to farm at 9 months but we all know sha that bodies are different. I don't think even Doctors and midwives discourage bending to sweep but your body might be different from other preggers. For me o, I sweep but not with the short broom, there are some brooms that enable sweep and even pack while standing. There's

Anyone Knows Natural Tips For My Jaundiced Infant?

Hi Aunty EYa
Pls help post as it's urgent.
I just birthed a beautiful baby boy but has jaundice.  We've been in and out of hospital. Pls what natural remedy can I do to cure it..
Was told about unripe pawpaw soaked but Wat quantity is he to take nd if I need to take too. More suggestions r welcome pls.
Thanks
Bb

Eya: Ok, the pawpaw water my neighbor gave her jaundiced baby, there were no measurements o. She
gave a few baby spoons each time she felt baby was thirsty kind of and it cleared within days but I have never tried it. I wanted to after we left the hospital with my baby but all the paw paw trees we found then had no single fruits, I guess that was not a paw paw season. We searched, asked people to help but none could find any unripe paw paw so I just continued to take him outside every morning until it finally cleared. 
Those coloured eyes lingered for over a month cos the sun wasn't coming out early and by the time it comes, it's already too hot for a baby's skin and then even when we see it and rush out, clouds cover the rays but since the Doctors said the bilirubin level has drastically reduced, I just waited and trusted God until the eyes finally cleared after like close to two months which was too long for any mother.

Eya: I'll

Any Tips For My Preterm Baby?

Hello WC. Good day to you all. I wish you all the best in life. I really hope my concerns would be put up for discussion. 

I am a first time mom to a preterm 2 weeks old baby. My baby came at 35 weeks. 
My concerns are that I am not lactating well, so, I have been using formula. 


What

Pregnancy Is Past EDD, Can I Escape Being Induced? I Need Help Please Mothers

Good evening everyone,  Pls this is a personal question which I need advice to urgently. Pls help post on the blog, I also  need your very own advice ma. It's 6days past 39weeks in my pregnancy and labour is not forth coming ,this is my first pregnancy. 

The doctor told me they will have to induce me in the hospital if after 40 weeks and labour do not happens( heard it is very very painful). My questions are: 
during my 37th week I crossed a busy road  with running a little, I then felt a gush of water from my vagina soaking my pant and a bit of discomfort in my  lower abdomen.

 I remember getting

Re: Photos, Bathing A Baby, My Baby's Sheabutter/Vaseline Skin

My baby at 3 months
Hi Anon, I promised to upload a picture of baby's vaseline skin on the baby bathing post but it cannot upload there so I brought it here. At birth, I started with sheabutter but right now it's vaseline all the way. This was a selfie taken just four days ago on our way to pick his sisters from School.

A lot of people say that

Pictures: How To Give Bath To Newborn Baby

Handle the baby like shown in the picture to prevent soapy and slippery baby from slipping off your grip. Your left hand must grab the baby's left hand from the armpit and remain there until washing is done. The right hand does all the soaping and pouring of water. Even if bathing baby in the sink, grab armpit plus arm with left hand and do not release that grip.
I refuse to show him in swim suit(: with diaper is ok.
 STEPS ON HOW TO BATHE A NEWBORN BABY:

  1. Get a low stool to sit on. The bed in baby's room is low enough reason I didn't use the stool. If you prefer to stand while giving the bath, then place items on the dining table. I won't advise Nigerian moms to bathe babies in the kitchen sink cos we cook with a lot of pepper, palm oil and all.
  2. Ensure the room is well lit, close doors and windows to keep room temperature warm.
  3. Arrange baby wears, towels... large and small, sponge and baby soap, diapers, combs, cream or oil, baby shampoo, hair cream, dettol, cotton buds, bucket of warm water, hot water flask, cotton wool, methylated spirit and other items you'll need, vaseline or sheabutter or whichever you use. I started with sheabutter but changed to vaseline after we got admitted for jaundice.
  4. Check to see that everything is at arms length, if your baby is the type that cries hunger while bathing, try to breastfeed before undressing.
  5. Place the big towel on your thighs cos this is where baby will be put immediately after the bath.
  6. Undress the baby, grab as shown in the first picture and proceed with giving the bath.
  7.  I start with shampooing hair, then wiping the face with face towel, soaping the neck, armpits and whole body then finally washing with clean water from the bucket. 
  8. For the cord, I just make the remaining bath water a bit warmer, soak a clean face towel in there a hold above the navel while the warm water pours in there or I use the scoop. A few times though, I put both legs across the baby bath tub, still grabbing baby as shown, I place on my thighs while pouring the water on the navel. After this, wiping with methylated spirit and clean cotton wool is mandatory.
  9. Sometimes though, I start with washing his legs and end with shampooing hair before the navel. 
  10. Baby's genitals do not need any special douching and scrubbing please, for a baby girl, just gently wipe with the bath face towel and that's all.
  11. All those massages may not be necessary cos baby's body is still forming and growing and will definitelyn take shape as the baby grows older. Nigerian mothers, please let's stop all those painful massages while bathing our babies, we can't change the shape and stature.
  12. When satisfied, remove baby from bath water and place on the towel you had spread over your thighs and immediately start wiping water off with a towel.
  13. Cream or put oil on the tender baby's skin ASAP so you put an under wear on before completing the processes of wiping ears, navel and wearing diapers. New babies' catch cold easily reason I proceed to cover the chest with at least an under wear before completing the baby bathing process.
  14. Clean navel very well with your cotton wool and spirit before wearing diapers. 
  15. Oil baby's hair with a little oil if you like.
  16. Comb the hair with an appropriate comb, if your baby is very hairy like my boy, use an afro comb specially kept for baby's hair. If baby begins to cry while combing then check the size of that comb.
  17. Complete the dressing and by this time baby should be sleeping.
  18. You can now relax and put sleeping baby to rest.

Arrange baby bath items, everything you'll need before undressing the baby. This pic should have come first. My camera is giving a wrong date o, no mind am. maybe date of manufacture, I don't know but just turned it off since I can't set it right abeg.
Well, this is how I bathe my babies. Different mothers may have different methods.
This post is dedicated to our readers and first time moms who have no mother or mother inlaw to come do the "omugwo" (Care given to new moms and babies soon after delivery until the baby is about bthree months old) job after baby is born. I have seen new moms making arrangements with friends and church members and even elderly neighbours to help with bathing the baby and truth of the matter is that most times when other people bathe our babies, we are not really impressed; It's either we think the bath water is too hot or not hot enough, the massage is too vigorous for a tender baby, too much powder on baby's skin , not enough cream, bathing took too long thereby exposing baby to cold and I can go on and on and on. What if you learnt to bathe your baby yourself and

Can Low Sperm Motility Be Corrected? Visit Doctor Before Fertility Prayer Please

My lovely WC family. Its been awhile! Trust you are all doing well? Ok , can you recall a woman who wrote to ask about HSG sometimes ago? OK, its me and am back with my praise report.
With mixed feelings I went for the HSG! Mehn! It was a bit painful but all thanks to the radiologist who is a true believer, she was like a mother, she was really gentle and kept encouraging me. (God bless her). The result came back very good.

I saw the doctor the next day and he ask me to go for hormonal profile and my honey boo boo for sperm analysis.
With anxiety and all I wanted for cycle day 21 for the blood sample to be taken for the test. And hubby went for his sperm analysis. Hubby was diagnosed with low sperm motility and he was placed on Vitamin E. Can  low sperm motility be corrected?

For me, I waited for more than a month for my hormonal profile result to be ready. Mehn! I didn't know it will take that long. There were days I couldn't sleep, thinking and worrying for nothing!
Finally, result was ready. All hormones shooting very well expect progesterone which was within the range but not too good. I was placed on clomid and metformin.
I trust God that He will complete what He has started in us. And I know I will come to this page I share my testimony.

For someone trusting God for the fruit of the womb, abeg go see a doctor so that your prayer will be properly directed, know what you want God to correct! 
And

How I Induced My Labor Naturally, Baby Came Almost Immediately

At 39 weeks, there was no sign of labor, another hospital appointment was fixed for the following week. After 4 pregnancies, the Doctors said I won't be induced for any reason. If by 40 weeks I was still pregnant, that I will have to deliver the baby through Caesarean Section.
When I got home I started my research on how to make baby come before that week. I remembered how at 37 weeks, I experimented on something and suddenly I start getting contractions but quickly stopped for fear that the baby might not be due then. Intact, as soon as I discovered I was carrying a baby again?????, I started reading up on "pregnancy after 4 kids at late thirties".I knew a few things already. I learnt so many things a woman can do to induce labour, some practical, some incredible. I tried a few, nothing worked and was about to give up when

When Your Teenager Views Online Porn, What To Do

Is this a headache banging?I woke up this morning, prayed for all my children and while doing that, something came across my heart like "check their phones today"
The last time I'd checked, all were just pics of their fav celebs like Justin Bieber, One Direction Mercy Johnson, Omotola, Genevieve, Davido etc etc, and the rest were Educational searches. Fast forward just one year of cooling down, feeling good that my kids are still very very innocent.

They have all gone to school this morning, leaving the gadgets carelessly on their not very well laid beds. The first phone I pick is my Twelve year old's, switch on, there's no credit so I recharge. Check Browsing history and what???
Youtube videos about 'IT"
Seriously? I blanked out, felt as light as a peacock feather. My baby? Where did I go wrong? Is it by giving her a phone or by  providing recharge cards?

WHAT TO DO TO PREVENT CHILDREN WATCHING ONLINE PORN:
First, I am trying to search for any software that can

Can My Wife Retain This Baby Weight While Breast Feeding Our Baby?

Good morning all, 
I am guy of 32, I came across your blog few weeks back. my issue is, my
wife is currently pregnant, first pregnancy after a year of our
wedding. she was very skinny when we got married and in her pregnancy
but once she got to her second trimester she has been putting on this
magnificent weight which am loving every bit of.

 she is prettier, building those hips and looks very very mature, which I love.
The problem is I want her to bottle feed our baby after delivery by
Gods grace, cos breastfeeding will

My Present Situation, Just Imagine It's You

I am going to start from the very beginning, and this will be the first time I will ever open my mouth to explain at length the actual gist behind the whole thing.. I am 27 years old. Im currently working with a radio station as an OAP. i am earning enough money to take care of me, my son and other expenses so I bless God for the provisions he made for me. I started visiting this blog early this year when i googled how to make a certain dish..this is a wonderful blog. So that I don't start boring you, here is my story. 11 years ago, I was in Asaba. I was done with secondary school but not yet in the University. My uncle came home from spain after 8 years, and he came to build houses and establish some businesses in Nigeria, he planned to stay for a minimum of 3months and came with his spanish-American wife whom we had never met. We are four children and adding my parents that made us six and lived in a 3 bedroom apartment so my uncle could not
stay with us. He decided to get a flat in a more developed part of asaba while construction was going on his new house.

Due to the fact that my uncles wife was not Nigerian, they needed someone to show her around, help with the chores and also keep her company since she didn't have friends and my uncle was always in the site with my dad . coming back very late at night. She was and is a very nice woman and I enjoyed her company and gists a lot but after a month,I started searching for friends around the

Tired Of My Mother's Trouble's, Must I Always Do Her Bid?

Dear Aunty eya goodevening. Am really stressed out and confused am 22 and a christian  attending a living Church, but my problem now is since my mom found this new church, I haven't rested. She wants me to start attending their services and programs, infact, she wants me to stop my church and start attending hers.

 I Have even done

pawpaw Leaves For Quick Breast milk Production

Hi, I was introduced to ur blog like two weeks ago but only felt a need to check it out and I must say it's mature and unlike the usual "small talk" blogs around. Kudos!

My first interest is about the lady who

Posting Our Children's Pictures On Social Media?

Hello Eya,

Few minutes ago I saw a message on my Whatsapp "Please mama debbie... Am happy for you... Stop exposing your baby to social media. The baby is too young. Expliotation and manipulations is easy on social media...not everyone is happy....oooo. It just a suggestion...."

I did sincerely appreciate this friend's concern and courage to speak up rather than curse me within, however I did ask what risks children are exposed to as a result of innocent parents/friends posting their pictures online so I can

Which Is Better, IUD Or Implants?

Hello aunty Eya, I sent a mail some days ago but you've not posted it. Pls am sending this mail again. Help a sister abeg.
I'm on the verge of choosing btw IUD or implant mode of contraception. I need opinions from people that have done either of the two. Want to know d side effect they experienced when they did it. Madam biko help me post it on WC. Thanx a lot


I'm at the point of

Is It Alright To Add Human Effort To Faith Prayer?

Good morning Everyone! Please, I have a beautiful daughter who is three years old and I want to start trying to conceive my second child. However, I want a boy now for a different experience and to complete my family.

I have been praying and fasting about it. However, there are some natural ways to aid in conceiving a boy prominent among which
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