Showing posts with label marriage tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage tips. Show all posts
Sunday, May 29, 2016


It was a very sunny Saturday morning, and our wedding anniversary. I looked at my wife as she got ready to leave the house for work. She is a doctor and had been on call today. It seemed like yesterday she walked down the aisle to me. Wow! We are twenty-three years in marriage today.
Friday, May 27, 2016


Hello wives connection and Madame Eya, I started following the blog in 2014 and have benefitted immensely. Please advise me on how to go about this new drama from my wife. We have been married for 8 years and live in a 4 bedroom here in Lagos  with 2 kids. We are not rich but comfortable enough to thank God. I am a  business owner and I pay for everything, children School fees, food, cars, insurances, groceries, maintenance, medical bills, building a home at my village and all expenses which is well over say ten thousand Naira straight.  I also pay for my wife's part time schooling. She became a teacher after our second child was born, to enable her create more time for the kids while earning a little something for herself.  My wife doesn't really work that much at home and does only a few dishes sometimes, laundry pretty much most of the chores for
Wednesday, May 25, 2016

When My Husband Think's I'm not around; Annoying

Hello Aunty Eya and wives connection fam. This is really just a rant but over the past few weeks, my husband and I have been talking about having kids after just 5 months of marriage. We've been together for 2 years as fiance and fiancee hustling to gather money for wedding, but married only five months back. We are both only 27. 
I snoop on him and know quite a few blogs and forums he reads. I noticed him making stupid remarks on a forum he visits. It's an open forum, predominantly male users. He's been talking about how Beyonce is the only true hourglass female and how Rihanna makes him wanna diggggg. I don't think he knows I can see that stuff but I think he's being an idiot. And, frankly, I'm disappointed that he's like that when he thinks I'm not around. I thought of confronting him but won't he think I've been spying on him?

It's making me feel weird. I don't know if I want to be all gigantic and pregnant while



How to make sex toys at home for sexless marriages in remote areas
 Easy Home made toy.

Singles, check the next post!
Hello Eya, There have been blog posts and questions on the blog from African wives suffering in sexless marriages and unable to leave. They never asked for that and deserve to be happy. The suggestions have alwas been that they get toys but what about those in areas where they can't have access or do not have the money to afford these expensive toys?

I have been in a sexless marriage for close to 7 out of 12 years of my marriage and do not wish to leave or cheat and bear the consequences of HIV.My children
Monday, May 23, 2016


Good evening madam Eya, please I am a male reader on this your blog , help me post my case so that I could get help from you ladies, I am a father of four kids,I've always taken care of my family but my wife attitudes have changed that as the economy of the country is high and she is doing well in her business,
Friday, May 20, 2016

Self Help For Your Libido

Thanks Julia, I had to bring this comment to front page so everyone can see. She responded on the post HOW OFTEN SHOULD YOU HAVE SEX
You can also read how to make Tigernut drink (kunun aya) by Sadiya.

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Wednesday, May 18, 2016

My Wife Says I'm Blowing Things Out of proportion, Is she right?

Hello Madam, I'm a reader of wives connection blog based outside the shores of Nigeria. Haven't set my foot in the country in over a decade but making plans to visit... This will be my first time posting, even though I have been reading for quite some time. Here is a little background before I get to the questions I have for you guys. Please bear with my long story. My wife and I have been married for 14 years, and have 4 kids. We met and married right out of high school, and were each other’s first loves. We both grew up here and met here. My wife growing up, was a straight laced girl. She always got super good grades, and was very responsible. Because of this, I have always believed and trusted everything she says. I could not even imagine her lying to me. She has the type of personality, that she is not afraid to tell you exactly what she is thinking. She can be very blunt, which is one of the things I have always admired about her. I have always trusted her for that reason.

Well, a couple years after getting married, she got a part time job, and not long after

I've cheated on my husband and need help

Hello Aunty Eya, Please take away all details before posting. My husband is 16 years older than I am and we have been married for 3 years. He is in his fifties. He is oftentimes kind, gentle and sweet. But we have always have our differences that caused major fights among us. I have felt neglected often times although he's there. His job is extremely demanding and stress filled and often times he takes out that frustration on me by yelling and complaining over
Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Do I Always Have To Say Yes For A Successful Marriage?

Please post my mail anonymously Anty. I came across wives connection while searching for info on courtship matters. I have since that 2015 been hooked like glue. God bless everyone on the blog cuz I have learnt so much. I'm newly married and we had a celibate courtship because we are both Christians. My husband and I saw ourselves the very first time on our wedding night and I have a little problem. His libido is much much higher and it's not funny, There was a day I felt so sore I
Monday, May 16, 2016

Cure for your sexless marriage

Credit: @mammasangel.
This is it . You can't go to bed like this and have a sexless marriage. 
Saturday, May 14, 2016

My Husband Announced He Has A New Girlfriend And

About 2 weeks ago I asked my husband of 14 years ( married with 2 boys both in Secondary School)  what was going on between him and a female former coworker he has known (and I have met several times) for 3 years. He said that they were just friendly coworkers but that he is now interested in her romantically.  

We took a whole week on this matter going back and forth and up and down and I stated clearly that my desire was to reconcile whatever the situation, even though I know we had no fight or misunderstanding prior to this revelation,  he initially said he was thinking it through, but has now firmly decided against
Wednesday, May 11, 2016

Signs You Are The Best Wife Ever

  • You are happy about your husband's success. You truly want him to do well in life and are happy when he does.

  • You try to make it work, even when you fall out of love and when ou both make mistakes, you just won't let it fail.

  • You are selfless in Praying for him. You pray God's blessings on him.

  • You don't nag him, you realize ou are not his mom. You don't nag when he forgets his dirty stockings under the dining table and you don't nag when he forgets to flush the toilet after him.

  • You like his friends, you know that they were there even before you, they also made him who he is. You don't try to change him and not
Tuesday, May 10, 2016

My Husband Has Taken Over My Shop, Phone And Still Hits Me. What Can I do?

Good afternoon Aunty Eya, I have been having problems with my husband I need to discuss with you for advice. I am married with 3 kids (though not properly married and It's all my fault, I'm so sorry about). I live with my husband and our three kids and raised some money, started a business while he worked, then he lost his job and everything he tried nothing was working, I have been the one taking care of the family with my money from my business since he lost the job. When nothing is working, I advised that he goes to the village to see his parent if there is anything they can do to help.

 Before he left, I gave him the phone that I bought for my daughter so that at

12 Things You Should Be Doing For Your Wife Everyday At least Once

  1. Lock the doors and turn out the lights at night
  2. Don't complain
  3. Iron your own clothes
  4. Tell her you love her
  5. Show her you love her. There are a billion ways to show love, just be
Monday, May 09, 2016

Suspicious Of My Wife And Colleague Friendship

Hello Aunty Eya, I'm a male reader who needs advise from the blog ...I realize this could all just be in my head and maybe I'm simply being jealous, but I feel like it's something I need to bring up on wives connection table. Before I start let me say that my wife and I have a pretty good marriage, married for 3 years, we have our arguments and petty issues just like any other, but nothing too serious. My wife started a new job about three months ago, her and a guy she

99.9% Infertile, 3 Failed IVFs, 3 Boys Birthed Naturally

How late Arch Bishop Benson Idahosa's daughter inlaw
battled infertility

My husband, F.E.Benson Idahosa II, and I met in Benin City, Nigeria when I was 13 years old; our fathers
(Benson Idahosa and Gary Whetstone) were friends. I’ve referred to my love for Feb as “love at first sight”
because very soon after we met, the sparks of love began to flicker between us.
After many years, my dream came true when I was 28

10 Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating

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Writing about signs a spouse is cheating doesn't mean that you become suspicious in your relationship. What this post aims to do is put you on prayer alert, guide you to put on your whole armour knowing that the weapons of your warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds even of cheating and deception. If you see these signs in your marriage, what does it mean? Watch and pray. Know where to target your prayer bullets. Better to be aware, fix before it's too late. Enter your war room and charge the atmosphere.

  1. When your spouse begins to frequently change their passwords on the phone, computer, social media and even Emails, that doesn't seem ok to me. Chances are, they are trying to hide something.

  2. Unless s/he is planning a surprise birthday party for you, if not why move

My Heart Is Not In The Marriage

Good morning Mrs Eya, I need some help from the wives connection blog ASAP. I have been feeling like this for a long time now. Been married almost 8 years with 3 daughters. We lived apart initially because I got transferred to the North, later my family joined me and we have been living together for about 6 years.

I just have not been feeling the love anymore . My feelings have changed over the years. My wife is a good wife, attractive, and good mother to the kids. I just don't have the love for her that she needs and wants. I feel I have nothing left to give. For years I have fantasized a divorce. Years I mean! I have had fake
Sunday, May 08, 2016

How Often Should You Have Sex?

Photo Credit: The FertileChiconline

This Phrase; "The More the sex, the better'" is not completely true oh.  A recent study found some interesting discoveries. Couples who have it often are happier than others sha. But, what does often mean? how often is often?  Psychologists at the University of Toronto discovered that couples who have sex once a week

Just Married? 7 Things To Do Before You Get Pregnant

Instagram photo by Lazada Malaysia • Apr 8, 2016 at 11:01am UTC
 Photo courtesy: Instagram.

I got pregnant the same month I got married and till date, I still think it would have been nice to wait a little longer before pregnancy. I wanted a baby like, wanted to carry my own child, wanted to shop for baby clothing, wanted to just be called a mum and madam. For those of you also suffering from this baby craze, my advice is to savor the time you have with just you and your husband; before that adorable bundle of joy overtakes both of your lives.
Here are 7 suggestions of things you should do before you get pregnant, and when you are feeling completely