Showing posts with label mails. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mails. Show all posts
Wednesday, September 28, 2016

DARK SPOTS ON MY DAUGHTER'S LEGS; WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP?


Hello Eya, 
I came across your blog while looking for remedy for my daughter's dark spots on her legs. She is 6 years and has had these spots since barely 1 year of age. 
She reacts to all sorts of bites, scratches her skin resulting in sores which end up with black scars.
She wears pantyhose 24 /7 now even to school!. I have been to dermatologists to no avail.
Please someone help me. What else can I do to get rid of these spots??
Thank you so much.
A worried mother,
Tuesday, September 27, 2016

URGENT WEDDING CATERER NEEDED

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Aunty Eya, please help me post this on your blog. Im getting married end of next month. We have already sorted out everything except food. We did not intend to leave it till this last minute. This is what happened. We are wedding in my husband's church so some of his friends suggested we use one woman eho is a caterer in their church. I havent attended a wedding she catered to but I have eaten food she cooked fot a food program and it was nice.

When we approached her in June, we told her what we wanted which is rice (jollof and fried rice) for 350 (but upto 400) guests, swallow with 2 soups ie egusi and vegetable(afang) for 150 guets, Salad for 250 guests, moin moin for 200 guests. She gave us a budget of 170k. She is not buying meat as we are buying a cow. Three days later, she called me and said she gave wrong budget, that she would do it for 220k. I told her ok, lets remove the rice. She is suppoed to cook one and half bag of rice. After removing the rice, the total amounted to 187k. We agreed and signed an agreement that first week of October, we would give her 150k. We already bought the rice. The cow is not a problem.

Aunty Eya, imagine my surprise when she called me on Friday to say that she can no longer collect 187k,  that its 280k last. Remember we have bought rice and cow. I tried to reason with her that the wedding is 3weeks away and there is no way we can top 100k extra for her like that. She said she miscalculated with her earlier budget. I asked her if that was my fault. If she is a professional caterer as she claimed, there is no way she would have given us wrong estimate TWICE!! I tried to persuade her to understand because our finances have stretched thin but she wouldn't budge. Now its 3weeks to my wedding and I have to look for another caterer. I would appreciate swift, good and affordable recommendations. This is what i want and my budget is 200k. I can go slightly higer though:
Monday, August 29, 2016

AM NOT AT PEACE WITH MY HUSBAND'S FLIRTING. HE CLAIMS THEY ARE CUSTOMERS

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Pls wife connection, how do i handle a husband who has no truth in him, he hid everything he does from me, he cheated one severally and will swear amd promise tat it wont happen again, still i found out he is wit that same girl, for five yrs now, we had 3 kids, he take his responsibilities but am not at peace with his flirting habit, he will claim they are customers. What should I do?
Sunday, August 28, 2016

How do I forgive a husband who has not even accepted his wrong?



Warning: If you are below 18, oya read the next post and ask your mum what's on this post.
Good morning Aunt

Pls hide my ID... Am a 27yr old lady married for almost 2yrs now, I have a daughter and am pregnant for another one.
I have a problem that I want to share with u concerning my husband... He's the type that's always with phone chatting mostly with ladies he's so addicted with it and I have told him that I don't like Several times that's why his phone has password.. On several occasions I have seen suspicious chat that indicates he's having extra marital affair but when I confront him he denies it..
2 days ago I was reading an article on his phone and he slept off then a whatsapp message came in and lo and behold my eyes could not believe what I saw.. Pls permit to share it "baby it's been a while
Friday, July 22, 2016

MUST READ: UPDATES FROM IKORODU LADY (ODUN)

If you have been following the blog from 2013, you'll remember the Ikorodu lady who asked for advise on the blog when her husband continually treated her shabbily and won't take up his responsibilities, and won't even let her work. She tried her best to make it work but eventually the marriage ended and she left with her son. Informed blog readers when she got a job and after that we didn't hear anything again and I just knew God won't leave her at that point. After Deborah Bala asked, I contacted her and she sent an update of what has happened since the last time we heard from her. Read it below:

Good morning Aunt Eya,
Wow!!! It's been ages and I was so pleasantly surprised when I realized you were the one who called because the network connection was bad. Thank you for reaching out.
I do miss people from wives connection; Ahdaisy, Have,Adeyanju etc. I really appreciate them all, because they helped me keep my sanity back then.
As you know my ex and I parted ways 3 years ago. I have been 100% responsible for my son. A lot has happened then, but one thing that never changed was God's favor in my life.

You know I told about the job that I got that came out of nowhere with a car? Well,i was good with it until our director's wife's relative started scheming to put me in trouble cos of jealousy and my direct boss couldn't do anything about. In the end, when the trouble became much, I had to leave. So here I am again,with no job. Then the judgment began from the society, single
Friday, July 15, 2016

THE WOMEN DAD IS SLEEPING WITH HAVE STARTED TO THREATEN MY MUM

Hello ma and fellow blog readers in the house, What would you do in my situation? I am the eldest of 4 siblings. My parents have been married for 20 years but I am 24 now because apparently they got wedded a few years after I was born even though the traditional marriage rites were performed earlier. All my life my dad has been abusive towards us and my mum. Physically, emotionally and mentally. I am grateful he did the bare minimum and fed us, plus provide a roof over our heads, we only had clothes during Christmas that we have to manage for the whole year until another Christmas. As for birthday parties no way, my mum would try her best and buy a few bottles of coca cola and sweets and sometimes a small  cake.

From two years old I was sent to live my Uncle and his wife, I suffered from his wife to the point where some of them abused and neglected me. If it wasn't for the neighbours telling my parents to get me out of there, who knows what would have happened to me.

  At the age of about 9 my dad decided my mum would stop working and and stay home to take care of the family.
Growing up we would regularly see and hear my dad beating her up and
Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Do I Always Have To Say Yes For A Successful Marriage?

Please post my mail anonymously Anty. I came across wives connection while searching for info on courtship matters. I have since that 2015 been hooked like glue. God bless everyone on the blog cuz I have learnt so much. I'm newly married and we had a celibate courtship because we are both Christians. My husband and I saw ourselves the very first time on our wedding night and I have a little problem. His libido is much much higher and it's not funny, There was a day I felt so sore I
Tuesday, April 26, 2016

How Much Capital Is Needed To Start Yam Frying Business?

Hello ma, I am a  wives connection addict, a full time housewife in need of something I can do to earn my own income.  I don't mind any roadside or petty business provided I'll make some money daily. I thought about frying yam but not sure how much capital is needed.
Sunday, April 24, 2016

Tamarind Seed For Vagina Tightening. Anyone Tried It?

Fresh Tamarind.

Good Morning Madam, I heard from my Northern friend that Tamarind is a natural tightener. Says she removed flesh, boiled the seeds, allowed to cool a bit and kept splashing there for just seven days and it was tight like new. I'll like to try it but first help me confirm on the

There Are Things I Can Do To Get Closer Hubby's Friend But I'm Scared Of The Consequences

Hello  Aunty Eya and the loving wives connection family.  I have been an ardent reader of the blog for only three months but have learnt so much more than I could imagine. I am female, 36 years old, and have been married 10 years. Lately, I have felt very ignored and restless in our marriage which has remained sexless for the past two years and counting. I don't think my husband is aware of these feelings because I try to talk about them but he doesn't seem quite interested in talking about sex life and that kind of stuff , but the urge and feelings? they are  alive in my heart. He buys me beautiful gifts and tries to give me his love and support in other ways,  still relates with me without problems and kept enjoying my blow down there for almost 2 years without reciprocating with at least a one time penetration or something. When  I got tired of satisfying him one sidedly, l stopped and that has been it. He acts
Saturday, April 23, 2016

What Is A Lifestyle Blog?

Who Is A Lifestyle Blogger? 

Hello Aunty Eya, I started following your blog around the time that you took a break to have your baby. Recently, I started my own blog but couldn't continue because I got a job in a bank and the work load cannot combine blogging.  Right now I'm pregnant and planning to leave the job for blogging but wouldn't want to go back to what I  left because that was basically about me and life as a student.  N as a soon to be mom, I like to start a blog that will document my pregnancy journey and family life. What niche is that please?  Am I correct to call myself  a lifestyle blogger?

MY REPLY:
My sis, start blogging already, time is not waiting. You are a lifestyle blogger.  I know that a lot of people think that lifestyle blogging  is done when you write about your way of life, like daily living and all that, but that's not all. Lifestyle blogging is bigger than just writing about how you
Friday, April 22, 2016

Why Does My Husband Still Keep Photos Of His Ex Girlfriends?

Hello, my husband still has pictures of his ex girlfriends in his photo album till date. Some of his University days babes and some he befriended even after he left school.We have been married for good three years and each time I try to make him understand that I don't like it, he just shrugs and makes me feel like I'm too petty or that I worry over unimportant things. The other day we had a heated argument and I told him that if those were unimportant like he wants
Saturday, April 16, 2016

Benefits of fifty percent tithe

Good evening Anty Eya, please help me ask the house a question that has been bothering me for some weeks. Don't post my name please Anty. What are the benefits if I pay fifty percent tithe to the
Wednesday, August 13, 2014

My Husband IsTaking A Second Wife, What Can I Do?

Hi Madam Eya and Wc, please help me with. My head is confused this morning. Family members are even making things worse. My husband of  20 years is taking another wife and my aged parents are OK with it. I married him at 19. After secondary school, every other Education I got was while married to him. He was very supportive during my schooling days studying Economics and making babies. He stood by me all those years paying my school fees and the children' without complaining. 
so am not yet forty, am still a young woman who tries her best to look good and take care of her family.

We are from different tribes and it has not been easy. His family kicked against our marriage in the beginning but when we continued, they began to accept me and things have been fine all these years. I have two girls for him and he has always loved his family. 

Recently, my husband's trips to his village have trippled. He spends practically every holiday at home using the excuse of checking up on the project at his home town. Even weekends are not left out, whenever there is a long weekend, he travels for one reason or the other.
I have a few friends from his village so I trust that what am hearing is true. He and his family are secretly planning to marry a very young girl without my knowledge. According to the source that informed me, the lady will not come to stay with us here in Lagos, she'll either move in with his aged parents or he'll get a place for her.

His ways have been
Saturday, July 19, 2014

He Is Insisting I Keep This Pregnancy

Before I narrate my plight please I want reasonable responses and no insults.thanks.
I am a 26 year old lady, I met this guy in 2010 in my final year and we dated for 18 mths then I got pregnant for him toward the end of my nysc. it was really tough cos my then he was just bout going for his nysc. we did a hushed introduction 2 months before i gave birth and i was shuffling between my parents house and his mums house. cos i was spending a lot of time with my family outside lagos with the baby , issues started coming up with him and his mom so i had to move to his mums house in lagos. cause of the baby nd no one to really help out it wasnt easy getting a job.Last year the issues with his mum was plenty so we had to move outside of lagos to stay on our own.
Now the problem is everytime i bring up the issue of marriage he is always saying he isnt ready cos he hasnt got a job yet,i dont av one too buh i do makeup and learning beads.i am so frustrated and i told him see if a job isnt coming learn smtin too, the look on his face was pure hatred as if i sed smtin bad. my kid is 2year plus now nd i just found out am pregnant again. i want to get married before having another baby but hea insisting i keep d baby nd its not like we are
Tuesday, July 01, 2014

Strictly For Job Seekers And Employers; Free Posting

When I saw this mail this morning, I thought to myselfb that there may be some one right now planning to send a mail about their location and qualification for publication on the blog. I know a mail like tghis was posted last week. Let any one that needs employment or in need of specific kinds of employees advertise here for free now cos I don't want to offend us when I begin to ignore individual mails seeking for emplyment.
Poster, please permit me to post your mail here and give other readers the opportunity to sell their market too: Who knows someone might just be the answer to all your fasting and prayers...

POSTER'S MAIL:
Good day madam Eya,may God bless you for the good job you are doing.I
am a reader of your blog and I really apprieciate you and all WC
women,please i am a single mother of one (girl)left my husband after
1year of marriage due to domestic abuse now living with my mum in our
family house.I am
Saturday, June 28, 2014

Lagos Reader! Someone Needs Your Contact

This mail would have been forwarded to your inbox but I no longer have your contacts. They were deleted in error. Here is the mail I got from Ayo:

Good morning Aunty Eya,
How are you and your entire family doing?
Great I guess.
Can I
Friday, June 27, 2014

Lesson Teacher By Fisayo Talabi

Onyeka had gotten married faster than any of her friends had. She had been only twenty and in her final year at the University. 

She'd made plans...

• To graduate with a first class degree in      
   her department. 

• To build a career in Chartered              
   accounting and finance before age 25.

 ....and a lot more. 


She hadn't been married off by force or by pre-planned arrangements by her parents. No. It was a wilful decision. She had met her husband when she was only eighteen. She had been in the executive team of her department and they had planned a career programme which needed sponsorship and the involvement of finance organizations. 

The moment she had walked into his office and started to discuss the department executives' proposal, he had fallen in love with her, so he claimed. He had said he loved that she was so young and ambitious, and that he loved intellectually strong women. 


Fast forward eight years later. 

Onyeka sat in living room of her matrimonial home, watching on CNN the woman she had always wanted to be; Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala. Her three year old was crying and wailing loudly, because her five year old had wrecked her doll. Her seven year old was eating his lunch, filling the floor with orange grains of jollof rice. Their voices drowned every word Ngozi was saying on Tv. 

Her husband had promised she could pursue a career after they got married and after she had graduated. He had promised to get her a good place of primary assignment for NYSC, but she had gotten pregnant and he made her stay at home. After the second year, she still didn't have a job. He always said he was working on it. Then, one day, he said he wanted her to nurse all the kids first. 

Now, it was eight years gone, and time had passed her by. Graduate trainee programmes had an age cap of age 27. She was 28. 


Her husband was never home. He was at the peak of his career, receiving this or that award, for financial excellence. At first, he used to take her along to those award dinners. But after she had started to add on weight, and for some other reasons, he stopped inviting her. 


This day, he was away again, at Ghana. She looked at her kids. Her husband had said he didn't want househelps, so she was alone in taking care of the home. She had screamed and yelled at them, but nothing seemed to change. She sighed. She looked at
Tuesday, June 24, 2014

I Don't Keep Friends, I Need Advice From Strangers Please

Hi Aunt Eya and WC family.....I met my guy January and we have been going on fine as if it's being years,He has met my Father and I have been talking to his family members on phone, I haven't visited them cos of the distance and our job too but we have planned to see them soon. 

The problem now is His ex, He told me when he met me that his EX jilted him that he was hospitalised and had HBP buh he has to move on with his life, After 5 month he met. For 2 months now The girl had been pleading to come back.she calls anytime. 

Anytime I am there for weekend she calls earlymorning and bedtime...,Now I aam confused who the Real Madam is, I
Monday, June 23, 2014

My Husband With A Call Girl, I Need Help

Good afternoon A-Eya, wc peope I hail o.I have been a reader of this blog but have never wrote to A-Eya before. Wells I got married early 2013. My husband is ten years older than me and I don't really understands him any longer he comes home very late, sometimes around 11pm past 12 etc and I was pregnant all this time and have been receiving threat messages from his female lover telling me I will loss my baby that am not the only one pregnant for my own husband and I showed my so called husband the messages but he said he does not know who is sending the messages to me and that I should never in my life show him the messages again,and I was already heavily pregnant so I have to go and see one of his friend told him he knew my husband was cheating and he never advised my husband so l left the guys place so I guess the friend called him on the phone and told him I came so my husband started calling me but I did not pick cos have already packed some

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