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Showing posts with label mails. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mails. Show all posts

Saturday, December 24, 2016

My roommate's boyfriend finds it hard to trust after she cheated on him, should she end this relationship or wait for his trust to return?


Honestly I'm happy to be in the wives connection family, may God bless
everyone that has contributed in one way or the other to this blog
especially you aunt Eya. I'm seeking advice for a good friend of mine,
she and her boyfriend had issues when he found out she cheated on him
but after everything he forgave her and they are together again. The
problem now is my friend's boyfriend still believes that she still
communicates with the other guy but i swear that's not true because my
girlfriend and i live together and we're very close like sisters, i
know what she is capable of. 

Truly after she cheated, she turned a new
leaf in a way that even surprised me. She changed all her sim cards,
even her Facebook account just to prove to her boyfriend that she will
never do anything to hurt him again. Its true the trust he has for her
has diminished and it's truly hurting her. Some days ago she told me
she is scared he will never truly forgive her and forget what happened
 even after they get married( they actually plan on getting married
soon) ,she wants to know if she should end the relationship since she

Wednesday, December 21, 2016

My husband's cousin secretly sexting him yet his family insists that she travels with us for Christmas

Last year I saw messages between someone I totally know as hubby's cousin and they were sexting each other, I was even here excited she was going to come for 2015 Christmas when I saw the texts of her telling hubby she will teach him how to go more than one round. This girl comes to their family house, even while we were dating I have met her there severally everyone says she is their cousin BT when I asked my husband he said he can't even remember how they are related BT that it is his father's side of the family? 
So I banned her from coming to my house since they were sexting and I rebuked my hubby. He didn't feel remorseful his family and mother inclusive all supported him and claim it was just a game the girl.was playing. I was hurt BT moved on.

Now the main reason I am seeking advice is cos we were supposed to travel for Christmas and last week the mother called me to say hope I won't mind that that their"cousin" must

Sunday, December 04, 2016

Surprised to discover that I no longer find my wife attractive after paying her in her own coin

Years back When I married my wife, we were in love or so I thought. However, I was always the one initiating intimacy in the bedroom. A little more than a year ago I started to give up. I started to withdraw from my wife a bit more and focus on myself. About nine months ago I stopped any attempts at initiating sex, intimacy or touching. More recently, I was surprised to discover that I no longer found my wife attractive. For the first time since I met her, I couldn't think of her in a sexual way. Yes, technically she was still attractive. All her attributes were the same, physically nothing had changed, but I just couldn't see her as "attractive" anymore.

Now it's easy to go without sex with her because I no longer find her attractive. I broke the habit. Then in a moment of clarity, I realized I was now as detached and uninterested in her sexually as she'd behaved for our whole marriage. Wow. I finally found out why she hasn't been interested in me all these years, I finally know how she feels. This has been a HUGE turning point for me. She really never loved me the way I loved her, the way I needed to be

Monday, November 21, 2016

At 31, I have decided to move out of my parents' house

Goodevening aunty Eya ,am an ardent reader of your blog please ma ,I really need your advice am a lady of 31years old ,single.my problem is that I have always experienced disappointment in relationships, no matter how nice and submissive I get all my relationships eventually end .I can't take this pain of promise and fail anymore .The problem now is that I have decided to move out of my parents to get my own personal Apartment, since I told my mother all hell as been let loose .at the moment

Wednesday, November 02, 2016

I'm Scared This much farting will affect my marriage. Any tips please

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Hi im having a six month old baby i fart like hell almost all day. i had a caesarian delivery. And i fart through the anus almost all the time. during night i fart more. I'm worried this will affect my marraige. What can I do about too much farting? mothers  please help.

Tuesday, November 01, 2016

The issues we have with my husband are about his phone. The kind of affection he shows these girls on phone he doesn't show me. I feel so lost, How do I cope with it?


I hope this gets posted. I've been married for 3yrs now with two beautiful girls. Most times the issue we have is always about my husband's phone. He likes chatting with girls. Though he has warned me to stay off his phone. I got to know the password and I use it to my advantage. When he's asleep I read his msgs.

Last night when he came back, I went to his room and noticed he was having an erection. He saw me and was trying to cover it. When he went into the bathroom i checked his phone again. A girl sent him her boobs and bum. I was shocked. This girl I know they talk and chat everyday. But I never knew she sends him nude pictures. I don't want him to know I checked

Monday, October 31, 2016

I do everything to make him see me differently and compliment me at least. Nothing works He even says sometimes that he doesn't love me and doesn't know why he asked me to marry him, that he dated better girls before me

I am a 31 years old woman in need of help. I got married in feb after dating my husband for 4yrs. All those yrs I worked as a b/cast presenter. It wasn't payin much but I had a source of income. In 2014 I left d job for something smaller as a receptionist in a hospital. So that my salary would be constant. Problem started durin my wedding preparations.  If I ask for moni for anything he feels I am unnecessarily asking. He decided our traditional weddin clothes, he followed me around for my wedding dress just cos he doesn't want me to cheat him maybe. He gav me 200k for trad n white wedding food 100 for food n 100 for cow. Smh. He even had a little arguments with my sisters cos his sisters made sure they were in charge of drinks and picking sprayed money.i told my sisters to let them do everything cos I didn't want any arguments.  My parents were of immense help during the wedding.  Now I relocated to Abuja after d wedding, since feb I haven't been able to conceive or get a job. I have searched for jobs, applied everywhere I see, all d private schs I have been to say no vacancy.  I rely on my husband for everything even sanitary pads which as far as he is concern I shudnt need it if I had conceived.  It's hurts so so much. If I need 

Monday, October 17, 2016

I need a 10 year old live-in househelp that we will sponsor in Secondary School

Dear Aunt  Eya,
Please I need help and I'm a bit ashamed to admit this to my friends, co-workers church members and neighbours, hence my resorting to your blog, which I read fervently.
I have two young children below 4 years old and I need a live-in maid. She should be female and born between 1/1/2006 and 31/12/2006. I will pay her a monthly salary in her first year with me. From her second year with me,  i will send her to secondary school in Festac Town Lagos (where i live) and still pay her the agreed salary. My husband and I will feed her, clothe her and nurture her like our own. It is important to us that this 10 year old girl currently lives and was born outside Lagos state. When she has graduated from secondary school at age 16, we will return her to her family and show our gratitude for the gift of their daughter.
My phone number is 08183625414 and my name is Nneka. I am really hoping you can connect me to readers that can help me.
Thank you so much.

Sunday, October 16, 2016

My husband is begging to watch another man sleep with me, he used to be jealous before this sudden change. I need advice

Hi Aunty Eya, Am in my late twenties, married with 2 kids.
 My hubby want me to sleep around
I can't discuss this with my siblings
 He say it's turns him on. Am a Christian I can't do it.
 Pls I  need your advice
He want me to go out and look for and he want to also watch another man sleep with me

Thursday, October 13, 2016

My Christian Background makes me want to save this marriage against my personal wish


Hello Auntie Eya, I need advise from the wives connection people. As a Christian who is against divorce, I'm so confused....
Married for 8 years, with 3 beautiful children. My husband has always been somewhat controlling, but in the past 3 years controlling has turned into severe emotional abuse, name calling and use of pornography but no physical abuse yet. 
My Christian background keeps me thinking, "Fight to save your marriage" Stay by his side no matter what. Support his hopes and dreams, even if they compromise the 10 commandments of God. I said even if they compromise because his business is in the liquor line and the commandments of God don't support it.

Sunday, October 09, 2016

Can we cut our traditional wedding cake instead?

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Hi Aunty Eya,
I need your advice and words from other readers too. I am planning my wedding which is coming up in DECEMBER...both traditional  and the white weddings same day and I am Igbo. So, I will go to church in the morning and then the traditional wedding will be the reception. My fiance and I want to make the traditional cake as the only cake to cut which was the reason for an argument between me and my sister. She insisted that the

Saturday, October 08, 2016

I'd rather not be close to my parents, There something I can do?


Hello Auntie Eya, maybe I need help. I am now in my 30's with my own family now but have felt as if I never liked my parents. When people say they love their parents I don't know what they are talking about. I just cringe inside and put a smile on my face and pretend. People always ask me how my parents are doing and I say fine, but I can't stand it when they ask me that. I don't like it when people ask me after them because it will lead to lying against my feelings.

I remember as a child I thought my mother was dirty and I didn't want to touch her. I don't remember ever hugging her. I didn't like the way that she kept the house hygienically and how she handled the baby's waste and so there was always that feeling in my head that she's grubby. She was just always plain not neat to me and still is. My mother has a big fat stomach  and I never liked obese or people with big stomachs. She has never been smart. Can't do anything unless my father tells her to. The way that she treats us the kids is like we are a distraction, all my life I have tried to remember but cannot think of one sacrifice that she made for me aside getting pregnant and pushing me out. My grandma is the one that did the most work growing up as mum can travel for an event and in 3 days she is not yet back attending a wedding or funeral. I can count the number of times she cooked good meals for her family. I had to

Thursday, October 06, 2016

I Have Been Trying To Conceive

Good afternoon Nigerian wives connection ,pls hide my identity and PS post . I'd like all the mother's in this forum to please pray for my family that the good Lord should bless my family with the fruit of the womb . I got married early last year I have been trying to conceive ,have

Sunday, October 02, 2016

Connect me to a Nigerian woman who has love for younger men

Hello Eya,
Am Kenneth from Delta state, Nigeria. I stumbled upon your blog concerning wives townhall connection and I deemed it fit to email you. I am a 28year old young man who is educated and good looking, who has this affinity for women who are more  advanced and matured than I am. But unfortunately, I have never been opportuned to be  with one due to my inability to find one. Please help me and connect me to a genuine woman who has love for a

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

DARK SPOTS ON MY DAUGHTER'S LEGS; WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP?


Hello Eya, 
I came across your blog while looking for remedy for my daughter's dark spots on her legs. She is 6 years and has had these spots since barely 1 year of age. 
She reacts to all sorts of bites, scratches her skin resulting in sores which end up with black scars.
She wears pantyhose 24 /7 now even to school!. I have been to dermatologists to no avail.
Please someone help me. What else can I do to get rid of these spots??
Thank you so much.
A worried mother,

Tuesday, September 27, 2016

URGENT WEDDING CATERER NEEDED

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Aunty Eya, please help me post this on your blog. Im getting married end of next month. We have already sorted out everything except food. We did not intend to leave it till this last minute. This is what happened. We are wedding in my husband's church so some of his friends suggested we use one woman eho is a caterer in their church. I havent attended a wedding she catered to but I have eaten food she cooked fot a food program and it was nice.

When we approached her in June, we told her what we wanted which is rice (jollof and fried rice) for 350 (but upto 400) guests, swallow with 2 soups ie egusi and vegetable(afang) for 150 guets, Salad for 250 guests, moin moin for 200 guests. She gave us a budget of 170k. She is not buying meat as we are buying a cow. Three days later, she called me and said she gave wrong budget, that she would do it for 220k. I told her ok, lets remove the rice. She is suppoed to cook one and half bag of rice. After removing the rice, the total amounted to 187k. We agreed and signed an agreement that first week of October, we would give her 150k. We already bought the rice. The cow is not a problem.

Aunty Eya, imagine my surprise when she called me on Friday to say that she can no longer collect 187k,  that its 280k last. Remember we have bought rice and cow. I tried to reason with her that the wedding is 3weeks away and there is no way we can top 100k extra for her like that. She said she miscalculated with her earlier budget. I asked her if that was my fault. If she is a professional caterer as she claimed, there is no way she would have given us wrong estimate TWICE!! I tried to persuade her to understand because our finances have stretched thin but she wouldn't budge. Now its 3weeks to my wedding and I have to look for another caterer. I would appreciate swift, good and affordable recommendations. This is what i want and my budget is 200k. I can go slightly higer though:

Monday, August 29, 2016

AM NOT AT PEACE WITH MY HUSBAND'S FLIRTING. HE CLAIMS THEY ARE CUSTOMERS

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Pls wife connection, how do i handle a husband who has no truth in him, he hid everything he does from me, he cheated one severally and will swear amd promise tat it wont happen again, still i found out he is wit that same girl, for five yrs now, we had 3 kids, he take his responsibilities but am not at peace with his flirting habit, he will claim they are customers. What should I do?

Sunday, August 28, 2016

How do I forgive a husband who has not even accepted his wrong?



Warning: If you are below 18, oya read the next post and ask your mum what's on this post.
Good morning Aunt

Pls hide my ID... Am a 27yr old lady married for almost 2yrs now, I have a daughter and am pregnant for another one.
I have a problem that I want to share with u concerning my husband... He's the type that's always with phone chatting mostly with ladies he's so addicted with it and I have told him that I don't like Several times that's why his phone has password.. On several occasions I have seen suspicious chat that indicates he's having extra marital affair but when I confront him he denies it..
2 days ago I was reading an article on his phone and he slept off then a whatsapp message came in and lo and behold my eyes could not believe what I saw.. Pls permit to share it "baby it's been a while

Friday, July 22, 2016

MUST READ: UPDATES FROM IKORODU LADY (ODUN)

If you have been following the blog from 2013, you'll remember the Ikorodu lady who asked for advise on the blog when her husband continually treated her shabbily and won't take up his responsibilities, and won't even let her work. She tried her best to make it work but eventually the marriage ended and she left with her son. Informed blog readers when she got a job and after that we didn't hear anything again and I just knew God won't leave her at that point. After Deborah Bala asked, I contacted her and she sent an update of what has happened since the last time we heard from her. Read it below:

Good morning Aunt Eya,
Wow!!! It's been ages and I was so pleasantly surprised when I realized you were the one who called because the network connection was bad. Thank you for reaching out.
I do miss people from wives connection; Ahdaisy, Have,Adeyanju etc. I really appreciate them all, because they helped me keep my sanity back then.
As you know my ex and I parted ways 3 years ago. I have been 100% responsible for my son. A lot has happened then, but one thing that never changed was God's favor in my life.

You know I told about the job that I got that came out of nowhere with a car? Well,i was good with it until our director's wife's relative started scheming to put me in trouble cos of jealousy and my direct boss couldn't do anything about. In the end, when the trouble became much, I had to leave. So here I am again,with no job. Then the judgment began from the society, single

Friday, July 15, 2016

THE WOMEN DAD IS SLEEPING WITH HAVE STARTED TO THREATEN MY MUM

Hello ma and fellow blog readers in the house, What would you do in my situation? I am the eldest of 4 siblings. My parents have been married for 20 years but I am 24 now because apparently they got wedded a few years after I was born even though the traditional marriage rites were performed earlier. All my life my dad has been abusive towards us and my mum. Physically, emotionally and mentally. I am grateful he did the bare minimum and fed us, plus provide a roof over our heads, we only had clothes during Christmas that we have to manage for the whole year until another Christmas. As for birthday parties no way, my mum would try her best and buy a few bottles of coca cola and sweets and sometimes a small  cake.

From two years old I was sent to live my Uncle and his wife, I suffered from his wife to the point where some of them abused and neglected me. If it wasn't for the neighbours telling my parents to get me out of there, who knows what would have happened to me.

  At the age of about 9 my dad decided my mum would stop working and and stay home to take care of the family.
Growing up we would regularly see and hear my dad beating her up and
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