Monday, July 03, 2017

Your Happiness Is Valid! Do not let anyone define what YOUR happy should be, people are different

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I read a lot of the time how it seems like if you don't have lofty dreams or big time aspirations you've failed. And then I begin to wonder. Not everyone has big dreams. Not everyone has aspirations of "going out there to conquer the world". Some people are happy just being in their corners and letting their light shine gently there.
In example, these days seems like being a mother and a wife is no longer enough. You have to be
more. You have to slay the home front and have a career, and merge everything effortlessly. And now the narrative is being twisted to sound like if all you desire is marriage,there must be something wrong with you.
People are different. People find their Happy in different things. If a woman finds her happy in being a full time housewife and a mother, raising kids and being a wife, there's nothing wrong there. I'm just tired of seeing jabs where it seems like someone who doesn't conform to your idea of success is underachieving.
You're underachieving when YOU are not happy with where YOU are. Not everyone is going to be a big movie Star. Or a big time Executive. Or a big time Anything. And there are people who don't desire those things. There are some people for whom reading a good book, or eating a good meal is happiness. They just want to work and earn enough to put a roof over their heads, food on their table, clothes on their back and some extra for extracurricular activities. Finish. And when they have these, they are genuinely happy!
Don't let anyone define what YOUR happy should be. This is how societal pressure and peer pressure comes in. People are derailed from their rightful paths,stuck in misery for years because they have let others define what their happiness should be.
If you want to be BIG, go out there and be the Biggest Big you can be. Don't let anyone tell you that your dreams are too much,too big,too lofty, too whatever. Don't let anyone put you in a box.
And if just being "ordinary" makes you genuinely happy,please be ordinary. Rock your ordinariness. Be happy. Whatever spectrum of these two opposites you find yourself, just make sure you're happy. Genuinely happy.
Don't let anyone tell you what you should be or how to be happy. And of course, in all of this, Get Wisdom. Wisdom is what will help and guide you in all your decision making.
May God guide us.
Your Happiness is Valid.
-Joy 'Bosslady' Ogbekene

1 comment:

  1. AnonymousJuly 04, 2017

    This is really a nice piece!


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