HOW TO COPE WITH A SUPER SPORTS; AFRICA MAGIC LOVING HUSBAND
Hello my able wives connecion tribe and Aunty Eya, I feel like the whole world is collapsing, coming right down on me. When I met my husband, I knew he was the one. I married him after two years and promised him I would stay with him as long as he never cheated or hit me, this I said to him because I was in an abusive relationship before I met him. I knew he was lazy when I married him but I never thought it would get this bad. We have two beautiful daughters who I love with every bit of my being, and I am now seven months pregnant. This pregnancy was a surprise. I was not happy when I found out and it took me a long time to get used to the fact that I was going to have another baby again in this tough, no tomatoes, no fuel economy. My husband has never helped with either child. Since he got fired from his job, He is too busy searching for another job in all the wrong places or sleeping on the couch with Super sports or Africa Magic Yoruba.
l work 5 days a week, cook, clean, laundry, do the grocery shopping, Saturday market shopping, getting kids ready for school while he only drops and picks them off with loud music playing in the car. M sister and cousin come to help out from time to time but they are still in school and cannot always be available. My husband lost his job due to his laziness and not following simple instruction. until recently. He never tried to get a job, just felt too arrogant to apply or meet people who could help. I asked him numerous times to help me more, I have begged, pleaded, and then finally yelled at him about his laziness which he nearly hit ,e about. I am not the nagging type. I told him all I wanted from him was to do more chores around the house while he was unemployed so I didn't have to go home and clean after working long hours. He has cleaned only twice that I can remember. When I say cleaned, he vaccumed the sitting room and and washed only a few dishes leaving the pots in the sink for me.
My husband never cares when I get sick, he just blows me off like I am faking it or tries to compete with me. For example, today I told him I wasn't feeling well. His response was, "My head hurts. I am not feeling good either." When I finally get mad and yell at him for not caring or helping me, he just throws a guilt trip on me, He admits that he says things when we argue just to hurt me. Recently, at 32 weeks pregnant, I was taken to the hospital for cramping and and slight contractions. After hours of checkup, they sent me home, instructing me to take it easy, no lifting, and to try and have adequate bed rest. This weekend, I got sick of seeing my house a mess so I started to clean. I was lifting loads of heavy laundry in front of my husband, cleaning, washing, bending to sweep and mop, etc. and he never offered to help or try to stop me from lifting the heavy laundry. He just sat on his chair, texting and watching sports.
Every night my back is in pain because I am doing too much work. I can't help it though because I cannot allow my children to live in a dirty home, but my house is somehow huge and too much for a pregnant woman to handle. I started feeling like We can't survive on my income alone even though I have a paying job. Every day I come home and the house looks the same as it did the night before, just more dirty dishes and laundry he adds to it. He sits at home all day and does nothing. When I ask why he didn't at least do some dishes or sweep with the long broom that doesn't require bending, he says "I wasn't here all day, I went out searching." But that is always what he says and I know he is lying.
Why is my husband doing this to me? I don't see how he can love me, yet not see that he is tearing me down into nothing by showing no care nor affection. He is getting worse by the day. The funny thing is, he still expects sex whenever he wants it and gets mad when we don't like I'm his robot or something. What do I need to do to help myself please. I don't want to have this baby prematurely because of stress and depression. How should I go about this?
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