A Northern Sister Shares Bedroom Tips To Help Revive Ailing Marriages. Part 2

Happy new year Fam, sorry for the silence pls, laziness and procrastination on my part caused it. Instead of discussing what I had promised the last time, I would beg to digress a little. After reading up posts on so many women who are not happy I feel I should talk about another key point today, before I talk on natural remedy for wetness, tightness and use of waist beads for rhythm during sexual intercourse. Quickly I will answer Brandyless wiliiams( you can check the directoress on Instagram for the oils) if you reside in Abuja I can drop a contact for you.
ORGASM
Please permit me to be a bit graphic today, I believe we are all adults and for today I will say it as it is.

Oga when was the last time you got your wife to orgasm? Do you just penetrate and roll off?  madam do you know what it means to orgasm? I don’t mean all this fakie orgasm oh ( we both know 90% of women fake orgasm to please their partners, but wait oh who are you cheating with this? if your answer is no, please go and google on it before you proceed further with this my write up.
Many women see sex as only pleasing for the husband, and only a man should orgasm! lol don’t let the men enjoy it alone, it is for the benefit of you both.
A little illustration please  I love clothes and shopping and no matter how tired I feel, if I hear my favorite store is doing a massive 70% sale I must go and shop, I would be so excited waiting for my online goodies to arrive. Ladies listen if you know the intense joy an orgasm gives you will want daily dose.  When you enjoy sex with your husband you wont want any distance between you two. Women that go extra mile to fake orgasm, let me shock you, the man knows that you are faking it, so don’t bother. For a man nothing is more sexy than to see your woman orgasm because of your touch. I have spoken to a handful of men and they all agree that there is no other experience like the shivering of your woman when she comes, the scratches on his back in the heat of passion, the dilating pupils. Sadly because 90% of women hardly orgasm we look for a thousand excuses not to have sex with our men.
You may think I have been dwelling so much on the woman, lol that’s because our body is wired very different from a man’s own. Orgasm for a man is easy but for a woman you need time and patience to bring you over the edge, and it’s our duty to teach the man what we want. please never be shy to tell your man what you want and how you want it. If he goofs around pressing your breast awkwardly, hold his hands and guide him on how you want him to fondle you. 
A little illustration  after I successfully convinced my hubby to try oral sex with me, I realized he didn’t know how to give good head, and instead of pleasure I will get bites with his teeth etc. I had to quickly get materials and lovingly teased him that this is pussy licking class 101, with time I taught him the vagina and the parts in it, and how to go about cunnilingus, and today he is over perfect that he knows that is the best way to get me to orgasm.
For you to adequately teach a man how to touch you, you must know your body well. Many women don’t know how to go about embracing their sexuality, especially after child birth, you must see your self as beautiful and have confidence with your body. you must make effort to connect to your man intimately. Sex should never be boring in marriage, I wonder why the single ones experience sex as exciting but the married look at it as a chore. Madam, once you close that bedroom door, become crazy for that man, drop the Ephesians attitude outside( the anon that commented that she doesn’t think her husband will like her touching herself, you would be shocked at his sexual fantasy once the window for adventure and communication is open) no one is watching you.  Don’t be predictable  with sex, not every time bedroom, not every time silent drill because you don’t want the kids to hear, at times go and lodge somewhere and have loud sex, at times park the car on a lonely road and give it to him (yes, I have done that, Aunty Eya no look me with side eyes oh)
BOREDOM:
Please there is nothing like a happy marriage, marriage is what you make of it, you must make marriage happy to be happy. Many times the law of see finish sets in, and it tends to get boring, as a woman, constantly improve on yourself, get adventure, find fun things to do that don’t have to do with your husband. I will talk more on giving the man space so he can chase you next time. Please I know there are women with heavy hearts, broken hearts, betrayed hearts that have made you strangers with your man, please forgive him even though he may never apologise or know what he did wrong, forgive him and make him your friend. Take out time to know about his work, his favorite football team, his colleagues, whatever interests him should also interest you. If he is going out, offer to go out with him, escort him to get his hair shaved, compliment him when you see he got a new tie etc. Please try and make your marriage work. Don’t allow, am not in the mood, am tired etc create space between you and your man.  When the children start coming don’t let them create space between you two, after breastfeeding the baby, face your husband and sex feed yourselves please. Get cot for the baby or find a way to sleep without baby staying between you two. I remember the 3 months pre wedding drill I had with my aunty, she emphasized so much on exchanging breath and maintaining body contact while sleeping, that is a way to bond. Make out time to play with your man, gist, swim etc.
You will notice I kept using please, I most of these tips, because I know its never easy but trust me its well worth it. A quick home work, give yourself a timeout in a spa this weekend, wax and clean your skin, oga make sure you give her money to go and pamper yourself because our next topic would dwell on, waxing of the vagina, using your skin glow as a natural turn on, waist beads for rhythm, natural remedy for wetness and tightness. Any question or suggestion on what I have discussed so far just leave a comment and I will reply them all.
thanks for reading

18 thoughts on “A Northern Sister Shares Bedroom Tips To Help Revive Ailing Marriages. Part 2”

  1. Wow I will call dis counseling. Thank you plenty plenty plenty. I appreciate sincerely. I have always love waist beads. I think I ll go get. Funny enough I have forgotten the oil I ask for but I ll check d IG. Yes I reside in Abj

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  2. Can a circumcised lady experience orgasm? I was circumcised as a child, married with 3 kids, never experienced that even in my dream

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  3. Pls I need to increase my. Libido o,im always never really in d mood cos of low libido.most times I see it as a chore n in my mind will be lik-oya oga com n do ur tin so il move on 2 something else.cant wait for d upcoming post on wetness n waist beads.

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  4. Ladies, set aside a day of the week for you and Mr to enjoy yourselves. Bedding is not necessarily an In-N-out thing. There are times when you just have to improvise.

    Buy a good wig that normally you wouldn't wear. Buy a pair of thongs, preferably red, and a two sizes smaller matching bra. Buy a pair of black or red high heels, the type that strippers wear. Buy a bottle of perfume, buy a jar of honey. Buy some turari and an empty can of peak milk to put the turari stick inside it. If you have jigida all well and good if not, use a scarf. Get a set of makeup with loud colours -red lipstick works wonders. Now that you are ready with all these things in a small portmanteau (potimoto) set the scene. Men are very visual and you want to set the scene, turn him on, let him lose his mind as his lumber jack rises to the occasion. This is nothing to do with loose or Ashawo, you will be forever grateful you followed this little hit mess of a scenario.
    Make sure the doors are closed, you've had a bath and you've worn your outfit panty and Bra. Make sure the Pata eats well into your bottom, while your breasts are slightly exposed. There's music playing in the background, you and Mr have enjoyed a meal before the transformation… i'll be right back to write act2 and 3.

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  5. Hello again, Act2. Cont'd::::
    This is a day you and Mr have set aside for nookie remember?! So, both of you are in a chill and relaxed mood. There's music in the background, the TV is likely switched on to avoid noise filtration (LOL). Mr is watching the TV and you have sat on his lap and have engaged the "Throttle" in such a way, that Mr is warm and fuzzy and knows something is amiss. Alright, the mood is set and all. Sneak into the bedroom, spare room or wherever you've place your "work clothes" in that portmanteau or bag and get dressed. Mr doesn't need to see you dressing, let him wait for the great reveal. While he is there on the settee nursing a rock-steady boner, make your appearance in your change of clothes – Lingerie and all. If you have a bathrobe you can don that and emerge smelling all lovely and so on. At this stage, Mr obviously will be, maybe slightly shocked but pleasantly so. If he says something like. ' Mama Jessica na wetin be this?' Go for that Hard Boner – rub it softly and( don't forget the twin sacks as well, they too need your hands' warmth) and tell him to wait and see while you plant a kiss on his mouth and gently on his Johnnie Walker. Out of shock, you will see that he too will relax and see what is about to unfold before his, by now, bulging eyes. Tell him to call you by your name and make sure you give him a quick flash of what you've got hidden under that robe, while you clasp your breasts together with your hands and tell him they are all his. Yeah, unless he is a log of wood, he will be delighted and you will see that he will continue to nurse that boner while you prep him for the ride of his life. The music is still on, you are probably tethering on your heels and need comfort. Just walk seductively towards the TV to distract him, hold onto anything to steady your balance and with one hand, seductively remove that robe while doing a very nasty and dirty dance.in fact I forgot, you can even slather some of your lady- love juices on his nose tip. Once he smells that, believe me, he is ready. Don't let him have a dip in that honey pot just yet. Do your dance and gradually strip, leaving on those shoes and that, by now, moist thong. And tell him to come join you. He will leap at you like a frog. Still, you have to hold off actual intercourse but work his hands around your body. Let your lips and hands do the talking baby or no baby, milk or no milk, men are weak and they love a bold and slutty woman in the bedroom. Missionary position will leave you frustrated and unfulfilled, you just have to be able to play the game right. Don't let the fact that you are married turn you into a shy, bag of rice in the bed. You belong to your man and vice versa. It's your duty to Werk, Werk and work him so much that if he normally leaves the office at 5, he will be rushing home by 4 to catch another Matinee in your bedroom, starring YOU. ACT3 is underway. Got to go take care of business. I will be back with more if you like it and if Ms EYA doesn't ban me for life from this blog. While I'm away get cracking, get that Lingerie. The very sleazy one and no, don't worry about how skinny or voluptuous you are. You are a woman and Mr looooooves a tiger, in bed. Groooar, Meow.

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  6. Wooooow! One of d most interesting lectures ever! I need 2 memorize every single sentence!pls wat is turari? Can barely wait for part 3!!!

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A Northern Sister Shares Bdroom Tips To Help Revive Ailing Marriages

So, after reading the post and several posts on married women cheating in their homes, i pondered so much on it and it’s glaring that this trend may keep increasing, one of the major factors is lack of sexual satisfaction. Many married women are suffering from this both those that are cheating and those that are not cheating, moreover the single ladies can also learn from this so as to get ready for their marital bed when the time comes. For the purpose of easy understanding i will divide this post into 3 sections, f you have any question about anything or contribution you can drop it in the
comment section and i will respond.  This is just an introduction and an overview of natural aphrodisiac that help women please their men and also get pleasure. It’s not a hidden fact that northern women have been taught all of this from puberty in preparation for marriage. I must state here that the number one fact is your MINDSET. please determine to make your marriage work and bring back sexual pleasure, if doesn’t matter whether you are now 4 size bigger than how you once were, you are beautiful! It doesn’t matter if your Husband doesn’t compliment you, compliment yourself and find your own happiness and know that you are beautiful.  

Now to the topic at hand, Basically 3 things are key to pleasing your man, and when you have a man that is pleased he will go to the ends of the world for you. 1. SKILLS 2. WETNESS 3. TIGHTNESS.
  

SKILLS: No one was born to be perfect with sexual skills, each day you learn and practice to be better, you must learn to explore your body and teach your man how to please you. If you don’t know your soft spots then how will the man figure it out. At this point pleas i will say pls say no to missionary, lol. For you to get better with skills you must have stamina and this can be achieved through exercise. You must exercise even if its just evening walks to build up your muscle and flexibility. Open up your mind and research about various sex games, sex position, sex adventure you both can do.

SENSES: You need to use the five senses to seduce your man, Sense of smell, Madam, yes we know you have spent the whole day in the Kitchen but don’t let your whole house smell of fish, or crayfish. Try and use nice air fragrance in your living room and bedroom and keep it very very clean. When action time comes, endeavor to have a bath with nice body soaps (if its not spontaneous) and use mild perfume on your skin.

Also the vagina must be kept very very clean at all times, after having your bath don’t bother with panties so that natural fresh air can circulate well.  NORTHERN REMEDY (Turaren Auta( this is herbs that is soaked in perfume that you can burn in your living room or bedroom, also douching over it helps tighten the vagina. HUMRA ( this is a natural mild perfume that can be used after bath) WHITE MUSK (both the perfume and oil and very good fragrance and can be purchased from the body shop). Also while making love instead of the odor of love making the fragrance will be tantalizing your man. 


Sense of Sight: Pls avoid tying wrapper on the chest and walking up and down, get nice lingerie you can wear to please your man, if you are into kinky sex get role play costumes. Get him to watch you touch yourself,  and show him how you will like it. 

Sense of hearing: Send him naughty text during work hours to prepare his mind for coming home, not the normal how are you, have you eaten etc oh. While making love pls try  to express yourself, get dirty talking, i tell you from what you say you will eventually get his ego so high that his sole aim will be to please you. 

Sense of touch: As much as possible maintain body contact, eye contact even in a crowded room, while together use your hands very well. i will stop here google is your friend lol 

Sense of taste: This cannot be over emphasized especially if you want oral sex. You must eat lots of cucumber this serves as a natural cleanser and will leave a long lasting taste down there……………..that will be all for now and watch off for the next post on natural remedy for wetness, tightness and response to all questions .

12 thoughts on “A Northern Sister Shares Bdroom Tips To Help Revive Ailing Marriages”

  1. Awwwwww CALABAR MBOK. Choiii very well said. I so learnt every single thing u just wrote. Questions. Where n what type of shop can I get dos listed perfumes,oils socked in sticks? Thank you so much for the post, dis ll go along way. Patiently waiting for ur next post. Much luv muahhhh

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  2. This is a good piece.
    I have read alot about douching and my findings is that it is not healthy for the vagina.

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  3. Nice one, poster it will nice to have a post teaching men how to please women too. As the saying goes "what is good for the gander us good for the geese"…lol

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  4. About letting him see u touching ur self, don't u think it is an act of marsturbation and some men don't like their wives to marsturbath.

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  5. @Anon 17:31, you have a point there. My kind of husband. I don't think he'll want to see me touching myself o.

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  6. I really appreciate this post. I want to have a great marriage so I'm learning well as so many people say marriage isn't easy. I pray I give positive n lovely testimonies about mine when I settle next year

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