Master Bedroom Wardrobe Comes Between My Husband And I

Hello Aunty Eya and WC, please I have a little challenge and would love to hear the views of other women too. I'd like to educate myself and to know if I'm being too petty like my husband said. When a couple shares the master bedroom, is it not fair and proper for the wardrobe to be shared equally? Is it OK for a husband to claim most of the wardrobe leaving very little or no space for his wife? 

Please I'd like to know how other wives do it. Do you continue to
leave your shoes and wears in the box while hubby enjoys the large wardrobe?
I am so pissed off :( Hide my ID I beg o).
What should I do in this situation, should I just take the little space for  peace sake or continue to fight for my space?

48 comments:

  1. juliet7:34 PM

    dis sholdnt be any problem, allow d man or better stil get urself a wordrob

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  2. Madam this is nothing to worry yourself about pls, take your cloth to another room and arrange neatly, have all the space to yourself. If there is no other room or perphaps there are kids already making use of the space, make a wardrope and put your cloths.your hubby is the head, don't raise shoulders with him, God made us under men, so live it so. Don't raise dust where there is non in your home. My opinion... Use wisdom

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    1. Anonymous11:54 PM

      The wife is the neck that holds the head up without the neck the head is nothing. #selectivebiblereading!

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  3. Anonymous8:00 PM

    Lool. You and your hubby sef! So it's this one you want to allow cause arguments? If you ask me, I'd suggest u leave the wardrobe to him and make use of the available space. Get those shoe n clothes racks that u can fix to a wall or available space in the house, shikena! You know u'd be able to fold your clothes more neatly than men who just want to throw in clothes to the wash bin or hang it. Pele...

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  4. Anonymous8:01 PM

    Lool. You and your hubby sef! So it's this one you want to allow cause arguments? If you ask me, I'd suggest u leave the wardrobe to him and make use of the available space. Get those shoe n clothes racks that u can fix to a wall or available space in the house, shikena! You know u'd be able to fold your clothes more neatly than men who just want to throw in clothes to the wash bin or hang it. Pele...

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  5. Lol... Babe, U give it a rest for now. Just put up your most important clothes and keep the ones that wnt get rumpled or destroyed in a bag or box somewhere. If U want more space I suggest U put them back in the wardrobe one by one, maybe one after a week or two...just do it in such a way that he will hardly notice. If you know clothes he doesnt or hardly wears remove them one by one too. And if he notices, just laugh about it with him.

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    1. Anonymous1:21 PM

      Wia av u been? Happy new year 2 u.Hwz ur family? I av really missed ur comments on this blog. @ others, no, this isnt her writing to herself o abeg

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    2. Anonymous9:46 PM

      eh Welcome back oh. We missed you.

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    3. Finally! Welcome back. Nice to read from you.

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    4. Exactly. Poster do what Ahdaisy suggested.

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  6. Mrs Chukwu8:19 PM

    Learn to fight for your right madam else he will walk on your head someday.

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    1. Anonymous8:25 PM

      Bad advice! Which right? U want her to quarrel over little matters. Am sure u cant do such to ur hubby. Mtcheew.

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    2. Anonymous8:28 PM

      African women and their "YES SIR" mentality. stay there like a glorified househelp while he occupies all the space you hear???

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    3. Anonymous11:37 PM

      Mrs Chukwu you have spoken like ten wise men! All the commenters before you shocked me na wa! Poster abeg fight for your rights jare! See how they are treating the husband like an egg as if he will break if the wife decides to take more space in the wardrobe. Madam poster this is where you have be cunning and reclaim some space for yourself. This your husband sef I never heard of a man who takes more wardrobe space than his wife before today.

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    4. Anonymous11:21 AM

      Some men are just funny, y claiming d whole wardrobe? Dats not d kinda thing dat bothers my hubby, if I like I can take d whole wardrobe in d house sefn its least of his probs...lol

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  7. Anonymous8:20 PM

    mtcheww dis one na mata? Vry small mata.

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  8. Anonymous8:21 PM

    mtcheww dis one na mata? Vry small mata.

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  9. Frances8:22 PM

    That's how my husband gradually claimed the whole space while I now wear straight from the box. It's not funny opening the box every time one wants to dressup.

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  10. Anonymous8:58 PM

    Pick your battles o! Its as if i was the one that wrote the story, having the same issues with my husband but I decided to leave him and his wardrobe and the table in the room I moved my stuff to another room which was a guest room before and for the past one year I have been living out of suitcases which isnt ideal because when I am looking for one thing i would have to empty the whole suitcase to find it hence clothes are everywhere but hey its my room so my advice to you is to let it go

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  11. Fyn Ijebu Chic9:13 PM

    Switch to pity mode.
    Get ghana must go, those ugly ones dat look like sack.
    Arrange all ur things in it.
    When. U want to pick something, empty the whole ghana must go on the floor in his presence, pick what u want and say u will arrange later.
    Do this continously and he myt jus pity u and give u space
    #dats my alter ego talking#


    Now my opinion.
    Buy that moveable wardrobe. It cost abt 4k and will save u a lot of aches.

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    1. Anonymous10:06 PM

      LMAO!! @ fyn Ijebu chic, dis ur comment cracked me up. I'm laffin so hard.

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    2. Anonymous10:08 PM

      LMAO!! @ fyn Ijebu chic, dis ur comment cracked me up. I'm laffin so hard.

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    3. Anonymous11:40 PM

      Fyn Ijebu chic if you are married you are a very wise woman if not you will make a wonderful wife who knows how to get her rights without causing any arguments smart babe! Leave all these ones with their YES OGA mentality while they stay suffering in silence. Women wise up!

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    4. Anonymous7:24 AM

      shut up. Which one is yes sir mentality. Pretenders

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    5. Anonymous1:08 PM

      Anon 7:24 Make me!

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  12. Usually women have more clothes than men so I don't know why your husband wants to take over most of the wardrobe. He should understand this but maybe he wants to prove a point to you (that he's in charge).. Anyway, find another closet or space to put your clothes in. It'll be your personal space. My husband owns most of our master bedroom wardrobe. Since I have so many clothes, I have some in our master wardrobe and I have most of my clothes in the wardrobe in our spare room. It works perfect for me!

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  13. Fight for your space jor! But holy fight shall... HOLY FIGHT pls.

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  14. Anonymous11:12 PM

    Lol seems most men are like that o. My hubby is using almost 80% space of our wardrobe. Though I just let him be. Can't be fighting because of every little thing.

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    1. Anonymous11:48 PM

      Nope not at all my dear only chauvinistic Nigerian men are like that. We moved into a house that had a large built in closet in the master bedroom and a walk in closet twice the size of the built in closet next to the ensuite bathroom (all in the same room). Guess which one is mine? The walk in closet! Why? Because I have far too many clothes and shoes than my husband and secondly he automatically assumed the walk in would be mine when we were viewing the house before purchasing. As we viewed the bedroom he opened the built in closet and said I guess this one's mine. My hubby would never in a million years make me keep my clothes in a suitcase while he occupies the 80% of closet just like i cook he washes up he cooks i wash up and everyone's happy. So you see my dear not most men are like that.

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    2. Anonymous7:25 AM

      Thank you for this comment! When Nigerian women talk,I always wonder if we belong in the same planet! We are supposed to be help- mates, not slaves!!! It doesn't mean you respect your husband less, by knowing & defending your rights!!!

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    3. Anonymous8:54 AM

      Anon 11.48 your hubby sons like he is related to my hubby except when he cooks he washes n wen i cook he also washes.

      What is wardrobe space please that a man is dragging with his wife, it is selfish. Some men sha only God can help us because marriage pass this.

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  15. Those saying she should fight for her right shld bear in mind that she has been fighting and not getting the equal wardrobe space she desires.
    I'll suggest you try another approach to get more wardrobe space or get another wardrobe inthe same room or another room in the house to put your clothes in.
    Some men won't reconsider even though you fight, cry or beg and only d poster knows d kind of husband she has.
    So poster use d medication u have been using that has been working for him on other issues on this 'wardrobe matter'.

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    1. Anonymous7:28 AM

      dnt mind this bad belle women jare. Fight 4 ur right. Fight 4 space. Fight 4 everything. Yeye .there are better things to quarrel abt.

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  16. Anonymous4:42 AM

    I enjoyed ds post n its comments.... Lol.

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    1. Anonymous7:30 AM

      wats ur contribution

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  17. D only way a man wld b occupyin a larger prt of d wardrobe is dt wen u moved in as madam, he alrdy lived der n haD d wrdrobe all 2 himself. If u move in2 a new place, u wld b entitled 2 a larger space automatically. So poster's hubby is nt being wicked its jst hw its been b4 she came.

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    1. Thanks Ivy... this mata will be resolved when couple change apartment. The madam will then have 'all' the space.
      How about the shoe rack - is hubby having more space? If yes, then yawa dey bi dat!

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  18. Anonymous2:01 PM

    I think ppl shld learn to appreciate the fact that husbands/ men are diff and their motives for doing things differ probably bcos of their upbringing and so Mrs A's way of handling her own husband may not work for Mrs B. So pls let us stop attacking each other but rather focus on understanding our husband(s) and knowing hw best to work out what we want.

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  19. Anonymous4:33 PM

    I bet u most of these ladies saying 'African mentality' experience worse in their homes. They will come here and make you feel their situation is perfect, while d reverse is the case. @Poster, please this is a trivial issue, don't blow it out of proportion. Just buy yourself a ward-rope. Enjoy your marriage dear.

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    1. Anonymous11:51 PM

      Is it paining you that our husbands treat us like partners and not glorified househelps? Sorry oh but thank God for giving me the good sense not to marry a selfish egocentric Nigerian man but rather a selfless exposed modern day man who has no qualms being the head with his wife as the neck supporting the head who has no problem having his wife by side and not walking behind him. It's like Nigerian women in bad marriages have accepted their fate and think that is how marriage should be so they don't understand how a Nigerian man can treat his wife like a Queen. Yes my husband and I have disagreements but we always agree to disagree at the end of the day. Our marriage is a partnership not slave master marriages that are plenty for Naija. You may do well to search for blog written by a Nigerian man about how he treats his wife like a queen and yes they live in Lagos so youknow that such men and marriages exist right within Nigeria. Madam you see some of us chose our path we did not marry out of society's expectation or desperation or the desire to be Mrs Somebody but chose to marry our friends that we shared common ground with that listen to us and treat us like the bible says to treat your wives. And because we are treated so well the favour is returned and these men are treated like the kings they are.

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  20. Anonymous5:04 PM

    Our wardrobe in our room was equally divided originally, I woke up one morning and said I wanted to change the shape by increasing one side, hubby said I wanted to push him to the smaller side, I offered him the bigger side but told him all the layers in his side were for me, he didn't object on the sharing day. 1 week later he realised my things were all over his side of the wardrobe in the various layers.

    My dear, the ghana must go bag experience is one to explore or better still allow him claim ownership but still put your thing there.

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    1. Yes oº° I like ur idea. Let himhave all d space he wnts, jst put ur tins small small amongst his. So it wld go frm his 2 ours.

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  21. To answer your question, the space is for both of you but sincerely, it cannot be shared equally, you guys are not sibling, you are partners.. let me explain, normally you should have more clothes and shoes than your hubby, would you rather he puts some clothes up and you put some up and the rest in a box, hubby should also be considerate and give you some space but you can opt to move your thing to another room, if there is a free space and act like it is your walk in closet...but if there is no free space , you and hubby can share but , it will be more of his stuff so you can have peace before every morning, he wakes you up asking where is my belt, my tie, my shoe?
    Also marriage is about compromise, when you see a marriage working, it is either they compromise or someone has taken responsibility.... Dont listen if anyone tell you , you are stupid when you let some things go, marriage is not about winners, it about two people working together to reach a desired goal which is peace

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    1. I like this comment. Compromise is the key don't believe you are being a 'mumu'.

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    2. pinkyberry6:19 PM

      I literaly cried after reading this comment. Its filled with so much wisdom and love.

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  22. Is good to share with ur hubby but if he doesnt want to or if u feel the space left is too small pls get ur own some petty fights like dis can b avoided my hubby got me my own wardrobe and he has his i go there to pack his things and i make sure i dont keep my things in his. please dont let ordinary wardrobe cos fight btn u and ur hubby again sometimes dis wen u working comes in handy u go get ur own thing and ur taste.

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  23. Anonymous2:03 PM

    Obehi u r very right. @anon 11:51pm, I don't see how compromising in such a trivial issue as this makes any woman a 'glorified househelp.' I don't just know y some people take pleasure in making mountains out of a mole hill. Little wonder, the d increase in divorce rate. God help us

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  24. All these comments I see just emphasizes the quote "different strokes for different folks". I'll also add that I'm blessed to have the kindda husband I have. Two days before we got married, my brothers took my stuff to my husband's house, and we both didn't see how they were kept until we got back from our honeymoon (cos my husband also moved into a hotel close to our wedding venue 2days before the wedding).lo and behold, when we got back home from our honeymoon, my things were all over the house o! Lolll! My hubby laughed so hard ehn! And just said "baby, u can place ur stuff all around YOUR house and just pity me and leave dat small space for my suits abeg". And I said "What do u mean hon?". He saId "Yes, u're the madam of the house, my job is to cater for u, therefore, after God, u're next, then me". (I'm sure u all can imagine the kind of love making session that followed such expression of selflessness and love... Loll). Now, this is not to say that the men that wouldn't do this aren't good also. Its just that human beIngs generally have different ways of expressing what we feel for each other, and may not see as a big deal what the other takes a big deal. We're individuals. If what works for Mrs A and her hubby doesn't work for u and ur hubby, look for other ways to WISELY make it work. The most important thing is that it works. And I bless God for the wisdom that I have to know that as a woman, I can have almost any and everything I want, while still in submission to my husband. The key word here is WISDOM and SUBMISSION!

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