Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Married To An Urhobo Man, How True Is This Please?

Good day. . I'm an ardent reader of this blog. . Good advice and cooking tips.. Please to the Warri chapter of wives connection, I'm married to an Urhobo man, my parents asked me to visit them and I informed  my husband.
 He said that in their
tradition, I'm not supposed to sleep over at my parents house after marriage, how true is this because I've never heard of anything like this.  My mother in law said the same thing.  HELP..

24 comments:

  1. I don't know how true it is oh! My aunty is married to an urhobo man and she sleeps in her parent's house well!

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  2. Anonymous9:54 AM

    Pure lies. I am an Urhobo and there is nothing like that. he is probably insecured which can be attributed to lack of trust!

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  3. Anonymous10:20 AM

    It's not true,I'm an urhobo woman,notin of such

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  4. Na wa oº° . Gist of life

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  5. Anonymous12:29 PM

    I'm also an urhobo woman, there is no tradition like that in the whole of urhobo land, he just doesn't want you to visit your mum. To think that the mother is in support is disheartening. Will she be happy if her daughter is told not to visit her after marriage?

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  6. Anonymous12:40 PM

    Is your husband scared of something or hiding something from your parents? Is he violent to you or just insecure?

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    1. Anonymous1:42 PM

      Violent!! Yea

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    2. Anonymous11:00 PM

      Ouch!

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  7. Anonymous1:27 PM

    Hmmmmm sometin is not right n 4 his mother 2b in support!!!

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  8. Anonymous1:28 PM

    i 'm also married to an urhobo man, one thing i have experienced is their intense love for control and respect. SMH.

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    1. Anonymous1:45 PM

      U r in my shoes.. Control!! Mine is getting violent nw.. 7 months into d marriage

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    2. Anonymous6:31 PM

      Just Ignore Him and Keep Praying. So sad. I'm an Igbo girl in America and i strongly believe that if we lived in Nigeria, life would have been unbearable. Mine only wants his people around and his people want to be the only ones around. His Mom all the way from nigeria hates it when my mom visits. Can You Imagine that? But in everything i give God all the Glory.

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  9. Anonymous2:27 PM

    Urhobo Wado!!!

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  10. Ur hubby can lie for Africa oh! Its just a conspiracy so that you won't report to your mom how he's been treating you.

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  11. Anonymous3:54 PM

    Smh,im always amazed at the attitudes of some of this urhobo men,would he be happy if his daughter was not allowed to visit him because she's married?theres no law like that,i am married to an isoko man, and I have urhobo sister inlaws and they visit their parents all the time,their urhobo husband's even come along.i think he's just scared of you spending a lot of time with your parents because he doesn't want you to talk to them,and reporting him.

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  12. Anonymous4:20 PM

    If he‘s violent u beta reprt hm tu ur parents so dy ll no wat tu do,hop he‘s workin as most of dem r veri lazy,am an Urhobo too & av neva heard such tins,its well.

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  13. Anonymous3:48 AM

    My dear sister on WC abeg "na small word we dey tell persin, if u reach him belle to become whole word" Act fast, act right and act now!!!!!!
    Did anyone notice that this year, RAPE( yound/old) was on high side? And same with violence against females, pls stand up against all dis while ur still breathing and can be heard. God bless and keep u. Amen.

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  14. Anonymous10:08 AM

    I am isoko and have never heard of anything like this. He is just insecure about you going to see your people. Assuming you live in different cities,does it mean you will go and come back same day or sleep in a hotel? Or not ever see them ever again?. He/his mum are just being controling. Stand your ground abeg. Oginni?

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  15. mrs morgan10:56 AM

    @poster am married to an urhobo man and am yoruba,I alwaz travel 2 c my parents in a diff state 4rm where I stay.ur hubby is nt correct and believe me there ar 1derful urhobo men out there.

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  16. All have spoken!
    There no such thing in Urhobo culture but your husband funny sha. Did he think you won't do your own research?

    He's conniving with his mum to "humble" you. As far as I'm concerned, when he misbehaves, you can't report him to her because she will support him 100%.

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    1. Anonymous10:35 PM

      I agree with you one hundred. His Mom will support him. Doesn't sound like her husband and MIL are exposed. But its important to support her through this as women. My advice will be to talk to the husband and make your concerns known to him. Most importantly prayers work wonders. Report this matter to God my sister.

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  17. Anonymous6:12 AM

    I am ibo and married to an Urhrobo man, I visit my mum and sleep in her house, though when my MIL hears of it, her body "pinches" her. Don't know why? But she can't stop me from sleeping in my mum's place.
    meanwhile, my hubby is always saying that "if a woman married to an Urhrobo man cheats, the hubby will die" how true is this Urhrobo people? Not like I plan to cheat o. God forbid!

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  18. Anonymous7:52 AM

    Yeah,the death thing is true to some extent,I know of a close couple,that it happened to,but I think the man only dies if he's trying to cover up the wife's way and not complain to anyone about it.

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  19. Anonymous1:44 PM

    I'm an urhobo n there's no such tradition but d cheating thing is true.my uncle's wife cheated n he kept it to himself,him d wife n d man she slept with died.

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