Hi guys decided to share a few of my thoughts on this issue this is owing to the fact that so many people get it wrong and eventually end up sad. Lemme give a short analogy to explain the entire point I want to make. Imagine two daughters have the same father daughter A holds her fathers hand and asks him to help her when its time to cross the gutter, he does exactly that and she crosses it safely, daughter B decides to cross on her own, as she crosses it she falls down she cries out to her father and he will certainly come to her aid. But will coming to her aid change the consequences of the fall? NO Well it's the same with marriage no matter what you need Gods direction to enable you sail through. Marriage is so important that the devil is never happy for you to get it right. The ultimate key is seeking Gods face, find out his plan for you first, single ladies pls single hood is not the time to be desperate but the time to develop capacity, for marriage.
Ladies you are so precious that even the sons of God saw the daughters of men and marveled at what God created, don't turn yourself into a pity bag. Take that time to invest in yourself, the truth is if you don't know if you are a square, triangle, round or circle type of lady you won't know what type of man can fit into you perfectly. If you are a triangle woman how do you think a square man can fit into you. Many times we don't even know who we are because we have spent so much time becoming like our friends or what society wants us to be, then we start searching for the man we want, pls know that the man you want is not necessarily the man you need.
God can speak to you through dreams, visions, his word, people around you, but because God spoke to sister A through a dream doesn't mean he will speak to you the same way. Once God speaks to you he will definitely confirm his word and his word must fulfill the purpose for which it was sent. But because the word has come doesn't mean you will rush off to wed, pls wait again till you get the confirmation because it is at that time the devil also sends his candidate to confuse us. Every tree in due season will bear fruits. The place of spiritual direction and mentorship, pls have someone that can guide you with prayers etc, Esther got to the position of a Queen because she followed all what mordecia told her to do, Ruth got to boaz because she followed what Naomi told her to do.
In all this pls enjoy your time being single and let no one make you think it is a bad situation, it is just a phase that will pass. For those already in a serious relationship that may be leading towards marriage, please take time to evaluate the man, is he a gardener or a hunter? A gardener is a husband that will take time to groom you, nurture you, and multiply you, he works on all the good and bad things he saw in you till bloom into a radiating rose.
A hunter finds a woman of virtue, he marries her, makes sure he sucks all the good in you, eventually kills your dream. A hunter will never tell you his plans, neither is he interested in your plan, his motive is ever selfish and his words and actions are centered on himself.
Please run away from such a man. For as many that are already married its never too late for the father to bring you out of the gutter, remember all things work together for good to those that love God. Seek the father's face and let him take charge of your husband. God bless us all and make us virtuous women in line with proverbs 31.
Deborah blogs at THE WORD
Deborah blogs at THE WORD