Am I Right Or Wrong?

My closest girlfriend went behind me to ask my husband for money. My husband just told me and I got really angry because I feel she should have come through me first. Please I would like to know if am right or wrong?

In fact I told my husband not to give her, hoping

she will recognize her mistake & do the right thing.
Hope am right because I know that I can’t do that to any of my female friends (I don’t even have many of them). 


Pls I will like the house to put themselves in my shoes & let me know if am doing the right thing.
What my friend did, is she right or wrong?

44 thoughts on “Am I Right Or Wrong?”

  1. Your friend is not a serious human being…. This is y i dont have female friends and the very few i have are childhood friends and do not communicate with my husband… You better tell her you know and warn her with wisdom ni o because next time she will ask your husband for a visit and then some.

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  2. What your friend did was extremely wrong. Thank God that you have a sensible husband that told you want she had done. I know men who did not tell their wives and from there started sleeping with the so called friend. You will need to speak to your 'friend' and warn her never to try it again, that neither you nor your husband will be lending her any money as she did not respect you enough to talk to you about it first. Biko please watch that you friend o!

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  3. What is wrong with a friend asking your husband for money? We women are very stingy and unpredictable, if she passes thru you, how am I sure you won't prevent your oga from givng her just like you just did? I see you don't trust your friend yet you call her closest friend?

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  4. What your gf did was absolutely wrong,more especially for not telling you she asked of such favour from your hubby.I will advice you to help her if you can but collect the money from your hubby and give her youself then warn hier not to try such with you,stress on the implication incase she claims not to know.my dear ,don't forget to watch her closelly because no one can ne trusted.

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  5. A friend once did this to me. She visited and the morning she was to leave, I rushed into the kitchen to fix some breakfast. After she left, about an hour later, hubby asked if the amount he gave her was OK or too small and I was like what amount? He said he gave her thirty thousand naira for her fare back to Abj cos we live in PH.

    When he gave her the money, she headed towards the kitchen where I was making breakfast and he felt like as usual we will gossip that the amount is small.

    I was shocked, she actually came into the kitchen but didn't mention it. I had to dash her my small 5k unknowingly.

    Sha I didn't ask her anything, I decided to let it go cos she just lost her hubby the previous year and "nor be me go make am go remember her late oga." I thought about this thing for a long time and became dodgy each time she asks to visit. I end up telling her we won't be in town or we just left town or something but she hasn't been able to visit after that. I didn't like it at all at all.

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  6. Kinda similar story. My friend told me to thank hubby o, that he gave her five thousand naira. When actually he gave her fifteen thousand naira. Why lie to me? In short my husband asked me to cut her off because he hates liars and deceitful people.

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  7. Eya, I'm really very angry at you for not posting my comments o. Why now/ have you ever seen a blog without insults in your life? When people try to show ITK shouldn't they be nsulted to make them rethink their comments. There is no day I don't comment like ten times on this blog yet you won't post. Mtcheeeeew

    @POSTER if you like don't give her the money. the reason oga told you is because he doesn't like her if not e for nor tell you. Eya if you like don't post as usual. I don't care.

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  8. On what basis did she feel she had the right to go behind your back to ask ur husband for money? Such disregard!!!

    I would call her out on it and give her a wide berth thereafter! So annoyed on ur behalf! #BBangrysmiley

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  9. @Me,10 comments not posted? That means u should check yourself and tame ur tongue.its obvious all ur comments are filled with insults and hate.*sticking out tongue* Aunt Eya pls keep it up jare

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  10. I bet your single or maybe u cheat on ur friend's husbands! In ur little mind u think nthg wrong of this? Haba! If u are a woman then ur a foolish one to go trusting stupidly!
    My dear poster, thank God for ur hubby! What ur friend did is WRONG!

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  11. I think for her not to have asked u 1st, there must be some trust issues between you two! If she is really close to you, why didn't she open up to you? Maybe she felt you won't give or because your hubby is a generous giver you will cut the slot. Pls allow him give her the money then you should sit her down some days later and talk. If she denies collecting it and asking then you shld be cautious of this frnd pls, if she opens up and the reason seem good or not, let her know it was disrespectful to you and set the boundary so that she will be aware.

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  12. @ME -You seem to be a very bitter and angry person. (Maybe I'm wrong) This blog has become very sane now; a place where we come to learn and also be of help to others. You do not need to insult someone to make them rethink their view. Everyone is ENTITLED to their opinion. Thank you.

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  13. ,That is how it starts, babe shine your eyes, warn her not to try it next time. That's how my stylist was doing friend friend now her friend is married to her husband taking care of her six kids while she is now living in her saloon.

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  14. @amanda na wa for u o nt even ur sis sef ur frnd n u say dere is ntin wrong wit it…if it was even ma sis I wil stop her frm cumin to ma hux sef…@poster talk to her dat she shuld never try dat nonsense again n be careful wit such person.

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  15. Amanda August 9,2013 at 6.55am, may you be on the receiving end of such in your marriage. May all your friends go behind your back and ask your husband for money. In Jesus name Amen. Dont worry you will get back to us on this issue.

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  16. Let it go 4 now bt dnt ever let ha cum to ur hse agn as she‘ nt trustworthy&no d tym of frnds u kip.

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  17. No way, your prayer won't work. I can't get back to you for ezpressing my personal opinion on the blog.

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  19. Na wao!! If she can't come tru u den she has sometin else up her sleeve. A friend not even ur sister. I feel ur hubby is a generous man probably she feels. Might not appove dat but she was wrong. You are really blessed to hav such kind of man who will tell u, some men won't and might even take advantage of that.

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  20. Na wao!! If she can't come tru u den she has sometin else up her sleeve. A friend not even ur sister. I feel ur hubby is a generous man probably she feels. Might not appove dat but she was wrong. You are really blessed to hav such kind of man who will tell u, some men won't and might even take advantage of that.

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  21. Nah mate!!!I'm not even married but I don't see myself condoning that mess.Its not even about being paranoid.Why can't you trust me as a friend to help you through my husband,as opposed to being sneaky?

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  22. The question that is pricking me is how comfortable must she be with your husband to go behind your back and ask him for money instead of through you considering you are closest friends? I suspect someone's antenna has been picking up a signal sha. Cut her off either way.

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  23. Lol…Amanda, so u fit rebuke the prayer? So u sef stingy abi?

    Look, the point is not being stingy, the point is, it is wrong!! Y should you go asking your friends husband for money behind her back? On top which levels na? U wan dey sleep with the man??? Its soooo wrong!

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  24. What dat friend did is wrong.Who knows what she is up to? Abeg give am space ooo.I nor understand dis kind friend haba

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  25. If she's as close to ur husband as she is to u i.e if she is a mutual friend or so, or if she's closer to ur husband than to u, no yawa. Except, she is ur husband's friend, what she did is unacceptable n I guess she did so cos she probably sees ur husband as a nice n perhaps generous person + it's so easy for some ladies to ask even a stranger or a new friend for money. Wait a minute! No b borrow seff. Hahaha. Dis handshake don de turn to wrestling as e don pass d wrist. Lol.

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