|TuFace, proud first ever MTV African award winner (Photo credit: kaysha)|
of any reason why the Newly Wed should have rejected the offer. What is wrong with a car gift? Is this the first time we are seeing a car gift in this country? Haven't we seen even more expensive Wedding car gifts?
The way we try to force people do what we think is right in this country is sometimes appalling. It is just like we hear and see people ready to criticize Government, even with the last drop of the blood. When things change and they are put in positions of people they condemned, we see them do worse. I am ready to see which Nigerian man or woman that would have come up to tell Governor Akpabio to "Please keep your car to yourself, I can't accept it because, the face that you are a Governor tells me you must have used Public funds to purchase the car" If you sincerely think that you could have done that , please hit the reply button and give us your name.
For those of us saying Annie Macaulay is not the only lady getting married in that State, We forget that there is something called status, and it's a reality whether we like it or not. Even in our different families, every body is not treated equally. Yes! The quantity and quality of food served the head of the house is not the same given to his office assistants or cleaners. If you like disagree but this is a fact. When the President plans to visit your village, Security Officials go ahead of him to ensure all is well. His entourage, the police station in your village is not even enough for security. When your Father and mine visit our villages, do they get the same publicity, respect and attention accorded them? From now till thy kingdom come, no matter how we talk about and fight for equal treatment and all that, I don't think a time will come when people like Tuface Idibia will go get married in a particular town or state and the Leader/s of that State will not recognize him or try to be relevant in a big way. Do we want the Governor to present Tuface and wife a bag of rice and tin of oil, a carton of wine glasses, a carton of ceramics, a baby bath tub, a deep freezer or Television as wedding gift?
This is an Artist recognized the world over, and well respected. Is it because Tuface is Nigerian that we are hating on his receiving the gift? During Carnivals and Music Festivals,State Governors bring in Foreign Artists and pay them so much in dollars. We applaud and go to enjoy the shows. If the amount spent on the SUV was used to bring Kim Kardashian to Nigeria for a 10 minutes "waka pass," we will neither complain this much nor write about it the way we are doing right now. Why can't we appreciate our own?
Well, those of us saying that Tuface is rich and doesn't need all that, sorry to tell you that he still needs even more than that. The Richest Men is the world are still working. Dangote, the Richest man In Africa is older than Tuface, yet has not retired. Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg and others are still working very hard to make more money and we just sit here and feel like Tuface has enough and does not need a wedding present. If you were Tuface or Annie, would you have told the Governor to go to hell with his gift?
For supporters of "the less privileged who would have benefited from that money," may God help us to remove the log in our eyes before pointing at a tiny dot in another man's. We live in cities and are here browsing with very expensive smartphones and state of the arts Ipads, are we saying there is no body in need where we come from? Even in our extended families, What have we given up to help the old uncle in the village go for eye surgery? How many of our property have we sold to enable the old women suffering in our villages get a proper home? The poor are every where around us and we all know it is no one individual's responsibility. How many of our posh cars and Flat screens have we sold to pay school fees for children of widows in our communities? Or, do we think because it's Tuface Idibia, it must be different?
When you become Tuface, how many wedding gifts do you think you can reject? Oh, to give the impression that you are holier than the Governor eh? OK.
If you were Annie Macaulay Idibia, would you have counselled your husband to reject the wedding gift from the number one man in your State? I bet some of us will hold Thanksgiving Services to let the world know that after all the years of waiting and humiliation, at last, even our Governor recognizes us. Doesn't Annie deserve to be happy in life? Nearly everyone blamed her for waiting for a straying men then, now that she owns the man, we still find ways to condemnn her, where and when we shouldn't.
For as long as seed-time and harvest remains, as long as we have day and night, I am not against helping the less privilege, but do not forget, the poor will always be among us. I am yet to see a Nigerian who has given up chicken and meat in soups to save and give a better life to even a few poor folks.
The way we point fingers and are quick to judge others, may we learn to imagine ourselves in their situations, tell ourselves the truth, before beginning to make others look bad. Tell me who wouldn't want to be associated with The great Tuface Idibia?
Instead of congratulating them on their successful Traditional wedding, we allow ourselves to be carried away by judgmental sentiments. OK, now we can't handle this.What if the Governor had given them a Private Jet? What would you do?