A listening ear, the greatest gift ever

 I was jotting down some notes on my 'To Do" list last night, I hear footsteps behind but I'm too engrossed to look up. Then I hear footsteps walking away and turned to see my daughter walking away. So, I called and inquired what the matter was and she says " I want you to look at my scores from school. I was talking to you but I guess you are busy so I will come back when you are done" My heart sank, I felt bad. Called her back, looked at the scores and congratulated her. Then, she livened up and asked why I was  looking at my write up while talking to her?

This short story may not be related to my post. However, it kind of reminded me that the greatest gift I can give to my LO or DOs is A Listening Ear. You can imagine what it feels like when you have an important information for someone and while you are talking, she feels or looks distracted.

Beauty Tips For My Face

These tips are what works for my face. No matter how hard I try, if I do not get enough rest, the pimple ( acne) just won't go. Without any efforts, my face bounces back to it's freshness when I include green veggies and fruits in my meals and then do these three major things: A smooth face is easy to have and maintain, if only we constantly do what works for our faces.

1. Rest whenever I sense that my body is tired. 
2. Sleep sleep sleep. 
3. Remember not to go to bed with make-up

It feels like the second point is impossible but it is't. We cannot get enough sleep because of our priorities and time management. If we take some minutes out of the time we use for each of these:

How I Manage My Kids In Public Places

Unruly children in public can be such a handful. They can get even the most patient of parents screaming and yelling if s/he does not constantly caution herself.
Successful  and stress-free managing of kids in public starts right at home before we set out.
Tutoring and reminders help me a lot. One thing I have realized over the years is that every time I take kids out without having a word with them at home, we get the same old results of rowdiness, difficulty in managing them, At the end of the day, we come back home really tired as a result of a stressful outing.
These are some of my tips:

Appreciation and Respect in Marriage

To show appreciation is to show a feeling of being grateful for having my spouse and being grateful for the the  things he does, even the little things.
To respect my husband is to  show polite behavior because I think that he is important. in my life. Appreciation and   respect cannot be separated. The two go together. If I have

At what age can my daughter start Dating?

After my eleven year old completed her reading about Miley Cyrus and Selena Gomez, she walked into the kitchen where I was making dinner and popped the question: "Mummy, at what age can I start dating?"
I have to say the truth, though I teach them a lot of sex education, I never saw this question coming. It just did not occur to

My personal secret to the best Nigerian tomato stew

 Frying tomatoes for preservation

Boil and blend before frying. In case there is still water after blending, you can boil a

My Personal Tip For Heavy, Long Menstrual Periods!

Ladies, you will agree with me that when our periods come, it can be a period of not just feeling 100% comfortable. Especially if you get heavy flow and if it lasts longer than three days.
I tried something this year 2012, and it is really working for me.
Once my periods set in, I go get fresh

My Husband Doesn't Remember, Celebrate Special Days

Good morning Ladies,
Here is a mail I got last night. This was sent to me because she says that wivestownhallconnection is where she feels that other wives will get to read and feel what she is going through. I am permitted to share it but without her name:

Hi joy ojay; this is my first time writing you since I started enjoying your blog. Thanks.

I have been married for five years now; I have a daughter in this marriage and a son from a previous marriage. I met my husband shortly after the divorce from my first marriage.

He

Help! my wife sleeps in the sitting room!

    Ladies, I got this form a man, he says that he is a regular reader of this young blog, and that he is  sending it to me because he needs ladies' advice on the matter. I got it very early this morning.

Dear ladies,

My wife suddenly developed a new habit, which is spending the night in the sitting room.

We have been peacefully married for fourteen years,  our  two boys are in boarding school, and I think that this is when

How long can YOU go without sleep?

Sleep deprivation?            

I woke up this morning with a banging head ache, and then my husband tells me that my eyes look like I did not sleep at all.

This is as a result of late night blogging. It is so much fun that I just do not know when to stop!. The night before last, I sat down with my system after the girls had gone to bed. This was at 9pm and I was just posting and enjoying the page views. Suddenly, I realised that everywhere was quiet and when I looked at the clock, it was 6am of yesterday.

Living With Noise Pollution In My Neighborhood

 The noise from the church behind my house was again as loud as usual, I opened my eyes, got down from the bed and started thinking...  about this loudspeakers that are just blaring in the whole neighborhood

.These days, the church band starts playing at five am. The problem is neither the band nor the keyboard, the reason  we cannot sleep at five am and ten pm.is the fact that all the microphones and musical  instruments are connected to loudspeakers. These loudspeakers are then mounted on the roof top.

On days like this one, I begin to wish that I live in pars of the world where everybody is so civilized that he thinks of the next person and how his actions are going to affect them before doing anything.


This early morning and late night loud church activities became so much a problem that some people came together and called the church's attention to the fact that "we can no longer sleep in our houses." This was about a month ago. The church leadership promised to do something about it. *chuckles*


 As at this morning, the loudspeakers are still on the roof of the church. For how long can one continue to live like this. Noise can be really really annoying and frustrating.
Moving out of  this area is the only solution right now, because even though we hear that the authorities have served them notice, we are still up every morning listening to church music.

Coping with noise pollution is what most Nigerians are going through,  as a result of the multiplication of churches in residential areas, the use of generating sets for electricity
  and the loud music at weekends when kids birthday parties are being held.

The afternoons and evenings are better. For me o, I do not look forward to nights and mornings.


Have you experienced noise pollution before?
Can you share here?

Hubby Selects My Obituary Pictures

How do I read my husband's thoughts? I need help!

 people tell me that I look like some one they can trust. I don't know.
But one thing is sure, friends love to confide in me. I am not trying to brag here, it's true.

My former neighbor tried to seek my opinion concerning a matter, I refused to say anything then. That was Just a week before I started typing on my browser and publishing.*wink*

Jemilah was looking at her photo album in her sitting room,

Tolerating And Surviving Sleep Deprivation While Raising Kids

I am trying to find out what mothers can actually do about sleep deprivation.
Sometimes, I ask myself, when last did I hit the bed and just lie there sleeping till morning? because like I said in my post on "kids leaving adults bedroom for good" I realised that often times, it is not the kids who come disturbing my sleep. I still have this habit of checking on them, trying to see that they are still properly covered,  sometimes adjusting their heads on the pillows and other  times raising one or both legs from the floor, or dangling positions and placing them back on their beds. 

What really keeps me very happy with all the sleep deprivation is the fact that I keep reminding myself that this is the only opportunity that I have to do all these for them. In a "a few" years they are all gone.   


When kids leave for college, they are gone. After college is not the time to "loose sleep" over a child.
All the long years of sleep deprivation will surely be regained, Yes. A time comes in every mother's life when you will get bored with always having to sleep with no child to attend to. 


For any lady who plans to have kids, I think that sleep deprivation is something to expect, so get  yourself ready for it. However try to feel good about it because a time comes when kids won't be the cause of sleep deprivation, cos they would be gone. seriously!


Any word for young mothers going through this sleep deprivation thing?

At what age should kids leave "adult" bedrooms for good?

 I woke up this morning to see my four year old girl snuggled like packed sardines in between her dad and I.
It is actually not the first time she is doing this, however, she always finds excuses for sneaking in sometimes, and

How I fall asleep with ease and comfort!

sleep (Photo credit: Sean MacEntee)

After a hard days's work, everyone looks forward to hitting the bed  at night and falling asleep right?

Going to sleep can be really difficult for me sometimes. No matter how hard I try, my brain just refuses to shut down.

Even with eyes closed, the mind or... is it the brain? whatever it is I do not know. It just refuses to