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Wednesday, November 14, 2012

A Letter To My Daughters

My Dearest Cuties,
How are you doing today? Hope you are doing great and having a good time?  We are fine except that we miss you so much. We are eagerly looking forward to the Christmas holiday. The days seem so slow while the nights drag too long. In just three weeks we are going to be together. These three weeks seem like a whole year to me. How are your friends? Do you find time to talk a little and have some fun or do you just read read read and read? 

Every evening I imagine you two reading in the School library. I see you walk back to your different rooms and Shaloooo, I see you waving goodnight to your little sister Boboo and I just wish that you two share the same room or hostel. If it were possible, I would have ensured that you both sleep side by side. 
It is shocking how
strong I have turned. I never thought that I'd be able to cope with you two leaving for  boarding Schools. I had always wanted a situation where you'd school from home and leave us only when you are old enough to go to college. Your Daddy felt otherwise, he felt that schooling from home won't give you enough study time. He felt that there are too many distractions at home ( Online dress up games, your favorite Disney Chanel, Stardoll, I dress up and a host of others) He said the best place for kids in this Internet age is a boarding school where they can't lock themselves up  and play games. I see now that he was very right because right from the day you left for School, your baby sisters have not watched those Channels that have young girls and boys making up and breaking up at random. They have been banned from Online games except during holiday. They really look forward to the Christmas holiday where they can learn more fun holiday games and have fun with you two. (Hoping your Christmas list is moderate)
Holiday break
Holiday break (Photo credit: C├ęsar Poyatos)

Do you know that I cried a couple times after you left?  I could not bear not seeing you for this long. It's been two months and it seem like two years. I miss you girls, I miss your laughter, I miss your sneaking into the kitchen after bedtime, I miss hearing your whispers after bed time and then opening your door to find you looking like you are in deep sleep, I miss you saying there is no food in the house whenever your snacks are finished. I miss your struggling to take the front seat from me, struggling to see who sits next to your father. 

Shaloo, I miss you talking to your baby sister Kabstick  to stop sneaking into mum and Dad's room at night; She does that a lot these days. She promises never to do it again, but I still wake up to find her snuggled in between us. I do not know how you do it, but you have a way of making her do what you want.


I can't wait for you to come and talk some sense into her beautiful little head. I need all my space when I sleep. Do you miss us? Do you and Bobo find time to talk about home?  


when we came for your Visiting day, we noticed that Bobostic has lost some weight. Well,  we felt it is as a result of her leaving her family for the first time in her 9 years. That day I felt like sneaking her into my handbag and taking her back home with me, but when I saw her scores and her general performance, I quickly changed my mind because despite her age, she is coping well. For you Shaloo mama, you are already used to the system, so, you still looked your same beautiful size. You two get ready for me cos when you return home for holiday, I will ensure that you eat six square meals daily for all the period of your holiday, I will surely get you overstuffed with food by God's special grace. 


We say a prayer for you everyday, and trust that the almighty is with you always. Please baby girl, stop skipping beans. Try to eat every meal served, life is all about adjustments and you know that what ever you are given is for your good health. You know that beans is very vital for your growth . When you come back here, beans will be staring at your faces so, eat it OK? 


We are so proud of your hardwork, Bobostic, we are  happy that Shalom visits you often and gives some "big sister guidance." We cannot wait for December when we'll all be re-united again. Remember to always pray. Ehen, lest I forget, Shaloo please I beg you to read more of your School books than novels. And you Bobooo,  remember what I told you, "the fewer your friends, the lesser the distraction."   

Read, play and do your best. We look forward to when we'll hug and roll on the ground with you girls, See you then.
Mommy.
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39 comments:

  1. Aww this is so sweet. It reminded me of my days in boarding school and how I trasured the letter sent by my mum. I was an Agbaya at 14 then, it was SS only school :)

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    1. Do you think it is OK for kids younger than 14 to go to boarding Schools? I never went to a boarding School.

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  2. Those days students were permitted to come with beverages and snacks if they want. Now it is different. They allow only a suit carrier, travelling box and a few other things. For kids who hate beans and other foods, they are on their own. Do you mean at 14 you were already a senior student? You must have started quite early.

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    1. Yeah I got into SS1 around, I was among the youngest though we had a few of my agemates and a 13years old too. then we took provisions and it helped on the days one missed going to the refectory for one reason or the other.

      I am actually a supporter of boarding schools once the child is a teenager. Younger than that, I'm not so sure, it will depend on how mature I think that child is. Your children seem to be holding up well, and you too. Just keep writing to them so you remain their friend and confidante too even as they learn to be independent.

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  3. This is so sweet. lol at " I will ensure that you eat six square meals daily for all the period of your holiday"

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    1. Yes dearie, I will. Though they are well fed, I still feel like, not eating my food means that they are hungry. LOL!

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  4. I'm so nostalgic at the moment. I started boarding school at age 10 (jss1) and i would not change a thing about it for the world. My parents did almost everything to make me stay home but i was not having it. Interesting years :)

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    1. Thanks Toin, you make me feel really good right now. Interesting years right? Good to know that students enjoy boarding Schools. I have no idea.

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  5. This is really sweet, I can feel the extent to which you miss them.
    I remember when my mum used to visit me every weekend with home food. hmmm... I miss her(God bless her soul)

    This letter makes me think of how it will be like when my lil boy is about to go to secondary school.

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    1. I understand. She is so proud of you where she is, her happiness is that you are doing great and taking good care of her grand son.

      The truth is, you will sure put a bold face the day he leaves. You will try to prove that he has a strong mother, but, at night, some drops of salty water from your face will wet your soft cuddly pillow.

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    2. That was fun. We can't even visit twice in a term. Visiting Day comes up ONCE in a whoooole term. Mid-Term break and all Government Holidays are observed there in School. Once they resume, no student leaves until Closing Day. Na wa o.

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    3. Wow, dat school must be really good, What's d name and location??? I was a boarder too trust me school days were d most interesting part of my life

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  6. awwwwww..............too sweet

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  7. Lovely letter.
    Would you keep a hard copy for them to read too?

    Ma school was both day and boarding. But I was never a boarder. I always wished I were though.

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  8. Thanks Tamie, it's their letter I copied here. Me too.

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  9. I had tears in my eyes as I read this cos I miss my son soooooooooo much. And he is in University! You would have thought that by now, I have gotten used to it cos he went away for his A levels too.

    God will coninue to keep all his children for us in Jesus name. Amen. I am just wondering how I will cope when my daughter goes off next year....

    Your daughters will continue to remain hid in God's loving hands. All your children are safe in Christ and God will continue to teach them so that they can be at peace.

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  10. You have two girls
    that's cool!

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    1. Oh, did I say two? Thanks for stopping by Tess.

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  11. awwww coincedentally ma lil sis just called me from boarding house to inform me they won the national scrabble competition,she'll never call anyone from school asides me,coz of how close we're, d age difference notwithstanding. But I can only take solace in d gentle breeze dat heralds d xmas season,knowing fully well dat soon I'll be reunited with my Bestie and sis Linda.

    ~BONARIO~says so via NOKIA3310

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    1. Hey Bonario, you mean you took that new Nokia3310 all the way from Linda Ikeji zone to show to us here? Wecome bros. Congrats to your little sister! Happy about the closeness because that means she already got "a man" in her life who will not let the teen age lead her to the express road.

      I wish she teaches you a lesson with her scrabble playing expertise. LOL.

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  12. So heart-rending a letter...*sniffs*...i can relate with your feeling.....sighs....we mothers have to learn to let them go and be independent...though like you i didnt go to boarding school and i kind of have a phobia for it... but am told it is the best for children.

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  13. Na wa o.. You run 3 blogs consistently? You dey try. This is the one that fits me most.

    Now following back.

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    1. Consistently na oyibo o, This is where I park everyday o. The other ones are just there to prevent me from putting every orishirishi here.

      I now see that as a blogging mistake that should be avoided if possible. Nothing prevents me from posting everything on this one blog and putting all my energy here. It was like that initially, until I started getting complains from a few readers who did not enjoy seeing my pidgin English stuff here. I try as much as possible to be here more often.
      Thanks for the follow.

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  14. Hi Eya,
    Got your message on one of my older posts saying you were worried where I was, aww thankyou but I am ok. My life seems to be full lately, and I find that all my blogger friends seem to be able to put a new post on every few days. I WISH there was 48 hours in one day sometimes. I have another post in mind where I want to mention your post about the heels in (just a sentence) if that is ok with you Eya, it reminded me of an incident in my life. Hopefully I will get that up soon. As I was reading your post about your little girls I was feeling a little sad, probably because you are missing them. I am glad I did not go to a boarding school though, I enjoyed the schools I went to and had a good education at the grammar school in my teens, but I loved being at home with my mum (my dad died when I was eleven). Anyway, I am sure the girls would tell you if they were unhappy.

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  15. Wow, now I can relax. I am happy you are OK Brenda. About posting, please do what is convenient and very comfortable for you OK. If you overwork yourself, blogging fatigue can set in.

    About mentioning my post, you are welcome anytime. Please share that story with us soon. Sorry about your Dad, mine passed when I was in Secondary School(Junior High). From the stories they tell me, I think the girls are happy.

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  16. That is good Eya, and you know they are in safe hands.

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  17. awww.....my dad shipped me off to a boarding school in the middle of the forest when i was 10. I thought i would die. If i could survive and began enjoying it (4yrs later in SS1)am sure your girls will be fine.
    God will keep protecting them Amen.

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    1. Thanks Kiky. You and I know that a school doesn't need a noisy zone so, that was the best thing he did for you, ha ha ha. I am following you on Twitter. Yes, I hear the Senior Secondary classes are more fun. Thanks for the prayer!

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  18. Very lovely post
    I never went to boarding school and I havent sent my sons to boarding school. I might have considered it in Nigeria but not over here
    Take care of yourself
    xxxxxxxxx

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    1. Thanks Naijamum. Over here we just feel like that is where to go and learn Independence.

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  19. Aww .. I got into boarding school at age 9 and even though my school was in Lagos) being an only child) to me I really suffered but by jss 3 I adjusted to the system and knew how to stand for myself and away from bullies!
    My parents made a teacher and matron friend and would sneak to see me and give me home made food and provisions lol ... ( food attracts more friends oh lol)

    Ioved my memories in boarding school made some awesome friends ( some are still tight friends) and grew to be independent and firm ... There is a lot to learn from boarding school .. If your girls are coping and they seem to like it (even a little) then they would be fine

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  20. Thanks for all the info dear. I have completely decoded. lol!

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  21. What a sweet letter to get from Mom. I went to boarding school myself and have not one regret about it. It was a gooood experience. I hope my kids go through it too. I'll admit i am more scared about boarding boys than girls..but we'll see. That's too futuristic a thought.

    God bless.

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    1. Ok o, May that futuristic thought become nowistic soon!

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  22. this letter made me cry....nice!

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