Just this year, we read about Pastor Chris Okotie's divorce, or separation from Stephanie Henshaw. This morning I am reading about Bishop David Benenoch's announcement to his church. He has told his congregation that he is divorcing his wife of 20 years.
No Couple goes into marriage with prayers to divorce in the future. Divorce is never sweet for anyone. Yes! What happens to Kids after a separation or Divorce?
- Moodiness: They become moody and more quiet preferring to stay all by theselves rather than join other kids in play.
- Loss of Appetite: When a child begins to miss one or both parents, it takes its toll on the child's appetite. S/he begins to eat less and less and to enjoy even favorite meals less.
- Trouble with School Work: Divorce can make a child lose interest in School. The child's grades begin to drop and School can become uninteresting.
- A child whose Parents are going through a divorce may begin to feel guilty. The child may start blaming himself for the parents' troubles.
- Sometimes, the kids begin to feel unloved. They start feeling that their parents didn't love them enough to keep the family together.
- Bigger boys who tend to lose that Father figure in their lives may begin to submit more to peer pressure. They long for companionship, look for love even in the wrong places. They may just begin to do whatever they can to be earn acceptance from peers.
- The quality of life drops when kids begin to depend on one parent. The support may not be enough to sustain the quality of life they are used to having and this affects children psychologically.
- One parent can become depressed as a result of the separation. This depression from that parent will certainly transfer negative energy to the kids. When a parent, say a mother looks depressed, kids see and they feel it.
- In a situation where one parent tries to become the kids favorite by running down the other parent before the kids, they just get caught up in the middle and do not know who to turn to for help.