Friday, July 03, 2015

Nigerian Meat Pie For This Weekend, Let's indulge a little

This is Nigerian meat pie. Freshly baked.
We love meat pie,the kids too, knowing a little history of these delicious pies can go a long way in helping us bake even more varieties.The beginning of the meat pie can be traced back to the Neolithic Period, around 9500 BC. The ancient Egyptians' diet featured basic pies made from oat, wheat, rye, and barley, and filled with honey and baked over hot coals.
These pies were eventually adopted by the Greeks, and it is there that a flour-water paste substance closely resembling pie pastry was created and was first filled with meat. In

My Wife Only Focuses On Making Money, I Am Tired

Dear Eya and blog readers, this  is my own case,  I am a married man with three kids, de problem is dat  when I married my wife newly she was very hardworking, but now she has becoming lazy, she hardly tidied up de house, I am a hardworking man, all expenses of de  family is on me, she is doing business, she has been neglecting her duty as a wife, all she

Wednesday, July 01, 2015

HOW TO DO AWAY WITH YOUR MEAN MOTHER-INLAW

A long time ago in China , a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all.
Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days passed, and weeks passed. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting.
But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish. All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband the great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it! Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs.
She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all.
Mr. Huang thought for awhile, and finally said, "Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you."
Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do."Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs. He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick-acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly

Why Do I Act This Way? Is It Just In My Head?

I don't know if I want this story to be posted and clearly don't know why am writing this might not even send it....

I lived 21 years of my life beign the black sheep of the family not what I want but I just find my self doing the wrong things you may say am stupid cos I know dey are wrong but I still do them I don't know what's wrong with me.I have a beautiful daughter p.s I ain't married got pregnant in my final year you would think that would

Saturday, June 27, 2015

I Hate My Son Part 2

[17:35, 27/06/2015] ‪ Pls, kindly post this ma. This is an amazing part of what happened after I sent my post to you.
[17:35, 27/06/2015] ‪: Thank you ma.
[17:36, 27/06/2015] ‬: I dnt love my son.


I want to thank everyone who genuinely commented on my first post. Thank you so much.
I appreciate your advices and counsels. I appreciate your empathy. I appreciate your sympathy. I felt your heart in the responses. I also appreciate the 2annoymouses who rose up for me against the first anonymous. Thank you.
When I read the first anonymous post, I lol. I dnt hate whoever it was. I dnt even dislike him(im using him in generic form here). I pitied him. He doesn't understand what it feels like to have something biting you and eating you up.

Especially when that something is something you dnt

Friday, June 26, 2015

Should I Return To This Marriage For The Sake Of My Children Or Fight For Them Later?

Hello, Aunty Eya, 
I am an ardent reader of your blog and I appreciate how you have touched people's life.
I am a young lady 23 years of age, I am a mother of two, my first child is 4 while the younger one is 2. I got married at 17 and had my first child at the age of 18. My marriage was fun until after I had my first child my husband and I started having one quarrel to another, he will always accuse me of infidelity, he prevented me from going back to school and even getting a job or something to do, I lived as a full house wife l never had one thousand Naira to my name, I didn't even have a bank account but I wasn't bothered by all that I was ready to live with him that way I was ready to give up all my dreams and ambitions just to be a good wife and a mother. 

We had a lot of up's and down before I had my second child. months after having my youngest child the abuse turned physical he brutalize me at every provocation the assault became worst to the extent that we were known in our neighborhood as the fighting couples I endured all this for five years till I gathered   the courage to leave in February wen we had wat he called "the last beating" it was really the last beating cause I will not forget that day in a hurry I almost died that day if not for the intervention of neighbors and passerby who came to rescue me from him That day, I left his house and the marriage. 

Well, to cut the long story short, we have been separated for over five months now. I now work,

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Eya Says What On This Matter?

Good Evening Ma. Am Cece.I read your blog on the topic that says "we are both AS genotype". My fiance and I jst found out that we both share the same
genotype(AS). We have dated for 5 years now, am feeling really low now
and He doesn't want to let go either. We were planning to have our
introduction in November.
Please Ma, I really need on your advice on this matter.
Thank You in anticipation of your response

EYA SAYS:
Hi,  I don't think I'm the right person to meet right now cos I don't have the moral rights to advise you leave him. Why? Hubby and I just discovered after 5 kids that he is AS,  meaning the previous

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

I Hate My Son Now, How Do I Change It Please?

[04:15, 23/06/2015] : Anty Eya.
[04:15, 23/06/2015] ‪: Goodmorning ma.
[04:16, 23/06/2015] ‬: I guess it's easier to reach you here than mail.
[04:16, 23/06/2015] ‬: Bikko read and post this asap. It's urgent and important.
[04:16, 23/06/2015]‬: HELP, I DNT LOVE MY SON.


I'm not going to bore you with the very long story, help is what I need and help is what I'm asking. But for clarity sake, permit me give you a brief summary of the entire story as it is.
I'm a single mum,my son is 9 years old and im 19years older than him. I'm a very dutiful mother. Right from pregnancy till now, the irresponsible man I got pregnant for hasn't contributed up to 10,000N in this boys life. He is the only regret I have in my entire life, I wish he wasn't the father of my son.

I have loved this child right from pregnancy, when I held him in my hands as a baby for the first time, I loved him more, as a toddler, I still loved him silly. He was my entire world, I lived for him. Until.... well, until his father yanked him from me at the age of 3yrs, and went to dump him with his elder sister...story for another day.
I prayed and fasted, I kept in touch with the sister, id send money, food, sch fees, etc. In short, I was still there as a mother for my son. I kept praying for his return,17months later, the aunt miraculously returned my son to me, without me asking him.

The love of a mother knows no bound, but when I saw my son, he looked so unhealthy. I couldn't believe it. This was a child that was very chubby and healthy before he was taken away. They returned a healthy soul but sick body to me. What could I do? He was my son, my first.Love drove me to action.I took him and nursed him back to health. And it was indeed a battle, cos for another 3years, I kept treating one boil, and rashes after the other.... too long a story... Thank God. He's whole now.

Hate is such a strong word to use here. No,that's not what I feel for this child right now. I just don't  like him. I dnt love him either. I dont have feelings for him. Don't get me wrong. God has really helped me. My son attends one of the best private school in my area. I buy good clothes for him, feed him well, he has a private tutor, cos we stay together,he's also smart too. Damn, im to Damn well a dutiful mother.
But,Deepdown, I can't bear to show him affectionate love. I dnt know when this thing started, 3yrs ago?

Fertility Issues, Tubal Flushing Help

I have been getting so many of these mails lately and it feels so bad replying that I don't have the Doctor's contact  anymore. We once posted about fertility issues and a sister sent me her Doctor's contact to send only to the poster, that's a long time ago and I don't have it anymore, that's why I'm posting this mail. If you see this and can help this poster and others with the contact of that Doctor that did a successful job on you, the contact you sent me was deleted afterwards, please leave a comment to help other women too. Thank you.

Below is one of the mails:

Monday, June 22, 2015

Family Still Rejects My Husband After Four Kids, How Do I Handle This?

This is a WhatsApp conversation I promised to publish today. What would make a mother still reject her son in law and dear daughter after ten years of marriage? Can a woman's tender care cease towards the child she bears? Ok, her daughter got married to her former labourer, what about the grand children? Did they do any wrong? When are these kids going to bond with and begin to love grandma?  Is it after she is old and gone? We have just this life, a few years and your role is complete and kinda deleted from this screen. Why accept to spend it in bitterness and hate? Why spend these few years in misery with every tick of the clock, we all move closer our graves , why not do our best to spend these years in happiness and peace.  If you have a hundred years to spend on this earth, you allow yourself to spend all the"now" in anger and bitterness, you spend the few years you have seen in unforgiveness, on which planet are you then going to experience happiness.

Look,  let me tell you,  if you think it doesn't matter because there is happiness in heaven. What makes you think you can be happy in heaven after spending your earth "currency" in pain and losses. If you don't practice happiness, peace and joy here. How then can you live it up there except you'll be an alien.

 I shared my thoughts with the poster but do not think that's enough. Please advise her too on how to handle the situation.

The conversation below:

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